titans&bucs&bearsohmy!

Oh I am absolutely aware that I by far have the better end of the deal.

Oh I'm far more than content with her. That's why I'm doing my b!tching here rather than IRL.

It won't do any good man. Poosay trumps reason in these situations. You'll just lose a friend.

I think the simpsons killed that one.

I don't buy that. If anything, rural areas are over represented. As for a civil war... Keyboard warriors are one thing. I don't think too many people are willing to kill and die over this culture war nonsense.

Yeah, she's certainly not lazy. I'm the lazy one. It certainly has a cultural component. Asian women are encouraged to be delicate flowers who need men to do everything for them. In China, there is a thing called sa jiao where women will literally act like children, pout and even throw tantrums to get what they want. Filipino culture is less that way in both respects, but its still there. Hell, it exists in American culture too. The old garden variety "never have an opinion on where to eat" kind of thing. I've tried to be patient with it. I know she comes from a very limited background in terms of opportunity to experience things that I take as commonplace, but sometimes it gets old. She has made a lot of progress in terms of willingness to spend money and try new things, but with crap like visas and running errands in China (which is, of course, difficult, as we don't speak the language and they are retarded) she still leaves it all to me. When I was trying to do her visa, she kept trying to put it off, and I got mad and yelled. We have to renew our Chinese visas too, plus my whole family was waiting on an answer, so activities could be booked and planned. I yelled something to the effect of "I get to go either way, you're the one who needs a visa, get on it." When we first started dating, she said she wanted to travel, which is obviously very important to me. I always asked her, "Where do you want to go?" She'd reply that she doesn't care. I have learned that if I plan three trips (which I like to do anyway) and let her choose, she will. That works out well. But even with that, once we are on the ground, figuring out where to go in each city, how to do things like exchange money, book tours, arrange transportation... that's all me. In Hanoi last month, she made a crack that we were lost. I looked at her and replied that I would happily follow her if she wanted to put her big girl pants on and be the navigator. She quickly declined. All in all, she's amazing, and god knows she has her sh!t to put up with with me. Baby steps I guess. Part of it is probably me. I have zero patience, and when there is an annoying task that must be done, I look to do it as quickly as humanly focking possible. She, like most women, lives in a completely different conception of time than I do, so I get annoyed. Anyway, thanks geeks for letting me vent in a forum that won't have me sleeping on the couch.

That's why it frustrates me. If I had married a helpless twit, that would be on me. But she's basically been on her own since she was 11. She lived abroad alone for 5 years before I even met her. And yeah, a lot of it is probably because she knows she doesn't have to handle anything, because ultimately I will. To be fair, she does literally all the housework. But damn woman, figure out how to do an errand without me. If it were me, I would never even consider needing her help.

When I lived there, Pinellas and Hillsborough counties were pretty liberal. Has that changed? That was 10-15 years ago now.

Yes. You can. I bought a huawei laptop two months ago. Had the guy at the store put the international version of Windows on it. So has everyone I know who has bought a computer here.

My brother in law makes a potato salad in his smoker. Holy Christ it's good. He makes a macaroni and cheese in the smoker too. I have already requested both for when I'm home in July.

Cs. Which are nice since she's a tiny little spinner and all.

Probably, yes.

She's 34.

Mine can't. It's really annoying. To get her US visa, I filled out the damn application (with constant second guessing from her of course. I mean, one of us went to law school, I think I can handle an application form), I took a day off work to take her to the embassy (in a city 30 Miles away) and I sat outside the gate waiting for her. When the passport was kept, and they wouldn't sell her a bus ticket home, it was me who figured out how to get us home. Now, she needs a vaccine. She's never had an MMR. My sister, understandably, doesn't want her around her six month old baby without one. As usual, it's up to me to figure out where the fock to do this. I told her I'd send her, and she gives me sh!t for not going with her. I got annoyed and barked back, "why the fock should I lose a day's pay to go hold your hand while you get a focking shot? I speak barely any more Chinese than you. You can use Google translate just the same as I can." Women kill me. I would be embarrassed to be as focking helpless as most of them purport to be. I've long since accepted that the whole "equal partner" thing is a ridiculous fantasy, but fock, can you run a simple errand without Daddy once in a while?

Polls are not very meaningful right now (if they ever are) as it is trump vs any hypothetical Democrat. Until there is a nominee, it's a waste of time.