BLS 313 Posted November 17, 2020 And I'm not sure I care. ETA: I feel like a terrible person, but I'm rather emotionless about it. Not trying to be edgy or "tuff". I have known for the last couple of days that this was coming. I talked with my Dad about it because I haven't talked to my mother in over 2 years. I asked if I should call her before she goes. I never called her...........got a text this morning from my brother that she passed away very early today. Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
kilroy69 994 Posted November 17, 2020 Damn man that sucks either way. Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Cruzer 1,992 Posted November 17, 2020 Family dynamics can be complicated, but she was still your mom - sorry to hear. Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
BLS 313 Posted November 17, 2020 2 minutes ago, Cruzer said: Family dynamics can be complicated, but she was still your mom - sorry to hear. Yeah it's very complicated. It's always easy to say "she was still your mom". She wasn't my mom much more than giving birth to me. Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Meglamaniac 380 Posted November 17, 2020 Sorry to hear Thoughts and prayers with you and your family Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Bert 1,091 Posted November 17, 2020 7 minutes ago, Cruzer said: Family dynamics can be complicated, but she was still your mom - sorry to hear. This!!! Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Cloaca du jour 2,064 Posted November 17, 2020 Move on..everyone grieves or doesnt. Whats the big deal if your indifferent? Do what needs to be done and move on. We are all dying and its sad..and besides our dna..what else do we pass on? Good luck and dont beat yourself up over it. 1 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Nomad99 406 Posted November 17, 2020 Any passing is a sad event...sorry for the loss & more sorry for the lack of a relationship. Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
mmmmm...beer 691 Posted November 17, 2020 Sorry man... hope you make peace with your relationship. Essentially for you... Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
TimmySmith 2,782 Posted November 17, 2020 Give thanks and carry on. Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Fireballer 2,381 Posted November 17, 2020 Damn. Sorry to hear about your situation. Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Djgb13 2,338 Posted November 17, 2020 Sorry to hear man Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Strike 3,968 Posted November 17, 2020 Sorry to hear man. As noted, still your mom. Go shoot some targets in her honor or something. Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
RLLD 3,455 Posted November 17, 2020 T&P man, there is no standard for how to deal with this, the emotion will come when you are ready for it Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
NorthernVike 2,080 Posted November 17, 2020 There's a yer mom joke in here somewhere.... T&P BLS Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
TheNewGirl 1,028 Posted November 17, 2020 I am sorry for your loss. Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Gladiators 1,904 Posted November 17, 2020 Sorry to hear BLS. I hope you find peace in whatever way works best for you. Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
posty 2,296 Posted November 17, 2020 RIP BLS mom... And BLS, I know that you aren't feeling unhappy or anything like that, but T&P for you... Something will hit you sometime at a future date, it always does when you least expect it... Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
MDC 5,890 Posted November 17, 2020 Sorry for your loss BLS. Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Frozenbeernuts 1,652 Posted November 17, 2020 It's never easy to hear about bad relationships with parents. I am in that group. My condolences Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
EternalShinyAndChrome 2,515 Posted November 17, 2020 Sorry for your loss, BLS. Sorry you had such a bad relationship with her. Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
nzoner 936 Posted November 17, 2020 Sorry to hear,thoughts and prayers. Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
peenie 1,690 Posted November 17, 2020 ((hugs) so sorry ((hugs) It's okay that you don't care right now. I think it's normal. It may be a coping a mechanism. I'm not sure how old you are but perhaps you'll care many years from now when you can see her life through her eyes as you age. None of us is perfect. If she was a rotten human, just think about the pain she must've had to endure to become that way. Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Mike Isles 583 Posted November 17, 2020 Sorry to hear man. Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Herbivore 905 Posted November 17, 2020 Sorry to hear BLS. Will always have unresolved issues with my dad who passed 10 years ago. It can be a pretty weird thing sometimes, like someone bringing him up, or how they lost their best friend when their dad died. field of dreams. Ultimately, with yourself, just thank them for whatever they did give you, and how strong you have become. Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Big Guy 1,400 Posted November 17, 2020 6 hours ago, BLS said: And I'm not sure I care. ETA: I feel like a terrible person, but I'm rather emotionless about it. Not trying to be edgy or "tuff". I have known for the last couple of days that this was coming. I talked with my Dad about it because I haven't talked to my mother in over 2 years. I asked if I should call her before she goes. I never called her...........got a text this morning from my brother that she passed away very early today. I'm sorry for your loss and I can relate, my Mom recently disowned me because of my support for Trump Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
peenie 1,690 Posted November 17, 2020 7 minutes ago, Big Guy said: and I can relate, my Mom recently disowned me because of my support for Trump Wow, really? Perhaps she didn't understand you agreed with his economic plans for the country but maybe not so much about other things? I'm always trying to explain to people that supporting Trump doesn't mean you're a racist or don't believe in women's rights to her own body. Unless of course you are and you don't.... 1 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Bier Meister 1,513 Posted November 17, 2020 Sorry for your loss. Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
jerryskids 5,199 Posted November 17, 2020 5 hours ago, mmmmm...beer said: Sorry man... hope you make peace with your relationship. Essentially for you... This. Also, was your dad still close to her? You said you talked to him. Regardless, perhaps you can be there for your dad, and grow your relationship with him in the process. Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Big Guy 1,400 Posted November 17, 2020 55 minutes ago, peenie said: Wow, really? Perhaps she didn't understand you agreed with his economic plans for the country but maybe not so much about other things? I'm always trying to explain to people that supporting Trump doesn't mean you're a racist or don't believe in women's rights to her own body. Unless of course you are and you don't.... She lives in her tiny bubble and fully believes what MSM tells her Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
peenie 1,690 Posted November 17, 2020 30 minutes ago, Big Guy said: She lives in her tiny bubble and fully believes what MSM tells her I don't get this, I don't understand why conservatives don't have more compassion for liberals and vice versa. Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Big Guy 1,400 Posted November 17, 2020 6 minutes ago, peenie said: I don't get this, I don't understand why conservatives don't have more compassion for liberals and vice versa. she's simply a sheep......could be the other way around but it's not. As conservatives we see at least 2 sides, leftists are surrounded by only one. The Left is in control of almost ALL media as well as Academia. We've had these discussions frequently in Geekrealm, but here and now is probably not the best time or place. Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
peenie 1,690 Posted November 17, 2020 5 minutes ago, Big Guy said: she's simply a sheep......could be the other way around but it's not. As conservatives we see at least 2 sides, leftists are surrounded by only one. The Left is in control of almost ALL media as well as Academia. We've had these discussions frequently in Geekrealm, but here and now is probably not the best time or place. But I'm liberal and I take up for you guys all the time. 1 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
GobbleDog 816 Posted November 17, 2020 How big were her cans? 1 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
BLS 313 Posted November 17, 2020 2 hours ago, jerryskids said: This. Also, was your dad still close to her? You said you talked to him. Regardless, perhaps you can be there for your dad, and grow your relationship with him in the process. No, he had very little to do with her as well. He remarried when I was probably 8 or so. Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
BLS 313 Posted November 17, 2020 Thanks to you all for the T&Ps. Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Bill E. 666 Posted November 17, 2020 Sorry to hear all of this. I am sure it is still hard to handle. Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Fireballer 2,381 Posted November 17, 2020 My wife went through this with her father. He left her and her mom when my wife was about 5 years old. He died about 5 years ago. He had moved out of state and made a new life. She never heard from him on birthdays, holidays, or anything. The only thing he did was send her 1k check when she started college. She went through many emotions for a few days just reflecting on what she missed out on. Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
titans&bucs&bearsohmy! 2,745 Posted November 18, 2020 10 hours ago, Frozenbeernuts said: It's never easy to hear about bad relationships with parents. I am in that group. My condolences Me too. I haven't spoken to my father in... 15 years now? I'll feel like a d!ck when I get word that he passed. Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
