Anybody else have a Death Day?

[wiffleball 4,789]

You know, a day when someone you loved died. 

 

I'm not talking about memorizing the days that Grandpa and Grandma that you saw once every 2 years for a couple days died.

 

Days that rocked you to your core. That changed you forever. Even if you're the only one to know it. 

 

I remember there was an episode of Magnum about this. Learned a lot from that whole show actually. It's a day that you peel off from everyone else and dedicate; To remembering, to love, to laughs, to regret - To Grief. 

I read once that " Every love is a down payment on a future grief. "

 

Got one of those days coming up. 

 

I know what's coming. Been almost 20 years. Never gets better. Never stops being brutally fresh. 

 

Every. Damn. Time.

 

I know it's coming. It's a little bit like a herpes outbreak; (Not that I'd know. ) You can know it's coming. You can prepare to the nines. You can read everything you can about the subject, counselors, meds, - you name it.

 

But ultimately though, all you can do (and strangely, all you want to do) is muck through the suck. 

 

Because Grief beats the shiit outta forgetting. 

 

 

 

[Hardcore troubadour 15,288]

Too many. Today is a birthday for one of them. RIP kid. 

[wiffleball 4,789]

12 minutes ago, Hardcore troubadour said:

Too many. Today is a birthday for one of them. RIP kid. 

Sorry. Legit. 

[wiffleball 4,789]

So today's the day. I had  actually planned some things to keep me distracted, busy. But all of that went to .

 

Damn. I wish I'd done differently with my Brother.

[jerryskids 6,737]

7 minutes ago, wiffleball said:

So today's the day. I had  actually planned some things to keep me distracted, busy. But all of that went to .

 

Damn. I wish I'd done differently with my Brother.

Very sorry to hear.  I wish for you that you can someday get some sort of peace about your brother. 

[BeenHereBefore 1,506]

On 7/13/2023 at 8:57 PM, wiffleball said:

You know, a day when someone you loved died. 

 

I'm not talking about memorizing the days that Grandpa and Grandma that you saw once every 2 years for a couple days died.

 

Days that rocked you to your core. That changed you forever. Even if you're the only one to know it. 

 

I remember there was an episode of Magnum about this. Learned a lot from that whole show actually. It's a day that you peel off from everyone else and dedicate; To remembering, to love, to laughs, to regret - To Grief. 

I read once that " Every love is a down payment on a future grief. "

 

Got one of those days coming up. 

 

I know what's coming. Been almost 20 years. Never gets better. Never stops being brutally fresh. 

 

Every. Damn. Time.

 

I know it's coming. It's a little bit like a herpes outbreak; (Not that I'd know. ) You can know it's coming. You can prepare to the nines. You can read everything you can about the subject, counselors, meds, - you name it.

 

But ultimately though, all you can do (and strangely, all you want to do) is muck through the suck. 

 

Because Grief beats the shiit outta forgetting. 

 

 

 

Yea Magnum wanted to be by himself on the 4th of July because of his dad.

[wiffleball 4,789]

Dammit, this sux . 

 

Almost 20 years now and feels like 5 minutes ago.

 

Dammit. 

[seafoam1 2,944]

I have too many family members and friends to keep track. My parents are gone. Aunts and uncles in the double digits are gone. Some cousins of the 60 that I have. 

I have a brother with a brain tumor, and sister with breast cancer, and I'm the youngest of 8 kids. If they should all go before me, that would suck ass, but then again, someone will be the last and have to dwell on it. I try not to remember death dates, just the people and who they were. 

Cycle of life. 

[TommyGavin 790]

Yeah I have quite a few some mean more then others. I remember your story and cannot believe it’s been 20 years. 
 

Good luck brother. 

[Hardcore troubadour 15,288]

Mourn the dead

Love the living. 

[TheNewGirl 1,474]

Not specifically a death day. 

However, I will randomly think of certain people who've passed and that's usually when I take the time to remember them. I like to think that they are passing through my thoughts at random times for a reason. 

 

I can see how someone's passing day would be important though, I think it's good to make it kind of a Remembrance Day. 

I am also in the camp that getting attached or loving someone/something (like a pet) is truly inviting yourself for future grief. It's probably why I will probably not own a dog again, or get married again. I can't imagine losing my husband or my dog. Or my kids. 

[seafoam1 2,944]

7 minutes ago, TheNewGirl said:

Not specifically a death day. 

However, I will randomly think of certain people who've passed and that's usually when I take the time to remember them. I like to think that they are passing through my thoughts at random times for a reason. 

 

I can see how someone's passing day would be important though, I think it's good to make it kind of a Remembrance Day. 

I am also in the camp that getting attached or loving someone/something (like a pet) is truly inviting yourself for future grief. It's probably why I will probably not own a dog again, or get married again. I can't imagine losing my husband or my dog. Or my kids. 

Not a criticism. Do you just choose to be alone? 

[posty 2,677]

Yep, we all will die some day...

[BunnysBastatrds 2,413]

Thanksgiving day 11/20/2015. My beloved father. Changed my life forever. Love you Cool Pops.

[TommyGavin 790]

1 hour ago, TheNewGirl said:

Not specifically a death day. 

However, I will randomly think of certain people who've passed and that's usually when I take the time to remember them. I like to think that they are passing through my thoughts at random times for a reason. 

 

I can see how someone's passing day would be important though, I think it's good to make it kind of a Remembrance Day. 

I am also in the camp that getting attached or loving someone/something (like a pet) is truly inviting yourself for future grief. It's probably why I will probably not own a dog again, or get married again. I can't imagine losing my husband or my dog. Or my kids. 

Serious question- you lost a husband? Not joking just asking. 

[patweisers44 840]

5/16/01. Wife died of cancer, had to explain to my 5 year old son his mom was gone.  I will say his Catholic school kindergarten helped prepare him as much, if not more than i did.

I wouldnt say i dwell on the date, but its always kinda out there.