What do I do?

[Hurricane Ditka 0]

What do I do here?

 

I live in a small 30 home subdivision neighborhood. Quite a few kids. THe last few days these two kids keep coming around to play (11 year old boy, 5 year old girl) brother/sister. They live like a quarter mile away and their parents have NO clue where they are at playing. They keep coming around, basically invite themself right in, and help themself.

 

The 11 year old boy, is obviously suffering from some type of neglect or abuse. He is always filthy and wants to play with the 5/6 year olds in the neighborhood.

 

The 5 year old girl is an angel. Dirty, bad clothes, but totally polite and sweet.

 

We have tried to be nice, let them play with our kids, offer them a snack, etc. Since we have been nice, they won't leave our house. We went to church today, came home and they were sitting on our front doorstep.

 

I had them walk me to their house this afternoon so I could talk to their parents. Got there and the mother freaked me out so bad that I chickened out. She answered the door, BIG lady, like 290 solid, wearing only a long Tweety bird t-shirt. I said, "just walking your kids home, they were kind of far from home". She replied, "get your butts in the house before I beat you both".

 

What is my next move here?

[BMoney 0]

call the police and have the police bring them home....thus checking on whats going on at their house....

 

i have used to have that when i first moved here as well...turns out..the guy who lived here before me used to let the kids in...

 

well...that crap ended that day...

 

its cool to be polite...but u never know whats going on at their house...maybe their parents arent fit to be raising kids...

[Chronic Husker 85]

What is my next move here?

Go watch To Kill a Mockingbird.

 

Seriously, where the fock do you live? Roosevelt?

 

call the police and have the police bring them home....thus checking on whats going on at their house....

Holy crap, no. You focking don't do that to your neighbor without even knowing who they are. Worst advice, ever.

[Eagles Green 34]

You should probably post pics of your wife's naked chesticles.

[IndyTom 0]

If you know their names, you could contact the school and advise them that something may be afoot in their home. Granted, the 5 year old may not be attending, but at least the school has a process should they suspect something not-so-nice is taking place at their home.

[Hurricane Ditka 0]

Small town of 2500 people. So if we call the police, we might as well call the whole town. If it comes to that I will but I want to exhaust all options first.

 

I am kind of broke up about this because, I don't think it is the kids fault at all. I asked the boy today why he isn't out riding bikes or playing some basketball, he replied I wanted to watch Jeff Gordon race today but my mom and dad are already watching it and told us to go play.

[rallo 136]

I asked the boy today why he isn't out riding bikes or playing some basketball, he replied I wanted to watch Jeff Gordon race today but my mom and dad are already watching it and told us to go play.

 

hmm... that plus giant tweety bird T-shirt... white trash alert...

 

they don't let the kids watch the race with them??? they tell them to go play and have no supervision on them at all???

[randandy 0]

when you say "small 30 'home' subdivision"...

 

do the tornadoes really seem to like your like ya?

[Hurricane Ditka 0]

when you say "small 30 'home' subdivision"...

 

do the tornadoes really seem to like your like ya?

No. Sorry to disapoint.

[randandy 0]

not disappointed, relieved.

 

them aint my kids.

[Let Da Big Dog Eat 40]

This is tough. Given the facts presented, I think I would just tell the kids to stay away. The 11 year old is a classic case of animal (and then, human) abuse in the making.

 

I feel bad for these 2 kids, but sometimes it's best to just walk away for the benefit of your kids. I hate myself for saying this but you need to worry about your own kids first.

 

If they continue to show up, call the police. Not every problem should be your problem.

[Hurricane Ditka 0]

This is tough. Given the facts presented, I think I would just tell the kids to stay away. The 11 year old is a classic case of animal (and then, human) abuse in the making.

 

I feel bad for these 2 kids, but sometimes it's best to just walk away for the benefit of your kids. I hate myself for saying this but you need to worry about your own kids first.

 

If they continue to show up, call the police. Not every problem should be your problem.

This is exactly where I am at with this. They are STARVING for attention and I feel bad but it's like what can I do!

[Chronic Husker 85]

Maybe you should just let the kids move in with you.

[Let Da Big Dog Eat 40]

This is exactly where I am at with this. They are STARVING for attention and I feel bad but it's like what can I do!

 

Eggsactly. I know how bad you feel about this but like I said, your kids come first. Not every problem is your problem. 11 year olds play with 5 yr olds for reasons. None of them good.

[BroncoBilly 0]

Place a call to your countys Dept. of Human Services. You don't have to give your name, tell them that you live in the neighborhood and have noticed somethings that appear to be neglect. Like the kids being unkept ect ect. Ask them to send a technician by the home in question. After that you have done your part, just keep an eye out for any other signs of abuse and report them accordinly.

[Riddlen 1]

agreed with broncobilly. Dept of human services are generally more discreet than a black and white rolling up to the house. let them decide how bad it is. Or stop being a poosay and confront them.

[p.man 7]

I like what BroncoBilly had to say.

 

But you should do something fast before someone starts to think something is going on at your house.

[GobbleDog 996]

Place a call to your countys Dept. of Human Services.

 

 

Don't be that guy.

[frank 2,304]

Pray?

[Guest Davaco]

What do I do here?

 

I live in a small 30 home subdivision neighborhood. Quite a few kids. THe last few days these two kids keep coming around to play (11 year old boy, 5 year old girl) brother/sister. They live like a quarter mile away and their parents have NO clue where they are at playing. They keep coming around, basically invite themself right in, and help themself.

 

The 11 year old boy, is obviously suffering from some type of neglect or abuse. He is always filthy and wants to play with the 5/6 year olds in the neighborhood.

 

The 5 year old girl is an angel. Dirty, bad clothes, but totally polite and sweet.

 

We have tried to be nice, let them play with our kids, offer them a snack, etc. Since we have been nice, they won't leave our house. We went to church today, came home and they were sitting on our front doorstep.

 

I had them walk me to their house this afternoon so I could talk to their parents. Got there and the mother freaked me out so bad that I chickened out. She answered the door, BIG lady, like 290 solid, wearing only a long Tweety bird t-shirt. I said, "just walking your kids home, they were kind of far from home". She replied, "get your butts in the house before I beat you both".

 

What is my next move here?

 

thats so sad, those kids must live in hell.

[Toro 1]

 

Don't be that guy.

 

You mean the guy that sees something is wrong and refuses to stand up for the well-being of children?

 

I wish there was more people out there willing to stand up and say something when kids are being mistreated.

[BroncoBilly 0]

You mean the guy that sees something is wrong and refuses to stand up for the well-being of children?

 

I wish there was more people out there willing to stand up and say something when kids are being mistreated.

 

 

UU-RAH !!!

[Voice_Of_Reason 0]

did they start coming around before or after the teet job? It makes all the difference.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Alsokicksomechildabuserass

[wiffleball 4,790]

I'm going to go with broncobilly here. Do something though. CPS, HHS, - whatever agency handles it. - And follow up too. Those agencies don't have a stellar track record.

 

And, now for something completely different: Protect yourself. My Mom used to investigate this stuff for a living. It's not entirely beyond the realm of reason that - if some abuse (particularly seksual) is going on for 1) Cornered parents to blame you and 2) Kids - either through threatening or projection - to confirm it.

Keep the kids outta the house. Bring the snacks to them outside. Seriously. It's a focked up world.

 

 

 

Good luck. What a crappy situation. I hate crap parents.

[gocolts 300]

When I was growing up in a small town like your sounds like, we had these two kids that ran the neighborhood. One was in diapers still when it started. Their parents couldn't care less.

 

Anyway, when the kids got a little older, some kids older than they were tould them to throw rocks at this dog, so they did. Well it didn't take to long(couple of weeks) and the dog got lose and focked the one kid up pretty bad. However that is not the worst part. When that little focker running around in diapers got older (18 I think) he raped and sodomized a girl and then killed her by running over her with a car several times.

 

You have to do something, anything, to try and get these kids on the right track. I'm not saying you should take them in, but some call to child protection at the very least.

 

On the block I grew up on, 3 kids ended up killing someone, and most have done some serious time. Try to find it in your heart to do something. That little girl will prolly end up being molested by half the kids in the neighborhood, if something is not done.

 

Regardless, it won't be your fault if something bad happens to one or both of them. You may be able to prevent some of this with a phone call. Keep a sharp eye out for this little girl, make sure she doesn't start to hang with 11+ year old boys.

 

I will say an extra prayer for them tonight. I hope nothing bad happens to them, just cause their parents are morons.

[vuduchile 1,945]

In fairness, none of you have any idea what's going on in that house. You're all making assumptions based on Ditka's story. The thing I would be most concerned about is the fact that the parents don't seem to know where they are all day.

 

Of course, from the time I was 5, I was out in the neighborhood all day, every day unsupervised. We all were, and nobody thought anything of it. Times have changed, but maybe these parents are ok with the 5 year old being looked after by the 11 year old.

 

Being dirty, having raggedy clothes, being bored, seeking friendship with kids who are better off, and sponging off neighbors for snacks may be cause for concern, but some of you are over reacting here.

 

I wouldn't want my kids behaving that way, but the parents in question have an entirely different set of circumstances than me or you.

 

Show me a black eye, bruises, burn marks, or a definite indication of mal-nutrition, and then maybe I'll get excited.

 

Based on the evidence at hand, I suggest revisiting that conversation with the parents. And this time, either bring your gonads, or bring your wife.

[frank 2,304]

 

Show me a black eye, bruises, burn marks, or a definite indication of mal-nutrition, and then maybe I'll get excited.

 

 

Pervert.

[Hurricane Ditka 0]

In fairness, none of you have any idea what's going on in that house. You're all making assumptions based on Ditka's story. The thing I would be most concerned about is the fact that the parents don't seem to know where they are all day.

 

Of course, from the time I was 5, I was out in the neighborhood all day, every day unsupervised. We all were, and nobody thought anything of it. Times have changed, but maybe these parents are ok with the 5 year old being looked after by the 11 year old.

 

Being dirty, having raggedy clothes, being bored, seeking friendship with kids who are better off, and sponging off neighbors for snacks may be cause for concern, but some of you are over reacting here.

 

I wouldn't want my kids behaving that way, but the parents in question have an entirely different set of circumstances than me or you.

 

Show me a black eye, bruises, burn marks, or a definite indication of mal-nutrition, and then maybe I'll get excited.

 

Based on the evidence at hand, I suggest revisiting that conversation with the parents. And this time, either bring your gonads, or bring your wife.

 

This is prob the most accurate description of what is going on. I don't see any physical abuse, the kids just look sad all the friggin time.

 

Today I stopped at these peoples house because I saw the dad outside. I told him that his daughter is welcome to come and play with my kids, but his 11 year old boy has no business playing at my house with a bunch of little girls. If the daughter wanted to play, they need to call us and make arrangements first.

 

I told him if they just keep showing up, sitting on my porch when I am not home, etc. It won't be me stopping by.

 

He was kind of like, "yeah so what". So I told him listen to what I said and let it sink in.

[bostonlager 2,665]

This is prob the most accurate description of what is going on. I don't see any physical abuse, the kids just look sad all the friggin time.

 

Today I stopped at these peoples house because I saw the dad outside. I told him that his daughter is welcome to come and play with my kids, but his 11 year old boy has no business playing at my house with a bunch of little girls. If the daughter wanted to play, they need to call us and make arrangements first.

 

I told him if they just keep showing up, sitting on my porch when I am not home, etc. It won't be me stopping by.

 

He was kind of like, "yeah so what". So I told him listen to what I said and let it sink in.

 

 

Approx. what age are these parents?

[Hurricane Ditka 0]

Approx. what age are these parents?

I would guess 45 for the dad.

 

30s for the mom.

[Toro 1]

I would guess 45 for the dad.

 

30s for the mom.

 

I would sever ties completely. You daughter will have enough friends without having to deal with that kind of sh*t. It's fine now when she is 5. All kids are sweet and adorable at 5. But what happens when your daughter is 15 and still friends with the white trash one. Guess who will be the one trying to get the other one to smoke some weed or suck a c*ck.

 

It's tough that the other little girl needs attention, but in this situation, your own family comes first.

[Hurricane Ditka 0]

I would sever ties completely. You daughter will have enough friends without having to deal with that kind of sh*t. It's fine now when she is 5. All kids are sweet and adorable at 5. But what happens when your daughter is 15 and still friends with the white trash one. Guess who will be the one trying to get the other one to smoke some weed or suck a c*ck.

 

It's tough that the other little girl needs attention, but in this situation, your own family comes first.

My suggestion was just a gesture.

[D_House 0]

Pervert.

[Toro 1]

My suggestion was just a gesture.

 

Then CARRY ON!!!