10 things I try to find out from guys on a 1st date

[sawilson 1]

Its about manners. You have no idea what is budget is. Didn't your mother / older sisters teach you anything?

What I was saying was "Why would it matter to me what he thought I should order" without the price factor included. You said in another post that your question to him about what he was going to order was indicitive of the amount he wants to spend, not your question about what you should order.

 

And yes, I have manners thank you very much. Like BEG says, when I got out on a date, the last thing I would do regardless is order the most expensive thing on the menu, especially if its the first date.

 

 

I don't think Saw was indicating that she didn't care what he could or couldn't afford... I'm pretty sure she was referring to him not caring which food choice she made.

 

I personally wouldn't ask my date what I 'should' order either. If I had never been to the place before and he had, I would prolly ask him what he thinks is good here and what he would recommend, but asking him to pick something for me would just show that I'm indecisive and how the heck would he even know what I like or what I'm in the mood for?

Exactly!!

[jerryskids 6,790]

 

I think that he is willing to drop the $100 because he knows that she is easy.

If only he knew that by dropping a hunny, he is moving her from "sleaze" mode to "nice" mode and not going to get any.

[RLLD 4,230]

The female sense of entitlement is just too much to take most times.

[itsjjw 0]

 

I think that he is willing to drop the $100 because he knows that she is easy.

Actually that is a bad plan. The truth is that after eating any meal, I am too full and not in the mood for fooling around.

[davebg 0]

Actually that is a bad plan. The truth is that after eating any meal, I am too full and not in the mood for fooling around.

In that case, I'll be ordering for you.

 

Waiter, she'll have the side salad.

[DaWeffa 0]

Its about manners. You have no idea what is budget is. Didn't your mother / older sisters teach you anything?

 

 

Exactly, not that 'why should I care wht he thinks'.

 

you contradict (sp?) yourself

 

if he cant afford to take you out then he shouldnt be asking you out....

[tony hardware 0]

Why does it have to be 10? Why not 9 or 11? 9 is a square number.

[jerryskids 6,790]

I'm fascinated by itsjjw. Here is a woman who, by virtue of having slept with 100+ men, clearly has self-confidence issues. Yet she communicates like someone with extreme confidence. A fascinating conundrum.

 

Then I remember that she is Rusty.

[TheNewGirl 1,489]

Why does having slept with 100 + guys need to equal self-confidence issues? Can't a woman just like sex? Can't women have sex like men without being tied down to the person? Some men have sex with different women ALL the time, and they don't have self confidence issues.

[davebg 0]

Some men have sex with different women ALL the time, and they don't have self confidence issues.

And women go on and on about how those guys have "committment issues." So tit for tat.

[TheNewGirl 1,489]

And women go on and on about how those guys have "committment issues." So tit for tat.

 

 

 

 

And commitment issues aren't the same as self confidence issues.

[jerryskids 6,790]

Why does having slept with 100 + guys need to equal self-confidence issues? Can't a woman just like sex? Can't women have sex like men without being tied down to the person? Some men have sex with different women ALL the time, and they don't have self confidence issues.

Clearly you don't understand women.

[KSB2424 3,148]

Why does having slept with 100 + guys need to equal self-confidence issues? Can't a woman just like sex? Can't women have sex like men without being tied down to the person? Some men have sex with different women ALL the time, and they don't have self confidence issues.

 

Its the way of the world, strictly nature. The male species is to roam the world and pollenate every thing it can, and the female is to wait, be selective, and choose one mate to procreate with. It is just how the world works. We didn't make the rules.

[itsjjw 0]

Its the way of the world, strictly nature. The male species is to roam the world and pollenate every thing it can, and the female is to wait, be selective, and choose one mate to procreate with. It is just how the world works. We didn't make the rules.

And yet I am condemned ofr trying to have the best of both worlds: enjoying my sexuality and finding a decent mate?

 

you contradict (sp?) yourself

 

if he cant afford to take you out then he shouldnt be asking you out....

 

1 ) Its called 'common courtesy'. I wouldn't expect a man to understand that I guess.

 

2 ) Guys do not like gold diggers. Its important to set the impression early.

[TheNewGirl 1,489]

Clearly you don't understand women.

 

Oh I understand women. I had self confidence issues, but I didn't need to sleep with 100 guys to know that...and I dont' think that sleeping with XX number of people means that you have self confidence issues, either. Nor does it mean you have a lack of committment problem. Some people, men and women, just like sex, and if that means having sex with differnet people all the time, then so be it.

[itsjjw 0]

Oh I understand women. I had self confidence issues, but I didn't need to sleep with 100 guys to know that...and I dont' think that sleeping with XX number of people means that you have self confidence issues, either. Nor does it mean you have a lack of committment problem. Some people, men and women, just like sex, and if that means having sex with differnet people all the time, then so be it.

Jeez, its not like I sleep with someone different every night. I am talking about 4 measely out of control years partying in college. Its not like I am the only person that had a little too much fun in college.

[TheNewGirl 1,489]

Jeez, its not like I sleep with someone different every night. I am talking about 4 measely out of control years partying in college. Its not like I am the only person that had a little too much fun in college.

 

No, I didn't mean that YOU sleep with someone different every night...in general.

[Patriotsfatboy1 1,432]

2 ) Guys do not like gold diggers. Its important to fool them early.

 

Fixed

[De Novo 0]

Jeez, its not like I sleep with someone different every night. I am talking about 4 measely out of control years partying in college. Its not like I am the only person that had a little too much fun in college.

 

4 years * 52 weeks a year * 3 guys a week =

[itsjjw 0]

No, I didn't mean that YOU sleep with someone different every night...in general.

And I definitely wasn't targeting you with my answer. Its just that was the easiest way to reply to the 'tards in context. I am sorry if it came off that way.

 

Believe me, the number of guys that I've been with in 2006 is very limited.

 

4 years * 52 weeks a year * 3 guys a week =

4 year / 100 guys = 25 guys a year = 2 guys a month. Which is nothing.

[jerryskids 6,790]

Oh I understand women. I had self confidence issues, but I didn't need to sleep with 100 guys to know that...and I dont' think that sleeping with XX number of people means that you have self confidence issues, either. Nor does it mean you have a lack of committment problem. Some people, men and women, just like sex, and if that means having sex with differnet people all the time, then so be it.

You keep talking about "liking sex" and equating it to sleeping with 100+ guys. Those are not the same. A woman who sleeps with that many men most likely does not feel that she is good enough for a guy to want to stay with her. I know, because I was very good at finding such girls in college.

[KSB2424 3,148]

Believe me, the number of guys that I've been with in 2006 is very limited.

 

Well no sh!t, who the hell wants to fock a washed up, lying ho bag?

[itsjjw 0]

You keep talking about "liking sex" and equating it to sleeping with 100+ guys. Those are not the same. A woman who sleeps with that many men most likely does not feel that she is good enough for a guy to want to stay with her. I know, because I was very good at finding such girls in college.

No its because I happened to enjoy sex very much in college. Too many vodka shots will have a tendency to do that.

 

Bottom line bf's tend to take up too much time. Not enough time for studying, not enough time for friends. It way easier just to hook up.

[jerryskids 6,790]

No its because I happened to enjoy sex very much in college. Too many vodka shots will have a tendency to do that.

So did you stop liking sex after college, or just turn into a CBF who no guy would sleep with anymore?

[itsjjw 0]

So did you stop liking sex after college, or just turn into a CBF who no guy would sleep with anymore?

 

No I was with a guy that I had a relationship with for the next two years afterwards. It was semi-serious and I honored that. Now except for some episodes of 'bad judgement' I have grown up a lot since then.

[davebg 0]

I have grown up a lot since then.

This thread would seem to indicate otherwise.

 

You are merely a more sophisticated slutbag.

[itsjjw 0]

This thread would seem to indicate otherwise.

 

You are merely a more sophisticated slutbag.

Who is dating a very nice guy with serious marrying potential.

[davebg 0]

Who is dating a very nice guy with serious marrying potential.

You had better hope he never finds his way to the Geek Club.

[donhaas 18]

No its because I happened to enjoy sex very much in college. Too many vodka shots will have a tendency to do that.

 

Bottom line bf's tend to take up too much time. Not enough time for studying, not enough time for friends. It way easier just to hook up.

 

Are you kidding?

Boyfriends take up as much time as you want them to. Especially in college

 

 

Try another rationale. This one doesn't work.

[sawilson 1]

You had better hope he never finds his way to the Geek Club.

Sorry, that was funny as shiot. Only because there have been times if I have thought the same thing "Good god I hope he never comes across fftoday"

[wiffleball 4,790]

I don't have any desire to read this whole thread, so if this has been posted (dozens of times) before, tough nougat. The original post is why I hate dates -with certain wimmen. I'm sorry, it's a date, not a job interview. The Best first dates are ones where we both have fun and enjoy each other's company - period. If I'm sitting there getting peppered with questions, it ain't fun - and it can't be fun for her either.

 

The purpose of a date is simple - have fun. If you have no fun, but the guy "passes" every single criterion, what's the point? And if you have some fun dates and it turns out there's something you don't like (he doesn't want kids, you do - whatever) - what's the downside? You've had some fun dates.

 

So wimmen, don't put us through a focking credit check & roarshack test if you expect / want us to call you again. Enjoy our company, have a few laughs (or don't) and over time you'll find out everything you want to know about us.

 

There is nothing that's a bigger turn-off to me than the "interview" date.

[itsjjw 0]

I don't have any desire to read this whole thread, so if this has been posted (dozens of times) before, tough nougat. The original post is why I hate dates -with certain wimmen. I'm sorry, it's a date, not a job interview. The Best first dates are ones where we both have fun and enjoy each other's company - period. If I'm sitting there getting peppered with questions, it ain't fun - and it can't be fun for her either.

 

The purpose of a date is simple - have fun. If you have no fun, but the guy "passes" every single criterion, what's the point? And if you have some fun dates and it turns out there's something you don't like (he doesn't want kids, you do - whatever) - what's the downside? You've had some fun dates.

 

So wimmen, don't put us through a focking credit check & roarshack test if you expect / want us to call you again. Enjoy our company, have a few laughs (or don't) and over time you'll find out everything you want to know about us.

 

There is nothing that's a bigger turn-off to me than the "interview" date.

I have plenty of friends to hang out and have fun with. I have no need for a date to do that with. Who needs you for that?

 

That's why you'll always be alone

[edjr 6,580]

Well no sh!t, who the hell wants to fock a washed up, lying ho bag?

 

80% of the people that post here

[jerryskids 6,790]

roarshack test

Is this to see if you can be on Welcome Back Kotter?

[davebg 0]

I have plenty of friends to hang out and have fun with. I have no need for a date to do that with. Who needs you for that?

Soooo... ...being able to hang out and have fun aren't things you're looking for in a husband. Oh yeah, your current relationship w/the nice guy who is serious marrying potential sounds like a focking dream.

You obviously have no focking clue whatsoever.  I suggest you just stick to focking random guys in the bathroom stall at the bar.

[Medicated 0]

I have plenty of friends to hang out and have fun with. I have no need for a date to do that with. Who needs you for that?

 

That's why you'll always be alone

 

 

If you ever want to be in a good relationship with someone, you're gonna need to be friends with that person.

 

You seem to see men as nothing more than an ATM and a pen!s. You are the analogue to men who see women as nothing more than a poosay and a trophy to show off to their friends.

[wiffleball 4,790]

I have plenty of friends to hang out and have fun with. I have no need for a date to do that with. Who needs you for that?

 

Read: Gold Digger desperately searching for her MRS Degree. Doesn't have any sense of self-worth until said MRS degree is attained.

 

That's why you'll always be alone

 

Read: That sense of desperation is why Itsjjw will always be alone - but searching desperately for male attention on the FFTGB.

 

 

 

fixed!

[itsjjw 0]

Soooo... ...being able to hang out and have fun aren't things you're looking for in a husband. Oh yeah, your current relationship w/the nice guy who is serious marrying potential sounds like a focking dream.

You obviously have no focking clue whatsoever.  I suggest you just stick to focking random guys in the bathroom stall at the bar.

 

 

Friends are for partying with and hanging around with until its time to settle down and have a family. After that its all about the kids. Other than Friday's out partying with the girls, hubby and kids are the only thing that there is going to be time for.

 

Why would I want a hubby that wants to hang out and get trashed to hang out and have fun with when I want a hubby that is more grown up and mature than to want to sit around party and get trashed????? I'd rather find a hubby that has a more adult lifestyle.

[davebg 0]

Friends are for partying with and hanging around with until its time to settle down and have a family. After that its all about the kids. Other than Friday's out partying with the girls, hubby and kids are the only thing that there is going to be time for.

 

Why would I want a hubby that wants to hang out and get trashed to hang out and have fun with when I want a hubby that is more grown up and mature than to want to sit around party and get trashed????? I'd rather find a hubby that has a more adult lifestyle.

You don't want a husband. You want a bank account and a glory hole to breed with.

 

I stand by my assessment that you have no focking clue.

[edjr 6,580]

whoarshack test?

 

right up her alley