Negotiations Advice

[BunnysBastatrds 2,440]

 I learned this from an FBI negotiator right after Katrina. This applicable in every day life.

 

 

 

[Strike 5,541]

Thanks.  That was helpful.

[Hawkeye21 2,399]

Is the advice, not to say anything at all?  Well done.

[OldMaid 2,130]

Let us use this thread to brainstorm potential sig bets, instead.

 

[Strike 5,541]

Let's use this thread to unburden ourselves from what has been.

[jerryskids 6,797]

4 minutes ago, Hawkeye21 said:

Is the advice, not to say anything at all?  Well done.

Silence is actually very powerful in negotiations; I've used it quite often in my life, both work and personal.  People hate silence. They'll fill it with words, which often acquiesce to your points.   

[Hawkeye21 2,399]

1 minute ago, jerryskids said:

Silence is actually very powerful in negotiations; I've used it quite often in my life, both work and personal.  People hate silence. They'll fill it with words, which often acquiesce to your points.   

Bunny really is a brilliant man.

[Strike 5,541]

1 minute ago, jerryskids said:

Silence is actually very powerful in negotiations; I've used it quite often in my life, both work and personal.  People hate silence. They'll fill it with words, which often acquiesce to your points.   

I hear silence is Trump's favorite negotiating tactic.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Who the fock am I kidding?  

[BunnysBastatrds 2,440]

 This one is true also…

 

 

 

[BunnysBastatrds 2,440]

 

 

[BunnysBastatrds 2,440]

 

All of these tips are helpful. Teach them to your children.

[MLCKAA 574]

2 hours ago, jerryskids said:

Silence is actually very powerful in negotiations; I've used it quite often in my life, both work and personal.  People hate silence. They'll fill it with words, which often acquiesce to your points.   

I use my comfort with the “awkward silence” to my advantage quite regularly.  You’re so correct in noting that people hate it so much that they’ll often fill the silence with their own demise.

[BunnysBastatrds 2,440]

 This one intrigued me…

 

 

 

[BunnysBastatrds 2,440]

3 hours ago, OldMaid said:

Let us use this thread to brainstorm potential sig bets, instead.

 

 I already know what I choose for us. You?

[jerryskids 6,797]

51 minutes ago, MLCKAA said:

I use my comfort with the “awkward silence” to my advantage quite regularly.  You’re so correct in noting that people hate it so much that they’ll often fill the silence with their own demise.

One fun story:  my daughter took theater in HS, and found herself sitting on a D in the class.  The reason, in a nutshell, was that she was assigned to a team of losers for a big class project that never got fully completed (she did her part).

The teacher was a woman who was universally feared for being a hard ass.  I went in to see her, explained the situation, and in general used honey instead of vinegar (which I also find generally productive).  She rebuffed each point I made.  Finally, I said, "her getting a D in this class is not an acceptable solution, what can we do about it?"

She didn't answer immediately.  I said nothing, merely staring into her eyes.

Finally she said, "well, I guess we could [blah blah blah]."  She ended up with an A.  [I'll note that my daughter loved theater and put in a lot of effort with the group and class.]

The next day my daughter came home from school and said, "OMG, Teacher said you were the most intimidating person she's ever dealt with!"  I was honestly puzzled, because I had spent most of the time being very agreeable.  But it was that end, where I was willing to sit there silent until she acquiesced, that did the trick.

[MLCKAA 574]

3 hours ago, jerryskids said:

The teacher was a woman who was universally feared for being a hard ass.  I went in to see her, explained the situation, and in general used honey instead of vinegar (which I also find generally productive).  She rebuffed each point I made.  Finally, I said, "her getting a D in this class is not an acceptable solution, what can we do about it?".

Nicely done.  Forcing the other party to offer a solution to your objection is a favorite of my wife.

I encounter a lot of people who want to bait me into refuting or explaining away their complaints, spiraling into a pointless back and forth.  What I like to do is tell them “I’m sorry you feel that way” and then hit them with the silence.

 

[OldMaid 2,130]

3 hours ago, BunnysBastatrds said:

 I already know what I choose for us. You?

No clue. 

[BunnysBastatrds 2,440]

12 hours ago, Strike said:

Let's use this thread to unburden ourselves from what has been.

 And what we will be 

[BunnysBastatrds 2,440]

 

 

I learned this when I was thinking about going into advertising school. Great ideas.

[BunnysBastatrds 2,440]

Found a fascinating one this morning