Waiting for my diamond ring...patiently...

[yostevo 0]

If he's so turned off he shouldn't get married. It should be an honor to marry someone not a chore. I know he will marry me and wants to, if other people are getting to your friend then his heads not in the game

 

Chore of it for some is to get over the mental hurdle of doing things on your terms. It's that particular person's life long decision and it takes a boat load of courage for some. Perhaps there's a history of divorce in the family that has burned that person and they become gun shy along with a whole myriad of other potential issues.

 

It's not so cut n dry as you make it out to be.

[jerryskids 6,812]

My plan right now isn't to upgrade, but get a matching pair of earrings, or a pendant.

 

If I were to get a different ring, I would still wear the one I have, as it's the one that he gave me. I am happy with it, and I do think that anything larger would look ridiculous on my hands.

 

It's not a priority for either one of us to get me a bigger ring, or the other pieces of jewelry.

Cool. My wife did change her setting though. She found the original one (which was thick) plus a wedding band were too uncomfortable, so she merged the little diamonds from the band with the "big" diamond into a single, thinner setting.

[stop talking cheerleader 0]

It's not so cut n dry as you make it out to be.

 

Yeah it is, thats why I'm with him.

[yostevo 0]

I'm sure posting this on a public message bored is really gonna speed things up.

 

 

Sometimes, my wife and I had some of our most productive pre-marital conversations through email. However, we didn't have a studio audience with Chuck Woolery hosting.

[Big_Pete 0]

I guess I kind of think of them as the same thing. My husband would only get me a ring if he wanted to marry me...and since she's waiting for the bling, I addressed it as such. The ring is a symbol, an outward symbol to everyone that someone is taken. I mean, why do men who cheat take their rings off? Do they think that it doesn't make them married if they take it off? No, it's to hide to others that they are taken...

Yes, I would have married him without a ring...however, he wouldn't have proposed without one. Sometimes having that ring, and the size of it, means as much to the man as it does to the woman. I have a close friend who REFUSES to buy his grilfriend anything smaller than 1.5 carats. he can't afford it right now, but refuses to get anything smaller for her, hence, they are waiting until they can afford the larger ring.

 

If the ring meant that much to me, I certainly would have put up a fuss for something bigger, OR I would ahve said, "I won't marry you if you buy me something smaller than X number of carats." A girlfriend of mine did this, she told her boyfriend not to bother buying her a ring if it was smaller than a carat. THAT's ridiculous if you ask me.

 

Four years is a long time to some, I guess it's all subjective.

I dunno... now that jerryskids is online and posting, why don't we ask him this very same question

[jerryskids 6,812]

I dunno... now that jerryskids is online and posting, why don't we ask him this very same question

BWAHAHAHAHA

 

That took longer than I thought.

[Big_Pete 0]

BWAHAHAHAHA

 

That took longer than I thought.

so....? lol

[TheNewGirl 1,496]

Cool. My wife did change her setting though. She found the original one (which was thick) plus a wedding band were too uncomfortable, so she merged the little diamonds from the band with the "big" diamond into a single, thinner setting.

 

 

That's what he's asked if I would prefer to do. The ring I have right now is actually three rings soldiered together, a solitaire and two channel set/anniversary bands on either side. It's pretty wide and sometimes makes my finger itch and get nasty underneath. He suggested gettnig a smaller band, or an actual set that has the solitaire on a band with channel set diamonds, not a separate ring...hope that makes sense.

 

I have looked at some, but none of them really caught my eye - also kind of indicating to me that maybe it's not something that I really want right now.

[Snoopy1 0]

cow....free milk words.....

[jerryskids 6,812]

so....? lol

I think we've beaten that horse to death in the past. Don't you have nekkid pics of yourself to send to sawilson or something?

[itsjjw 0]

Queue up ITSJJW's materialistic post in 3........2.........1......

Sorry but after Valentine's day I am just not up to having conversations about rings.

[Franknbeans 46]

FBT offered me sex for $1,000. I told him to hold out for more.

[cgod 0]

cow....free milk words.....

That's an awful thing to say about stc

[itsjjw 0]

cow....free milk words.....

I went the other way. I told him that unless he wants to buy the cow, there is no guarentee that he is going to be the only one drinking the milk.

[Jeremy 0]

Sorry but after Valentine's day I am just not up to having conversations about rings.

 

You were talking about dumping him if he didn't come through. How'd that turn out?

 

ETA: I guess the above post answers my question.

[jerryskids 6,812]

cow....free milk words.....

There is probably some truth in this. I think also that FBT likes his independence. For example, the financial discussion herein. It seems that they have separate finances today; FBT doesn't like to save, likes to go out and spend money and have fun... if he gets married, finances would likely merge and he wouldn't have that freedom.

[itsjjw 0]

You were talking about dumping him if he didn't come through. How'd that turn out?

It bascially came down to unless I / we see a future in this relationship then I / we need to start seeing other people.

 

He came off with 'not rushing' in context of both a relationship and / or disolving a relationship.

 

He is not the only person getting free milk right now.

[stop talking cheerleader 0]

 

He is not the only person getting free milk right now.

 

[naomi 356]

Engravings Right, or is it just me? Words

[Recidivist 1]

I knew I wanted to spend the rest of my life with the woman who is my wife the day I met her. I pulled the trigger in less than six (6) months. The only reason it took that long was she had to finish college out of state.

 

Call me a pusssy, pansy, whatever. You know when you meet the right one.

[TheNewGirl 1,496]

I think we've beaten that horse to death in the past. Don't you have nekkid pics of yourself to send to sawilson or something?

 

 

Or perhaps BP and saw can post about how much sex they are having?

[cday 0]

i really don't get the need behind expensive weddings/engagement rings, but to each his own. my wedding cost $40, the ring was a couple hundred, and the wife is happy. in the end, that last thing is all that matters. we decided to put the money towards the house, a vacation, etc.

[jerryskids 6,812]

Or perhaps BP and saw can post about how much sex they are having?

He seems awfully quiet now.

[Big_Pete 0]

Or perhaps BP and saw can post about how much sex they are having?

 

 

He seems awfully quiet now.

no time to post.... getting a nooner

then bbq and then a movie (keeping fingers crossed for a BJ in the theatre)

[joneo 556]

I hope he wasn't waiting for the money he won from QLazzerus.

[TheNewGirl 1,496]

i really don't get the need behind expensive weddings/engagement rings, but to each his own. my wedding cost $40, the ring was a couple hundred, and the wife is happy. in the end, that last thing is all that matters. we decided to put the money towards the house, a vacation, etc.

 

Looking back, part of us does wish that we eloped and took that money and put it towards a house. However, we cut corners with our wedding; I made the invites, my dress was less than $175, and my veil was around $15. I also did my own hair and makeup. The most expensive thing was the food, then the pictures.

Our honeymoon was to Vegas, also nothing really $$$.

 

It was like a really big fun party.

[jerryskids 6,812]

no time to post.... getting a nooner

then bbq and then a movie (keeping fingers crossed for a BJ in the theatre)

I expected nothing less Pete!@#

[TheNewGirl 1,496]

I hope he wasn't waiting for the money he won from QLazzerus.

 

 

D'oh!!!

 

[Big_Pete 0]

I expected nothing less Pete!@#

does sawilson want pix or the video I'm secretly making?

[cmh6476 1,025]

hell, just charge it. Your bills become hers when you get married, so she'll be helping pay for her own ring like my wife is

[jerryskids 6,812]

does sawilson want pix or the video I'm secretly making?

I never said anything about her wanting stuff, I talked about you sending stuff. There is a difference. HTH

[yostevo 0]

i really don't get the need behind expensive weddings/engagement rings, but to each his own. my wedding cost $40, the ring was a couple hundred, and the wife is happy. in the end, that last thing is all that matters. we decided to put the money towards the house, a vacation, etc.

 

It's all about the perception. Men have gotten pressured into buying bigger and supposedly better for decades now because of how the women go ga ga over each other's in an attempt to make the other feel special or good. It's not even about the actual symbol of it anymore. It's a fashion show and for some it's a measure of stature.

 

When I first bought my wife's ring, I purchased a little bit over my head because I just wanted it to be a purchase that I had absolutely no regrets about. What I mean is that I never wanted to look at her ring and not see a brilliant sparkle or find the diamond to be dull in anyway. I sacrificed size for quality (albeit she got over a carat in her center stone) She's never been the type to need anything too gaudy, but just nice to look at.

 

Her extended family members, now that's a whole nother story all together. These guys buy 3 carat+ rings, drown themselves in debt, and have barely a roof over their head to speak of. It's pretty ridiculous to me. If you are going to spend a lifetime together, why spend money like that when you are in your 20's-30's and set yourself back to the detriment of your near future? Ask her later on if you can upgrade for your 10th, 15th, 20th anniversary when your situation is bound to be a bit better?

[Strike 5,563]

no time to post.... getting a nooner

then bbq and then a movie (keeping fingers crossed for a BJ in the theatre)

 

You should try finding a job

[itsjjw 0]

It's all about the perception. Men have gotten pressured into buying bigger and supposedly better for decades now because of how the women go ga ga over each other's in an attempt to make the other feel special or good. It's not even about the actual symbol of it anymore. It's a fashion show and for some it's a measure of stature.

 

When I first bought my wife's ring, I purchased a little bit over my head because I just wanted it to be a purchase that I had absolutely no regrets about. What I mean is that I never wanted to look at her ring and not see a brilliant sparkle or find the diamond to be dull in anyway. I sacrificed size for quality (albeit she got over a carat in her center stone) She's never been the type to need anything too gaudy, but just nice to look at.

 

Her entended family members, now that's a whole nother story all together. These guys buy 3 carat+ rings, drown themselves in debt, and have barely a roof over their head to speak of. It's pretty ridiculous to me. If you are going to spend a lifetime together, why spend money like that when you are in your 20's-30's and set yourself back to the detriment of your near future? Ask her later on if you can upgrade for your 10th, 15th, 20th anniversary when your situation is bound to be a bit better?

Nice ring. Lucky wife. So many guys go for size over quality and that is such a mistake.

[bob_probert_2000 1]

When he produces the ring, I'll produce the password to stop_talkinq_cheerleader

 

[yostevo 0]

Nice ring. Lucky wife. So many guys go for size over quality and that is such a mistake.

 

Thanks. It's remarkable how many people will look simply for a certain size of a stone to satisfy their thirst for bigger being better. It ends up looking like a chunk of rock salt.

 

It's not the size of your vessel, it's how you rock the boat!

[Big_Pete 0]

You should try finding a job

I have a job now

[redtodd 7]

Nice ring. Lucky wife. So many guys go for size over quality and that is such a mistake.

 

She's lucky because she has a nice ring?

[cday 0]

Her extended family members, now that's a whole nother story all together. These guys buy 3 carat+ rings, drown themselves in debt, and have barely a roof over their head to speak of. It's pretty ridiculous to me. If you are going to spend a lifetime together, why spend money like that when you are in your 20's-30's and set yourself back to the detriment of your near future? Ask her later on if you can upgrade for your 10th, 15th, 20th anniversary when your situation is bound to be a bit better?

 

exactly. my wife is more fiscally responsible than the stereotypical woman, and probably more responsible and careful with money than me. probably because of the way she grew up, money was tight in her household, and blowing the traditional "2 months salary" on a ring is ludicrous to her. you can't eat diamonds.

 

works for me, i'm thrilled i got someone who isn't hung up on all the fluff and meaningless trinkets that so many women seem to love.

[yostevo 0]

She's lucky because she has a nice ring?

 

I think she was referring to the fact that my wife was lucky because I utilized some common sense in making the purchase.