Have you ever apologized to a GF from your past?

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I never did anything to apologize for.

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56 minutes ago, jerryskids said:

This should have been the obvious direction for me to go.   

 

[TheNewGirl 1,422]

2 hours ago, jerryskids said:

OK, that's a different situation.  If he basically ghosted you after getting fired (maybe he was embarrassed?), then saw you after returning to that company 25 years later... it might be MORE awkward if he didn't offer a little closure.   

My wife got ghosted before we started dating.  He worked at another company in our industry, they went on a few dates, and had planned to go somewhere outdoors (lake maybe?). He just never showed and never contacted her.  I couldn't imagine ever doing something like that to someone. Oh well, his loss was my gain.   

Not really ghosting, as we'd stopped seeing each other before he was fired. So I probably screwed up my timeline. But we'd become friends somewhat after he dumped me for this other girl he was focking. 

I moved out of my parents and he came to my apartment once as a friend, so we somewhat patched things up. Then he got fired and I never heard from him again. 

When he started working here a few years ago, I never saw him then, it was all through email. Brief apology, I accepted his apology and that was it. 

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2 hours ago, WhiteWonder said:

doesn't sound like part of a 12 step program or anything. also doesn't honestly sound like it was weighing on him. If either of those were true, I think he would have made an attempt to reach out prior to rejoining your company. 

I'm sure he was feeling genuine remorse but addressing it with you seems more like a product of working for the same employer again. Maybe he thought you'd be running into each other in some work capacity? Or just seeing you still worked there and access to your work e-mail etc made it easy to reach out.

Could be. 

He didn't know my married name prior to coming back to this company. And we never would have run into each other. He was in mortgages and I work in Digital Tech. 

At any rate, I appreciated his honesty all these years later. 

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1 hour ago, TheNewGirl said:

Could be. 

He didn't know my married name prior to coming back to this company. And we never would have run into each other. He was in mortgages and I work in Digital Tech. 

At any rate, I appreciated his honesty all these years later. 

Yeah like I said I think he was genuinely remorseful. I just think it was reactionary to rejoining your company. Even if you never would have seen each other. 
im no internet sleuth but I could probably figure out your married name with google easily enough if I knew your first name, maiden name, location, etc. 

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I did, but she had me on ignore. 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

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2 hours ago, TheNewGirl said:

Could be. 

He didn't know my married name prior to coming back to this company. And we never would have run into each other. He was in mortgages and I work in Digital Tech. 

At any rate, I appreciated his honesty all these years later. 

Oh hell no. He is having personal problems and is wanting to hook up. Using even honesty to get some. Fock that shlt. 

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11 hours ago, TheNewGirl said:

Odd question...

But hypothetically, but years after breaking up with someone and then reconnecting...have you apologized for what might've happened? And I mean, 15 or more years later. 

I am not talking about going out of your way to find her, or apologize, or whatever. But if you did that, then it counts. 

 

Sorta.  Wasn’t really an apology, but I told her many years later how deeply I regretted dumping her.  It wasn’t flirtatious because we were both happily married when this reunion convo happened.

It was such a youthful mistake on my part.  The odd thing is that, to me, she’s the one who got away but, to her, I broke her heart.  I look back on it as maybe the dumbest thing I’ve ever done.

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I had a high school girlfriend (40C) who was hot but was always starting arguments and causing drama. It was assumed that she was going to be my senior-prom date, with us being girlfriend-boyfriend and all, but there was some last straw about a month from the event. She was a junior and really only cared about going to that senior prom. She didn't give a rat's ass about me.

But breaking up with her was pretty devastating for her, and I was known as "Prom King" around her house.

For you see, we reconnected on Facebook many years ago. I apologized for hurting her, but she said, "Nah, I was a self-centered b!tch and deserved it. Sorry for the way I treated you."

She still calls me Prom King, though. LOL.

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21 minutes ago, Tebok said:

I had a high school girlfriend (40C) who was hot but was always starting arguments and causing drama. It was assumed that she was going to be my senior-prom date, with us being girlfriend-boyfriend and all, but there was some last straw about a month from the event. She was a junior and really only cared about going to that senior prom. She didn't give a rat's ass about me.

But breaking up with her was pretty devastating for her, and I was known as "Prom King" around her house.

For you see, we reconnected on Facebook many years ago. I apologized for hurting her, but she said, "Nah, I was a self-centered b!tch and deserved it. Sorry for the way I treated you."

She still calls me Prom King, though. LOL.

 Pimpledoosh calls his ex boyfriend a "girlfriend".