stop talking cheerleader 0 Posted March 20, 2007 So we have our white trash bowling league on Monday nights and 30FBT was getting cauky. I was bowling a really good game (168) and got a split...so he screams out "Make this and I'll buy you a diamond ring..." You better believe I nailed it, and the whole crowd started laughing....so. How long until I get my bling Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
cmh6476 1,025 Posted March 20, 2007 funny, when we were shooting craps he mentioned that he was trying to take the boat for all their money so he could get you a big fat diamond Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
stop talking cheerleader 0 Posted March 20, 2007 funny, when we were shooting craps he mentioned that he was trying to take the boat for all their money so he could get you a big fat diamond He's been talking about it a lot lately, hasn't been saving though, and hasn't won the lottery...so I'm still waiting patiently Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Jeremy 0 Posted March 20, 2007 Haven't you already been dating over 4 years. Yeah...um....good luck. Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
cmh6476 1,025 Posted March 20, 2007 just let me know when it finally does happen so I can make the plans for the reception, I'm sure it will kick ass and there will be free beer Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
stop talking cheerleader 0 Posted March 20, 2007 Haven't you already been dating over 4 years. Yeah...um....good luck. It will be four years this summer...the first year was a mess and the second he was in Texas....so yeah, thats why I haven't put on the pressure Plus we met when I was 21, he was 28, now that I'm 25 and he's 33 (rounding up) I think we're ok. Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
kutulu 1,680 Posted March 20, 2007 just let me know when it finally does happen so I can make the plans for the reception, I'm sure it will kick ass and there will be free beer Don't forget about the pig roast. Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
SigEp316 0 Posted March 20, 2007 thanks for the sweet 30FBT update Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Chronic Husker 85 Posted March 20, 2007 FBT was in an NCAA pool where the winner got $1600. He told me that if he won, he'd buy the ring. Too bad he didn't win. I guess stc just has to wait until FBT hits it big. Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Brown Eyed Girl 1 Posted March 20, 2007 He's been talking about it a lot lately, hasn't been saving though, and hasn't won the lottery...so I'm still waiting patiently How are you so sure he hasn't been saving for it? Also, don't you want to be surprised when he finally gives you a ring and asks you to marry him? It sort of takes all of the intimacy out of it if you're just 'expecting' it and he knows that. Maybe he is saving on the side so that he can take you by surprise with it. If I were you, I'd just put it in the back of my mind. The two of you already know you are planning to be together for the rest of your lives... so, go about your way and when you least expect it, I'll bet that's when it'll happen! Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
TheNewGirl 1,496 Posted March 20, 2007 I know that this is going to come out wrong...but, I have told my brother the same thing in regards to his girlfriend... If he really wanted to buy a ring...even if it's on credit or whatever, he'd do it. It's not that I don't think that he loves you, or that he wants to marry you...but four years IS a long time (my husband and I met when I was 22 and he was 28/29). We were living together within a year of meeting, and married a year after that. He couldn't afford a giant ring, but got what he could afford at the time, and in the future I am sure that I will upgrade. Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Chronic Husker 85 Posted March 20, 2007 How are you so sure he hasn't been saving for it? Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
30 Fat, Bald & Texan 5 Posted March 20, 2007 Don't forget about the pig roast. I haven't forgot about. I have been preparing for a couple of years for it. Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
ZeroTolerance 584 Posted March 20, 2007 So we have our white trash bowling league on Monday nights and 30FBT was getting cauky. I was bowling a really good game (168) and got a split...so he screams out "Make this and I'll buy you a diamond ring..." You better believe I nailed it, and the whole crowd started laughing....so. How long until I get my bling What split was it? Best I ever managed was a few 6-7 splits. Only seen a couple 7-10s in person. Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
stop talking cheerleader 0 Posted March 20, 2007 What split was it? Best I ever managed was a few 6-7 splits. Only seen a couple 7-10s in person. 5-7 I believe (wasn't that hard) TNG and BEG, I agree with both of you, and I do want to be surprised, just getting anxious and want to marry him already. Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
TylerRoseFan 16 Posted March 20, 2007 link to cans? Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
redtodd 7 Posted March 20, 2007 I know that this is going to come out wrong...but, I have told my brother the same thing in regards to his girlfriend... If he really wanted to buy a ring...even if it's on credit or whatever, he'd do it. It's not that I don't think that he loves you, or that he wants to marry you...but four years IS a long time (my husband and I met when I was 22 and he was 28/29). We were living together within a year of meeting, and married a year after that. He couldn't afford a giant ring, but got what he could afford at the time, and in the future I am sure that I will upgrade. Not to be a ball breaker (even though you have no balls), but I noticed that you phrased it as "if he wanted to buy a ring" and not "if he wanted to marry you." I think you girls put way too much focus on the ring and not as much about the marriage. If your husband proposed to you with no ring, would you have said yes? Also, 4 years is not that long when you are talking the rest of your life. Just saying. Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Guest Black Label Society Posted March 20, 2007 Not to be a ball breaker (even though you have no balls), but I noticed that you phrased it as "if he wanted to buy a ring" and not "if he wanted to marry you." I think you girls put way too much focus on the ring and not as much about the marriage. If your husband proposed to you with no ring, would you have said yes? Also, 4 years is not that long when you are talking the rest of your life. Just saying. Queue up ITSJJW's materialistic post in 3........2.........1...... Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
TheNewGirl 1,496 Posted March 20, 2007 Not to be a ball breaker (even though you have no balls), but I noticed that you phrased it as "if he wanted to buy a ring" and not "if he wanted to marry you." I think you girls put way too much focus on the ring and not as much about the marriage. If your husband proposed to you with no ring, would you have said yes? Also, 4 years is not that long when you are talking the rest of your life. Just saying. I guess I kind of think of them as the same thing. My husband would only get me a ring if he wanted to marry me...and since she's waiting for the bling, I addressed it as such. The ring is a symbol, an outward symbol to everyone that someone is taken. I mean, why do men who cheat take their rings off? Do they think that it doesn't make them married if they take it off? No, it's to hide to others that they are taken... Yes, I would have married him without a ring...however, he wouldn't have proposed without one. Sometimes having that ring, and the size of it, means as much to the man as it does to the woman. I have a close friend who REFUSES to buy his grilfriend anything smaller than 1.5 carats. he can't afford it right now, but refuses to get anything smaller for her, hence, they are waiting until they can afford the larger ring. If the ring meant that much to me, I certainly would have put up a fuss for something bigger, OR I would ahve said, "I won't marry you if you buy me something smaller than X number of carats." A girlfriend of mine did this, she told her boyfriend not to bother buying her a ring if it was smaller than a carat. THAT's ridiculous if you ask me. Four years is a long time to some, I guess it's all subjective. Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Brown Eyed Girl 1 Posted March 20, 2007 Not to be a ball breaker (even though you have no balls), but I noticed that you phrased it as "if he wanted to buy a ring" and not "if he wanted to marry you." I think you girls put way too much focus on the ring and not as much about the marriage. If your husband proposed to you with no ring, would you have said yes? Also, 4 years is not that long when you are talking the rest of your life. Just saying. I very much agree with this. To me, a ring is secondary and only a symbol of what's really important - The size and quality would have very little significance to me. What really matters is what you have in your heart for eachother and how strong and solid that is. The rest is just extra. Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Chronic Husker 85 Posted March 20, 2007 How are you so sure he hasn't been saving for it? Sorry. I'm still laughing. Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Brown Eyed Girl 1 Posted March 20, 2007 Sorry. I'm still laughing. Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Chronic Husker 85 Posted March 20, 2007 Put it this way. I'm pretty focking sure. Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
kutulu 1,680 Posted March 20, 2007 I haven't forgot about. I have been preparing for a couple of years for it. If he really wanted to stop porking her out of wedlock, he'd dig into the pig roast fund for a little trinket. Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
stop talking cheerleader 0 Posted March 20, 2007 I'm a romantic, the way he proposes woul dmean more then the size of the ring. Yes, I have my ideal ring mapped out in my head, although I wouldn't be dissapointed if I got a simple band with a little sparkle I'm more excited to call him my husband if anything. Anyways back to the split...that will teach him to bet me again There was no time limit in this bet though AND...30FBT does not save....thats what the bar is for, I know this. Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
yostevo 0 Posted March 20, 2007 He's doing you a favor by waiting. A man can't commit to marry until he really wants to and if he gets bullied into something, it will be over with before it ever began. It's got to be on his terms if he has any balls at all. Relax, enjoy your time together and as the Beatles have said: "Let it be". Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
stop talking cheerleader 0 Posted March 20, 2007 He's doing you a favor by waiting. A man can't commit to marry until he really wants to and if he gets bullied into something, it will be over with before it ever began. It's got to be on his terms if he has any balls at all. Relax, enjoy your time together and as the Beatles have said: "Let it be". Here's the thing...his friends bully him more then I do...I won't have kids without being married for awhile, he wants to start sooner then later...so basically my life is on delay with out this next step. I think four years is patient considering I'm just now mentioning it. I saved up 3k in three months, so it can't be an excuse for too many more years. He knows I love him but I'm not going to be THAT girl that dates someone for 10 years, I would like a family. Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
yostevo 0 Posted March 20, 2007 Here's the thing...his friends bully him more then I do...I won't have kids without being married for awhile, he wants to start sooner then later...so basically my life is on delay with out this next step. I think four years is patient considering I'm just now mentioning it. I saved up 3k in three months, so it can't be an excuse for too many more years. He knows I love him but I'm not going to be THAT girl that dates someone for 10 years, I would like a family. Whoever is bullying is kinda irrelevent IMO. The fact that it's happening is the bottomline. I have a friend in the exact same position as your bf. He's got what everone (including myself) knows is his perfect girl and even he tells me the same, but he keeps getting caught up on the fact that he has the pressure of everyone else just saying "Do it already!". It's becoming a major turnoff to him and it's not even her fault at all. Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Jeremy 0 Posted March 20, 2007 I have a close friend who REFUSES to buy his grilfriend anything smaller than 1.5 carats. he can't afford it right now, but refuses to get anything smaller for her, hence, they are waiting until they can afford the larger ring. I'm sure that's for the benifit of his ego more than anything else. Got to show everyone how much money he has. No guy wants to appear cheap. Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
jerryskids 6,812 Posted March 20, 2007 I know that this is going to come out wrong...but, I have told my brother the same thing in regards to his girlfriend... If he really wanted to buy a ring...even if it's on credit or whatever, he'd do it. It's not that I don't think that he loves you, or that he wants to marry you...but four years IS a long time (my husband and I met when I was 22 and he was 28/29). We were living together within a year of meeting, and married a year after that. He couldn't afford a giant ring, but got what he could afford at the time, and in the future I am sure that I will upgrade. Would you really upgrade? My wife and I have discussed it and she has no interest, because the diamond is the one I gave her and as such it is special. It is around 0.7 carats and what I could afford at the time; now I could buy a much larger one but, thankfully, she is happy with the original. Countdown to me catching crap about rings in 5.... 4.... 3.... Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
stop talking cheerleader 0 Posted March 20, 2007 Whoever is bullying is kinda irrelevent IMO. The fact that it's happening is the bottomline. I have a friend in the exact same position as your husband. He's got what everone (including myself) knows is his perfect girl and even he tells me the same, but he keeps getting caught up on the fact that he has the pressure of everyone else just saying "Do it already!". It's becoming a major turnoff to him and it's not even her fault at all. If he's so turned off he shouldn't get married. It should be an honor to marry someone not a chore. I know he will marry me and wants to, if other people are getting to your friend then his heads not in the game Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
30 Fat, Bald & Texan 5 Posted March 20, 2007 I'm glad this has become a thread about my financial situation. I'm not edjr Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
redtodd 7 Posted March 20, 2007 Here's the thing...his friends bully him more then I do...I won't have kids without being married for awhile, he wants to start sooner then later...so basically my life is on delay with out this next step. I think four years is patient considering I'm just now mentioning it. I saved up 3k in three months, so it can't be an excuse for too many more years. He knows I love him but I'm not going to be THAT girl that dates someone for 10 years, I would like a family. So you wouldn't stay with him forever unless it was legally binding? Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
stop talking cheerleader 0 Posted March 20, 2007 So you wouldn't stay with him forever unless it was legally binding? no. I wouldn't want to be that kind of role model for my children. Some people have no problem with it, I want more then anything to have a family and a husband, not a live in boyfriend with some bastard children.(Somewhat joking) Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Chronic Husker 85 Posted March 20, 2007 Here's the thing...his friends bully him more then I do... Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
yostevo 0 Posted March 20, 2007 So you wouldn't stay with him forever unless it was legally binding? rut ro......cue a whole nudder conversation all together. :popcorn: Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
KSB2424 3,148 Posted March 20, 2007 I'm sure posting this on a public message bored is really gonna speed things up. Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
TheNewGirl 1,496 Posted March 20, 2007 Would you really upgrade? My wife and I have discussed it and she has no interest, because the diamond is the one I gave her and as such it is special. It is around 0.7 carats and what I could afford at the time; now I could buy a much larger one but, thankfully, she is happy with the original. Countdown to me catching crap about rings in 5.... 4.... 3.... My plan right now isn't to upgrade, but get a matching pair of earrings, or a pendant. If I were to get a different ring, I would still wear the one I have, as it's the one that he gave me. I am happy with it, and I do think that anything larger would look ridiculous on my hands. It's not a priority for either one of us to get me a bigger ring, or the other pieces of jewelry. Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
jerryskids 6,812 Posted March 20, 2007 So we have our white trash bowling league on Monday nights and 30FBT was getting cauky. I was bowling a really good game (168) and got a split...so he screams out "Make this and I'll buy you a diamond ring..." You better believe I nailed it, and the whole crowd started laughing....so. How long until I get my bling 30FBT <<<<<<<<< QLaz? Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
TheNewGirl 1,496 Posted March 20, 2007 no. I wouldn't want to be that kind of role model for my children. Some people have no problem with it, I want more then anything to have a family and a husband, not a live in boyfriend with some bastard children.(Somewhat joking) I wouldn't either. My husband was also the one who was into marriage before anything else, wouldn't buy a house with me, or have kds with me unless we were married. And totally for the same reasons; we didn't want to be those kinds of role model's for our kids. Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
