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Should your spouse be your best friend?

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Seems like I've heard both sides pretty clearly. Some believe that for example, I'm your husband, not your bestie. Gossip and whatever else have to do with your girlfriend not with me.

 

Others, feel pretty much just the opposite. They get maybe even a little threatened by anybody else having any sort of role or importance in their spouses life.

 

I've known too many insecure guys who literally pretty much just hid in their apartment until they finally found a partner slash wife and then they finally develop some semblance of a life. I just have a hard time respecting that personally.

 

Also, I just think that's a hell of a lot to put on any one person. But I can see either argument.

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should i do my wife's best friend? i will need pre-authorization, but I'm in.

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Mine is, without a doubt. Nobody on the planet I'd rather spend time with.

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married 23 yrs. there used to be a time where i could tell her everything. she is still one of my closest friends, but i cannot have that kind of transparency any longer. not even a male vs female thing. more about feelings, reactions, and how she processes information.

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If she was my best friend who the Fvck would I have to complain about her to ?

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Your woman is a special category. Yeah, shes my best friend, but in a wholly different way.

 

Shes my best friend in the trust and confide and help each other way. Hanging out, women suck at that generally.

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Mine is. I don't think it has to be that way but when you outkick your coverage like I did, it's great.

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I think you need to start this thread with a definition of 'best friend'. I hope that would include the person you choose to share a bed with in your home on a nightly basis for year after year, as well as them being the person you are spending the majority of your time with while alive on this earth.

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You guys do realize you can have really good friends in life without saying your wife isn't your best friend. I mean, they can be equal friends can't they?

 

Or if you had to choose between having that one guy friend or your wife are you saying you pick your guy friend?

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My gf is my bf in a different kind of way than my bf I grew up with. I think it makes the relationship more intimate. For most people that's probably for the better. For some they don't need that. And I'm sure there's a lot of couples where the man and woman have differing views, which is probably where a lot of problems lie

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My gf is my bf in a different kind of way than my bf I grew up with. I think it makes the relationship more intimate. For most people that's probably for the better. For some they don't need that. And I'm sure there's a lot of couples where the man and woman have differing views, which is probably where a lot of problems lie

Do you stick to anal with both of them, or does your girlfriend let you slam the clam also? Does your BF get jealous of your GF? :unsure:

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Do you stick to anal with both of them, or does your girlfriend let you slam the clam also? Does your BF get jealous of your GF? :unsure:

It really depends on the a lot of factors. Time of the month, astrological cycle, menstrual cycle, which movies are available on Netflix... Er I mean we don't share like that

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My wife is my partner. We are a team when it comes to our kids, our home, our finances. We do things for each other and take care of one another. That does not make her my BF IMO.

 

Remember, a good friend is the one that bails you out of jail. A best friend is one that is sitting next to you saying, "Wasn't that focking cool!!!!".

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She's a lot of people's best friend, too. :dunno: :o

 

If by "best friend" you mean sex toy, well, duh...

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My wife is my best friend, somewhat by choice, but also a little by default.

 

I have friends around here that I play golf with, do charity work with, etc, but none are best friends.

 

All the guys I used to hang with before marriage are in other states so we dont see each other much.

 

I like spending time with and talking to my wife so it works out.

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My wife is my best friend, somewhat by choice, but also a little by default.

 

I have friends around here that I play golf with, do charity work with, etc, but none are best friends.

 

All the guys I used to hang with before marriage are in other states so we dont see each other much.

 

I like spending time with and talking to my wife so it works out.

She's your wife you're supposed to do those things

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She's your wife you're supposed to do those things

Right.

 

But if my best friend lived near me, I would surely spend some of my free time with him instead of her.

 

It wouldnt change our marriage any.

 

Her best friend lives near us so they do stuff together.

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Right.

 

But if my best friend lived near me, I would surely spend some of my free time with him instead of her.

 

It wouldnt change our marriage any.

 

Her best friend lives near us so they do stuff together.

Like scissoring and "stuff" like that? :music_guitarred: :banana:

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Your woman is a special category. Yeah, shes my best friend, but in a wholly different way.

 

Shes my best friend in the trust and confide and help each other way. Hanging out, women suck at that generally.

There's nothing I can do with my guy friends that I can't have just as much or more fun doing with my wife. Drinkin, watching sports, going to the range, fishing...

 

My wife is cool with all that stuff and I take her with me when I go. I don't think I have a single male friend that hasn't asked me if she has a sister or make a crack about waiting the appropriate amount of time after I die to make a move on her.

 

Cool chick's are out there fellas. You don't have to settle for someone you can tolerate when you aren't with your boys.

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There's nothing I can do with my guy friends that I can't have just as much or more fun doing with my wife. Drinkin, watching sports, going to the range, fishing...

 

My wife is cool with all that stuff and I take her with me when I go. I don't think I have a single male friend that hasn't asked me if she has a sister or make a crack about waiting the appropriate amount of time after I die to make a move on her.

 

Cool chick's are out there fellas. You don't have to settle for someone you can tolerate when you aren't with your boys.

 

:pointstosky:

 

Are we married to the same chick? Met her at a poker game, our first date was a poolhall she suggested where she busted out her own pool cue, and the first time we went to her place she had more consoles/games than I did. Plus her family is rich af!

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I'm glad my wife doesn't have an "hourglass" figure like my friend does. Lol

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My wife is my best friend, but my b1tch is right here. 🐕

 

ETA: Somebody needs a friend. Wow. :lol:

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Hanging out, women suck at that generally.

Seriously?

 

In what way?

 

My hubs is my best friend.

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My wife is my best friend, but my b1tch is right here. 🐕

It took four minutes this time. You're getting better.

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My wife is my best friend, but my b1tch is right here. 🐕

And you don't have any friends, unless you count the imaginary one you went to Dallas with on your imaginary trip. We shall call him Dale.

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They say theyre going shopping and getting manicures, but I know better.

Ima need some can sizes to finish the visual. :cheers:

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If you say your spouse is your best friend you're probably one of those people who don't have friends anyway. Like one of those desperate losers who finally got some tang and now she controls your whole life. Or you're a needy basic chick who also didn't have friends and finally has a man around to tell you what to do. One of those people who dress up their pets. A night out is hitting up the local DQ for an extra large blizzard and binge watching anime on netflix. You're one of those people who always ask, "can my wife come too" when the guys are planning a dudes night. Only to never be invited again.

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Your woman is a special category. Yeah, shes my best friend, but in a wholly different way.

Shes my best friend in the trust and confide and help each other way. Hanging out, women suck at that generally.

This is correct. For the guys who categorize their sig o as their best friend, do you have many other female friends? If no, why not?

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If you say your spouse is your best friend you're probably one of those people who don't have friends anyway. Like one of those desperate losers who finally got some tang and now she controls your whole life. Or you're a needy basic chick who also didn't have friends and finally has a man around to tell you what to do. One of those people who dress up their pets. A night out is hitting up the local DQ for an extra large blizzard and binge watching anime on netflix. You're one of those people who always ask, "can my wife come too" when the guys are planning a dudes night. Only to never be invited again.

Its really tough to maintain friendships as you get older. Between work, marriage and family, their aint a lot of extra time.

 

I regularly hang out with a couple friends, see a few others every month or so, and take trips once a year with another half dozen. From what I can tell, this is more regular contact with friends than most people. But we dont have kids and only work part time. How many friends do you interact with regularly, including your best friend?

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