OK....here we go...

[Guest Black Label Society]

I'm opening myself up for major heartache here, but I could use some ideas.

 

So I'm recently single, but I'm starting to realize that I don't go out much anymore.

Tried the match.com thing a while back.....wasn't really what I had hoped for I guess.

 

So...at 35, all/most friends are married/have kids, etc......other than the gym, where the he!! do I go to meet women? Girls can chime in here please!

 

I don't wanna be 'that' bar guy, sitting by myself. That's just pathetic.

[SUXBNME 1,607]

I don't wanna be 'that' bar guy, sitting by myself. That's just pathetic.

Too late

 

HTH

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

I'm on match.com currently. I get about 1 wink a day on average, but they are not the most wonderful looking women that I have ever seen

[kpbuckeye 3]

i'm with you on this question

 

nice sig

[Big Blue 06 196]

I got married young, and I'm still married. That said, I liked to frequent bars and clubs, and even if you hate being "that" guy, do it anyway. Just start chatting up the hotties, and see what happens. Good luck.

[guitarmonkiy 0]

Any of your friends' wives have single friends?

[Big Blue 06 196]

Any of your friends' wives have single friends?

 

Not a bad point. Get your friends to set you up.

[Bier Meister 1,761]

i don't know you so take this for what it's worth:

 

it may sound corny and it may be a little slow, i believe the best way to meet people is to get involved with clubs/groups in your areas of interest.

 

1. if it's something you like (or something you want to try)... that alone should be fun.

2. the activity can keep your mind of of "dating"

3. while a relatively small amount couple work well when "opposites attract," there is a higher probabilty for success when there are like interests.

 

 

and.... if, say, you join a mountian biking club..... there may be some group drinking afterwards, so you wouldn't have to be that guy drinking alone at the bar...

 

 

just my $.02

 

 

i am a male a few years older and happily married for 11 plus years (been together about 17)

[SUXBNME 1,607]

i don't know you so take this for what it's worth:

 

it may sound corny and it may be a little slow, i believe the best way to meet people is to get involved with clubs/groups in your areas of interest.

 

1. if it's something you like (or something you want to try)... that alone should be fun.

2. the activity can keep your mind of of "dating"

3. while a relatively small amount couple work well when "opposites attract," there is a higher probabilty for success when there are like interests.

and.... if, say, you join a mountian biking club..... there may be some group drinking afterwards, so you wouldn't have to be that guy drinking alone at the bar...

just my $.02

i am a male a few years older and happily married for 11 plus years (been together about 17)

 

For the normal male, that would be an excellent suggestion.

Unfortunately for BLS, there aren't too many clubs in his neck of the woods that cater to gay midget sex voyeurs.

[Bier Meister 1,761]

 

Unfortunately for BLS, there aren't too many clubs in his neck of the woods that cater to gay midget sex voyeurs.

 

 

thats what the innernets are for :brow: unless that's why he is now single

[Boz/BoFan 0]

Russian mail order bride, some are pretty hot and I hear you can beat em up pretty good before they get up to speed on the whole "womens rights" gibberish we have here on the mainland.

 

Other than that, get a wing man and hit the trendy restaurants, bars and night clubs, yes some will suck but you gotta put in the work. You must have a wing man though.

 

Also find the nicest co-ed health club in your area, womenz like verrrry clean bathrooms and they usually find it at the nicer facilities. Get in shape. Its a two way street, if you want heat, you gotta bring heat. If not, phuck it, bang some fatty's.

[thekris 0]

I know guys that'll hit on pretty much all attractive women that they meet. Figuring if 9 out of every 10 deny you, there's always that 1. I could never do that because I never wanted to be the "creepy guy" but that's probably why I went straight into "friendship mode" with most women...before my wife came along anyway.

[SUXBNME 1,607]

Russian mail order bride, some are pretty hot and I hear you can beat em up pretty good before they get up to speed on the whole "womens rights" gibberish we have here on the mainland.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

[Cdub100 3,996]

Church...

 

You're going to have to take some baggage though. I.E. kids, ex husband

[Bier Meister 1,761]

 

 

 

where in norcal are you? i grew up in sf and was out there until 01.....

 

sorry, no hijack intended. they aren't letting me pm.

[SUXBNME 1,607]

where in norcal are you? i grew up in sf and was out there until 01.....

 

sorry, no hijack intended. they aren't letting me pm.

I grew up in Sunnyvale, but have been in the Sacramento area for the last 30 years or so. Currently Orangevale.

Also, thread hijacking is perfectly acceptable and usually encouraged

[Guest Black Label Society]

Any of your friends' wives have single friends?

 

No. Believe that crap? Not one. All of my friends wives, friends are married.

[Riddlen 1]

I hear they have women on computers that do whatever you want

[jerryskids 7,128]

i don't know you so take this for what it's worth:

 

it may sound corny and it may be a little slow, i believe the best way to meet people is to get involved with clubs/groups in your areas of interest.

 

1. if it's something you like (or something you want to try)... that alone should be fun.

2. the activity can keep your mind of of "dating"

3. while a relatively small amount couple work well when "opposites attract," there is a higher probabilty for success when there are like interests.

and.... if, say, you join a mountian biking club..... there may be some group drinking afterwards, so you wouldn't have to be that guy drinking alone at the bar...

just my $.02

i am a male a few years older and happily married for 11 plus years (been together about 17)

This is good advice. If you ski, join a ski club, etc... you'll be doing stuff you like, and be exposed to women with common interests, in an environment where you aren't expected to "have game," and you won't feel the pressure to do so.

 

If that fails, you can always try raining $81K in a Vegas strip club.

[Guest Black Label Society]

i don't know you so take this for what it's worth:

 

it may sound corny and it may be a little slow, i believe the best way to meet people is to get involved with clubs/groups in your areas of interest.

 

1. if it's something you like (or something you want to try)... that alone should be fun.

2. the activity can keep your mind of of "dating"

3. while a relatively small amount couple work well when "opposites attract," there is a higher probabilty for success when there are like interests.

and.... if, say, you join a mountian biking club..... there may be some group drinking afterwards, so you wouldn't have to be that guy drinking alone at the bar...

just my $.02

i am a male a few years older and happily married for 11 plus years (been together about 17)

 

To be honest, my 'interests' consist of shooting pool, fishing, working on the house, etc.

Not many of which, there's a lot of women. I guess I've pidgeon-holed myself.

 

Thanks for the ideas. I'm gonna have to work on it.

[Voice_Of_Reason 0]

I grew up in Sunnyvale, but have been in the Sacramento area for the last 30 years or so. Currently Orangevale.

Also, thread hijacking is perfectly acceptable and usually encouraged

I went to Sac St.

 

 

But as for BLS, I'd say try another website rather than just Singles.com. Like Craigslist. You could probably get a decent price on a slightly used wife...

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

[SUXBNME 1,607]

To be honest, my 'interests' consist of shooting pool, fishing, working on the house, etc.

Not many of which, there's a lot of women. I guess I've pidgeon-holed myself.

 

Thanks for the ideas. I'm gonna have to work on it.

 

We would make a good couple if there was some way to get around the sex part

[Bier Meister 1,761]

To be honest, my 'interests' consist of shooting pool, fishing, working on the house, etc.

Not many of which, there's a lot of women. I guess I've pidgeon-holed myself.

 

Thanks for the ideas. I'm gonna have to work on it.

 

 

i would ask if there is anything you've wanted to do, but haven't?

 

- learn a language

- cooking class (eh-hem.... wimmins)

- learn to dive

- phuck it... book a trip to europe with a tour group (who aren't 60)

 

etc, etc, etc..... whatever appeals to you!

 

If you ski, join a ski club, etc...

 

 

i guess i'm in a hijacking kind of mood...

 

today was a powder day at vail

 

 

 

 

 

 

sux- if you are a skier...please tell me you made it up this week... i heard tings.

[Guest Black Label Society]

i would ask if there is anything you've wanted to do, but haven't?

 

- learn a language

- cooking class (eh-hem.... wimmins)

- learn to dive

- phuck it... book a trip to europe with a tour group (who aren't 60)

 

etc, etc, etc..... whatever appeals to you!

i guess i'm in a hijacking kind of mood...

 

today was a powder day at vail

sux- if you are a skier...please tell me you made it up this week... i heard tings.

 

You know...the cooking class is not a bad idea.

 

We would make a good couple if there was some way to get around the sex part

 

Yeah, that's not gonna work. Wrong plumbing.

But I'll make a pact with ya...if I die alone you can fornucate with my dead corpse.

[CurlyNight's Ghost 0]

The right one shows up when you aren't looking. Get involved with activities that are also what women may be into. Make friends. Friends first always works the best for ltr.

[DuckStupid 40]

To be honest, my 'interests' consist of shooting pool, fishing, working on the house, etc.

Not many of which, there's a lot of women. I guess I've pidgeon-holed myself.

 

Thanks for the ideas. I'm gonna have to work on it.

 

how you doin? I've got a 19 foot crestliner :winkwink: and am always looking to do a little fishin ...

 

On the wimmens part ... I truely beleive you gotta say "fock it". It'll happen when you ain't looking for it. GL

 

 

 

The right one shows up when you aren't looking. Get involved with activities that are also what women may be into. Make friends. Friends first always works the best for ltr.

 

 

I find myself oddly agreeing with most things you post, whover the fock you are.

[CurlyNight's Ghost 0]

 

I find myself oddly agreeing with most things you post, whover the fock you are.

Why I'm the ghost of CurlyNight. Who else?

[Guest Black Label Society]

how you doin? I've got a 19 foot crestliner :winkwink: and am always looking to do a little fishin ...

 

On the wimmens part ... I truely beleive you gotta say "fock it". It'll happen when you ain't looking for it. GL

I find myself oddly agreeing with most things you post, whover the fock you are.

 

Don't you live in Burnsville or something DS?

 

I'll show you my rod, you show my your outboard.

[DuckStupid 40]

Don't you live in Burnsville or something DS?

 

I'll show you my rod, you show my your outboard.

 

other side of the cities ... andover. It's a 150 merc, pushes me around 50 :drool: To many folks in the boat and I can only get her up to around 43-45 though :sad:

 

Just picked up a new rod the other day, anxious to try it out if you know what I'm sayin.

 

Why I'm the ghost of CurlyNight. Who else?

 

fock if I know, or care for that matter.

 

How big is your halo?

[Guest Black Label Society]

other side of the cities ... andover. It's a 150 merc, pushes me around 50 :drool: To many folks in the boat and I can only get her up to around 43-45 though :sad:

 

Just picked up a new rod the other day, anxious to try it out if you know what I'm sayin.

fock if I know, or care for that matter.

 

How big is your halo?

 

Andover, eh. Where you go for opener? I used to goto the Nevis/Park Rapids area.

But a few years back we went to Bowstring, and did pretty good.

 

Nice boat...wish I could afford one. Need a sugar mama....

[DuckStupid 40]

Andover, eh. Where you go for opener? I used to goto the Nevis/Park Rapids area.

But a few years back we went to Bowstring, and did pretty good.

 

Nice boat...wish I could afford one. Need a sugar mama....

 

Haven't fished the opener for at least 10 years. Too focking crazy for me. I usually try to take a couple days the week after opener and hit mille lacs. The north side sand is pretty focking greta that time of the year, and the crowd is out of there by monday. I fished out of a 14 foot mirrocraft with an old 20 HP johnson until 2 years ago. The wife finally gave the and I went out and bought a 1850 sportfish. Best focking decision the wife has ever made. We snuggled that night.

[Recidivist 1]

Take a yoga class. Seriously.

 

Church

 

This was going to be my other suggestion. Also seriously.

[bostonlager 2,678]

The right one shows up when you aren't looking. Get involved with activities that are also what women may be into. Make friends. Friends first always works the best for ltr.

 

 

I agree with this post 100%. All of the women I've had a serious relationship with just "fell into my lap." During the times when I was "looking" for a relationship I pushed too hard. Just sit back and relax and something will happen (Yes I know that sounds ghay, but I believe it).

[Guest Black Label Society]

I agree with this post 100%. All of the women I've had a serious relationship with just "fell into my lap." During the times when I was "looking" for a relationship I pushed too hard. Just sit back and relax and something will happen (Yes I know that sounds ghay, but I believe it).

 

Me too...it always just ends up that way.

Either that...or being lazy with the girls means you treat the ones you get better.

[bostonlager 2,678]

Me too...it always just ends up that way.

Either that...or being lazy with the girls means you treat the ones you get better.

 

 

This even sounds ghayer... but go to this website, www.askmen.com. Read the articles by Doc Love. Again, everyone can call me a phag for it, but what the guy says makes sense. You must have an easy going, care free attitude and present yourself as a challenge.

[Brown Eyed Girl 1]

I've heard the grocery store is a great place to meet someone.

 

Seriously, Bier Meister made some good suggestions up there. If you really think about it, I'm sure you'd come up with something you would enjoy taking an interest in and getting involved in.

 

Not sure if this would help you or not, but it might at least help give you a push in the right direction and get you started to come up with some ideas. Shortly after my separation from my husband, I started making a list of all of the things I had always wanted to do but never had the time to or he had held me back from doing. From the smallest most menial thing to your wildest of dreams, list them and start doing them. You never know, depending on what might be on your list, chances are if there's an activity or place you want to go to, there will be lots of somebody else's there who are interested in these things too.

 

Like someone else here mentioned, try to just really enjoy your life and being who you are and that certain someone will most likely show up when you're not even looking.

 

Until then, itisatip that grocery store

[Guest Black Label Society]

I've heard the grocery store is a great place to meet someone.

 

Seriously, Bier Meister made some good suggestions up there. If you really think about it, I'm sure you'd come up with something you would enjoy taking an interest in and getting involved in.

 

Not sure if this would help you or not, but it might at least help give you a push in the right direction and get you started to come up with some ideas. Shortly after my separation from my husband, I started making a list of all of the things I had always wanted to do but never had the time to or he had held me back from doing. From the smallest most menial thing to your wildest of dreams, list them and start doing them. You never know, depending on what might be on your list, chances are if there's an activity or place you want to go to, there will be lots of somebody else's there who are interested in these things too.

 

Like someone else here mentioned, try to just really enjoy your life and being who you are and that certain someone will most likely show up when you're not even looking.

 

Until then, itisatip that grocery store

 

Thanks BEG....I appreciate your ideas.

[Yer mom 2]

Streetraces on Crenshaw

[TommyGavin 790]

[guitarmonkiy 0]

No. Believe that crap? Not one. All of my friends wives, friends are married.

 

Do your friends' wives' friends have any single friends?

[Giants Fan 85]

 

 

I don't wanna be 'that' bar guy, sitting by myself. That's just pathetic.