This is a pretty good post. I've never been "attracted to diicks" myself, but I agree about the ill effects of placing someone on a pedestal.
If I feel a guy needs me to convince him to date me though, it makes me uncomfortable. It doesn't feel natural and it's not alluring. He can't be on one either. With my intern boss some have used the phrasing that I had him on a pedestal (recognized how good looking he was, etc) but I never ever felt like I needed to earn his approval. Yeah I admired certain things about him but it was obvious that if I was open to more with him, that's all it would take. I wish I had a better example than that, but it's the only pedestal relevant dynamic I can think of. The last guy I dated actually did have me on one, yet I believed in him from a compassionate standpoint so instead of being turned off by his insecurities, I just wanted to see him grow out of them. We had a ton of raw physical attraction though so maybe it overcame stuff that would otherwise matter.
It's not so much that a guy should literally tell a girl to impress him, or even go out of his way to make her feel that way. But the "impress me" mindset is kind of a shortcut to how a guy needs to feel in order to be confident.
The key thing to know is hot girls get a ton of attention. As a result, they usually have 5 guys kissing their ass at any given time. And they know that there will be 5 more next week.
But those aren't the guys they will want. Why? Because it's the same "you're so pretty" that they've heard 4 times that week already. It's boring.
Instead they will be attracted to the rare guy that appears to have 5 girls vying for his attention at any given time, and will have 5 more the week after. As this guy is on her level and in many cases even higher.
How do you come off as that guy? It's a bit tricky. As you do have to face the facts and realize she likely won't ever see your profile unless you send the first message. But you have to seem confident, fun, and not too worried about whether or not she responds. That in itself is somewhat fresh to a girl that gets her ass kissed daily.
A super simple method: Instead of reading her profile like a dude with a crush, imagine Naomi or Old Maid had the guts to post their dating profile here in a thread. Read that profile like we all would: looking for stupid stuff they wrote so that we could kick them in the balls in that thread....then once you latch on to something dumb in their profile (trust me. The girl wrote something you can make fun of) send a message playfully making fun of them. Done. It's unique enough that if you ever had a chance, they'll likely respond.