If you re-did your search of a spouse; top 5 criteria?

[cmh6476 750]

All this crap about divorce and would you re-marry and all that cr@p that makes me thinks some of you'd might be unhappy and sh1t

 

So if you had to go back to a point when you thought you would be primed to look for a mate for eternity, what would your top 3-5 things you'd be looking for be?

 

I'll wait till a few responses have been posted then share mine

[Gladiators 1,904]

Good question. Too much to think about now...will give it some thought and reply tomorrow.

[NorthernVike 2,080]

Inflatable

Washable

Replaceable

 

Basically the perfect woman.

[titans&bucs&bearsohmy! 2,745]

2. Chill. The ability to let sh!t go. Not get bent out of shape over little sh!t. The ability to travel rough and not be a diva.

 

3. Thrift. My ex wife was the place money went to vanish. Soon to be new one feels guilty when she spends $20.

 

4. Hot. Cause if your gonna fock something till you die, might as well be.

 

And number one... the ability to be a team player. To understand that youre in it together. That there is no such thing as hers and mine... its all ours. That was the ultimate killer of my last marriage. She just never got it.

[Bier Meister 1,513]

1. low drama- check

2. ambitious- check

3. appearance- check

4. interest in sports- negative

5. active- so/so. we scuba and ski, so i am ok

6. similar interests (travel, food, wine)- mostly

7. similar religious beliefs- check. similar political beliefs not important

[titans&bucs&bearsohmy! 2,745]

1. low drama- check

2. ambitious- check

3. appearance- check

4. interest in sports- negative

5. active- so/so. we scuba and ski, so i am ok

6. similar interests (travel, food, wine)- mostly

7. similar religious beliefs- check. similar political beliefs not important

Hmm. Similar interests with a woman is rare. Im willing to settle for willingness to accommodate each others interests.

 

Religion? Women who share my disdain for religion are like unicorns. I just try to be respectful and leave it alone.

[Sho Nuff 719]

I like big butts and I cannot lie

[Old School 360]

You dont have to agree on everything - but finances is a big one. Better be on the same page. Attorneys tell me it is one of the biggest factors in divorce.

 

Money aint everything- but its damn Important.

[Bier Meister 1,513]

Hmm. Similar interests with a woman is rare. Im willing to settle for willingness to accommodate each others interests.

 

Religion? Women who share my disdain for religion are like unicorns. I just try to be respectful and leave it alone.

i realize that similar interests is not all encompassing. enough to have fun together, latitude to allow the other to pursue other interests.

 

religion- this can be all or nothing for some people. i do not want to be with someone like that.

[jerryskids 5,192]

2. Chill. The ability to let sh!t go. Not get bent out of shape over little sh!t. The ability to travel rough and not be a diva.

 

3. Thrift. My ex wife was the place money went to vanish. Soon to be new one feels guilty when she spends $20.

 

4. Hot. Cause if your gonna fock something till you die, might as well be.

 

And number one... the ability to be a team player. To understand that youre in it together. That there is no such thing as hers and mine... its all ours. That was the ultimate killer of my last marriage. She just never got it.

 

Great answer. The most important thing is your #1, and it applies to both people: a commitment to your union. It doesn't mean you don't occasionally do stupid shiot, but if you can rally back to the commitment, all the other stuff works out.

[Voltaire 4,557]

Size Zero

Good Mother

Patient

Smart

Thrift (taken from TBBOM's list)

 

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My wife is really good other than her explosive temper that goes off on mostly at my son, sadly, with great frequency.

 

All her life she eats whatever she wants, as much as she wants, without exercising and this is catching up on her. She can't fit in her sizero clothes, she has ballooned her to a size two or maybe even a four, and twelve years into our marriage, she is closing in on 100 lbs and her BMI is entering 'normal' range.

[Patriotsfatboy1 1,432]

Similar sex drive

Similar view on finances

Likes to have fun

Is physically attractive

Considerate of others

[Drizzay 645]

She better know how to rattle the pots and pans. Say what you want about looks, yadda yadda, but can she cook?

 

My wife can, which is one of the reasons I married her.

[tanatastic 2,061]

Fat ass and boobs

Minor disfigurement so she isn’t bombarded by men constantly. Maybe a missing hand or foot.

Great cook

Morning bang lover

Mute

[penultimatestraw 473]

1. Respect

2. Trust

Nothing else matters if you don't have those two.

3. Adventurous

4. Low maintenance

5. Independent

[cmh6476 750]

You guys have some good ones. I'm posting an initial list with an opportunity to amend, self-declared...

 

 

1. Loyalty - would take time to evaluate, but this would be big and I think it means quite a bit. If you're loyal to someone you can appreciate differences but will love them and only them for who they are. And I would expect them to expect the same of me.

 

2. Similar interests - appreciative of music, appreciative of food, a desire to travel, value of family and other things I find important

 

3. Sex drive - she would have to want to have the secks, and would show initiative and be interested in trying new things

 

I'm still thinking about what 4 and 5 should be...

[penultimatestraw 473]

Size Zero

Good Mother

Patient

Smart

Thrift (taken from TBBOM's list)

 

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My wife is really good other than her explosive temper that goes off on mostly at my son, sadly, with great frequency.

 

All her life she eats whatever she wants, as much as she wants, without exercising and this is catching up on her. She can't fit in her sizero clothes, she has ballooned her to a size two or maybe even a four, and twelve years into our marriage, she is closing in on 100 lbs and her BMI is entering 'normal' range.

I've seen this phenomenon with other Asian women. It can be a problem if they don't figure out diet and exercise are still important - many are in terrible shape despite being fairly petite.

 

My wife has gained a little weight, too, somewhere between size 2 and 4 now, but I'm instilling some neuroticism in her that any larger is unacceptable. Fortunately, she is good with what she eats and enjoys being active.

[cmh6476 750]

You guys and your size 0 sh-t, pfffttt. Didn't Freddie Mercury teach u the tat bottomed girls make the rocking world go round? Also, on the sex sh-t oral sex both ways yes and it'd be cool if she'd at least be experimental with anal, even if that means after trying you discover you don't like it

[mmmmm...beer 691]

Much better, normal, well off in-laws. How nice would it be to get a gift or support now and again as opppsed to scheming, greedy, aggitating, thieves.. etc..

[penultimatestraw 473]

Much better, normal, well off in-laws. How nice would it be to get a gift or support now and again as opppsed to scheming, greedy, aggitating, thieves.. etc..

I can imagine that would be annoying, but a top 5 criteria?

[jerryskids 5,192]

I can imagine that would be annoying, but a top 5 criteria?

 

Agreed, I wouldn't even consider that.

[titans&bucs&bearsohmy! 2,745]

I can imagine that would be annoying, but a top 5 criteria?

Ive seen Inlaws destroy a few marriages.

[naomi 343]

My wife has gained a little weight, too, somewhere between size 2 and 4 now, but I'm instilling some neuroticism in her that any larger is unacceptable. Fortunately, she is good with what she eats and enjoys being active.

 

How tall is she? I'm 5.5.5" and a size two but I don't mind the idea of being a size 4 at all. Size 6 for my frame would likely be entering overweight territory.

 

eta: apparently 126 lbs is where a woman at my height would be a size 6. That's a 21.0 BMI (normal).

[SUXBNME 1,328]

Never had a spouse, but if I did she would be a brunette girl next door look that loves animals and has a quick wit.

Well, also be able to take in my 12" and beg for more. I suppose.

 

Also, supermodel looks (given, right? ) and not just want me for my money.

[cmh6476 750]

4. No focking cats. Thanks for the reminder sux

[Voltaire 4,557]

You guys and your size 0 sh-t, pfffttt. Didn't Freddie Mercury teach u the tat bottomed girls make the rocking world go round?

First, I've always found that my sexual attraction choices differentiates greatly from gay men.

 

Second, I always presumed he was joking in the song. I thought the song was supposed to be a funny gross-out parody about crawling around on and getting squashed under Darlene Cates or something. Not that I ever liked it or found the humor in it. it was a station changer.

 

Honestly, it was only years later, here in the Geek Club that I found out that people who say they like fat asses actually do like fat asses and actually mean it. It never registered in my head such a thing was possible. I sure as hell don't. Anyway, that in turn explains why that gawdawful song continued it's presence on classic rock stations as one of Queen's most popular.

 

One of the nice things about China is that China doesn't go for this anti-body shaming fatty feminist BS that grips the US where it's now OK to be shaped like a pear and don't say otherwise. Fock that. It seems in Chinese social media every year there's always a new thinness craze: thigh gaps, A4 paper challenge, bikini bridge, belly button challenge, collarbone challenge.... maybe it's deflating for some girls/women but in my family the reaction is different, it's affirming because they always pass.

 

Pudgy female US journalists covering the story are invariably bitter, hostile, dismissive (and likely jealous) of the fads. Let someone else love them. I married a woman who passes (ex-wife too).

[penultimatestraw 473]

 

How tall is she? I'm 5.5.5" and a size two but I don't mind the idea of being a size 4 at all. Size 6 for my frame would likely be entering overweight territory.

 

eta: apparently 126 lbs is where a woman at my height would be a size 6. That's a 21.0 BMI (normal).

5'6" and she weighs 112-116. B cup as per bored protocol.

[penultimatestraw 473]

Ive seen Inlaws destroy a few marriages.

Sure, but top 5?

[penultimatestraw 473]

First, I've always found that my sexual attraction choices differentiates greatly from gay men.

 

Second, I always presumed he was joking in the song. I thought the song was supposed to be a funny gross-out parody about crawling around on and getting squashed under Darlene Cates or something. Not that I ever liked it or found the humor in it. it was a station changer.

 

Honestly, it was only years later, here in the Geek Club that I found out that people who say they like fat asses actually do like fat asses and actually mean it. It never registered in my head such a thing was possible. I sure as hell don't. Anyway, that in turn explains why that gawdawful song continued it's presence on classic rock stations as one of Queen's most popular.

 

One of the nice things about China is that China doesn't go for this anti-body shaming fatty feminist BS that grips the US where it's now OK to be shaped like a pear and don't say otherwise. Fock that. It seems in Chinese social media every year there's always a new thinness craze: thigh gaps, A4 paper challenge, bikini bridge, belly button challenge, collarbone challenge.... maybe it's deflating for some girls/women but in my family the reaction is different, it's affirming because they always pass.

 

Pudgy female US journalists covering the story are invariably bitter, hostile, dismissive (and likely jealous) of the fads. Let someone else love them. I married a woman who passes (ex-wife too).

This. I always thought it was mainly black dudes.

[titans&bucs&bearsohmy! 2,745]

First, I've always found that my sexual attraction choices differentiates greatly from gay men.

 

Second, I always presumed he was joking in the song. I thought the song was supposed to be a funny gross-out parody about crawling around on and getting squashed under Darlene Cates or something. Not that I ever liked it or found the humor in it. it was a station changer.

 

Honestly, it was only years later, here in the Geek Club that I found out that people who say they like fat asses actually do like fat asses and actually mean it. It never registered in my head such a thing was possible. I sure as hell don't. Anyway, that in turn explains why that gawdawful song continued it's presence on classic rock stations as one of Queen's most popular.

 

One of the nice things about China is that China doesn't go for this anti-body shaming fatty feminist BS that grips the US where it's now OK to be shaped like a pear and don't say otherwise. Fock that. It seems in Chinese social media every year there's always a new thinness craze: thigh gaps, A4 paper challenge, bikini bridge, belly button challenge, collarbone challenge.... maybe it's deflating for some girls/women but in my family the reaction is different, it's affirming because they always pass.

 

Pudgy female US journalists covering the story are invariably bitter, hostile, dismissive (and likely jealous) of the fads. Let someone else love them. I married a woman who passes (ex-wife too).

Bikini bridge is my favorite. So focking hawt.

[SenatorRock 708]

Bikini bridge is my favorite. So focking hawt.

A bikini bridge reeled me into a 6 year relationship with a bipolar alcoholic . Dem hip bones are my kryptonite.

[titans&bucs&bearsohmy! 2,745]

A bikini bridge reeled me into a 6 year relationship with a bipolar alcoholic . Dem hip bones are my kryptonite.

Sadly, my ex is more troll under a bridge than bikini bridge. New one has the bikini bridge though.

 

All my friends from facebooks are like, damn son, upgrade much?

[Big Guy 1,400]

Before I decided to get Married I scored my girlfriend 1-10 in 60 different categories. She got a great score. I then decided to score my previous girlfriends and she scored far better than the others. It was at that time that I realized I probably couldn't do any better.

 

Since then I've realized that I should have expanded my test.

[Filthy Fernadez 2,696]

1. No manipulation i.e. 'hinting' You want something done or want something, ask.

 

2. Either whole family is dead or they have a great relationship with them.

 

3. Can 'make do' with what you've got and/or doesn't purchase sh!t you barely/never use.

 

Love my wife dearly but we are really talking about changing what we've got to make it perfect.

 

 

I'm sure she has a laundry list..........