tony hardware 0 Posted December 11, 2006 There has to be something wrong with them if they have to use a dating service to find a date, right? I ran into a guy from high school. Back then, he wasn't in the popular crowd, is certainly nothing to look at today and isn't overly wealthy or working some ridiculously well paying job, but he's with this really attractive girl. They met through a dating service in the Boston area. So I wonder, it can't be that there is anything special about him, there's gotta be something wrong with this girl. Outwardly, she looked fine, but there's a good chance that she's a headcase if she's that attractive, in the mid-20s and has to land a guy through a dating service. I didn't see her stand up, so she could have a huge ass or something like that, but it would be extremely disproportionate from the top, so I assume that its unlikely. I think its fair to assume that there is something wrong with you if you're outwardly attractive and need professional assistance to find a companion. You have no excuse, it's like fishing with a hookless lure. All the fish are attracted, but you're not able to hook them in. So you need someone to put all the fish with one fin and disjointed tails in a barrel so you can swoop them with a net until you find one that isn't overly retarded that you can mount over your fireplace. Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
supermike80 2,022 Posted December 11, 2006 Nah.....Not in the least. Where are you supposed to meet people? The bar? Work? Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
NewbieJr 541 Posted December 11, 2006 "Something wrong with them" is probably a little strong, but you have to wonder how they've gone through life this far and couldn't find anyone. I think it's a little more understandable if a person's from a very small, rural area, where options are limited, but if you're from a metro area and need to use one, I'm a little leary. Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
tony hardware 0 Posted December 11, 2006 "Something wrong with them" is probably a little strong, but you have to wonder how they've gone through life this far and couldn't find anyone. I think it's a little more understandable if a person's from a very small, rural area, where options are limited, but if you're from a metro area and need to use one, I'm a little leary. Essentially my point! Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Electric Mayhem 35 Posted December 11, 2006 I was on match for months and couldn't even land one there. I suck at girls. Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
phillybear 366 Posted December 11, 2006 "Something wrong with them" is probably a little strong, but you have to wonder how they've gone through life this far and couldn't find anyone. I think it's a little more understandable if a person's from a very small, rural area, where options are limited, but if you're from a metro area and need to use one, I'm a little leary. Bad luck is just bad luck. No rhyme or reason as to whether poeple find anyone or not. Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
NewbieJr 541 Posted December 11, 2006 Bad luck is just bad luck. No rhyme or reason as to whether poeple find anyone or not. I call BS. You can't strangle, chop up, and bury seven women and then complain that you just don't have luck when it comes to relationships. Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
DuckStupid 40 Posted December 11, 2006 Nah, I wouldn't use one, but I'm married. If I was this old and single and looking, I'd use all resources available to me. Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
phillybear 366 Posted December 11, 2006 I call BS. You can't strangle, chop up, and bury seven women and then complain that you just don't have luck when it comes to relationships. They weren't my type. Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
NewbieJr 541 Posted December 11, 2006 They weren't my type. Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
sawilson 1 Posted December 11, 2006 They weren't my type. Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Chiefs04 0 Posted December 11, 2006 Nah, I wouldn't use one, but I'm married. If I was this old and single and looking, I'd use all resources available to me. Id agree with this They weren't my type. Pure drink spitting comedy...excellent.... Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
TheNewGirl 1,579 Posted December 11, 2006 Nah, I wouldn't use one, but I'm married. If I was this old and single and looking, I'd use all resources available to me. I totally agree. I remember (before I started visiting bars on a reg. basis) that I used to say that you couldn't ever meet decent guys in bars. Well, I met my husband in a bar. I know people who've used online dating and been successful at it as well...as well as people who've met in grocery stores, malls, dating services. My IL's met at a "Single Tall People" thing. I don't think that I am skeptical of ANY one's dating practice...you meet nice people and ###### just about everywhere. I think online dating CAN be scary, though. Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
football_scooter 0 Posted December 11, 2006 "Something wrong with them" is probably a little strong, but you have to wonder how they've gone through life this far and couldn't find anyone. I think it's a little more understandable if a person's from a very small, rural area, where options are limited, but if you're from a metro area and need to use one, I'm a little leary. I totally disagree. I think it's even harder to meet people you have something in common with in a big city. There's so many damn people, who can afford to waste so much time with the wrong ones looking for that diamond in the rough? I don't use dating services, but I've responded to a few personals on craig's list. And had some good times as a result. I dated one for over a year that I "met" online. Her ad told me a ton about her, far more than just looking across the bar and thinking, "nice cans, wonder if she'll go out with me?" - sure, I've managed to date a few girls I've met randomly at bars/clubs, but for one, they're in a bar looking to hook up, which means they're a little sketchy already, and for two, I know nothing about them except they drink. I think those who are using dating services are slightly older, late 20s to 30s, and probably professional people who like me put in 50-60 hours a week and don't hang out in bars that frequently. With the demands of work, and in some cases being a single parent, who has time to go out and meet people? I guess to some of you having a demanding job and/or a kid makes them "damaged goods", but for many it's a reality. I don't see either of those as "something wrong with them". Of course there's a % who are twisted focks, but that holds true for people you meet going out, too. The most psychotic b!tch I ever dated I met in a bar. No thanks. I don't begrudge anyone who uses a dating service - at least they're narrowing the field, and putting themselves out there. It's a big world, and not everyone has time to dig through the chafe to get at the wheat. Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Electric Mayhem 35 Posted December 11, 2006 does craigslist charge? I may throw a hook out there if it won't cost me anything... Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
edjr 6,732 Posted December 11, 2006 does craigslist charge? I may throw a hook out there if it won't cost me anything... no Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
tony hardware 0 Posted December 11, 2006 does craigslist charge? I may throw a hook out there if it won't cost me anything... just make sure you use someone else's picture Maybe you could let PB write your ad? Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Chiefs04 0 Posted December 11, 2006 (before I started visiting bars on a reg. basis) Ahhhh...to have known you then... My sis in-law uses a service, Its called Just have Lunch, or Just Lunch or something like that. She has met 1 pretty cool guy and 2 total losers....however, her best friend is now engaged to a guy she met using that service. Both of them are young, healthy, in-shape, attractive....decent personalities and they also use "conventional" methods. If I was single or divorced I would have ads everywhere...I might even rent billboard space Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Brown Eyed Girl 1 Posted December 11, 2006 I totally disagree. I think it's even harder to meet people you have something in common with in a big city. There's so many damn people, who can afford to waste so much time with the wrong ones looking for that diamond in the rough? I agree with this. The process of having to go through date after date only to discover that there's so many things you either don't like about or don't have in common with each person... can be disheartening, I'm sure. Yes, you get to meet a lot of different types of people this way, but if you're looking for a particular type that shares common interests, I see nothing wrong with using a dating site to help narrow down your selection. Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
NewbieJr 541 Posted December 11, 2006 does craigslist charge? I may throw a hook out there if it won't cost me anything... craigslist? The other week, I found that my wife left the browser open and notice it was on craigslist. She said she was looking to see if she could find a cheap laptop. You mean to tell me she was probably looking for some strange? :gulp: Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
tony hardware 0 Posted December 11, 2006 I agree with this. The process of having to go through date after date only to discover that there's so many things you either don't like about or don't have in common with each person... can be disheartening, I'm sure. Yes, you get to meet a lot of different types of people this way, but if you're looking for a particular type that shares common interests, I see nothing wrong with using a dating site to help narrow down your selection. But you never once question why it is that THOSE people are using a dating website? You must go into it more skeptical than if it what Tim from the marketing department who Rhonda told you has a nice condo. Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
supermike80 2,022 Posted December 11, 2006 Used to be a stigma attached to personal ad searching but it is totally mainstream now and totally acceptable. I know a very dear friend who uses it and goes on some cool dates, and meets come cool people. They are flooded with divorcees and who can blame them? If you have been off the market for a while, it can be tough to try and play the game again. A personal site lets you at least filter out the people you know you would not be interested in. Like a divorced Mom with kids, makes it easier to do a search for men online who are ok with kids right? The times have changed guys.....you all need to get into the mainstream a little more. Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
edjr 6,732 Posted December 11, 2006 But you never once question why it is that THOSE people are using a dating website? You must go into it more skeptical than if it what Tim from the marketing department who Rhonda told you has a nice condo. it's 2006 not 1986, times have changed. it's so much easier to meet people online and takes less time and money and effort. especially if you're looking to get laid Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
football_scooter 0 Posted December 11, 2006 But you never once question why it is that THOSE people are using a dating website? You must go into it more skeptical than if it what Tim from the marketing department who Rhonda told you has a nice condo. That's idiotic. It might be Tim from the marketing dept on the dating service. There's no reason to assume that there's something wrong with someone because they use a dating service. Personally, I don't believe in "fishing from the company pier". I've dated within my company before and NEVER AGAIN. There's so many types of people out there...conservative, liberal, something in between, attitudes about politics, religion, sex, tollerance of people unlike yourself, extroverted, introverted, likes the outdoors, kids - love or hate, etc, etc, etc. There's also people who've been married, or in long relationships. I have a good friend who's pretty cute and in her early 30s. She was with a loser for 8 years...was engaged to him. Turned out he was cheating on her with 3 other girls and lying to her the whole time about everything under the sun. Now she finds herself at 33, and alone - further she's not very trusting. She uses one of the online dating services because it allows her to find out a lot about the prospect before investing any more time. Does that mean something's wrong with her? Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Brown Eyed Girl 1 Posted December 11, 2006 But you never once question why it is that THOSE people are using a dating website? You must go into it more skeptical than if it what Tim from the marketing department who Rhonda told you has a nice condo. You know, I used to have the same opinion of dating services as you describe in your opening post here. I feel differently about it now. Is it because I'm going through a divorce? Probably, yes. Now that it is affecting me to a degree, I have a different, more open approach to my opinion of it. I do not personally subscribe to a dating service, but, having gone on a couple of dates, I certainly understand and appreciate the benefits of what these services have to offer. And as for questioning why THOSE people are using a dating website, I only assume that the majority are there for the same purpose I just described. Sure, there are probably lots of 'undesirable' types there too... but at least you can weed through them online rather than realizing in the middle of your dinner as you sit across from them that you've made a bad decision! Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Jessy 0 Posted December 11, 2006 Meh. I meet the same flakey musicians online as I do in real life. Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
tony hardware 0 Posted December 11, 2006 That's idiotic. It might be Tim from the marketing dept on the dating service. There's no reason to assume that there's something wrong with someone because they use a dating service. Personally, I don't believe in "fishing from the company pier". I've dated within my company before and NEVER AGAIN. There's so many types of people out there...conservative, liberal, something in between, attitudes about politics, religion, sex, tollerance of people unlike yourself, extroverted, introverted, likes the outdoors, kids - love or hate, etc, etc, etc. There's also people who've been married, or in long relationships. I have a good friend who's pretty cute and in her early 30s. She was with a loser for 8 years...was engaged to him. Turned out he was cheating on her with 3 other girls and lying to her the whole time about everything under the sun. Now she finds herself at 33, and alone - further she's not very trusting. She uses one of the online dating services because it allows her to find out a lot about the prospect before investing any more time. Does that mean something's wrong with her? OK, are you skeptical of people who don't post pictures of themselves? Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Ravens 03 0 Posted December 11, 2006 Used to be a stigma attached to personal ad searching but it is totally mainstream now and totally acceptable. I know a very dear friend who uses it and goes on some cool dates, and meets come cool people. They are flooded with divorcees and who can blame them? If you have been off the market for a while, it can be tough to try and play the game again. A personal site lets you at least filter out the people you know you would not be interested in. Like a divorced Mom with kids, makes it easier to do a search for men online who are ok with kids right? The times have changed guys.....you all need to get into the mainstream a little more. Well said! Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
tony hardware 0 Posted December 11, 2006 Used to be a stigma attached to personal ad searching but it is totally mainstream now and totally acceptable. The times have changed guys.....you all need to get into the mainstream a little more. I was afraid to sell my couch to a guy on craigslists for fear that he would chop me up and bury me. One too many Dateline NBC, To Catch a Predator specials I guess. Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Franknbeans 46 Posted December 11, 2006 Used to be a stigma attached to personal ad searching but it is totally mainstream now and totally acceptable. I know a very dear friend who uses it and goes on some cool dates, and meets come cool people. They are flooded with divorcees and who can blame them? If you have been off the market for a while, it can be tough to try and play the game again. A personal site lets you at least filter out the people you know you would not be interested in. Like a divorced Mom with kids, makes it easier to do a search for men online who are ok with kids right? The times have changed guys.....you all need to get into the mainstream a little more. I thought all of your women friends cheat on their husbands too. Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
edjr 6,732 Posted December 11, 2006 OK, are you skeptical of people who don't post pictures of themselves? pictures are not really to be trusted. I met some girls who post pictures that are 7 years and 30 less pounds ago. Not all are like that, but a lot are. Or they take 75 pictures and find the 1 that got them at the right angle and they post it. Which is why. Webcams are where it's at, you can't fake a webcam. I haven't met anyone online in over 4 years, but I'm sure it's the same now as it was then. Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Electric Mayhem 35 Posted December 11, 2006 just make sure you use someone else's picture Maybe you could let PB write your ad? my match profile was awesome I don't need no stinking fake pic!! i'm sure there are plenty of chicks that are looking for bald guys with braces inthe mid-30s. on second thought, maybe that's not a bad idea... Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
sawilson 1 Posted December 11, 2006 I think with anything online you have to be very careful. You can meet a lot of arses on line as easily as in person. With that being said, there are a lot of people who don't have time to go out and find that mr/ms right because of many reasons. Work, kids, shedules etc and this just allows them another option. It also allows them like many have said the opportunity to filter through some of the things that they find or don't find very attractive in a person, personality or looks wise. I don't personally subscribe to any dating services just because I haven't had to. I meet plenty of people through friends and other activities, but there are some who don't or don't have the time. I think you just have to be careful, but again, that's the same as meeting someone offline. In this day and age you just never know. Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
edjr 6,732 Posted December 11, 2006 I think with anything online you have to be very careful. You can meet a lot of arses on line as easily as in person. With that being said, there are a lot of people who don't have time to go out and find that mr/ms right because of many reasons. Work, kids, shedules etc and this just allows them another option. It also allows them like many have said the opportunity to filter through some of the things that they find or don't find very attractive in a person, personality or looks wise. I don't personally subscribe to any dating services just because I haven't had to. I meet plenty of people through friends and other activities, but there are some who don't or don't have the time. I think you just have to be careful, but again, that's the same as meeting someone offline. In this day and age you just never know. and there is no better place to meet a married stay at home mom that's looking to cheat. or so I've heard Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
sawilson 1 Posted December 11, 2006 and there is no better place to meet a married stay at home mom that's looking to cheat. or so I've heard Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Electric Mayhem 35 Posted December 11, 2006 pictures are not really to be trusted. I met some girls who post pictures that are 7 years and 30 less pounds ago. Not all are like that, but a lot are. Or they take 75 pictures and find the 1 that got them at the right angle and they post it. You ain't kidding. I had two dates that I should have introduced my self with "Hi, I'm (EM). You must be (so-and-so)'s older, heavier less attractive sister. Is (so-and-so) showing up?" Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
supermike80 2,022 Posted December 11, 2006 I thought all of your women friends cheat on their husbands too. Not sure what this has to do with anything, but thanks for your input? Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
edjr 6,732 Posted December 11, 2006 You ain't kidding. I had two dates that I should have introduced my self with "Hi, I'm (EM). You must be (so-and-so)'s older, heavier less attractive sister. Is (so-and-so) showing up?" Yup. I don't understand how a person can post a picture that used to look like them, knowing they're going to meet someone. Are they hoping the person they're meeting is brinett and can't see? Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
football_scooter 0 Posted December 11, 2006 Webcams are where it's at, you can't fake a webcam. I put a magnifying lense over my webcam. All the chicks I chat with think I have a 36" cack as thick as a can of coke. Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
edjr 6,732 Posted December 11, 2006 Hey, the truth is the truth. Can you think of an easier way for a married woman to cheat and not get caught? you think I'm the only one that's ever met one? So long as she sets up meetings nowhere near her home and doesn't give out her home #, hubby will never find out I used to be a grade A scumbag, I could teach classes on how to cheat and get away with it. I put a magnifying lense over my webcam. All the chicks I chat with think I have a 36" cack as thick as a can of coke. Imagine what they think of your belly? Share this post Link to post Share on other sites