Geek Dads and Geekette Moms

[redtodd 7]

How did you (geekettes) and your wives (geeks) breast feed your kid? Why did you stop? Did the kid decide to stop taking the boob or did Mom decide she didn't want to do it anymore.

 

My little guy is almost 3 months old and he is barely feeding off the boob and the wife is all upset. I try to tell her that some kids just don't take it after a little bit. What stinks is one of her friends made it to a year.

[RLLD 4,207]

Breast fed all 3 because our research led us to beleive it was better for the child from a nutrional and health perspective, but it was also good for the mom, and her relationship with the baby.

 

Wife started weaning teh kid off at about 6 months; I myself have never been able to give up the boob though

[Twinsdad 55]

Our kids never breast-fed. With the first two, the La Leche Nazis came in and worked with my wife once. It took the first 1/2 hour to latch on and another half hour to feed....the second one a half hour to latch on and another half hour to feed.....all to start the cycle again. My wife didn't last a day and we went to formula. The second two started out on straight formula. All healthy kids here, they are now 8 and 5.

 

I wouldn't think of it as a contest as to who can breast feed their kid longer. There are some kids that just don't.

[redtodd 7]

Our kids never breast-fed. With the first two, the La Leche Nazis came in and worked with my wife once. It took the first 1/2 hour to latch on and another half hour to feed....the second one a half hour to latch on and another half hour to feed.....all to start the cycle again. My wife didn't last a day and we went to formula. The second two started out on straight formula. All healthy kids here, they are now 8 and 5.

 

I wouldn't think of it as a contest as to who can breast feed their kid longer. There are some kids that just don't.

 

Our guy was brutal in the beginning but she was patient and got him to latch. Now he is no good at it straight from the breast. He will suck down a bottle of breast milk, but will not take it from the tap. We really want to give him breast milk for the health benefits and we can get by for a while with our stockpile of milk and her pumping more, but she really wants him to take it straight from the tap.

 

Just curious if anyone else had the 3 month problem.

[RLLD 4,207]

Our guy was brutal in the beginning but she was patient and got him to latch. Now he is no good at it straight from the breast. He will suck down a bottle of breast milk, but will not take it from the tap. We really want to give him breast milk for the health benefits and we can get by for a while with our stockpile of milk and her pumping more, but she really wants him to take it straight from the tap.

 

Just curious if anyone else had the 3 month problem.

 

Every kid is different, and perhaps the kids has had enough boob at 3 months. It all up to the little tike when you face him or her electing to not partake any longer.

 

Always consult your pediatrician first, but I suspect he will tell you to just offer formula, and if the kid takes to it, that is your new thing.

 

One big thing that sucks is that the boobie is free, and formula...well, the really big can of powder was like $26 when I last bought one last year....it might only get your trough a month, maybe two....$$$

[cmh6476 1,023]

Every kid is different, and perhaps the kids has had enough boob at 3 months. It all up to the little tike when you face him or her electing to not partake any longer.

 

Always consult your pediatrician first, but I suspect he will tell you to just offer formula, and if the kid takes to it, that is your new thing.

 

One big thing that sucks is that the boobie is free, and formula...well, the really big can of powder was like $26 when I last bought one last year....it might only get your trough a month, maybe two....$$$

 

 

i think we go through about 4 cans a month which are about $30/ month

 

 

I didn't pay much attention honestly todd, i think with the 1st she did it about 6 months, and michael is now 5 months and he's strictly on formula.

 

For my wife, it seemed to be a matter of her teets dryin up as oppossed to the lil ones not suckin on em. Course my wife has huge knockers, so gettin em to latch on and stuff never was a problem.

 

I'm just ready for em to be mine for awhile again

[Patriotsfatboy1 1,432]

My first was adopted, so we did not breast feed him. The 2nd was breast fed for about 4 months (as best I remember), but we found out that he had a food allergy that basically made the breast milk tear his insides up. We took a couple of months trying different formulas before we had to go on some special formula.

 

I agree with Twinsdad about the La Leche Nazis. Some of those fockers think that kids should be on the boob until the kid is 4 or 5. I am not talking about months, I am talking years

[redtodd 7]

My first was adopted, so we did not breast feed him. The 2nd was breast fed for about 4 months (as best I remember), but we found out that he had a food allergy that basically made the breast milk tear his insides up. We took a couple of months trying different formulas before we had to go on some special formula.

 

I agree with Twinsdad about the La Leche Nazis. Some of those fockers think that kids should be on the boob until the kid is 4 or 5. I am not talking about months, I am talking years

 

How did you find out about your 2nd's allergy?

[Patriotsfatboy1 1,432]

How did you find out about your 2nd's allergy?

Lots of pain staking trial and error. My wife had to keep track of everything that she ate and they had her cutting out certain foods. Eventually, we had to bag her breast feeding altogether and put him on formula.

 

Then, you find blood in his stool (take a dirty diaper to the lab) and he is still cranky, so they put him on soy-based formula. Same thing happens, so they put him on this other (very expensive) stuff that has no animal protein and no soy. He no longer had colic and was a more normal kid.

 

I don't think that we got that far until he was 8-9 months old. Lots of sleepness nights. They won't test them until they are at least 1 because of all of the false positives in the test. Some will wait until they are two.

 

It turns out he is still allergic to beef, pork, eggs. He grew out of his milk allergy, chicken is okay, and he is no longer allergic to turkey. He is almost 4 and I hope that he grows out of all of those allergies, but who knows

[Franknbeans 46]

6 months for the first one. She had a hard time getting her to latch on and our daughter got sick after 2 months which threw off my wife's milk production. The second one has suction like a vacuum though and we're shooting for 12 months for him. He does have food allergies (dairy and peanuts) so my wife has to watch what she eats for him.

[Voltaire 5,298]

My wife's breasts (swelled? swoll?) up huge and no milk would come out for a few days after birth. It really upset her and in turn gave me an earful of complaining. Eventually the milk started to flow. We're at six weeks and still cruising along mostly on breast milk, sometimes formula when my wife goes dry. My wife wants to go until 6 months. The baby prefers one breast to the other, I think left. We think the right maybe flows too quickly or something.

 

I feel bad for ya redtodd, our experience couldn't be any different from yours. The worst thing is she makes us nervous because she goes five days or more between bowel movements. But it's always soft and smooth, never dry and hard to indicate constipation. She also gets hiccups for a couple of minutes every day sometimes 3 or more times.

[Mephisto 15]

As a side note: I agree that I don't understand why many women make it into some focking contest and/or it becomes a huge, depression-inducing, life-affecting let-down if it doesn't work at all or doesn't work until the kid is 14 or something. And yes, I understand completely all of the touchy-feely connection between mom and baby stuff, but there are millions of healthy adults with great relationships with their mothers (and your mom, too) who never breastfed.

 

Women are weird and creepy.

[pingpong 0]

Each of my 3 made it about 9 months and then just stopped. My wife was not all psycho, and was not upset when she had to stop.

Acreed that many moms turn into raving lunatics with issues regarding their baby. Nursing is great, saves cash, blah, blah, blah, but the child can still eat and grow on formula.

[cmh6476 1,023]

i think its kinda weird when parents scientifically measure out how much their kid is eating, and make sure he's eating the exact molecule of milk each feeding.

 

If he's fockin hungry he'll eat, if not he'll eat when he's hungry

[TheNewGirl 1,475]

How did you (geekettes) and your wives (geeks) breast feed your kid? Why did you stop? Did the kid decide to stop taking the boob or did Mom decide she didn't want to do it anymore.

 

My little guy is almost 3 months old and he is barely feeding off the boob and the wife is all upset. I try to tell her that some kids just don't take it after a little bit. What stinks is one of her friends made it to a year.

 

 

I breastfed my frist to 10 months, and my second to 11 months.

 

Is he also taking a bottle? Is he using a pacifier?

 

Babies figure out pretty quickly that bottles are easier for them to get milk from; it takes work for the milk to come out of the breast, letdown can take a few seconds, whereas with a bottle, it just constantly kind of flows, doesn't take much work.

 

Try and avoid bottles for a couple of days; like a weeked. Have her spend as much time with him, skin to skin. Strip him down to the diaper, have her take her shirt off, and just spend a couple of days in bed with him. This will get her hormones going, and then the baby will also get used to her smell, skin contact, etc. Babies LOVE skin to skin contact.

 

Hmm...trying to think of other factors that might be influencing her milk. Is she pumping as often as he eats, if not more often? Breastmilk is all about supply and demand. If she's not pumping a lot, her supply could be going down, and he might not be getting enough to eat. Hmm. I always pumped MORE often than what my baby ate, just to keep my supply up - baby drains the breast much better than a pump does.

 

 

 

My wife's breasts (swelled? swoll?) up huge and no milk would come out for a few days after birth. It really upset her and in turn gave me an earful of complaining. Eventually the milk started to flow. We're at six weeks and still cruising along mostly on breast milk, sometimes formula when my wife goes dry. My wife wants to go until 6 months. The baby prefers one breast to the other, I think left. We think the right maybe flows too quickly or something.

 

I feel bad for ya redtodd, our experience couldn't be any different from yours. The worst thing is she makes us nervous because she goes five days or more between bowel movements. But it's always soft and smooth, never dry and hard to indicate constipation. She also gets hiccups for a couple of minutes every day sometimes 3 or more times.

 

If your wife plans to breatfeed, she should lay off the formula, it's likely what's causing her to "dry." it can take weeks for the breast to stop producing milk, (I stopped breastfeeding in December and I can still get out a drop or two). Your wife didn't have milk the first few days as it doesn't usually come in until 3 to 5 days after the baby is born. During this time, babies get the colostrum, the thicker and fattier part of the milk, but the real "milk" doesn't come in for 3 to 5 days, and babies lose an ounce or two in weight.

 

Doing formula instead of breastmilk is going to bring her milk production WAY down. Supply and demand. If she finds that she doesn't make enough milk she needs to breastfeed/pump more.

 

Babies generally do prefer one breast over the other. Could be due to milk flow, or just that they like the positioning better on that one side.

 

My letdown was VERY forceful. My boy was fine with it, however, my daughter didn't like the fast letdown, and would often detach from the breast and try and "catch her breath." It was pretty messy.