Do you have a work wife ?

[TommyGavin 790]

I have 2. Hard to balance. 

[IGotWorms 4,057]

Kind of. But she has another work husband too!  

[weepaws 3,158]

2 hours ago, IGotWorms said:

Kind of. But she has another work husband too!  

She’s the winner. 

[shorepatrol 1,870]

Many over the years. The sexual tension is insane. Never banged any of them 

[thegeneral 2,948]

My eyes are up here ladies. 

If I had a nickel…

[Bert 1,128]

yes

[TheNewGirl 1,357]

Yes. 

[DonS 3,292]

13 minutes ago, TheNewGirl said:

Yes. 

Oooh.  Please tell us about your scissoring fantasies with her. 

[jerryskids 6,578]

18 hours ago, thegeneral said:

My eyes are up here ladies. 

If I had a nickel…

I imagine in your field, you get to work with a lot of women.  I was on the tech side of tech, well tech sales, but most of us were engineers by training.  Our (few) women were badass tough as nails women who kicked ass and took names; you had to be to be a woman in that role.  As such they weren't exactly looking for love in the office; mostly they were looking for respect (and those beautiful commission checks).  

Plus I worked in a remote office (when we had an office), so I wasn't in the office that much.

Anyway... reading up on this phenomenon, and presuming the guy is married, it seems weird to have a close emotional bond with another woman in the office.  I know I wouldn't be thrilled if my wife had such a relationship with some dood at the office.   

[TheNewGirl 1,357]

10 minutes ago, jerryskids said:

I imagine in your field, you get to work with a lot of women.  I was on the tech side of tech, well tech sales, but most of us were engineers by training.  Our (few) women were badass tough as nails women who kicked ass and took names; you had to be to be a woman in that role.  As such they weren't exactly looking for love in the office; mostly they were looking for respect (and those beautiful commission checks).  

 

This. 

I have been in tech for 30 years. Not sales, but production support, etc. (Not desktop support, TYVM. Application and network support, etc). 

When I had friendships with men in the office it was never about anything past that, it was always how they treated me. I will never forget very very early in my career a man asking me that I HAD to know what a CAT5 was, or how many ports were on a router (this was a good 30 years ago), would randomly quiz me on (I was working on my CCNA). BUT....he would do it in the most rude and condescending way ever. I completely lost ALL respect for him and absolutely HATED working with him on anything.  The other guys in the office didn't seem to have any issues with me. 

[thegeneral 2,948]

11 minutes ago, jerryskids said:

I imagine in your field, you get to work with a lot of women.  I was on the tech side of tech, well tech sales, but most of us were engineers by training.  Our (few) women were badass tough as nails women who kicked ass and took names; you had to be to be a woman in that role.  As such they weren't exactly looking for love in the office; mostly they were looking for respect (and those beautiful commission checks).  

Plus I worked in a remote office (when we had an office), so I wasn't in the office that much.

Anyway... reading up on this phenomenon, and presuming the guy is married, it seems weird to have a close emotional bond with another woman in the office.  I know I wouldn't be thrilled if my wife had such a relationship with some dood at the office.   

Being serious only some healthy work relationships with the fairer sex. I have worked at the same place for a long time and have lots of long relationships with quite a few people.

I don’t think I’d ever use the term “work wife” even if it were something approaching that though. My HR training would kick in

 

[jerryskids 6,578]

8 minutes ago, TheNewGirl said:

This. 

I have been in tech for 30 years. Not sales, but production support, etc. (Not desktop support, TYVM. Application and network support, etc). 

When I had friendships with men in the office it was never about anything past that, it was always how they treated me. I will never forget very very early in my career a man asking me that I HAD to know what a CAT5 was, or how many ports were on a router (this was a good 30 years ago), would randomly quiz me on (I was working on my CCNA). BUT....he would do it in the most rude and condescending way ever. I completely lost ALL respect for him and absolutely HATED working with him on anything.  The other guys in the office didn't seem to have any issues with me. 

My wife started as an engineer in a semiconductor fab.  She has a high pitched voice, which didn't help gain respect from the men who worked for her, who were technicians, older, often with military backgrounds of working with large complex equipment...

Anyway, for the most part she was treated with respect despite that.  However... for a brief period when she was young, there was a problem with the office phones where an admin's phone was mistakenly routed to her number.  Her stories of the disrespect she got when people thought she was a "lowly" admin were quite eye-opening.  And sad.

It's not easy to be a woman in tech, even this day.  I have hella respect for any who can do it.   

[Bert 1,128]

4 hours ago, jerryskids said:

Anyway... reading up on this phenomenon, and presuming the guy is married, it seems weird to have a close emotional bond with another woman in the office.  I know I wouldn't be thrilled if my wife had such a relationship with some dood at the office.   

It is not a spousal kind of emotional bond.  It is a partnership/friendship. Helping and protecting each other from evils within the corporate machine. 
 

My work wife has been with us 13 years.  No sexual attraction or emotional connection. Just a strong, mutually beneficial alliance.