online dating

[Gepetto 1,288]

So, a girl responds to each message sent, but it's short and sweet. 

 

Guy: Hi, that's a cute photo of you and your pup! How are you?

Girl: Aww  thank you

Girl: I'm good thanks

 

Guy: Hi "You", comment about something from her profile and a light short joke.

        Mention about interesting fun things he did over the weekend followed by a question, did you do anything fun?

       Look forward to talking to you.

      Have a good night!

       - Guy

Dating site shows that she viewed his profile for the first time.

Girl: Nice to meet you

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I don't even know how to talk to someone like this. She doesn't say anything to further the conversation. 

I think either she's terrible at online dating or he is.

How would you respond to her saying: "Nice to meet you"?  Or would you not respond at all?

Do you think she's interested? or just being polite?

I thought if they weren't interested they don't respond at all.

[MTSkiBum 1,620]

I have not kept up in this, but it could be a fake account?

Are you using a reputable pay site like match or eharmony? 

I would imagine the fake accounts are more prevalent on the free sites.

 

My wife and I are celebrating our 10th anniversary in less than a month and we met on March. Online dating is the way to go.

[BeenHereBefore 1,453]

Guy - Your pic is sexy,

Girl - Thanks

Guy- Want to meet somewhere ?

Girl - Sorry I have to go now

[Ultra Max Power 214]

Id say its about 50/50 if she is being polite and not interested or just a bit awkward. 

Some girls just can't hold conversations and its only getting worse with the younger generations.  They are so used to be entertained by technology that they are forgetting how to engage with people properly.   

[Gepetto 1,288]

7 minutes ago, MTSkiBum said:

I have not kept up in this, but it could be a fake account?

Are you using a reputable pay site like match or eharmony? 

I would imagine the fake accounts are more prevalent on the free sites.

 

My wife and I are celebrating our 10th anniversary in less than a month and we met on March. Online dating is the way to go.

It's a free site.  POF

[Gepetto 1,288]

2 minutes ago, Ultra Max Power said:

Id say its about 50/50 if she is being polite and not interested or just a bit awkward. 

Some girls just can't hold conversations and its only getting worse with the younger generations.  They are so used to be entertained by technology that they are forgetting how to engage with people properly.   

She's 37. In her profile under conversation starters she wrote that she doesn't know what to put here and she thinks that in itself says a lot.

[Ultra Max Power 214]

Just now, Gepetto said:

She's 37. In her profile under conversation starters she wrote that she doesn't know what to put her and she thinks that in itself says a lot.

ok, yeah shes just a bit socially awkward then.  37, cute and single... its got to be the personality.  

[BeenHereBefore 1,453]

2 minutes ago, Gepetto said:

She's 37. In her profile under conversation starters she wrote that she doesn't know what to put here and she thinks that in itself says a lot.

Run Forrest!!!!!!

[Gepetto 1,288]

4 minutes ago, Ultra Max Power said:

ok, yeah shes just a bit socially awkward then.  37, cute and single... its got to be the personality.  

OK, thanks for your perspective. Her longest relationship is 2 years and she doesn't drink. She's thin and very pretty. Never married. No kids. I won't give up on her then.

[IGotWorms 4,057]

I met my fiancée on Bumble. I would suggest that one and Hinge. POF was pretty bad but that might also just be my area…

Also it’s been a couple years now so there’s probably new ones I don’t know about

[MTSkiBum 1,620]

22 minutes ago, Gepetto said:

It's a free site.  POF

 

I think it would be better to pay for a site. 

[Gepetto 1,288]

I have Bumble, can't find anyone on there, except a co-worker I like, but I don't swipe left or right on her and she never swipes either way on mine either. POF is pretty bad except this girl as an exception. If she's real, she looks to be a quality prospect. Not sure why a fake profile would go so far as to send three emails. I think if it's a fake profile created by the dating site itself, it would just exist but never respond.

[Gepetto 1,288]

2 minutes ago, MTSkiBum said:

 

I think it would be better to pay for a site. 

I've looked at match in my area and there's only maybe one girl that I would be interested in on there.

[MTSkiBum 1,620]

2 minutes ago, Gepetto said:

I've looked at match in my area and there's only maybe one girl that I would be interested in on there.

But you live in a metro area with 500k people?  I do not understand why there are so few matches.

[BeenHereBefore 1,453]

3 minutes ago, MTSkiBum said:

But you live in a metro area with 500k people?  I do not understand why there are so few matches.

He's a Republican.

[Pimpadeaux 2,404]

You had me at "Hi."

[Gepetto 1,288]

17 minutes ago, MTSkiBum said:

But you live in a metro area with 500k people?  I do not understand why there are so few matches.

yes. I filter out anyone with kid(s).

[Ultra Max Power 214]

6 minutes ago, Gepetto said:

yes. I filter out anyone with kid(s).

What age range are you looking at?  

[Gepetto 1,288]

Just now, Ultra Max Power said:

What age range are you looking at?  

37 to 49. 

I'm 49.

[WhiteWonder 2,675]

no offense intended, but I thought you were the socially awkward one? I feel like i've seen dating threads from you before. Maybe I am confusing you with someone else. Are you sure you're not coming on overly strong / enthusiastic? It might come off as desperate rather than the intention of getting the convo going..... just a thought.

also how would you know if your coworker ever swipes yes or no on you if you never swipe yes on her? I've used bumble in the past and I could see how many "likes" I had but I had to swipe no on someone and see a like disappear in order to know.... been a while since using it though

 

 

 

 

 

[Gepetto 1,288]

2 minutes ago, WhiteWonder said:

no offense intended, but I thought you were the socially awkward one? I feel like i've seen dating threads from you before. Maybe I am confusing you with someone else. Are you sure you're not coming on overly strong / enthusiastic? It might come off as desperate rather than the intention of getting the convo going..... just a thought.

also how would you know if your coworker ever swipes yes or no on you if you never swipe yes on her? I've used bumble in the past and I could see how many "likes" I had but I had to swipe no on someone and see a like disappear in order to know.... been a while since using it though

 

 

 

 

 

Yea, I guess I've found my way socially. I've had a few girlfriends over the last few years and friends and co-workers think I'm hilarious when I joke around, which is every day.

[Mookz 1,337]

Rule of thumb on POF is if you're attracted to her, it's a fake profile. 

[Gepetto 1,288]

52 minutes ago, WhiteWonder said:

no offense intended, but I thought you were the socially awkward one? I feel like i've seen dating threads from you before. Maybe I am confusing you with someone else. Are you sure you're not coming on overly strong / enthusiastic? It might come off as desperate rather than the intention of getting the convo going..... just a thought.

also how would you know if your coworker ever swipes yes or no on you if you never swipe yes on her? I've used bumble in the past and I could see how many "likes" I had but I had to swipe no on someone and see a like disappear in order to know.... been a while since using it though

 

 

 

 

 

As far as Bumble, I just leave the site or filter out her age when she pops up on there. If she swiped left on me, she would no longer be a choice for me. If she swiped right on me then she would show up as a blurry image in my "beeline" or likes section or whatever it is. I clear that out by clicking no on them all the time. Only matched with 2 women over the last year. One didn't go anywhere on Bumble, the other I met once is all.

[Gepetto 1,288]

3 minutes ago, Mookz said:

Rule of thumb on POF is if you're attracted to her, it's a fake profile. 

I don't think it is though. Before I contacted her I think I remember her adding a new photo. I wouldn't think a fake would be active like that. It also shows 3 photos of her, not just one. Maybe a fake, I don't know what a faker would be accomplishing, in this instance, if it's fake though.

[WhiteWonder 2,675]

Just now, Gepetto said:

As far as Bumble, I just leave the site or filter out her age when she pops up on there. If she swiped left on me, she would no longer be a choice for me. If she swiped right on me then she would show up as a blurry image in my "beeline" or likes section or whatever it is. I clear that out by clicking no on then all the time. Only matched with 2 women over the last year. One didn't go anywhere on Bumble, the other I met once is all.

Are you sure if someone swipes left on you they no longer show up? Didn't think that was the case. Yes, if they swipe right, they show up as a blurry photo in your likes section but how would you be able to tell? From what I remember its so blurred they look like blobs. 

I remember having a few ex's or flings who swiped right on me and I knew because as soon as I swiped left on them, my "likes" count went down by 1. But thats the only info I could ever detect. 

[WhiteWonder 2,675]

1 minute ago, Gepetto said:

I don't think it is though. Before I contacted her I think I remember her adding a new photo. I wouldn't think a fake would be active like that. It also shows 3 photos of her, not just one. Maybe a fake, I don't know what a faker would be accomplishing, in this instance, if it's fake though.

Any links to social media? Often, fake accounts are just to get instagram followers or to lead you to instagram which will lead to onlyfans, etc. 

[Gepetto 1,288]

43 minutes ago, WhiteWonder said:

Are you sure if someone swipes left on you they no longer show up? Didn't think that was the case. Yes, if they swipe right, they show up as a blurry photo in your likes section but how would you be able to tell? From what I remember its so blurred they look like blobs. 

I remember having a few ex's or flings who swiped right on me and I knew because as soon as I swiped left on them, my "likes" count went down by 1. But thats the only info I could ever detect. 

Yea, I've gotten pretty good at comparing the colors and shapes of the blurs to the profiles I've come across. I've got all the likes/blurs cleared out now.

I'm pretty sure profiles disappear when they swipe left on me as I've seen it happen. They reappear sometimes about 6 months later; some appear again sooner but I think those aren't swiping left but just hiding and unhiding their profiles a lot.

[Gepetto 1,288]

4 minutes ago, WhiteWonder said:

Any links to social media? Often, fake accounts are just to get instagram followers or to lead you to instagram which will lead to onlyfans, etc. 

No. And I tried google searching her pictures to see if the photos are just pulled from the internet in creating a fake profile, and google found no source for her photos.

She seems like a real genuine conservative girl that doesn't probably go on social media or at least doesn't promote it, she wears minimal makeup as well. No tattoos.

[WhiteWonder 2,675]

Just now, Gepetto said:

Yea, I've gotten pretty good at comparing the colors and shapes of the blurs to the profiles I've come across. I've got all the likes/blurs cleared out now. I'm pretty sure they disapper when they swipe left on me as I've seen it happen. They reappear sometimes about 6 months later; some appear again sooner but I think those aren't swiping left but just hiding and unhiding their profiles a lot.

idk, maybe. never put much thought into it. I do know that my friend told me you can no longer choose a lot of filters like you could before without paying. For example, can't filter by someone who is looking for relationship versus casual, etc.

[Pimpadeaux 2,404]

Just get an escort. 

[BeenHereBefore 1,453]

The puppy is you're in to talk more to her. Bring up the puppy to start another conversation to see if she's real or not.

[Gepetto 1,288]

1 minute ago, WhiteWonder said:

idk, maybe. never put much thought into it. I do know that my friend told me you can no longer choose a lot of filters like you could before without paying. For example, can't filter by someone who is looking for relationship versus casual, etc.

After age filter and gender filter, there are two more filters you can choose for any criteria, free of charge. I don't use any of those bonus filters. It doesn't work to filter by what they're looking for because there are like 5 choices and you can only filter to one of them, not filter partial lists.  So you can only choose one. So for the advanced filter: Lookin For: choices are 1) no preference 2) relationship 3) something casual 4) Don't know yet 5) Marriage

Other free filters to choose from are: 

religion

exercise

education level

kids

drinking

smoking

politics

Star sign

[Gepetto 1,288]

1 minute ago, BeenHereBefore said:

The puppy is you're in to talk more to her. Bring up the puppy to start another conversation to see if she's real or not.

Good idea!

[Ultra Max Power 214]

19 minutes ago, Gepetto said:

37 to 49. 

I'm 49.

Yeah, that's really limiting your pool of matches.  I know a couple girls in their early 40s who had kids young (already out of the house), a failed marriage, and are still pretty good looking.  The kids really aren't part of their day to day life at that point. 

Turn off the no kid filter and start navigating those matches, Lots of untapped potential there.  

[RaiderHaters Revenge 4,236]

im a pro, if a girl doesn't engage after you send something about her specific profile (good job bro) don't waste your time

it will likely be filled with the following

WYD, cool, anything fun planned for the weekend?, How was your day?  you will never get an actual conversation

 

[RaiderHaters Revenge 4,236]

also if you want quality, Hinge imo is where its at, people are selective there and more likely to engage.  Engagement in conversation after match is well over 50% where most other sites is around 20%

 

[Gepetto 1,288]

2 minutes ago, RaiderHaters Revenge said:

also if you want quality, Hinge imo is where its at, people are selective there and more likely to engage.  Engagement in conversation after match is well over 50% where most other sites is around 20%

 

thanks, really appreciate your advice

[IGotWorms 4,057]

Real talk: you’re too picky.

You should be swiping for any woman that even remotely attracts you. Could be anything about her — something in her profile, or something about one of her pics — whatever the case may be. Give her a chance and see if you can grow on whatever that initial attraction is.

Set your range to include women at least a couple years older than you. And you need to include women with children. Most of them are going to be divorcees with children, that’s just life at your age.

Not trying to be rude or anything, but you gotta be more open and not looking for faults or reasons to exclude anyone. Maybe when you were in your 20s or 30s but not now. And that’s perfectly okay, I think you’ll find if you give more women a chance some of them will pleasantly surprise you

[BunnysBastatrds 2,310]

2 hours ago, Gepetto said:

It's a free site.  POF

 IT’s how I met my new wifey five years ago. We fell in love at first site. But be careful with free sites.

[MTSkiBum 1,620]

8 hours ago, Gepetto said:

yes. I filter out anyone with kid(s).

I think that is a mistake, unless you hate kids.

That really limits the dating pool once you hit a certain age.