OK....here we go...

[GettnHuge 2]

Shortly after my separation from my husband, I started making a list of all of the things I had always wanted to do but never had the time to or he had held me back from doing.

 

Obviously nagging, being pushy and not cooking didn't make the list.

[Giants Fan 85]

Obviously nagging, being pushy and not cooking didn't make the list.

[Jessy 0]

It's not quite the same as going out to the bars alone, but I pretty much always meet people when I go to shows alone. I haven't been to a show solo for probably a year now, though.

 

I want to take French. If you want to drive to Minneapolis for classes, you could.

[edjr 6,929]

Think it has anything to do with the fact you are desperate and tell every girl that talks to you, you want to get married?

[donhaas 19]

I'm opening myself up for major heartache here, but I could use some ideas.

 

So I'm recently single, but I'm starting to realize that I don't go out much anymore.

Tried the match.com thing a while back.....wasn't really what I had hoped for I guess.

 

So...at 35, all/most friends are married/have kids, etc......other than the gym, where the he!! do I go to meet women? Girls can chime in here please!

 

I don't wanna be 'that' bar guy, sitting by myself. That's just pathetic.

 

Could part of the problem be that you live and work in BFE Northern Wisconsin??

 

Get involved in the community. Chances are greater that you'll meet a normal, good person rather than the wackos you're used to dating.

 

Do you have any athletic ability? Co-ed sports is a goldmine. High on the list: Co-ed volleyball.

Bad idea if you like tall, athletic, skinny, aggressive women.... but to each his own.

 

 

Don't let anybody set you up... Bad idea...

Get off your butt and stop whining.

[Chronic Husker 86]

It's not quite the same as going out to the bars alone, but I pretty much always meet people when I go to shows alone.

Having a good personality and huge hooters helps, methinks.

[Electric Mayhem 35]

1) that 'you find someone when you're not looking' is a load of crap. You have to make yourself available. I guarantee if you spend the rest of your life sitting around the house, going fishing with friends and working on your house women won't magically fall out of the sky looking to date you.

 

2) Church? Are you kidding? first of all, who the fock wants to go to church? Especially if you like to fish, work on your house, watch football, sleep etc. Conflict of interest. And then if you start seeing that person, that means you will have to CONTINUE to have to go to church. And that also means that the chick is all religious and crap. Bleh. Unless you happen to find the girl that is only going to church to meet guys - then you are all set.

 

3) You don't have to think 'meet women'. You have to think 'be more social in general'. The more friends/aquaintenances you make, the more people you will meet. The more people you meet, the more women you meet and friends of friends you meet etc etc. it goes back to what was said above - be more active in general with your social life, unless you are good at walking up to women in your everyday life and striking up conversation.

 

BTW - I am kind of in the same boat, but I have had it up to *here* with women and relationships in general. I realized that the only thing they are good for is sex. That's really it. They are fun to fool around with, but the other 95% of the time you spend with them is a pain in the ass. To me it's just not worth the hassle.

[Boz/BoFan 0]

 

Get off your butt and stop whining.

 

 

 

HA! Coming from you of all people. Thats kinda the equivalent of OJ doing a Valentines commercial.

[donhaas 19]

HA! Coming from you of all people. Thats kinda the equivalent of OJ doing a Valentines commercial.

 

Actually, that's also good advice for a moridly obese person like yourself who spends an inordinate amount of time on the internet whining.

 

Consider it a free tip.

 

[hellothere 1]

www.nomarriage.com

 

you didn't say you wanted to get married, but if all friends are....and you think they're happy....

 

kill this cancer of an idea before it spreads.

[KSB2424 3,174]

I have found that divorce courts, child support agencies, the welfare line, abortion clinics, and many other social service agencies have plenty of desperate women looking for a good man.

 

If that fails you, I would recommend the local pool hall or bowling alley.

[MDC 7,954]

The activities thing is a great idea, but make it activities you actually want to participate in. Like, don't sign up for a cooking class hoping to meet women if you're not really into cooking. That's worse than being "that guy" at the bar. At least you can meet people with mutual interests if you're doing something you like.

 

I'd never pay for an online dating service. I did do Craigslist with great success in the past, usually by posting my own ad (since I figured every woman on there is glutted with hundreds of responses). I just treated it as a way to sort of practice date, have a few drinks and maybe meet someone cool. Always did this very casual too and just doing things I liked, like going to microbrews or shooting pool. It was more fun that way and I figure it weeded out the high-maintenance women I didn't want to date anyway.

 

The other benefit to doing this is if you're sort of casually dating several women you're not too invested in any of them, unless something great comes along that you want to pursue. Having options kind of put me at ease and made me feel less like I was trying to impress someone I didn't know and more like we were trying to get to know each other.

 

So I'd suggest activities and Craigslist, if you're going to do the online thing. I'd also suggest going to the bar with single guy friends if you have them. I have a few guy friends who are poosay-magnets and just playing wingman for them I met a few women I could've dated.

 

And also, just do what you like to do on your own time. Having your own activities and interests and a life aside from dating is attractive to women. Nobody likes a weenie who sits around sulking by himself.

 

Good luck. Dating when you're in your 30s is tough, I know.

[Boz/BoFan 0]

Actually, that's also good advice for a moridly obese person like yourself who spends an inordinate amount of time on the internet whining.

 

Consider it a free tip.

 

 

STFU! I cant hear Rush.

 

And by the way, you've more than tripled my post count in only a few more months here. Dont let those pesky little facts get in your way again.

[Guest Black Label Society]

Could part of the problem be that you live and work in BFE Northern Wisconsin??

 

Get involved in the community. Chances are greater that you'll meet a normal, good person rather than the wackos you're used to dating.

 

Do you have any athletic ability? Co-ed sports is a goldmine. High on the list: Co-ed volleyball.

Bad idea if you like tall, athletic, skinny, aggressive women.... but to each his own.

Don't let anybody set you up... Bad idea...

Get off your butt and stop whining.

 

FYI - I don't live in Sconny, like SOMEBODY I know.

 

Yes, I play softball during the summer 2 nights a week, workout 5 times a week, and did play co-ed volleyball this winter. Zero free chics there....but there are always more at volleyball during the outdoor summer leagues. Might have to get back into that.

 

Whining has ceased.......

[Rusty Syringes 479]

I'm opening myself up for major heartache here, but I could use some ideas.

 

So I'm recently single, but I'm starting to realize that I don't go out much anymore.

Tried the match.com thing a while back.....wasn't really what I had hoped for I guess.

 

So...at 35, all/most friends are married/have kids, etc......other than the gym, where the he!! do I go to meet women? Girls can chime in here please!

 

I don't wanna be 'that' bar guy, sitting by myself. That's just pathetic.

 

1.) Get involved in some kind of civic/volunteer group, like the Rotary, Jaycees, Meals on Wheels, Kiwanis, hospital volunteers, etc. Some of those organizations are crawling with single women. If nothing else, they're crawling with women who know somebody who is single. Women love to play matchmaker.

2.) Get into some activities where you'll find women. For example, while I was in the Austin area a decade ago, I joined the Austin Runners Clubs and went to social events, Sunday morning runs, races, etc. More than half the people were women, and many, many of those were single women - and ones in pretty good shape as well. Cyclists are the same way, as are triathletes, rock climbers, car buffs, etc.

3.) You're going to hate this one: Church. Not all girls in church are nice, but all nice girls go to church. The bigger the church, the bigger the singles group, and they're not all about bleeding Jesus 24-7, particularly the Methodist churches. The Methodist church singles club folks will go to bars, have parties with alcohol, etc. We got married in a Methodist church, and our pastor was right there pounding margaritas at our rehearsal dinner.

[Guest Black Label Society]

The activities thing is a great idea, but make it activities you actually want to participate in. Like, don't sign up for a cooking class hoping to meet women if you're not really into cooking. That's worse than being "that guy" at the bar. At least you can meet people with mutual interests if you're doing something you like.

 

I'd never pay for an online dating service. I did do Craigslist with great success in the past, usually by posting my own ad (since I figured every woman on there is glutted with hundreds of responses). I just treated it as a way to sort of practice date, have a few drinks and maybe meet someone cool. Always did this very casual too and just doing things I liked, like going to microbrews or shooting pool. It was more fun that way and I figure it weeded out the high-maintenance women I didn't want to date anyway.

 

The other benefit to doing this is if you're sort of casually dating several women you're not too invested in any of them, unless something great comes along that you want to pursue. Having options kind of put me at ease and made me feel less like I was trying to impress someone I didn't know and more like we were trying to get to know each other.

 

So I'd suggest activities and Craigslist, if you're going to do the online thing. I'd also suggest going to the bar with single guy friends if you have them. I have a few guy friends who are poosay-magnets and just playing wingman for them I met a few women I could've dated.

 

And also, just do what you like to do on your own time. Having your own activities and interests and a life aside from dating is attractive to women. Nobody likes a weenie who sits around sulking by himself.

 

Good luck. Dating when you're in your 30s is tough, I know.

 

Roger that.

 

Where I live really sucks for meeting chicks. I mean, it's a town of about 20,000 but all the variety is about 40 mins from where I live....long way to drive when you're focked up.

 

that's it, I've had it...I'm buying my Vmax this spring, and I'm going on rides left and right. Maybe I'll pick up a nice skanky biker whhore.

 

 

1.) Get involved in some kind of civic/volunteer group, like the Rotary, Jaycees, Meals on Wheels, Kiwanis, hospital volunteers, etc. Some of those organizations are crawling with single women. If nothing else, they're crawling with women who know somebody who is single. Women love to play matchmaker.

2.) Get into some activities where you'll find women. For example, while I was in the Austin area a decade ago, I joined the Austin Runners Clubs and went to social events, Sunday morning runs, races, etc. More than half the people were women, and many, many of those were single women - and ones in pretty good shape as well. Cyclists are the same way, as are triathletes, rock climbers, car buffs, etc.

3.) You're going to hate this one: Church. Not all girls in church are nice, but all nice girls go to church. The bigger the church, the bigger the singles group, and they're not all about bleeding Jesus 24-7, particularly the Methodist churches. The Methodist church singles club folks will go to bars, have parties with alcohol, etc. We got married in a Methodist church, and our pastor was right there pounding margaritas at our rehearsal dinner.

 

Man...I REALLY don't wanna do the church thing. But one of my clients is a church, and they are all really great to work with. Odd thing is, for like the first 3 months I walked into that place on my weekly visit....I literally felt like I was going to burst into flames.....me being such a sinner and all.

 

But I could see myself going to that church.....but then I'd feel like a bigger sinner going to church only to get me some bagina.

 

I need to get together with my buddy and start a band. chics will come to see me.

[DuckStupid 40]

1) that 'you find someone when you're not looking' is a load of crap. You have to make yourself available. I guarantee if you spend the rest of your life sitting around the house, going fishing with friends and working on your house women won't magically fall out of the sky looking to date you.

 

 

The point Mayhem, is that if he's looking for a relationship, yes, you need to be available, but you also have to be able to just be yourself. Don't go putting on a show just to try and get some poon. Be yourself, have fun, get out and available, but if you gotta play games to get into a her pants, it ain't going anywhere.

[bostonlager 2,678]

The point Mayhem, is that if he's looking for a relationship, yes, you need to be available, but you also have to be able to just be yourself. Don't go putting on a show just to try and get some poon. Be yourself, have fun, get out and available, but if you gotta play games to get into a her pants, it ain't going anywhere.

 

 

 

[Electric Mayhem 35]

The point Mayhem, is that if he's looking for a relationship, yes, you need to be available, but you also have to be able to just be yourself. Don't go putting on a show just to try and get some poon. Be yourself, have fun, get out and available, but if you gotta play games to get into a her pants, it ain't going anywhere.

 

Yeah, I tried that in my late 20's. Result: no sex for like 4+ years. You have to make some kind of effort.

[itsjjw 1]

Seriously try taking a class at night. I've always met plenty of guys (including older ones) in class.

[Franknbeans 46]

Step 1: Cut a hole in the box

[Guest Black Label Society]

Seriously try taking a class at night. I've always met plenty of guys (including older ones) in class.

 

that's a good idea too. I could even take some night classes at a tech college that I could use for work.

Of course, there's not alot of IT chics (not sexist...just my experience).

 

Maybe I'll take a sexual health class as well. :-)

 

Step 1: Cut a hole in the box

 

Put your junk in THAT box!

[DuckStupid 40]

Yeah, I tried that in my late 20's. Result: no sex for like 4+ years. You have to make some kind of effort.

 

Agreed you do have to make an effort to make yourself available to someone that might share common interests with you. Anyone can get sex. While the poon is nice, a relationship is more than the poon. If you can't hook up with someone being yourself, what's the point (other than just getting some)?

[Guest Black Label Society]

Agreed you do have to make an effort to make yourself available to someone that might share common interests with you. Anyone can get sex. While the poon is nice, a relationship is more than the poon. If you can't hook up with someone being yourself, what's the point (other than just getting some)?

 

It's called an ORGASM......kinda neat thing ya know.

[bostonlager 2,678]

Being "that guy" in the bar isn't always that bad if you don't do it all the time. I actually met a girl in a bar last weekend and brought her back to my place. I popped Gears of War in and showed her my chainsaw moves and shes been blowing up my phone all week.

[DuckStupid 40]

It's called an ORGASM......kinda neat thing ya know.

 

Really? tell me more :fascinated:

[Guest Black Label Society]

Being "that guy" in the bar isn't always that bad if you don't do it all the time. I actually met a girl in a bar last weekend and brought her back to my place. I popped Gears of War in and showed her my chainsaw moves and shes been blowing up my phone all week.

 

Doesn't her mom want to know why she hasn't been to school all week???

 

Seriously...you showed her Gears and now she wants you?!?!

Man....I gotta move.

[bostonlager 2,678]

Doesn't her mom want to know why she hasn't been to school all week???

 

Seriously...you showed her Gears and now she wants you?!?!

Man....I gotta move.

 

 

No, she actually made comment of all the video games, but I quickly changed the subject.

[Franknbeans 46]

No, she actually made comment of all the video games, but I quickly changed the subject.

to your porn collection?

[Guest Black Label Society]

Really? tell me more :fascinated:

 

Step 1: Cut a hole in the box

[itsjjw 1]

Step 1: Cut a hole in the box

Step 2: remove doll

[bostonlager 2,678]

to your porn collection?

 

 

 

She made mention of that too.

[MDC 7,954]

Yeah, I tried that in my late 20's. Result: no sex for like 4+ years. You have to make some kind of effort.

 

Have you considered the possibility that there's something wrong with you?

 

Because my longest dry spell maybe evah went from late Oct. / early Nov. '06 to late Jan. 07, and even then I'm sure I could've gotten laid had I been more persistent about it but wasn't because I just wasn't that into anyone I was meeting.

 

If you can't accidently get laid for four years, there's a problem.

[Bier Meister 1,761]

Step 2: remove doll

 

 

 

 

no.

 

step 2: put your junk in the box.

[Yer mom 2]

Seriously try taking a class at night. I've always met plenty of guys (including older ones) in class.

 

Because of your somewhat remote location, I agree with this. (But for meeting chicks of course)

 

no.

 

step 2: put your junk in the box.

 

 

Step 3: Let her open the box

[Greedo 13]

BLS - just me, but I would NOT go looking at a church. Any girl that's churchgoing has a big strike against her in my book.

 

But the key is, you've got to move from bumble**** MN if you want to meet someone. Lots of single women in AZ...

[craphouse rats 0]

Enjoy being single. Just be glad you don't have a wife that gets in the way of your plans or nags you on a constant basis or spends all your hard earned money or always wants you to go to some ghey social club party or always wants you to help her plant flowers!! If you wanna get some love/sex, then just go pay for it and you know there will be no strings attached. That would be the life. I envy you