I want to ask my girlfriend of five years to marry me...................

[Trip McNeely 0]

I've been dating my girlfriend for 5 years now and I want to ask her to marry me. We are going on vacation to the Dominican Republic in about 3 weeks and I just decided that I want to propose to her the night before we leave. The only thing is, her family is old school and really believe in asking the father for permission. I totally understand this and have no problem with it, and I'm certain that he would say that it is ok. My problem is that I live in New York City and he lives about 2 hours away and it would be almost impossible for me to drive down in person to see him and ask him. Is it totally unappropriate to do something like this over the phone? I don't want him to feel like this is disrespectful or anything, but it would just be too difficult to do this in person. Can I just call him up and ask him. What are your thoughts Geeks?

[GettnHuge 2]

I guess if she isn't worth a 2 hour drive then don't marry her.

[Bert 1,128]

I guess if she isn't worth a 2 hour drive then don't marry her.

 

Be a man and drive down after work. You'll be home by 10:30.

[Voice_Of_Reason 0]

Send a telegram

[wiffleball 4,790]

Find a way to ask the Dad the night before you leave. Why - when you're going on vacation to a beautiful tropical place - you'd choose to ask this question at home is beyond me. Ask the Dad the night before, then ask her on the beach or something while you're there. that way, when she gets back , her whole family is bubbling over with anticipation - but couldn't possibly leak it to her before you get to pop the question.

 

 

good luck you sorry bastage.

[redtodd 7]

I called my father in law, but that was because I we lived in Boston and he lived in WI. If I were 2 hours away, I would definitely drive.

[yostevo 0]

Tie a note to a pigeon.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Seriously, sack up and show how much she means to you. Make the trip.

[redtodd 7]

So did he say no?

congrats

 

I asked if I could marry his daughter. When he started to reply I quickly said, "Great!! Thanks!!" and hung up.

[yostevo 0]

Also, I might add you should wait and propose on the beach like I did. Write it in the sand, surround it with candles and walk her down to the beach at night.

 

Let me tell you something brother, my wife will glow about that story till the day we die and it's a wonderful get out of jail card free when necessary.

[Slruc 0]

I asked if I could marry his daughter. When he started to reply I quickly said, "Great!! Thanks!!" and hung up.

LoL.

 

 

TM - good luck hopefully both the father and daughter will give you the same answer!

[RicemanX 20]

if you think it is important to get permission. I would do it, even if you had to drag on the proposal to have time to drive down and ask.

 

No phone...maybe text message?

 

"May i Mry ur dgtr pls? I luv her vry mch"

[Trip McNeely 0]

Well, it looks like I will be headed down to see him. I really have no problem with doing this, and she definitely is worth it, but I just wanted to check and see if a phone call was an acceptalbe way of doing this. Now I know. Thanks

[Let Da Big Dog Eat 40]

I would suggest you text msg him using all the stupid teenage code. That will also impress him that you are so up to date technology wise.

[Trip McNeely 0]

Also, I might add you should wait and propose on the beach like I did. Write it in the sand, surround it with candles and walk her down to the beach at night.

 

Let me tell you something brother, my wife will glow about that story till the day we die and it's a wonderful get out of jail card free when necessary.

 

 

I know it would be great to propose while on vacation, but I just figured that New York has so much more meaning to us because we both live here and have great memories here.

[yostevo 0]

I know it would be great to propose while on vacation, but I just figured that New York has so much more meaning to us because we both live here and have great memories here.

 

I felt the same about Detroit.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Now go to the beach

[Voice_Of_Reason 0]

1st off, do the proposal on your vacation. It makes the vacation a better memory. She can tell all her girlfriends how you walked her out on the beach yada yada.

 

Then, on your tenth aniversary, go back. Make her a nice quiet dinner. Set some candles out. Get the lighting just right. Maybe a little soft music. The bang her in the arse.

 

 

I asked my FIL for his daughters hand....his response..."you think it matters what I say?"

[p.man 7]

What if he say's no?

 

The Father that is. What if he doesn't give you permission?

 

I'd ask her first and deal with the parents later. If you're a good person they'll get over it.

 

Just incase she desides to say no I'd pop the big question while I was on vacation. This way at least you got away for a while.

 

Good Luck!

[yostevo 0]

What if he say's no?

 

The Father that is. What if he doesn't give you permission?

 

I'd ask her first and deal with the parents later. If you're a good person they'll get over it.

 

Just incase she desides to say know, I'd pop the big question while I was on vacation. This way at least you got away for a while.

 

Good Luck!

 

It doesn't matter if he says no. She can be banged by whoever she feels like it. GB the USA. You were kind enough to ask him as a respectful gesture. You ask him and then you ask her and tell him that he better keep his old focking yapper shut about it or dad's gonna have an unfortunate accident off the Brooklyn Bridge.

[Flashover 0]

2 Hours!? Come on dude, you really can't find the time to drive 2 hours in the next 3 weeks?

[Brown Eyed Girl 1]

Looks like I'm coming in too late, but I agree with the others about driving the 2 hours. I think you're making the right decision to do that instead of over the phone.

 

Also.... are you sure you've given it enough consideration about not proposing on the island? That would sure be beautiful and memorable. But obviously the choice is yours and if NY has sentimental ties for you 2, by all means - go with what feels right.

 

Congrats and Good luck!

[Trip McNeely 0]

Ok, maybe I will do the proposal on vacation. But here's a stupid question.. How do I get the ring past security without her seeing it. Do I just keep it my pocket? I know this is stupid,but I'm just kind of curious

 

 

Also, thanks for "congratulations" everyone

[naomi 356]

On an episode of "I Propose" (cameras follow the guy around before and during the proposal) the guy called the girl's dad. I thought that was kind of tacky, though I don't know how far away her dad lived. I think he said "cool, thank you" after he got the blessing and the segue into saying goodbye was a bit awkward. Definitely agree with the driving the two hours.

[Voice_Of_Reason 0]

It doesn't matter if he says no. You were kind enough to ask him as a respectful gesture. You ask him and then you ask her and tell him that he better keep his old focking yapper shut about it or dad's gonna have an unfortunate accident off the Brooklyn Bridge.

 

She can be banged by whoever she feels like it. GB the USA.

RIGHT! If dear ole dad says NO!. Remind him that the old folks home isn't always a fun place to be committed. Then tell him his daughter is preggo and you gotta get home.

 

 

Seriously though....show him respect, and you'll get it. If you aren't a total assclown.

[Voice_Of_Reason 0]

Ok, maybe I will do the proposal on vacation. But here's a stupid question.. How do I get the ring past security without her seeing it. Do I just keep it my pocket? I know this is stupid,but I'm just kind of curious

 

Like coke smugglers. Swallow it wrapped in a condom. Then crap it out. Ask her to search your Sh!t for worms. She'll find the ring and wala. It will make the engagement story that much cooler.

[Mungwater 597]

Ok, maybe I will do the proposal on vacation. But here's a stupid question.. How do I get the ring past security without her seeing it. Do I just keep it my pocket? I know this is stupid,but I'm just kind of curious

Also, thanks for "congratulations" everyone

 

Plant some weed on her, she'll be too busy with security herself to wonder what you have in your pockets..

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Should be alright to just leave it in your carry on bag, I put all my stuff in my computer bag when I travel with no troubles at all.

[yostevo 0]

Ok, maybe I will do the proposal on vacation. But here's a stupid question.. How do I get the ring past security without her seeing it. Do I just keep it my pocket? I know this is stupid,but I'm just kind of curious

Also, thanks for "congratulations" everyone

 

Rule #1 DO NOT HAVE IT ON YOU AT ALL. Put it in your carry on with a note attached to the box that says: "Attention airport security, the contents of this box are intended for an engagement, please be discreet should you need to open it".

 

Rule #2 After you get it on your plane, keep that sucker close to you at all times. I put into every pocket of every pair of pants or shorts I wore down in Miami till I sprung the question because I didn't want her to be fishing through my bag and stumble across it.

 

Also, I didn't trust the hotel room safe for a second. It was key operated and I expected some senorita cleaning lady to have another key to it and oops it's gone.

[Trip McNeely 0]

Plant some weed on her, she'll be too busy with security herself to wonder what you have in your pockets..

Should be alright to just leave it in your carry on bag, I put all my stuff in my computer bag when I travel with no troubles at all.

 

Yeah, I think the carry-on idea will work

[Trip McNeely 0]

Rule #1 DO NOT HAVE IT ON YOU AT ALL. Put it in your carry on with a note attached to the box that says: "Attention airport security, the contents of this box are intended for an engagement, please be discreet should you need to open it".

 

Rule #2 After you get it on your plane, keep that sucker close to you at all times. I put into every pocket of every pair of pants or shorts I wore down in Miami till I sprung the question because I didn't want her to be fishing through my bag and stumble across it.

 

Also, I didn't trust the hotel room safe for a second. It was key operated and I expected some senorita cleaning lady to have another key to it and oops it's gone.

 

 

the "note idea" is pretty good. The last thing I want them doing is saying, "hey, what's this" for all to see

[Brown Eyed Girl 1]

It doesn't matter if he says no.

You were kind enough to ask him as a respectful gesture.

 

Agreed. It does not matter if he says no... (why would he anyways)?

You are simply going through the formalities by asking him and showing your respect by doing so.

 

The only 'yes' you need to hear is from your girl.

[Trip McNeely 0]

Agreed. It does not matter if he says no... (why would he anyways)?

You are simply going through the formalities by asking him and showing your respect by doing so.

 

The only 'yes' you need to hear is from your girl.

 

You are 100% correct. Her father will give his blessing I'm pretty sure. My girlfriend better say yes b/c she has been on my case about this for six months

[NorthernVike 2,086]

Wait to buy the ring down there! You will save a sh!t load of money

 

 

Also, I dont know why you have to ask him anything. Your an adult and so is she(hopefully). I never understood this whole concept.

[TheNewGirl 1,490]

You are 100% correct. Her father will give his blessing I'm pretty sure. My girlfriend better say yes b/c she has been on my case about this for six months

 

Wow, she's been nagging you to marry her?

 

Hmm.

[Groundhog 24]

Wrap it up inside your carry-on with a little printout that says the following:

 

Gameplan for Girls to Ask to Marry Me:

1. Amber (maybe ask again?)

2. Tiffany

3. Trip's GF

4. Trip's GF's younger sister

[Let Da Big Dog Eat 40]

If you have been living together for any period of time, he will be thrilled to give his blessing even if he thinks you're a total d-bag.

 

Edit: Make sure the future MIL is present as well. Hope I don't have to tell you why.

 

If you really want to score points, take them out to dinner and ask at the end of the meal.

[Quickolas1 80]

proposing on a beach vacation is so tacky.

 

on the way to the airport, i'd stop in a dark alley, throw her in a dumpster, hold it down and tell her there's something in there for her to find. once (if) she finds it, open up the dumpster up and show her your smiling face.

 

she'll have a great story to tell for years

[Ravens 03 0]

RUN AWAY WHILE YOU CAN!

 

 

 

 

Seriously good luck.

 

Ask her while you are there, not before.

[CurlyNight's Ghost 0]

Well, it looks like I will be headed down to see him. I really have no problem with doing this, and she definitely is worth it, but I just wanted to check and see if a phone call was an acceptalbe way of doing this. Now I know. Thanks

To really score some points with the pops you should crawl on all 4s backwards to see him!@#@!

[CurlyNight's Ghost 0]

Wow, she's been nagging you to marry her?

 

Hmm.

doesn't the cheerleader who talks too much do the same with that fat bald dude?!@#@!

[TommyGavin 790]

Where does he live ?

 

You want ME to keep her warm while you make the trip Trip (alias)?

[phillybear 366]

As I read this thread, my mind keeps drifting to the Natalee Hollaway murder.

 

So you better get a solid alibi.