10 things I try to find out from guys on a 1st date

[itsjjw 0]

1 ) Last serious relationship and its length.

Is was sorta short, and they haven't found her body, yet

I think this one's a deal breaker

 

2 ) Religious beliefs, in general.

Religion is poison, the opiate of the masses

agreed, but I was raised Catholic so I would prefer to marry one, but its not a deal-breaker

 

3 ) Feelings about having children.

I love children, I think they are great.

 

4 ) Occupation and work history.

Most of my past jobs involved killing in one way or another, now i am just a Project Manager

either slaughterhouse or human resources. Both are equally nauseating.

 

5 ) When was the last time that he spoke with or visited his mother.

I talked to her last night, she never see's the irony in calling me a son-of-a-b!tch

lmao, good sense of humor

 

 

6 ) In what state would he like to retire in.

Semi-Lucid

I would prefer drunk or stoned

 

7 ) Favorite pet as a child.

I had two raccoons, which i starved and then threw live rabbits in the cage with them, it was awesome

deal-breaker

 

8 ) Women working versus motherhood

I know and empathize that keeping the house clean is hard work, so STFU about it already

Did I forget to mention about the maid?

 

9 ) What should I order for dinner?

Order? What fock are you going to "order" dinner for

I actually like it when the guy orders, I usually hate what they order, but I like them to take charge

 

10 ) If you were an animal what animal would you be and name three reasons why?

I would be a baboon. 1) I have a fantastically big red arse 2) i like to fock when and where it suits me 3) I like to fling my own sh!t at things

deal-breaker

 

What do i win?

spending the rest of your life with your porno collection

[RLLD 4,230]

Do you still have his number? Maybe we could set him and itsjjw up.

 

And then his suicide is on YOUR concious

[Brown Eyed Girl 1]

 

Do you still have his number? Maybe we could set him and itsjjw up.

 

Yes, and he's all hers!!

[buffalobillsffl2003 0]

C-A-T x 10

[RLLD 4,230]

What do i win?

spending the rest of your life with your porno collection

 

Nice comeback

[Strike 5,539]

 

 

I had a date with a guy once that all he did was talk about going to the gym, going rock climbing and sky diving, and his Jeep. His questions for me were if I went to the gym, went rock climbing, and if I liked Jeeps. HE didn't get a second date, that's for sure.

 

OMFG!!!!! I didn't know you dated GFIAFP?!?!!!!!!

[De Novo 0]

1 ) Last serious relationship and its length.

 

It tells you a lot about them and their attitude towards that person is very telling.

 

2 ) Religious beliefs, in general.

 

Not to debate about, but to get a feel for their overall character and if it can co-exist with my beliefs.

 

3 ) Feelings about having children.

 

Talking about my nephews is a good indication on his feelings towards children.

 

4 ) Occupation and work history.

 

Does he have potential or not?

 

5 ) When was the last time that he spoke with or visited his mother.

 

Shows proper respect. Its important for a man to have a good relationship with his mother.

 

6 ) In what state would he like to retire in.

 

Inside info on his goals long-term. Lets him talk about his dreams and desires.

 

7 ) Favorite pet as a child.

 

Dog lover? or cat lover? or no heart? or total freak?

 

8 ) Women working versus motherhood

 

Asking if both of his parents worked leads him into revealing this opinion.

 

9 ) What should I order for dinner?

 

Is he going to lead or defer? Its a fine line for him to walk. I like to see how guys handle it.

 

10 ) If you were an animal what animal would you be and name three reasons why?

 

Greatest psych question ever invented.

 

Wow, one of my screens is the type of things women ask me. You'd have failed. Miserably.

 

#1, not 1st date conversation.

#2, you gonna ask who I voted for as well?

#3, on the first date? Wow!

#4, you better not ask me how much I make

 

#10, is this an interview?

[gocolts 300]

1 ) Last serious relationship and its length.

 

It tells you a lot about them and their attitude towards that person is very telling.

 

2 ) Religious beliefs, in general.

 

Not to debate about, but to get a feel for their overall character and if it can co-exist with my beliefs.

 

3 ) Feelings about having children.

 

Talking about my nephews is a good indication on his feelings towards children.

 

4 ) Occupation and work history.

 

Does he have potential or not?

 

5 ) When was the last time that he spoke with or visited his mother.

 

Shows proper respect. Its important for a man to have a good relationship with his mother.

 

6 ) In what state would he like to retire in.

 

Inside info on his goals long-term. Lets him talk about his dreams and desires.

 

7 ) Favorite pet as a child.

 

Dog lover? or cat lover? or no heart? or total freak?

 

8 ) Women working versus motherhood

 

Asking if both of his parents worked leads him into revealing this opinion.

 

9 ) What should I order for dinner?

 

Is he going to lead or defer? Its a fine line for him to walk. I like to see how guys handle it.

 

10 ) If you were an animal what animal would you be and name three reasons why?

 

Greatest psych question ever invented.

 

Unlike everyone else, I don't think there is a thing wrong with asking most of these questions. That is what dating is for. Why would you want to waste time on a person who doesn't want children, if you want children??? Or waste their time??? I think you should be honest on dates. It is not all about "enjoying each others company" unless you are just looking for a fock. If your dating to find someone you want to marry, there is not a thing wrong with most of these questions. If these questions scare someone off, you wouldn't want them anyway and that just saves you time. The only people who would be scared off by these questions are those just looking for a pvssy.

[tony hardware 0]

Edjr...quickly becoming one of my fav posters...

 

 

I wouldn't go that far, but he had a very strong showing in this thread

[DaWeffa 0]

Unlike everyone else, I don't think there is a thing wrong with asking most of these questions. That is what dating is for. Why would you want to waste time on a person who doesn't want children, if you want children??? Or waste their time??? I think you should be honest on dates. It is not all about "enjoying each others company" unless you are just looking for a fock. If your dating to find someone you want to marry, there is not a thing wrong with most of these questions. If these questions scare someone off, you wouldn't want them anyway and that just saves you time. The only people who would be scared off by these questions are those just looking for a pvssy.

 

1st date a$$hat...not dating...

[itsjjw 0]

Unlike everyone else, I don't think there is a thing wrong with asking most of these questions. That is what dating is for. Why would you want to waste time on a person who doesn't want children, if you want children??? Or waste their time??? I think you should be honest on dates. It is not all about "enjoying each others company" unless you are just looking for a fock. If your dating to find someone you want to marry, there is not a thing wrong with most of these questions. If these questions scare someone off, you wouldn't want them anyway and that just saves you time. The only people who would be scared off by these questions are those just looking for a pvssy.

And its not even actually asking them these questions. Its steering them into them and giving them an opportunity to share their views of them, without having to ask them.

 

Do you have any idea what its like to sit at a table and have some guy go on and on about what a biatch his ex wife is? Its not something that I like in the least, but if he does that, then what am I getting into and what is he going to say about me if the relationship ends?

[ADD1CT36 1]

11) Would you like to borrow my copy of "The Rules" or anything from my Dr. Barbara De Angelis collection?

[donhaas 18]

Unlike everyone else, I don't think there is a thing wrong with asking most of these questions. That is what dating is for. Why would you want to waste time on a person who doesn't want children, if you want children??? Or waste their time??? I think you should be honest on dates. It is not all about "enjoying each others company" unless you are just looking for a fock. If your dating to find someone you want to marry, there is not a thing wrong with most of these questions. If these questions scare someone off, you wouldn't want them anyway and that just saves you time. The only people who would be scared off by these questions are those just looking for a pvssy.

 

I think itsjww would find out that you are a closeted gay sometime between your 17th and 18th reference to an article you saw (that you were disgusted by ) on gay.com

 

No need for questions.

[jerryskids 6,792]

 

I had a date with a guy once that all he did was talk about going to the gym, going rock climbing and sky diving, and his Jeep. His questions for me were if I went to the gym, went rock climbing, and if I liked Jeeps. HE didn't get a second date, that's for sure.

Perhaps you should go to the gym occasionally?

[De Novo 0]

Unlike everyone else, I don't think there is a thing wrong with asking most of these questions. That is what dating is for. Why would you want to waste time on a person who doesn't want children, if you want children??? Or waste their time??? I think you should be honest on dates. It is not all about "enjoying each others company" unless you are just looking for a fock. If your dating to find someone you want to marry, there is not a thing wrong with most of these questions. If these questions scare someone off, you wouldn't want them anyway and that just saves you time. The only people who would be scared off by these questions are those just looking for a pvssy.

 

Are you going to ask these questions to a random stranger or a friend you just met? Hell no! There are unwritten rules to socialization. Why not just ask the other person, "Do you think there's a chance you'd marry me?" on the first date. Same thing.

[Brick Tamland 0]

As I said in my original post, this is why you are still single.

 

itsjjwhore is single because she's a smelly, cawk craving, STD incubating slut. I would also venture to guess that the "one" literally came and went on her back shortly after he paid the tab on the first date.

 

Pretty much any chance you have of a long term relationship goes out the window when he realizes you have a fist-sized gash with a gangrene stench.

[donhaas 18]

11) Would you like to borrow my copy of "The Rules" or anything from my Dr. Barbara De Angelis collection?

 

12) What can you do to make yourself look more like Dave Attell?

[stop talking cheerleader 0]

Some of those things I don't ever want to know about, past relationships and all that crap...why, whats the point and why should it affect how you feel about your potention relationship, why bring up the past?

 

Tge only thing I try to find out on the first or fourth date is if the guy is nice, confident and if I could see us having fun together and things in common. If it goes past a few months, then I'll put more into it.

[SigEp316 0]

1 ) Last serious relationship and its length.

 

6 years...still in it.

 

2 ) Religious beliefs, in general.

 

non-believer

 

3 ) Feelings about having children.

 

don't like them, great for other people, not so much for me

 

4 ) Occupation and work history.

 

Sales...I bankroll little momma

 

5 ) When was the last time that he spoke with or visited his mother.

 

everyday

6 ) In what state would he like to retire in.

 

a good state...

 

7 ) Favorite pet as a child.

 

Welsh Terrier

 

8 ) Women working versus motherhood

 

get your ass to work byatch.

 

9 ) What should I order for dinner?

 

you should have a salad...seriously

 

10 ) If you were an animal what animal would you be and name three reasons why?

 

Cheetah Cat...so I could pounce on my prey with my paws

[ADD1CT36 1]

Are you going to ask these questions to a random stranger or a friend you just met? Hell no! There are unwritten rules to socialization. Why not just ask the other person, "Do you think there's a chance you'd marry me?" on the first date. Same thing.

 

in all seriousness, i actually agree with gocolts. if ALL you want from a date is to see if this is a person you would consider marrying, then yes, ask all these questions and someone who is serious about marriage also will be totally into it and appreciative. it depends on your dating purpose - is it window shopping or do you have your wallet out?

 

that said, i find it sad that we still see dating as a means to an end instead of an end in itself. i like meeting new people and learning stuff from them... oh god, here go the sex comments ... oh forget it. i'll save it for my myspace blog at least jessy will understand

[itsjjw 0]

Some of those things I don't ever want to know about, past relationships and all that crap...why, whats the point and why should it affect how you feel about your potention relationship, why bring up the past?

 

Tge only thing I try to find out on the first or fourth date is if the guy is nice, confident and if I could see us having fun together and things in common. If it goes past a few months, then I'll put more into it.

 

If he sits there and rants about his psycho ex, the chance are that when you break up because all he does is rant about how bad she treated him, he is going to use your name in the next rant. Why would I want to waste my time with a guy that has these types of issues.

[Big_Pete 0]

why does his opinions/beliefs matter to you at all? didn't you say that you will lie to satisfy him and "become" the girl he wants to marry cause "no man you'd want to marry would marry a girl with your history"?

so basically, at dinner, after he orders, just say "so... what's your net worth?" if it's a number too low, let's face it, you wont be interested cause he wont be able to support you for the rest of your life, like you want

[stop talking cheerleader 0]

If he sits there and rants about his psycho ex, the chance are that when you break up because all he does is rant about how bad she treated him, he is going to use your name in the next rant. Why would I want to waste my time with a guy that has these types of issues.

 

I've never had a guy bring up past relationships on the first date though, this would freak me out and yes, I would think he had issues if he was ranting about his ex when on a date with someone else....there wouldn't a second because he's obviously not ready to start dating again

[itsjjw 0]

why does his opinions/beliefs matter to you at all? didn't you say that you will lie to satisfy him and "become" the girl he wants to marry cause "no man you'd want to marry would marry a girl with your history"?

so basically, at dinner, after he orders, just say "so... what's your net worth?" if it's a number too low, let's face it, you wont be interested cause he wont be able to support you for the rest of your life, like you want

To make is easier to be the woman he is looking for. For instance, I said that I was Catholic and I'd rather marry a Catholic guy. But not being one is not a deal-breaker. I would raise our children however he wanted them raised. Even if its agnostic. But it would be easier if he was Catholic.

 

And there is nothing wrong with a person having standards.

 

I've never had a guy bring up past relationships on the first date though, this would freak me out and yes, I would think he had issues if he was ranting about his ex when on a date with someone else....there wouldn't a second because he's obviously not ready to start dating again

Exactly my point. I'd rather find out sooner than later.

[DaWeffa 0]

Some of those things I don't ever want to know about, past relationships and all that crap...why, whats the point and why should it affect how you feel about your potention relationship, why bring up the past?

 

Tge only thing I try to find out on the first or fourth date is if the guy is nice, confident and if I could see us having fun together and things in common. If it goes past a few months, then I'll put more into it.

 

noted

 

I've never had a guy bring up past relationships on the first date though, this would freak me out and yes, I would think he had issues if he was ranting about his ex when on a date with someone else....there wouldn't a second because he's obviously not ready to start dating again

 

dually noted....

 

have a great day STC

 

[De Novo 0]

in all seriousness, i actually agree with gocolts. if ALL you want from a date is to see if this is a person you would consider marrying, then yes, ask all these questions and someone who is serious about marriage also will be totally into it and appreciative. it depends on your dating purpose - is it window shopping or do you have your wallet out?

 

"Someone who is serious about marriage"

 

Men don't say... I wanna get married, so I need to find someone suitable. They say, I want the right woman. And I'll marry if it seems like a good idea. Most women are so tied up on having their perfect wedding and big rock on their fingers that they act like crazed lunatics aimed at finding their idealized stereotypical but unrealistic life. So, the second that most good-looking, sane, reasonably intelligent men run into a woman who asks questions specifically aimed at MARRIAGE on the FIRST date, they run like hell. And rightfully so.

 

Good luck, itsjjw. You really need to view the 1st date as a dynamic social interaction aimed at enjoying the other person's company; rather than whether they're marriage material.

[The Total Package 0]

Yeah, like the one who wanted to whisk me away to San Francisco to meet his mom after date #1!

 

 

Lemme guess: He was a closet gay and thought you and his mom would get along FABULOUSLY?

[Brown Eyed Girl 1]

Lemme guess: He was a closet gay and thought you and his mom would get along FABULOUSLY?

 

Well, he just could have been. Ya never know!

 

I certainly didn't stick around long enough to find out.

 

Oh yeah... I forgot to mention that he was planning on buying a new truck too... got an email from him a couple of days later telling me that he wanted to have MY name put on his personalized licence plate.

 

Yup... that confirmed everything for me right there!

[redtodd 7]

I think any half intelligent guy would be able to sniff out this boderline psycho route. He then would debate on whether he could give you the answers you want to hear, bang you in the very near future and ditch you or just ditch you entirely now.

 

A dummy would probably fall prey to this crap and then give you answers you don't want to hear because he is too stupid to lie.

[sawilson 1]

"Someone who is serious about marriage"

 

Men don't say... I wanna get married, so I need to find someone suitable. They say, I want the right woman. And I'll marry if it seems like a good idea. Most women are so tied up on having their perfect wedding and big rock on their fingers that they act like crazed lunatics aimed at finding their idealized stereotypical but unrealistic life. So, the second that most good-looking, sane, reasonably intelligent men run into a woman who asks questions specifically aimed at MARRIAGE on the FIRST date, they run like hell. And rightfully so.

Good luck, itsjjw. You really need to view the 1st date as a dynamic social interaction aimed at enjoying the other person's company; rather than whether they're marriage material.

ITA with this statement. Why can't it sometimes just be about having fun.

 

With that being said, I actually went out on a first date with a guy today. Knew some about him already but this was the first official date (late lunch date) and god help me if I didn't think about this focking thread and thought, hum, maybe I'll give it a test run

 

I of course asked what he was going to have, just because I always do and was curious. Then I thought about asking what I should have and that's where it all ended. I thought "why the fock do I can what he thinks I should have, and why the fock would I ask. I'm not an indecisive person, and how is he supposed to know anyway." So that's where the "theory test" ended.

 

I don't like to map or plan things out, rather just go with the flow. If things come up, great, but I would rather just get to know the person first and his personality type before rushing into any interview on where they want to be in 30 years. Hell, I don't even know where the fock I want to be in 30 years, why would I expect someone else to?

[Riddlen 1]

As I said in my original post, this is why you are still single.

 

I guaranfockingtee you that you have scared off many good guys (maybe even "The One") by approaching your first dates this way.

 

From a guy's perspective you come off as kinda' shallow...as if you were only interested in getting married, rather than being interested in the guy, as a person.

Do you still have his number? Maybe we could set him and itsjjw up.

why, does he like the sausage now?

[itsjjw 0]

 

I of course asked what he was going to have, just because I always do and was curious. Then I thought about asking what I should have and that's where it all ended. I thought "why the fock do I care what he thinks I should have, and why the fock would I ask. I'm not an indecisive person, and how is he supposed to know anyway." So that's where the "theory test" ended.

 

Its about manners. You have no idea what is budget is. Didn't your mother / older sisters teach you anything?

[Brown Eyed Girl 1]

Its about manners. You have no idea what is budget is. Didn't your mother / older sisters teach you anything?

 

I think if you're worried about and are unsure what his budget is, just play it safe and order something reasonably priced. (I usually try to do this anyways... no matter who I'm with).

[itsjjw 0]

I think if you're worried about and are unsure what his budget is, just play it safe and order something reasonably priced. (I usually try to do this anyways... no matter who I'm with).

Exactly, not that 'why should I care wht he thinks'.

[davebg 0]

Its about manners. You have no idea what is budget is. Didn't your mother / older sisters teach you anything?

Given the quality of men that you must attract I wouldn't worry too much. I mean, how much could the surf & turf at the Ground Round cost?

[Brown Eyed Girl 1]

Exactly, not that 'why should I care wht he thinks'.

 

I don't think Saw was indicating that she didn't care what he could or couldn't afford... I'm pretty sure she was referring to him not caring which food choice she made.

 

I personally wouldn't ask my date what I 'should' order either. If I had never been to the place before and he had, I would prolly ask him what he thinks is good here and what he would recommend, but asking him to pick something for me would just show that I'm indecisive and how the heck would he even know what I like or what I'm in the mood for?

[RLLD 4,230]

This thread has been ROONED!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

[jerryskids 6,792]

All of this cloak and dagger shiot, jeebus.

 

Hey itsjjw, itsatip that a guy wouldn't take you to a restaurant he couldn't afford. Guys aren't complicated; women like you try to make us seem so, though.

[Patriotsfatboy1 1,432]

All of this cloak and dagger shiot, jeebus.

 

Hey itsjjw, itsatip that a guy wouldn't take you to a restaurant he couldn't afford. Guys aren't complicated; women like you try to make us seem so, though.

 

I think that he is willing to drop the $100 because he knows that she is easy.

[davebg 0]

 

I think that he is willing to drop the $100 because he knows that she is easy.

Only if he fails the marriage material test. So, really, the reason he's likely willing to take her to a $100/plate restaurant is b/c he knows he's going to stiff her w/the bill so he can get laid.