Anyone have success with this? Little background: My best friend (Brian), has a cousin who lives in Georgia and is coming up for the month of November.  In the past, a bunch of us (10), have tried to get together once a year to have a big poker game night, including my friends cousin.  This is the first time since COVID, that all 10 us are going to be around, but the only date would be Saturday, November 5th.  We planned this back in July. Fast forward to now... whether any of you remember or not, my girlfriend is an amateur body builder and all of her contracts ended in June, the 30th to be exact.  The quirk of it was that while her contracts and whatnot ended in June, she has bookings through the end of the calendar year.  Anyway, I told her that I know she'll have a lot going on and some things she'll want me either there or around for, but do not plan anything for November 5th.  On Saturday, she left a note on the table in kitchen for me when I got home (brought my nephew to his last baseball game of the fall season).  The note said, "Don't forget, we have the engagement party on Saturday (11/5), at 4 pm.  Be ready by 3 and I'll come by and pick you up." So, I got pretty ticked off because... 1) I told her not to make any plans for me and 2) This is the first time I've ever heard about the engagement party.  I brought it up to her yesterday when she got back and I told her that I was going and told her that she must have forgotten about my plans.  She gives me one of those "looks", the one where I'm the only idiot in room.  I'm sure you guys have gotten this before as well.  The thing is, I usually have about a 30% success rate of getting out of these things, even when I get "the look".  The problem is, everything I tried was losing.  Her biggest argument was, "this is very important and WE clearly, have to be there".  When I asked why, is when I get "the look".  I lose every time we get to that.  So, any of you have ideas of how to get out of this?