Engagement Ring Question

[porkbutt 897]

Serious? Whereabouts?

 

738 Sansom Street link

 

he's a diamond distributor...but my friend knows him and he did all my buddies rings.

 

he did a great job on my wife's...just told him what we wanted....also got my band.

 

jews

[Byars41 0]

So how much did you spend on the ring? And if you popped the question, how'd it go?

 

I been thinking about this with my SO lately ...

 

It went well, getting married in a little over a month

 

I spent $3,700 on a ring valued at a little over $5,000. basically, as most people told me, you just spend what your comfortable spending. My fiancé really didn’t care how fancy or how expensive it was so I would have been fine getting something a lot cheaper if I wanted to or had to. She was just happy and excited to get the ring and it didn’t even matter how may carrots it was - or any of that kind of stuff I was putting pressure on myself about. And remember you can always go back w her after the fact to make changes to the ring (or even exchange it) if she’s picky and wants something specific. So don't go nuts and pressure yourself too much about trying to perfect ring.

 

Just shop around to a few places so you don't get hustled on price. after i hit a few places i got to know what to expect in terms of price range for what certain kinds of rings based off the carrot/color/type of band. etc.

 

Good Luck

[cgod 0]

I agree with Patsfatboy, buy what you are comfortable with. I talked with my wife about general ideas of what she wanted but I picked it out without her. I think the best advice I got was to buy the diamond and setting separately. By purchasing the diamond unset you can look at it from all angles. Also, make sure you get something that comes with some sort of certification from a gemalogic institute. Pay attention to the ratings (4 Cs) but don't get hung up on them. I got something that wasn't quite in the range I was thinking when I went in but it looks great and was well within my price range.

[redtodd 7]

If you are marrying a non-selfish ###### of a girl, it really doesn't matter because she will marry YOU, not the ring. But if you have a shallow ###### of a future wife, you will need at the very least a carot, maybe more depending of the level of cvntiness she possesses.

 

I forgot how brilliant of a post this was.

[itsjjw 1]

It went well, getting married in a little over a month

 

I spent $3,700 on a ring valued at a little over $5,000. basically, as most people told me, you just spend what your comfortable spending. My fiancé really didn’t care how fancy or how expensive it was so I would have been fine getting something a lot cheaper if I wanted to or had to. She was just happy and excited to get the ring and it didn’t even matter how may carrots it was - or any of that kind of stuff I was putting pressure on myself about. And remember you can always go back w her after the fact to make changes to the ring (or even exchange it) if she’s picky and wants something specific. So don't go nuts and pressure yourself too much about trying to perfect ring.

 

Just shop around to a few places so you don't get hustled on price. after i hit a few places i got to know what to expect in terms of price range for what certain kinds of rings based off the carrot/color/type of band. etc.

 

Good Luck

 

Just please tell me that you did not go below E-F in color.

[Patriotsfatboy1 1,433]

Just please tell me that you did not go below E-F in color.

 

Speaking of cvntiness....

[Toro 3]

Just please tell me that you did not go below E-F in color.

 

hore.

[GutterBoy 2,900]

I forgot how brilliant of a post this was.

 

You also buy the ring for yourself, stupid. When she shows that ring off, it reflects on you. If she's walking around showing off a lump of coal, people are saying "her BF is a douche" or "the BF must be focking poor, what a schlep"

[itsjjw 1]

You also buy the ring for yourself, stupid. When she shows that ring off, it reflects on you. If she's walking around showing off a lump of coal, people are saying "her BF is a douche" or "the BF must be focking poor, what a schlep"

[Brown Eyed Girl 1]

You also buy the ring for yourself, stupid. When she shows that ring off, it reflects on you. If she's walking around showing off a lump of coal, people are saying "her BF is a douche" or "the BF must be focking poor, what a schlep"

 

Wow. It's pretty sad if you have to worry about/take into consideration what your friends and acquaintences will think of the size/quality/expense of the ring you buy for your girl.

 

[itsjjw 1]

Wow. It's pretty sad if you have to worry about/take into consideration what your friends and acquaintences will think of the size/quality/expense of the ring you buy for your girl.

 

Standards must be pretty low around the trailer park

 

Nothing personal BEG, but human nature is human nature. People are going to think what they are going to think.

[GutterBoy 2,900]

Wow. It's pretty sad if you have to worry about/take into consideration what your friends and acquaintences will think of the size/quality/expense of the ring you buy for your girl.

 

 

Go fock yourself. You don't buy nice things? You don't drive a nice car, live in a nice house, wear nice clothes? You have jewelery? You ever buy anyone a gift? You give them a focking pencil, or you try and give them something nice? When the kids come over, you give them Keystone or Sam Adams?

 

You're a hypocrite, shut your face.

[cgod 0]

Just please tell me that you did not go below E-F in color.

I did and you'd never know just by looking at it.

[GutterBoy 2,900]

I did and you'd never know just by looking at it.

 

Of course you can, that's why they have a grading system, stupid.

[itsjjw 1]

I did and you'd never know just by looking at it.

You must be color-blind. Yellow is 'yellow'. Especially if the stone is on a white gold band instead of a yellow gold band, where naturally your yellow stone would fit right in.

[Strike 6,126]

Standards must be pretty low around the trailer park

 

Nothing personal BEG, but human nature is human nature. People are going to think what they are going to think.

 

How does your look? Maybe you could post a picture.

[MDC 8,241]

You also buy the ring for yourself, stupid. When she shows that ring off, it reflects on you. If she's walking around showing off a lump of coal, people are saying "her BF is a douche" or "the BF must be focking poor, what a schlep"

 

Meh. I'd buy a nice ring because I love the woman, not because I care what her friends and coworkers think.

 

So it sounds like more or less $5K is standard?

[dolfan06 1]

If you get an unusual cut (like an emerald or princess cut) and invest more in quality than size, you'll get a sweet-ass looking diamond that sparkles like fire and your bride-to-be will be able to show off the fact that you got something unique for her. Emerald cuts are the sweet, seriously.

[stop talking cheerleader 0]

I like nice things but don't require them, there's the difference. Wants and needs. I WANT a beautiful yet simple ring and a beautiful wedding, with an open bar and dance floor...I need 30 FBT in my life forever, there's the difference. You don't always get what you want, I grew up knowing this. I gave him ring options from 600.00-3,000.00, I know we're not rich and marrying him and starting a family means so much more then a ring ever will. We can always upgrade when we are in the place too.

[Brown Eyed Girl 1]

Nothing personal BEG, but human nature is human nature. People are going to think what they are going to think.

 

Of course they are - And you can either go about your life living up to other people's expectations of you... or you can just be happy enough living up to your own.

 

The only 2 people who's thoughts matter in a situation like this is the person giving the ring and the person being given the ring.

 

HTH

[itsjjw 1]

I like nice things but don't require them, there's the difference. Wants and needs. I WANT a beautiful yet simple ring and a beautiful wedding, with an open bar and dance floor...I need 30 FBT in my life forever, there's the difference. You don't always get what you want, I grew up knowing this. I gave him ring options from 600.00-3,000.00, I know we're not rich and marrying him and starting a family means so much more then a ring ever will. We can always upgrade when we are in the place too.

Never upgrade even if its small. That is the ring he bought you. It can never be upgraded. Nothing can ever replace that ring in your heart.

 

How does your look? Maybe you could post a picture.

KMA

[stop talking cheerleader 0]

Never upgrade even if its small. That is the ring he bought you. It can never be upgraded. Nothing can ever replace that ring in your heart.

KMA

 

Some how this coming out of your mouth made me laugh a tad... The ring I have currently will move to my right, I'll upgrade not trade in.

[itsjjw 1]

Of course they are - And you can either go about your life living up to other people's expectations of you... or you can just be happy enough living up to your own.

 

The only 2 people who's thoughts matter in a situation like this is the person giving the ring and the person being given the ring.

 

HTH

 

In order to have people's respect, you have to act worthy of that respect. If you allow yourself to be treated as lower socio-economic classes, then you will always bet treated as such. Who you associate with and how you present yourself forces the rest of the world to treat you accordingly. And it does matter.

 

Some how this coming out of your mouth made me laugh a tad... The ring I have currently will move to my right, I'll upgrade not trade in.

I am actually quite a romantic person. I just have standards thats all.

[cgod 0]

Of course you can, that's why they have a grading system, stupid.

 

Just saying that I looked at it next to some Ds and Es and it was no more yellow than they were. Also, I am not color-blind but thanks for the concern.

[itsjjw 1]

Just saying that I looked at it next to some Ds and Es and it was no more yellow than they were. Also, I am not color-blind but thanks for the concern.

Were they on a white setting or a gold setting? If it was on a gold setting, you would not have seen it as clearly.

[Toro 3]

Just saying that I looked at it next to some Ds and Es and it was no more yellow than they were. Also, I am not color-blind but thanks for the concern.

 

You are correct. Nobody EVER studies the ring. Some people just can't get over the whole thing. Like buying the shirts with the little horsies on them or $400 shoes when you can get $75 ones at DSW that look exactly the same.

[usurpers26 26]

Regardless - unless you are an expert gemologist, no way in hell you guess the diamonds color grade right every time, especially with nothing to compare it to.

 

 

D - Absolutely colorless. The highest color grade, which is extremely rare.

E - Colorless. Only minute traces of color can be detected by an expert gemologist. A rare diamond.

F - Colorless. Slight color detected by an expert gemologist, but still considered a "colorless" grade. A high-quality diamond.

 

G-H Near-colorless. Color noticeable when compared to diamonds of better grades, but these grades offer excellent value.

 

I-J Near-colorless. Color slightly detectable. An excellent value.

 

 

Were they on a white setting or a gold setting? If it was on a gold setting, you would not have seen it as clearly.

[itsjjw 1]

Regardless - unless you are an expert gemologist, no way in hell you guess the diamonds color grade right every time, especially with nothing to compare it to.

D - Absolutely colorless. The highest color grade, which is extremely rare.

E - Colorless. Only minute traces of color can be detected by an expert gemologist. A rare diamond.

F - Colorless. Slight color detected by an expert gemologist, but still considered a "colorless" grade. A high-quality diamond.

 

G-H Near-colorless. Color noticeable when compared to diamonds of better grades, but these grades offer excellent value.

 

I-J Near-colorless. Color slightly detectable. An excellent value.

Its a fact. A 'G' on a yellow gold band looks colorless. A 'G' on a white gold band looks yellow.

[cgod 0]

Were they on a white setting or a gold setting? If it was on a gold setting, you would not have seen it as clearly.

If you go back and read an earlier post I said the best advice I ever got was to buy the diamond separate. I may not have intimated as much but that's what I did. Every diamond I looked at was loose and not preset. I compared the one I ended up buying to other loose diamonds that had higher color gradings and there was no more yellow hue to the one I opted for. After I purchased the diamond I had it set in platinum and again that did not cause any more of a yellow tinge to the diamond.

[usurpers26 26]

LOL - if you think so...there are soooo many other factors that come into play. But glad you got it down to a scientific fact.

 

Its a fact. A 'G' on a yellow gold band looks colorless. A 'G' on a white gold band looks yellow.

[itsjjw 1]

LOL - if you think so...there are soooo many other factors that come into play. But glad you got it down to a scientific fact.

From 'K' on down I would never ever put a diamond on a platinum setting. G thru K, I would not be happy with a platinum setting, it would have to be a yellow gold setting. E-F he can put it on whatever setting he likes.

[MDC 8,241]

This thread is focking depressing. I hope my girlfriend hasn't put as much thought into this crap.

[cgod 0]

From 'K' on down I would never ever put a diamond on a platinum setting. G thru K, I would not be happy with a platinum setting, it would have to be a yellow gold setting. E-F he can put it on whatever setting he likes.

Well, I guess you would not be happy with the ring I bought. No biggie really since I bought it for one person and she was very happy with it.

[TheNewGirl 1,639]

Well, I guess you would not be happy with the ring I bought. No biggie really since I bought it for one person and she was very happy with it.

 

 

[Jokers 0]

I went to a pawn shop in Reno, bought a very nice quality .75 carat for $1000 in a cheesy setting (it had a certificate, and I took it to a jewler to have it checked). Pawn shops will deal on their prices. Took that to a small time jewler who does excellent custom work. He made a really nice setting with small diamonds in a channel under the solitare for $350. Saved some money and got something unique.

[jerryskids 7,263]

Never upgrade even if its small. That is the ring he bought you. It can never be upgraded. Nothing can ever replace that ring in your heart.

Yep. The ring I got my wife was only .7 carats, but nearly flawless and F color if I recall, and looked really nice at the time. I figured I was getting a load of crap from the salesperson, but it appraised at a much higher value than I paid. I could afford a much larger ring now but the wife would never want it, because the current diamond is THE diamond. Which is part of why I love her.

 

We did reset it recently tho.

[itsjjw 1]

Yep. The ring I got my wife was only .7 carats, but nearly flawless and F color if I recall, and looked really nice at the time. I figured I was getting a load of crap from the salesperson, but it appraised at a much higher value than I paid. I could afford a much larger ring now but the wife would never want it, because the current diamond is THE diamond. Which is part of why I love her.

 

We did reset it recently tho.

I love romanace You two are sweet.

[redtodd 7]

You also buy the ring for yourself, stupid. When she shows that ring off, it reflects on you. If she's walking around showing off a lump of coal, people are saying "her BF is a douche" or "the BF must be focking poor, what a schlep"

 

Unlike you, I am not self conscious (Napolean disease?).

 

I also do not hang around with losers who judge others by rings.

 

I am proud to not be you.

 

This thread is focking depressing. I hope my girlfriend hasn't put as much thought into this crap.

 

Only selfish cvnts do.

[Brown Eyed Girl 1]

In order to have people's respect, you have to act worthy of that respect. If you allow yourself to be treated as lower socio-economic classes, then you will always bet treated as such. Who you associate with and how you present yourself forces the rest of the world to treat you accordingly. And it does matter.

 

Hey... Thanks for the lesson in earning people's respect there, itsjjw. Hope that works out for you.

 

FYI - Earning the respect of others... to 'me' means: respecting myself, being considerate of others, demonstrating good morals and values, treating others with respect and regard, harboring honesty, fairness and the ability to live up to my word. (There may be one more).

 

I think if one acts with these qualities, they will be regarded highly by others... and nobody ever need know how much money they have in their pocket or in the bank to determine their worth as being a respectable person.

[dolfan06 1]

Hey Brown-Eyed Girl and itsjjw. I respect you both! I like how you both stand up for yourselves and the way you see and do things. I think it's important to know who you are and what you're all about. You can't love others until you learn to love yourself. It's important to go but not to go alone. You know?