10 things I try to find out from guys on a 1st date

[Brown Eyed Girl 1]

Why would I want a hubby that wants to hang out and get trashed to hang out and have fun with when I want a hubby that is more grown up and mature than to want to sit around party and get trashed????? I'd rather find a hubby that has a more adult lifestyle.

 

I'm not getting how you're equating partying and getting trashed with having a good time together....?

 

You can have a man/husband who is mature and enjoys a more 'adult lifestyle' and still laugh with him and enjoy and have fun with him, can't you?

 

Well, I know I could... could you?

[jerryskids 6,790]

Friends are for partying with and hanging around with until its time to settle down and have a family. After that its all about the kids. Other than Friday's out partying with the girls, hubby and kids are the only thing that there is going to be time for.

 

Why would I want a hubby that wants to hang out and get trashed to hang out and have fun with when I want a hubby that is more grown up and mature than to want to sit around party and get trashed????? I'd rather find a hubby that has a more adult lifestyle.

You grow into that lifestyle together. My wife originally dated me because I had a reputation as a player (go figure), and she had always had long term relationships, and she wanted to try casual dating. But we hit it off, and 13+ years and 3 kids later, we are still going strong.

 

Point being, she was looking for the opposite of what you describe.

[BMoney 0]

Only if he fails the marriage material test. So, really, the reason he's likely willing to take her to a $100/plate restaurant is b/c he knows he's going to stiff her w/the bill so he can get laid.

 

 

5 star restaurant may be out of the question....im guessing the only 5 stars she sees are the 5 stars that dance around her head after shes been pushed into the headboard 64 times...

 

men will spend money on their gal if they like her enough...they wont think twice..men may spend money on her that they shouldnt be spending...

 

BUT men know when they are just viewed as a cash outlet...heck, we have guy friends the same way..they hang out with the crew but amazingly enough, can never buy the shots..pick up the tab..forget their wallet at certain times...but if they are longtime friends, we deal with it...

 

crazy women, we dont have to...unless the guy is viewing this as a not as sleazy way to pay for sex..he will continue to wine you, dine you and 69 you...

 

 

go rusty go

[donhaas 18]

 

go rusty go

 

exactly... there's no way there's a woman that's this clueless.....

 

How does he have all this time on his hands, though?

Doesn't he have a job?

[itsjjw 0]

I'm not getting how you're equating partying and getting trashed with having a good time together....?

 

You can have a man/husband who is mature and enjoys a more 'adult lifestyle' and still laugh with him and enjoy and have fun with him, can't you?

 

Well, I know I could... could you?

What I am trying to say it that right now I enjoy partying. When I get married, I don't want to party. When I am dating a guy, I don't want to date a guy that is into partying. So I have to keep the worlds separated.

 

I enjoy doing what the guy wants to do, if not, I'll learn to endulge it. I have plenty of fun with my current bf. Just not partying with him.

[edjr 6,580]

What I am trying to say it that right now I enjoy partying. When I get married, I don't want to party. When I am dating a guy, I don't want to date a guy that is into partying. So I have to keep the worlds separated.

 

I enjoy doing what the guy wants to do, if not, I'll learn to endulge it. I have plenty of fun with my current bf. Just not partying with him.

 

I see nothing wrong with this.

[Patriotsfatboy1 1,432]

I see nothing wrong with this.

 

I don't think that this support is going to be comforting to her (him).

[Yer mom 2]

What I am trying to say it that right now I enjoy partying. When I get married, I don't want to party. When I am dating a guy, I don't want to date a guy that is into partying. So I have to keep the worlds separated.

 

I enjoy doing what the guy wants to do, if not, I'll learn to endulge it. I have plenty of fun with my current bf. Just not partying with him.

 

 

Refreshing honesty, non keeper status chick though. Never share this information with the one you plan on keeping around. Only if he is a desperate pud will he allow himself to be "The one who got you at the end of your party stage." This of course is assuming that by party you mean one night stands, drinking into temporary comas, and possible drug use. Otherwise "partying" (having drinks with friends, going nuts on vacations) is something your want to come to a schreeching halt when its serious time?

 

Your sounding more and more like a bad catch...

[donhaas 18]

 

Your sounding more and more like a bad catch...

 

There was a point where s/he sounded like a good catch?

 

Her/his nickname could be STD Jones. (If we didn't have an STD Jones already, of course )

[Yer mom 2]

There was a point where s/he sounded like a good catch?

 

Her/his nickname could be STD Jones. (If we didn't have an STD Jones already, of course )

 

 

I've actually only read page 1 (because I posted) and this page....thought maybe somewhere in between she/he could have possibly shown a flash of brilliance.....my bad

[itsjjw 0]

Bottom line, let's be realistic, you guys only want women for one thing. Ok, make it two, you need to eat too. I know it, you know it, we all know it. So what I wnat a guy to be a wife to and raise a family with. 2 things only as well. What is so wrong about that? Its no different.

[davebg 0]

Bottom line, let's be realistic, you guys only want women for one thing. Ok, make it two, you need to eat too. I know it, you know it, we all know it. So what I wnat a guy to be a wife to and raise a family with. 2 things only as well. What is so wrong about that? Its no different.

If all I wanted a woman for was sex I wouldn't be married.

[itsjjw 0]

If all I wanted a woman for was sex I wouldn't be married.

All married men complain about that. or the lack of that.

[jerryskids 6,790]

If all I wanted a woman for was sex I wouldn't be married.

Agreed. My wife is my best friend. Yesterday she had just gotten her period, had a 100 degree fever, but took some Motrin to bring the fever down and whacked me off because she knew it had been a few days for me.

 

Wait, is that sexual?

[davebg 0]

All married men complain about that. or the lack of that.

It's not just the frequency we don't like...it's having to have sex w/the same person all the time that we complain about.

[Yer mom 2]

Bottom line, let's be realistic, you guys only want women for one thing. Ok, make it two, you need to eat too. I know it, you know it, we all know it. So what I wnat a guy to be a wife to and raise a family with. 2 things only as well. What is so wrong about that? Its no different.

 

 

WTF? I think I understood....

 

Thats cool, good luck. Im the phag who is still in search of the perfectly compatible life partner chick....realizing that may not exist as beer, football, burgers and donkeyknocks actually are not a womans best friend. Perhaps I seal the deal with the next one im bangin....dunno.

 

Im a hopeless romantic...

[davebg 0]

Agreed. My wife is my best friend. Yesterday she had just gotten her period, had a 100 degree fever, but took some Motrin to bring the fever down and whacked me off because she knew it had been a few days for me.

 

Wait, is that sexual?

She didn't blow you? She doesn't love you anymore.

[itsjjw 0]

It's not just the frequency we don't like...it's having to have sex w/the same person all the time that we complain about.

As I said in previous posts. Having a hubby cheat would not be a major surprise. Nor would it be worth ruining a marriage over. As long as its not frequent, not often, not long running, not in plain sight, and is discreet, it can be overlooked.

 

I know everyone is going to gang up on me for that, but its really just not a big hangup for me.

[naomi 356]

WTF? I think I understood....

 

Thats cool, good luck. Im the phag who is still in search of the perfectly compatible life partner chick....realizing that may not exist as beer, football, burgers and donkeyknocks actually are not a womans best friend. Perhaps I seal the deal with the next one im bangin....dunno.

 

Im a hopeless romantic...

 

So are you saying you're one of the few guys who wants more than sex and food, but a life partner? Sooo, they DO exist.

 

[itsjjw 0]

So are you saying you're one of the few guys who wants more than sex and food, but a life partner? Right. Sooo, they DO exist.

 

Urban Legend.

[jerryskids 6,790]

She didn't blow you? She doesn't love you anymore.

Well, she was also congested and I hadn't showered. So I gave her a bye... this time.

[davebg 0]

As I said in previous posts. Having a hubby cheat would not be a major surprise. Nor would it be worth ruining a marriage over. As long as its not frequent, not often, not long running, not in plain sight, and is discreet, it can be overlooked.

 

I know everyone is going to gang up on me for that, but its really just not a big hangup for me.

It would not be a big hangup for you b/c you are not basing the relationship on trust. You are playing these schemes and pretending to be something you are not to get the guy. Such a relationship is doomed from the start and why you are damaged goods.

 

Furthermore, don't EVAH share that w/a prospective marriage material guy. Any guy who is not a complete loser would hear this and be off like a prom dress before you could say "blood test." It shows you for what you are...a slut who would cheat on her husband...most likely on the first occasion you had to go out and party w/the girls after being cooped up w/your boring husband who you have nothing in common with other than a bank account and maybe some children.

[Medicated 0]

Urban Legend.

 

 

You would say that, since your first date interrogation would scare away any guy like this. I know it would scare me away.

[davebg 0]

Well, she was also congested and I hadn't showered. So I gave her a bye... this time.

She let you spooge it on her at least, right?

[itsjjw 0]

It would not be a big hangup for you b/c you are not basing the relationship on trust. You are playing these schemes and pretending to be something you are not to get the guy. Such a relationship is doomed from the start and why you are damaged goods.

 

Furthermore, don't EVAH share that w/a prospective marriage material guy. Any guy who is not a complete loser would hear this and be off like a prom dress before you could say "blood test." It shows you for what you are...a slut who would cheat on her husband...most likely on the first occasion you had to go out and party w/the girls after being cooped up w/your boring husband who you have nothing in common with other than a bank account and maybe some children.

That is definitely on the list of things that I would never tell a guy I was serious with.

[jerryskids 6,790]

She let you spooge it on her at least, right?

She would have if I had asked for it, since that is how such encounters typically end. This time tho was an ultra quicky, and she was still dressed because of her chills, so I shot it on my tummy.

[naomi 356]

Urban Legend.

 

 

Nah, despite how many guys here will back that up, and there are a few who will say they want more from a partner, I know some do. It is becoming increasingly more rare as culture deteriorates though. My dad has never cheated on my mom, and vice versa.

 

It sounds like you've just had one too many bad experiences. You're pretty realistic, but don't be defeatist about it. I think why you're even compelled to post threads that lead here is because there's a part of you wanting to be proved wrong about that.

[itsjjw 0]

Nah, despite how many guys here will back that up, and there are a few who will say they want more from a partner, I know some do. It is becoming increasingly more rare as culture deteriorates though. My dad has never cheated on my mom, and vice versa.

 

It sounds like you've just had one too many bad experiences. You're pretty realistic, but don't be defeatist about it. I think why you're even compelled to post threads that lead here is because there's a part of you wanting to be proved wrong about that.

Is it so bad to want to be in the same kinda loving relationship as mom and dad?

[naomi 356]

Is it so bad to want to be in the same kinda loving relationship as mom and dad?

 

No. What's bad is that being realistic and being cynical is one in the same. That's understandable, and while experiences might make you want to think it's naive, you should still go for what you know down deep is right. And if it's meant to be, you'll find someone without accepting a bunch of ######.

[Yer mom 2]

Nah, despite how many guys here will back that up, and there are a few who will say they want more from a partner, I know some do. It is becoming increasingly more rare as culture deteriorates though. My dad has never cheated on my mom, and vice versa.

 

It sounds like you've just had one too many bad experiences. You're pretty realistic, but don't be defeatist about it. I think why you're even compelled to post threads that lead here is because there's a part of you wanting to be proved wrong about that.

 

 

Naomi...stranglehold on most intelligent female poster on board

[Wildman 0]

No. What's bad is that being realistic and being cynical is one in the same. That's understandable, and while experiences might make you want to think it's naive, you should still go for what you know down deep is right. And if it's meant to be, you'll find someone without accepting a bunch of ######.

 

 

As a dear friend of mine said, it's the process of sifting through the chaff. Not easy, but worth it. You're lucky you had that kind of upbringing in terms of your mom and dad. Rare...

 

So are you saying you're one of the few guys who wants more than sex and food, but a life partner? Sooo, they DO exist.

 

 

 

LOL!

[Guest Mr.T]

As I said in previous posts. Having a hubby cheat would not be a major surprise. Nor would it be worth ruining a marriage over. As long as its not frequent, not often, not long running, not in plain sight, and is discreet, it can be overlooked.

 

I know everyone is going to gang up on me for that, but its really just not a big hangup for me.

 

 

Way to set that bar high!!

 

You're not looking for a marriage with the one you love. You're in search of a business partner. What's with the low expectations? Why are you setting yourself up like this?

[bostonlager 2,665]

As I said in previous posts. Having a hubby cheat would not be a major surprise. Nor would it be worth ruining a marriage over. As long as its not frequent, not often, not long running, not in plain sight, and is discreet, it can be overlooked.

 

I know everyone is going to gang up on me for that, but its really just not a big hangup for me.

 

 

So you would entertain the thought of swinging?

[itsjjw 0]

So you would entertain the thought of swinging?

Not only no, but he|| no. There is no way a third party is going to be in our private relationship. I respect my man more than that.

[bostonlager 2,665]

Not only no, but he|| no. There is no way a third party is going to be in our private relationship. I respect my man more than that.

 

 

So out of all the guys that boned you, not once did you ever get tag-teamed?

[kutulu 1,676]

So out of all the guys that boned you, not once did you ever get tag-teamed?

 

Now it's getting interesting.

[De Novo 0]

I have plenty of friends to hang out and have fun with. I have no need for a date to do that with. Who needs you for that?

 

That's why you'll always be alone

 

Is this chick serious?

 

Friends are for partying with and hanging around with until its time to settle down and have a family. After that its all about the kids. Other than Friday's out partying with the girls, hubby and kids are the only thing that there is going to be time for.

 

Why would I want a hubby that wants to hang out and get trashed to hang out and have fun with when I want a hubby that is more grown up and mature than to want to sit around party and get trashed????? I'd rather find a hubby that has a more adult lifestyle.

 

The only way someone could actually say that is if their parents were business partners who happened to be in the business of having kids. Seriously. What kind of warped perception of reality is that?

[De Novo 0]

That is definitely on the list of things that I would never tell a guy I was serious with.

So you hide important things from your long-term partners... good call

[BMoney 0]

do we know how old itsjjrustyww is??

[redtodd 7]

This is stooopid.