My in-laws family dog died...

[killersquids 3]

34 DD

 

I don't know why I'm posting this here...maybe one good suggestion will come of it. My in-laws family dog of 14 years died yesterday. He was a great dog and the entire family, including my wife, is pretty torn up about it. He basically died of old age.

 

Now, I want to go out with the fellas on saturday night, but I know my wife will want me to stay home and comfort her. While I can appreciate that, I really want to go out. I'm going to see how tonight and tomorrow morning goes and then approach her accordingly. It could very well end up with her crying (she rarely cries) and it would be hard for me to leave if the water works started.

 

Oh well....fingers crossed.

[Siouxsie 1]

34 DD

 

I don't know why I'm posting this here...maybe one good suggestion will come of it. My in-laws family dog of 14 years died yesterday. He was a great dog and the entire family, including my wife, is pretty torn up about it. He basically died of old age.

 

Now, I want to go out with the fellas on saturday night, but I know my wife will want me to stay home and comfort her. While I can appreciate that, I really want to go out. I'm going to see how tonight and tomorrow morning goes and then approach her accordingly. It could very well end up with her crying (she rarely cries) and it would be hard for me to leave if the water works started.

 

Oh well....fingers crossed.

 

 

 

 

stay at home with her .. it's the right thing to do

 

she'll really appreciate it

plus it'll come back to you many times over

 

just imagine it's your dog

 

i miss my bagel soooo much - i mean at least he's not dead

 

be a man / do the right thing .. one night out is no biggie

[Let Da Big Dog Eat 40]

If she wants you home, stay home. Don't be a doosh!

[pimptastic69 0]

34 DD

 

I don't know why I'm posting this here...maybe one good suggestion will come of it. My in-laws family dog of 14 years died yesterday. He was a great dog and the entire family, including my wife, is pretty torn up about it. He basically died of old age.

 

Now, I want to go out with the fellas on saturday night, but I know my wife will want me to stay home and comfort her. While I can appreciate that, I really want to go out. I'm going to see how tonight and tomorrow morning goes and then approach her accordingly. It could very well end up with her crying (she rarely cries) and it would be hard for me to leave if the water works started.

 

Oh well....fingers crossed.

 

For some people, the grieving process requires you to stay at home and hide under the covers, and some need to grieve at the bar.

 

Just say some chit like that. She's going to cry no matter what.

[Cdub100 3,909]

It's a focking dog.

 

hth

[DAVID RUFFIN 2]

It's a focking dog.

 

hth

 

 

Such class

[kutulu 1,676]

buy them a puppy and then go out.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

or stay home.

[Cdub100 3,909]

Such class

 

I'm tired of the puzzies here in america treating dogs like they are children. It's a focking dog. That's it. It's okay to feel a little sad, but to lose a whole weekend because of a dog please. Tell her to put on her big girl panties and deal with it.

[Brown Eyed Girl 1]

I'm tired of the puzzies here in america treating dogs like they are children. It's a focking dog. That's it. It's okay to feel a little sad, but to lose a whole weekend because of a dog please. Tell her to put on her big girl panties and deal with it.

 

I hate to sound cold hearted, but I have to say that I agree somewhat with cdub here.

 

Certainly natural to feel sad over losing the family dog, but to grieve as though it were a human being and have it interfere with and keep you from going about your life... that's taking it a bit far.

 

jmo

[Ravens 03 0]

If she wants you home, stay home. Don't be a doosh!

 

If you want to go out, I can 'comfort' her!

[killersquids 3]

If you want to go out, I can 'comfort' her!

 

 

It took this long for a post like this...........maybe this board is maturing?

 

 

I'm thinking at this point I will just ask her if she wants me to stay home with her tomorrow.

[remote controller 143]

34 DD

 

[wiffleball 4,790]

"Come on Honey, all my friends are dogging me - err - I mean...."

[Cdub100 3,909]

I hate to sound cold hearted, but I have to say that I agree somewhat with cdub here.

 

Certainly natural to feel sad over losing the family dog, but to grieve as though it were a human being and have it interfere with and keep you from going about your life... that's taking it a bit far.

 

jmo

 

You put it in much nicer terms then I did.

[joeshushu 51]

I had a friend in an old apartment complex have a rabbit die. She cried on her balcony for three days. We had a funeral for the thing. I bought a card with a cute rabbit on the cover and told her it was "Harry" in heaven. Some people are really into their animals. My daddy hated all animals dogs, cats, etc. He said why in the hell would anyone want something sh!ting and p!ssing all over the house. So I never had a dog or pet.

[Groundhog 24]

Look at it this way. If this is a regular weekend like any other, then what's the difference if you instead go out with the buddies next weekend?

 

On the flipside, if you do go out this weekend, she will preserve and recount the time when her dog died and you decided to go out with the buddies. Prolly for the next 6 months, she will bring this into the conversation when she's pissed at you, even if it has nothing to do with the conversation.

 

If instead you stay there to "comfort" her, you score huge brownie points for not going out with the buddies (as long as she knows you're passing that up). So basically, cost-benefit wise, this is a no-brainer. It's one focking weekend, stay home with the little lady.

[Let Da Big Dog Eat 40]

Look at it this way. If this is a regular weekend like any other, then what's the difference if you instead go out with the buddies next weekend?

 

On the flipside, if you do go out this weekend, she will preserve and recount the time when her dog died and you decided to go out with the buddies. Prolly for the next 6 months, she will bring this into the conversation when she's pissed at you, even if it has nothing to do with the conversation.

 

If instead you stay there to "comfort" her, you score huge brownie points for not going out with the buddies (as long as she knows you're passing that up). So basically, cost-benefit wise, this is a no-brainer. It's one focking weekend, stay home with the little lady.

 

Well said, except she will remember it not for 6 mths but, forever. If you ask her and even if she says yes, don't go (I think you should ask her and not go). You will score points for years!

 

Also, I agree completely with the buy them a puppy thing. But wait a week. Ask her parents to dinner, tell your wife that "it will be good for them to get out." Have to work late, "unexpectedly" and show up with the pup. Guaranteed BJ and her parents will love you to death. She can never have a bad word about you to them again.

 

If you really want to be sappy about it (in a good way), attach a homemade card to the pup's collar that says, "I know I am not xxxxxx. But, I can guarantee you that I will be very playful, always underfoot, sometimes a total pain in the ass and love you unequivocally. My heart and love is yours. Do you have room in your heart for me." Get ready for the waterworks when you hand the pup to the MIL.

[Lionsjunkie 1]

It's a focking dog.

 

hth

 

I love my two shar-peis more than alot of people.....I would be far more torn up if they were to pass than a whole lot of co-workers, acquaintances, strangers etc.

[swirvenirvin 25]

It's a focking dog.

 

hth

 

agreed whats the big deal

[Quickolas1 80]

"I think Ruffy would have wanted us to move on with our lives and accept him for who he was and not lose the short time we have on this earth grieving, but instead cherishing his moments and our time together....

 

....gotta run, it's two-for-one specials tonight."

[RLLD 4,230]

When my wifes dog died, I took her out and bought her a new one. She wasn't into it at first, clamined nothing could replaced buggles...etc etc

 

But she was such a whiner after the thing died that I felt like I HAD to do something, so I get her in the car and drove her to the pet store, scored a nice little mutt and she was so happy....I think it just touched her heart y'now

 

Then, when her dad died, it was back to the same stuff, so I put her in the car and took her to the old folks home....

[BiPolarBear 485]

When my wifes dog died, I took her out and bought her a new one. She wasn't into it at first, clamined nothing could replaced buggles...etc etc

 

But she was such a whiner after the thing died that I felt like I HAD to do something, so I get her in the car and drove her to the pet store, scored a nice little mutt and she was so happy....I think it just touched her heart y'now

 

Then, when her dad died, it was back to the same stuff, so I put her in the car and took her to the old folks home....

 

Nice set-up.

[killersquids 3]

Here's the update you've all been waiting for! On Saturday morning, my wife got an unexpected call from her family saying they were burying the dog that morning (he was actually cremated). She was about to leave without me, but I stopped her and told her I was coming with her (her parents live about 30 minutes away). Long story short, I scored major points with her and her family. I told her that afternoon about my plans and that if she wanted me to stay home, I would. When it was about an hour before I would leave, I asked her and she said she wanted me to stay but if I really wanted to go, then she would be cool with it....................

 

 

I told her I would stay home with her. She was very happy and I definately scored points. I don't regret the decision in the least as there will be many other weekends with the boys (like this saturday)!!!

 

Thanks for all the replies and my advice to all married men out there, stay home with the wife if in doubt.

[jets24 6]

Here's the update you've all been waiting for! On Saturday morning, my wife got an unexpected call from her family saying they were burying the dog that morning (he was actually cremated). She was about to leave without me, but I stopped her and told her I was coming with her (her parents live about 30 minutes away). Long story short, I scored major points with her and her family. I told her that afternoon about my plans and that if she wanted me to stay home, I would. When it was about an hour before I would leave, I asked her and she said she wanted me to stay but if I really wanted to go, then she would be cool with it....................

I told her I would stay home with her. She was very happy and I definately scored points. I don't regret the decision in the least as there will be many other weekends with the boys (like this saturday)!!!

 

Thanks for all the replies and my advice to all married men out there, stay home with the wife if in doubt.

 

 

Good man. You are obviously still a rookie in this area. The biggest mistake you made(and others married for a long time will agree) was even asking her if it was ok to go out. You already knew the answer. You should have just kept your mouth shut and stayed home. When she says.."honey, didn't you have plans tonight?" You would reply.."I did but I figured you may need some shoulder to cry on" You would have scored even more points. Believe me, the fact that you had to ask the question here shows that you already knew the answer. The key is to know that and make it work for you. Either way, good job. I give you an 8-1/2.

[RLLD 4,230]

Nice set-up.

 

Thanks....BANG!....VEAL!!!

[heavy-set 39]

34 DD

 

I don't know why I'm posting this here.... My in-laws family dog of 14 years died yesterday. He was a great dog and the entire family, including my wife, is pretty torn up about it. He basically died of old age.

 

Now, I want to go out with the fellas on saturday night, but I know my wife will want me to stay home and comfort her. While I can appreciate that, I really want to go out. I'm going to see how tonight and tomorrow morning goes and then approach her accordingly. It could very well end up with her crying (she rarely cries) and it would be hard for me to leave if the water works started.

 

Oh well....fingers crossed.

 

let me help you,

 

your mind is already made up, you are just looking for 1 of us to justify your actions.

 

 

i crakced up at, "Now, I want to go out with the fellas"

 

 

stay home, you can thank me later

[jets24 6]

let me help you,

 

your mind is already made up, you are just looking for 1 of us to justify your actions.

i crakced up at, "Now, I want to go out with the fellas"

stay home, you can thank me later

 

 

Way to read the entire thread heavy-set.

 

 

itsover

[killersquids 3]

Good man. You are obviously still a rookie in this area. The biggest mistake you made(and others married for a long time will agree) was even asking her if it was ok to go out. You already knew the answer. You should have just kept your mouth shut and stayed home. When she says.."honey, didn't you have plans tonight?" You would reply.."I did but I figured you may need some shoulder to cry on" You would have scored even more points. Believe me, the fact that you had to ask the question here shows that you already knew the answer. The key is to know that and make it work for you. Either way, good job. I give you an 8-1/2.

 

 

Actually I think it turned out better this way b/c she wouldn't have known I had plans otherwise. I could have told her I had plans but I wanted to stay home with her instead of asking her but I'm still happy with the way things turned out.

[heavy-set 39]

Way to read the entire thread heavy-set.

itsover

i dont read threads, I pontificate.

[jets24 6]

i dont read threads, I pontificate.

 

 

Thought I smelled something. Open a window or something.

[heavy-set 39]

iaam sorry heavy

 

thats better

[jets24 6]

I can't spell

 

 

[Cdub100 3,909]

they were burying the dog that morning (he was actually cremated).

OMG You have got to be sh1tting me? No way they did that? You might want to consider your wife and her family is crazy.

[SUXBNME 1,503]

OMG You have got to be sh1tting me? No way they did that? You might want to consider your wife and her family is crazy.

Did they mention that it was a white dog and not a black one?

 

Does your opinion differ now?

[Rattlesnake 0]

I'm tired of the puzzies here in america treating dogs like they are children. It's a focking dog. That's it. It's okay to feel a little sad, but to lose a whole weekend because of a dog please. Tell her to put on her big girl panties and deal with it.

 

I agree. I don't think I'd use the big girl panties line............but it's a dog. Ok to be sad that day........or if it gets killed at night, the next day.........but days 2 and 3, things should be coming back together, I'd think. If not, if a person was actually THAT attached to an animal, they have much deeper emotional issues going on. LOL

[Cdub100 3,909]

Did they mention that it was a white dog and not a black one?

 

Does your opinion differ now?

I mean come on. We're talking about grown people here. You know, I could kind of understand if it was a kid, but wow. Did they think it was going to live forever? Like I said, it's okay to be a little sad, but these people are fruity

[Riddlen 1]

Did they mention that it was a white dog and not a black one?

 

Does your opinion differ now?

 

i agree with cdub though

[SUXBNME 1,503]

 

i agree with cdub though

Racist

[swirvenirvin 25]

OMG You have got to be sh1tting me? No way they did that? You might want to consider your wife and her family is crazy.

 

 

Agreed talk about focking mentally unstable

[phillybear 366]

You forgot to tell us how you killed the stupid dog.

 

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