stop talking cheerleader 0 Posted July 11, 2006 Read the first post of this thread first: Background whether i am supposed to bring like a condom, which i have never used in my life, or anything like that? No i aint asking her if she wants crabs... You are a dirty basturd that wants to give a young girl diseases now Just when you think u know someone Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
phillybear 366 Posted July 11, 2006 Everytime I've feeling down about myself or my life, I just come to this forum cause I know some loser on here will make me realize just how good my life actually is compared to others. You should go with your first instinct, and continue to feel down about yourself. Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Slush Puppy 0 Posted July 11, 2006 Read the first post of this thread first: Background We are eating at P.F. chang's, a restuarant that i know from previous conversations that she really, really likes and she says, "we will see where it goes from there." I am sorta getting smittin' with her for various reasons...HELP?!?! Ill give u some help for ur actual meal and what to order. Order the mongolian beef...its Chang's specialty and you will not be dissapointed. And go with the chicken lettuce wraps as well. Any Chang's regular will always order that. Pf Changs is one of my favorite chinese places. i consider myself a Chang's connoseur. Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
naomi 356 Posted July 11, 2006 Flowers are nice, but are kind of cliche to bring to a date. Send her flowers at work. Kind of cliche in an oldfashioned way but that's the thing - it's not done often anymore, it is kinda different. Getting them in person is a big part of the good part, but both ways are Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Quickolas1 80 Posted July 11, 2006 Don't: Buy her flowers. It says either "i'm trying to buy you with something any dude could buy" or "please like me cuz this is what i have to offer" i.e. i'm wussyboy Do: Open doors for her, that kind of stuff Don't: Be yourself or tell any stories about your life. From the sound of things, it'll be a nightmare. Do: Be a man. She's already in complete control of the situation ("we'll see where it goes..."). Take control and do what YOU want to do. She'll respect you much more than the wussyboy approach that is happening here. Don't: Post made up stories about living off your parents at your old age. HTH Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
naomi 356 Posted July 11, 2006 Flowers don't have to say that, only if she approaches it cynically, and it sounds like she likes him a lot. Since they have spent some time together already, it wouldn't come off like a matter of course for him, ie., that's just his routine before he even knows the girl. Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Brown Eyed Girl 1 Posted July 11, 2006 Flowers are nice, but are kind of cliche to bring to a date... send her flowers at work. hmmm... I disagree. There is something really sweet about a guy just handing over a single flower to a girl in person. Sweet, thoughtful... even if he just picked it out of someone's garden. Receiving flowers at work are great, but at this stage in the relationship, I don't know... I think it's kind of overkill. It really is the smallest of gestures that mean the most. (to me, anyways). Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
TommyGavin 790 Posted July 11, 2006 i consider myself a Wang connoseur. Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
stop talking cheerleader 0 Posted July 11, 2006 hmmm... I disagree. There is something really sweet about a guy just handing over a single flower to a girl in person. Sweet, thoughtful... even if he just picked it out of someone's garden. Receiving flowers at work are great, but at this stage in the relationship, I don't know... I think it's kind of overkill. It really is the smallest of gestures that mean the most. (to me, anyways). I agree with BEG, Flowers at work during the first date stage is overkill. First off, it's only a show for the co-workers, second, are you always going to this or is it just a gesture to get into her pants? Sweet and simple, that way you have nothing to compare yourself against for future gestures. Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
L5UT1ger 0 Posted July 11, 2006 Ill give u some help for ur actual meal and what to order. Order the mongolian beef...its Chang's specialty and you will not be dissapointed. And go with the chicken lettuce wraps as well. Any Chang's regular will always order that. Pf Changs is one of my favorite chinese places. i consider myself a Chang's connoseur. definitely going with the lettuce wraps...i like the orange peel beef, and was gonna order that, but i have never tried the mongolian beef...ill go look on their website to see what all that is. I agree with BEG, Flowers at work during the first date stage is overkill. First off, it's only a show for the co-workers, second, are you always going to this or is it just a gesture to get into her pants? Sweet and simple, that way you have nothing to compare yourself against for future gestures. Probably should have told yall to help settle this debate, she is self-proclaimed "old fashion girl" and its pretty accurate from all the things i have heard. Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Brown Eyed Girl 1 Posted July 11, 2006 Probably should have told yall to help settle this debate, she is self-proclaimed "old fashion girl" and its pretty accurate from all the things i have heard. Then by all means, I would go with the single flower. I really don't think you could go wrong with that. Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
De Novo 0 Posted July 11, 2006 For wardrobe, I'd go something along the lines of... Moc toe slip-on dress shoes (best combination of casual and class) Dark gray wool slacks Button-up shirt (not white) (no tie) Dark gray sportcoat (optional) Always bring a condom Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
De Novo 0 Posted July 11, 2006 Don't: Buy her flowers. It says either "i'm trying to buy you with something any dude could buy" or "please like me cuz this is what i have to offer" i.e. i'm wussyboy You're wrong. If those are the 2 reasons you're doing then of course. But if you're just buying them to put a smile on her face then there's nothing wrong with that. I feel bad for your girlfriend or wife. Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
L5UT1ger 0 Posted July 11, 2006 For wardrobe, I'd go something along the lines of...Moc toe slip-on dress shoes (best combination of casual and class) Dark gray wool slacks Button-up shirt (not white) (no tie) Dark gray sportcoat (optional) Always bring a condom Louisiana and a sportcoat wont work... the shoes i will likely wear are those, the slacks wont be wool either because of the temperature, button up shirt meaning long sleeve? Im debating between Khaki's and a nice polo shirt or a pair of dressier slacks and a long sleeve button up shirt... Not sure which. i wish i could find out what she was wearing because i think that would help me decide. Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
The Elevator Killer 551 Posted July 11, 2006 Louisiana and a sportcoat wont work... the shoes i will likely wear are those, the slacks wont be wool either because of the temperature, button up shirt meaning long sleeve? Im debating between Khaki's and a nice polo shirt or a pair of dressier slacks and a long sleeve button up shirt... Not sure which. i wish i could find out what she was wearing because i think that would help me decide. Don't forget a pair of Depends and some wet naps. Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Sho Nuff 720 Posted July 11, 2006 For wardrobe, I'd go something along the lines of...Moc toe slip-on dress shoes (best combination of casual and class) Dark gray wool slacks Button-up shirt (not white) (no tie) Dark gray sportcoat (optional) Always bring a condom As he mentioned... Wool slacks and sport coat in July...in the south......ummmm...unless you want the guy soaked and ready to pass out before he ever picks her up.... Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
De Novo 0 Posted July 11, 2006 Louisiana and a sportcoat wont work... the shoes i will likely wear are those, the slacks wont be wool either because of the temperature, button up shirt meaning long sleeve? Im debating between Khaki's and a nice polo shirt or a pair of dressier slacks and a long sleeve button up shirt... Not sure which. i wish i could find out what she was wearing because i think that would help me decide. Unless you have activities planned outdoors, I don't see what the big deal with wool slacks is... you likely wore them to work in the south on hot days. Agree on the no sportcoat, I didn't know where you live. Khakis and a polo is fine, but I would avoid shorts on a first date unless you're eating at Taco Bell. Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
jerryskids 6,790 Posted July 11, 2006 definitely going with the lettuce wraps...i like the orange peel beef, and was gonna order that, but i have never tried the mongolian beef...ill go look on their website to see what all that is. Chang's is a meal sharing kinda place, you each get a dish and share. You'll score points and make easy convo if you discuss two meals you'd each enjoy. Also don't get anything too expensive. Since you are both unemployed, this will minimize the amount of time you'll have to wash dishes to pay off the bill. YWIA Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
