I am focking LIVID.......is this a big deal or am I overreacting?

[Patriotsfatboy1 1,432]

You are right to be upset. But from everything you've said here his mom is a total loser so... why kill yourself over it?

 

By the way, they posted it on facebook not because they thought he would see it, but because their friends would see that they posted it and think they were good grandparents.

This ^

[gocolts 300]

For anybody else it's reason to be livid. For you it should be expected. Really, everything I know about your ex- I learned from you; I'd be more surprised if she followed through.

 

 

Your biggest problem is your own expectations of your former wife.

 

Oh, I KNEW she would fock him over. In fact, I predicted that she would suddenly need to move out the month of his Birthday and fock him over.

[gocolts 300]

I am calmed down today.

 

My parents took my son to see the new Planet of the Apes movie today too. I paid my own way. I thanked them repeatedly for helping make his Birthday special.

 

Thanks for all the advice and suggestions folks. It really did help me out.

[gocolts 300]

how old is your son?

Just turned 15. Starts high school in about a week or so.

[shotsup 831]

Just turned 15. Starts high school in about a week or so.

 

cool ... assfucktime

[gocolts 300]

 

cool ... assfucktime

Nope. He is not allowed to date until after high school. He already has some chick after him too. He came home last year telling me this chick that rides his bus said she wants to go out with him and give him a BJ. Little tramp.

[OldMaid 1,838]

Nope. He is not allowed to date until after high school. He already has some chick after him too. He came home last year telling me this chick that rides his bus said she wants to go out with him and give him a BJ. Little tramp.

After high school?!?!? That's a little much don't you think?

[Artista 460]

Nope. He is not allowed to date until after high school. He already has some chick after him too. He came home last year telling me this chick that rides his bus said she wants to go out with him and give him a BJ. Little tramp.

Oy. I wouldn't have a tight leash. 15 is too soon to date but he'll look around at his peers in hs and decide it ok to sneak. I'd rather have my kid be open and honest with me than to be afraid of punishment, not say anything, and do it anyway. I'd keep a light leash on him and make it so he feels comfortable talking to you and getting advice from you, without any threats or anger. Works much better than trying to tight leash on him, grounding him, punishing him, etc. If he sees you as a concerned friend as well as a dad, you'll get further with him.

[gocolts 300]

After high school?!?!? That's a little much don't you think?

Not really. I always planned on buckling a bit if he complains much though.

[OldMaid 1,838]

Not really. I always planned on buckling a bit if he complains much though.

 

 

Just don't let him marry the first girl he sleeps with.

[gocolts 300]

Oy. I wouldn't have a tight leash. 15 is too soon to date but he'll look around at his peers in hs and decide it ok to sneak. I'd rather have my kid be open and honest with me than to be afraid of punishment, not say anything, and do it anyway. I'd keep a light leash on him and make it so he feels comfortable talking to you and getting advice from you, without any threats or anger. Works much better than trying to tight leash on him, grounding him, punishing him, etc. If he sees you as a concerned friend as well as a dad, you'll get further with him.

There is no possible way for him to "sneak" around and do it behind my back. No possible way in hell. I know where and what my son is doing every second. I am blessed with a GREAT kid too. He does not run the streets or anything like that. In fact, I have never even had to tell my kid he has curfew.

 

We have a great relationship and can talk about ANYTHING. He did come home and tell me the girl on the bus wants to blow him after all.

[gocolts 300]

 

Just don't let him marry the first girl he sleeps with.

He has to married before sex.

[IGotWorms 3,302]

Nope. He is not allowed to date until after high school. He already has some chick after him too. He came home last year telling me this chick that rides his bus said she wants to go out with him and give him a BJ. Little tramp.

Sounds like a good training girl to me

[jerryskids 5,172]

Gary, at the risk of me telling you how to parent your kid... if he doesn't date in HS, he is going to go out on his own (college or his own place) with zero dating experience. Wouldn't it be better for him to have some practice dates? As long as you are clear that there should be no sex involved (which most kids wouldn't obey, but it sounds like yours would), he could learn some early lessons on how crazy chicks are. Just a thought.

[IGotWorms 3,302]

Set him up with naomi. No sex, guaranteed

[OldMaid 1,838]

Gary, at the risk of me telling you how to parent your kid... if he doesn't date in HS, he is going to go out on his own (college or his own place) with zero dating experience. Wouldn't it be better for him to have some practice dates? As long as you are clear that there should be no sex involved (which most kids wouldn't obey, but it sounds like yours would), he could learn some early lessons on how crazy chicks are. Just a thought.

He already said he'll cave if his son complains.

[jerryskids 5,172]

He already said he'll cave if his son complains.

Gee thanks, if only I could read... there is a difference between caving if his son complains and proactively endorsing it within established guidelines. Not a lot of good parenting generally comes out of the lessons learned from the former approach.

[OldMaid 1,838]

Gee thanks, if only I could read... there is a difference between caving if his son complains and proactively endorsing it within established guidelines. Not a lot of good parenting generally comes out of the lessons learned from the former approach.

You're welcome. It looked like you were having trouble.

 

 

So, if his son doesn't complain, he should force him to date? I bet you're a super awesome parent.

[mobb_deep 917]

Here we go again with aunty OldMaid and the parenting advice, when she's apparently had nothing but anal sex for the last 6 decades.

[drobeski 3,061]

Here we go again with aunty OldMaid and the parenting advice, when she's apparently had nothing but anal sex for the last 6 decades.

I was just going to say the exact same thing about worms, exact.

[IGotWorms 3,302]

I was just going to say the exact same thing about worms, exact.

Where in this thread did I give parenting advice, dumbeski?

[Kanil 519]

Where in this thread did I give parenting advice, dumbeski?

 

I know you didn't give parenting advice but you have to admit, that was funny. Might even be the funniest thing I've seen Drob type.

[IGotWorms 3,302]

 

I know you didn't give parenting advice but you have to admit, that was funny. Might even be the funniest thing I've seen Drob type.

It was a pretty good burn

[jerryskids 5,172]

You're welcome. It looked like you were having trouble.

 

 

So, if his son doesn't complain, he should force him to date? I bet you're a super awesome parent.

Where did I say to force him to date?

 

You should stick to raising possums and boyfriends of questionable sexuality.

[edjr 5,547]

kill yourself over it

 

 

 

you should be ashamed of yourself.

[Mungwater 588]

15 and just starting high school? Was he held back or something?

[edjr 5,547]

15 and just starting high school? Was he held back or something?

 

his father is an invalid, they held him back as a precautionary measure.

[kilroy69 993]

I have been dating the future mrs.kilroy69 for about 4 years. she had an adorable little 7 year old at the time and I didnt want to step on the toes of anyone so I kinda played it safe for the first little bit before i realized her dad was a . he stood her up for the daddy daughter dance, would tell her the presents got lost in the mail, visited for 2 weeks when he was back from his job in fla and saw her one day for like 6 hours. what I am saying is you have to wright her off and at the same time show him how much YOU love him. Its not his fault that he has a parent. But the other does the best to make up for it.

[edjr 5,547]

I have been dating the future mrs.kilroy69 for about 4 years. she had an adorable little 7 year old at the time

[BunnysBastatrds 1,911]

What a sh!tty situation. You should be upset but not suprised by anything she does from here on out. Sounds like your son is very mature for his age.

[gocolts 300]

15 and just starting high school? Was he held back or something?

LOL. Nope. He just turned 15 on Wednesday. Started as soon as the law allowed in our county.

[gocolts 300]

Gary, at the risk of me telling you how to parent your kid... if he doesn't date in HS, he is going to go out on his own (college or his own place) with zero dating experience. Wouldn't it be better for him to have some practice dates? As long as you are clear that there should be no sex involved (which most kids wouldn't obey, but it sounds like yours would), he could learn some early lessons on how crazy chicks are. Just a thought.

I do not think so. Most adults are not mentally equipped to handle dating. Children are definitely NOT. He will have his entire life to enjoy all that shtt.

 

He already knows all about how crazy chicks are.