ever get in a fight with the spouse but you were so smashed you

[TheNewGirl 1,491]

Oh wait, I'll get this in before CNG chimes in..... Haven't we already declared I'm alrighty on the soft side

 

Ok...now that I have that off my chest...Yes, never said he didn't need to straighten up. It's just something he will have to do on his own with or without me posting that.

 

Are you saying that MEPH is CNG?!

 

Seriously?

 

How can I hate Meph SOOOO focking much and be in love with one of his alter ego's at the same time?

 

Oh dear. I just might have an anyeurism.

[cmh6476 1,025]

hey at least i get to see my kids

[TheNewGirl 1,491]

hey at least i get to see my kids

 

 

Not if you're so smashed that you don't remember.

[stop talking cheerleader 0]

Are you saying that MEPH is CNG?!

 

Seriously?

 

How can I hate Meph SOOOO focking much and be in love with one of his alter ego's at the same time?

 

Oh dear. I just might have an anyeurism.

 

no, just saying CNG seems to always call me a fat cow so I would beat him/her/it to the punch line. I actually don't think they are the same.

[Mephisto 15]

hey at least i get to see my kids

 

Through focking beer goggles with drool running down your face. That must be a treat for them, no sh!t.

[TheNewGirl 1,491]

no, just saying CNG seems to always call me a fat cow so I would beat him/her/it to the punch line. I actually don't think they are the same.

 

 

Ah, okay.

 

Whew!!!

[Mephisto 15]

Ah, okay.

 

Whew!!!

 

Don't hate.

[TK0001 99]

hey at least i get to see my kids

 

You read all the helpful, caring comments made to you (and some not so caring), and you decide to say nothing in return.

 

This is nothing but another of your patented "cry for help then refuse to acknowledge you have a problem" threads.

 

Fock you.

[peenie 1,915]

haven't read any of the post, the title was enough for me to respond.

if my partner was smashed and got into a fight with me, he wouldn't be my partner for long.

just getting smashed is enough to make me want out of the relationship.

adults shouldn't get pissy drunk, imo.

[fricker66 93]

haven't read any of the post, the title was enough for me to respond.

if my partner was smashed and got into a fight with me, he wouldn't be my partner for long.

just getting smashed is enough to make me want out of the relationship.

adults shouldn't get pissy drunk, imo.

 

This is all well and good, but cmh is married with kids. That makes this situation a bit different from your break-up from the guy you went to the movies with and blew a few times.

[cmh6476 1,025]

plus, I wasn't all mad and stuff, I was happy drunk having a good time, when she instigated everything with me.

 

And it was only that night, her and the kids brought me lunch to the office today, so it isn't like this is a lingering thing.

 

She gets frustrated sometimes I think because I can go out and get loaded and have a good ol time while she doesnt get to let loose like that so much. Which was also part of my meltdown, how I explained how I can go to her dads and play cards and stuff and then she goes to school and works and gets the kids where they need to go and has a ton of stuff on her plate right now.

 

Which she didn't even like hearing, because she knows I put in just as much effort, but if she wants to hammer on me I might as well pour on too, right? That was part of my pity party, life sucks I'm just a worthless bum, blah blah blah.

 

 

But, we're cool now

[Mephisto 15]

plus, I wasn't all mad and stuff, I was happy drunk having a good time, when she instigated everything with me.

 

And it was only that night, her and the kids brought me lunch to the office today, so it isn't like this is a lingering thing.

 

She gets frustrated sometimes I think because I can go out and get loaded and have a good ol time while she doesnt get to let loose like that so much. Which was also part of my meltdown, how I explained how I can go to her dads and play cards and stuff and then she goes to school and works and gets the kids where they need to go and has a ton of stuff on her plate right now.

 

Which she didn't even like hearing, because she knows I put in just as much effort, but if she wants to hammer on me I might as well pour on too, right? That was part of my pity party, life sucks I'm just a worthless bum, blah blah blah.

But, we're cool now

 

 

That's it. I quit this thread.

[TheNewGirl 1,491]

plus, I wasn't all mad and stuff, I was happy drunk having a good time, when she instigated everything with me.

 

And it was only that night, her and the kids brought me lunch to the office today, so it isn't like this is a lingering thing.

 

She gets frustrated sometimes I think because I can go out and get loaded and have a good ol time while she doesnt get to let loose like that so much. Which was also part of my meltdown, how I explained how I can go to her dads and play cards and stuff and then she goes to school and works and gets the kids where they need to go and has a ton of stuff on her plate right now.

 

Which she didn't even like hearing, because she knows I put in just as much effort, but if she wants to hammer on me I might as well pour on too, right? That was part of my pity party, life sucks I'm just a worthless bum, blah blah blah.

But, we're cool now

 

So, now it's HER fault you lit into her?

 

And, your secon paragraph sounds like she needs to go out and get loaded more than you do.

 

Seriously. What a great way to build up anger and resentment in your wife.

 

You're cool NOW...but what about the next time it happens? And I promise, it WILL happen again.

[peenie 1,915]

That makes this situation a bit different from your break-up from the guy you went to the movies with and blew a few times.

i don't do that.

oral sex happens after intercourse.

intercourse happens after courtship.

courtship does not equal the movies.

 

didn't know he was married.

well, in that case...maybe he's unhappy and the issues are deep.

he should reflect and see what is bothering him.

apoligize for the fight and try not to let it happen again.

if the drinking is a problem try AA.

[fricker66 93]

She gets frustrated sometimes I think because I can go out and get loaded and have a good ol time while she doesnt get to let loose like that so much. Which was also part of my meltdown, how I explained how I can go to her dads and play cards and stuff and then she goes to school and works and gets the kids where they need to go and has a ton of stuff on her plate right now.

 

This assessment is almost sickening. Your poor kids.

[cmh6476 1,025]

So, now it's HER fault you lit into her?

 

And, your secon paragraph sounds like she needs to go out and get loaded more than you do.

 

Seriously. What a great way to build up anger and resentment in your wife.

 

You're cool NOW...but what about the next time it happens? And I promise, it WILL happen again.

no it's not her fault, it was mine. But we weren't fighting until she got frustrated with me.

 

I dont even really remember what we were fighting about, but she could communicate with me a little more. Instead of just getting mad about it, IMO all she needs to do is say "hey chad could you help me do this" or "hey chad i kinda need some help with this"

 

But no, she just gets mad, and so I just get mad and then it ends up into something like that. And I wasn't laying into her, I just got tired of fighting and said fine just take me to a bar and drop me off. Instead she calls my mom and said she didnt know what to do, so then I really get pissed.

 

So then at my mom's I started talking to my mom and that's where all the stuff with my dad and brother get brought up and I feel like life sucks. So then the wife comes out and hears stuff she never thought I would say, and I make her feel like I don't value the life I have with her, which was bad.

 

Nothing is really all that bad here, we just need to communicate better, and I need to make some better choices. I was just caught up in the moment having a good time and went a little too far, but I can control that and make better choices in the future.

 

I thought you'd end up hammering me on how she does all this and that for the kids and I'm a no-good do-nothing SOB. Which isn't the case either, cause when she was going to work everyday at 6am I was getting up and taking the kids where they needed to go before work and stuff, now she just goes to work later so she does it. We both make sure our kids are taken care of first and foremost, basically I just have a communication issue. I need to communicate better with my wife on my feelings and the stuff I have going on in my head.

 

I just kinda like throwing all the problems I have in my life here cause it's kind of fun letting you all beat up on me a little bit, for whatever reason. if these are the biggest issues I have going on in my life, I think I'm doing ok...

[SigEp316 0]

Keep drinking...and introduce pills to your partying. At least I won't have to read anymore of your senseless KC sports drivel and it gives your wife a chance to move on and find a real man to take care of her and your kids.

 

Loser.

[cmh6476 1,025]

didn't know he was married.

well, in that case...maybe he's unhappy and the issues are deep.

he should reflect and see what is bothering him.

apoligize for the fight and try not to let it happen again.

if the drinking is a problem try AA.

what's bothering me? The only thing that is bothering me is that my brother and father are dead.

 

I did apologize for the fight, even though I didn't really remember what we were fighting about or what I had said. I scared her when I started devaluing life and what it actually means, but I think after I told her that I welcome death that I meant I think then I will be with all of my family, and not just a portion of it.

 

 

and AA is for quitters

[cmh6476 1,025]

Keep drinking...and introduce pills to your partying. At least I won't have to read anymore of your senseless KC sports drivel and it gives your wife a chance to move on and find a real man to take care of her and your kids.

 

Loser.

you dont have much room to talk, you invite friends over so they can oogle your wife.

 

[TheNewGirl 1,491]

and AA is for quitters

 

[Rusty Syringes 478]

I scared her when I started devaluing life and what it actually means,

 

In your case, devaluation of life began at conception.

[cmh6476 1,025]

In your case, devaluation of life began at conception.

no, the devaluation of life came when people I deeply loved and cared about were no longer part of it

[fricker66 93]

oogle

 

If you are going to attempt to use words, you should use the right word. The word is "ogle."

[Rusty Syringes 478]

no, the devaluation of life came when people I deeply loved and cared about were no longer part of it

 

Actually, it really came when the Dallas Texans franchise was relocated.

[Mungwater 597]

oral sex happens after intercourse.

 

I don't know if getting a facial is really considered "oral sex"

[fricker66 93]

no, the devaluation of life came when people I deeply loved and cared about were no longer part of it

 

Yeah -- it sucks, but your life goes on. You're feeling sorry for yourself and turning to alcohol to dull your self-pity. That's not smart.

[TheNewGirl 1,491]

no, the devaluation of life came when people I deeply loved and cared about were no longer part of it

 

 

The devaluation of life is happening to the people that are in your life now.

 

You are being selfish. You say that it's not affecting your marriage and your kids...yeah, right. You aren't valuing the life that you have with them now. Focusing on people who've passed on is a bit pointless. NOTHING you do will ever bring them back. It's just a fact of life and death.

[cmh6476 1,025]

Yeah -- it sucks, but your life goes on. You're feeling sorry for yourself and turning to alcohol to dull your self-pity. That's not smart.

but that's not really it. I was drinking and having fun, a labor day weekend cookout and volleyball activities. It's not until the wife got frustrated with me and drove to my mom's that all the stuff with my dad and brother even came up.

 

I didn't turn to alcohol because I was having a bad day. I'm still not really sure how everything happenned the way it did.

 

But I don't drink because I am feeling bad for myself or because I'm down and depressed or crap like that. I drink because I like to take a load off or I'm having a good time like at a cookout or a chiefs game. So while I may need to watch how much I consum, I'm not drinking for the wrong reasons.

[TheNewGirl 1,491]

I drink because I like to take a load off or I'm having a good time like at a cookout or a chiefs game. So while I may need to watch how much I consum, I'm not drinking for the wrong reasons.

 

Yeah, this makes a lot of sense.

 

If you need to take a load off, sit down and watch TV, read a book, go for a bike ride with your kids. That' woudl be much better for their memories of you than remembering you all shitfaced and pissed at their mom.

[cmh6476 1,025]

The devaluation of life is happening to the people that are in your life now.

 

You are being selfish. You say that it's not affecting your marriage and your kids...yeah, right. You aren't valuing the life that you have with them now. Focusing on people who've passed on is a bit pointless. NOTHING you do will ever bring them back. It's just a fact of life and death.

this statement isn't true, you can't say that not knowing how I interact with my children on a daily basis. My postings on an interweb don't give you the full picture of how I live my everyday life. In fact, I'm sure you're getting the worst possible picture of the entire situation, but that's how it usually goes when you talk about your life to a bunch of strangers. My kids are not suffering because of my actions, believe me.

[Rusty Syringes 478]

The devaluation of life is happening to the people that are in your life now.

 

You are being selfish. You say that it's not affecting your marriage and your kids...yeah, right. You aren't valuing the life that you have with them now. Focusing on people who've passed on is a bit pointless. NOTHING you do will ever bring them back. It's just a fact of life and death.

 

Further devalued by a psychological Hindenberg like you weighing in on his self-devaluement.

[TheNewGirl 1,491]

Further devalued by a psychological Hindenberg like you weighing in on his self-devaluement.

 

 

Huh?

[cmh6476 1,025]

Yeah, this makes a lot of sense.

 

If you need to take a load off, sit down and watch TV, read a book, go for a bike ride with your kids. That' woudl be much better for their memories of you than remembering you all shitfaced and pissed at their mom.

my kids don't see me that trashed and we really don't fight. We have a great relationship actually. I guess nobody else has disagreements or misunderstandings

[S.D. Jones 0]

The only family I need is at the Sanctuary.

[Rusty Syringes 478]

Huh?

 

It's like the dead leading the blind.

 

[SigEp316 0]

The only family I need is at the Sanctuary.

 

 

:hugmeat:

[AirRam 3]

Further devalued by a psychological Hindenberg like you weighing in on his self-devaluement.

 

 

Ah don't care who ya are dat's funny raght dere!

[TheNewGirl 1,491]

Ah don't care who ya are dat's funny raght dere!

 

Git 'er dun.

[jerryskids 6,797]

Nothing is really all that bad here, we just need to communicate better, and I need to make some better choices. I was just caught up in the moment having a good time and went a little too far, but I can control that and make better choices in the future.

This paragraph is a microcosm of this thread. Despite everything you've said, you think it really isn't that bad, even though you got into a shouting match about youdontevenreallyremember and your attempted resolution was to get dropped off at a bar. You completely lack the ability or willingness to empathize with your wife and what she was going through during this fight. Then you say you can control it in the future, which is a crock of shiot because you don't even acknowledge the problem so you won't try to control anything.

[TheNewGirl 1,491]

my kids don't see me that trashed and we really don't fight. We have a great relationship actually. I guess nobody else has disagreements or misunderstandings

 

 

Disagreements/misunderstandings vs. "ever get in a fight with the spouse but you were so smashed that you can't remember?"

 

Have I ever had disagreements/misunderstandings? Duh. Yes.

 

Have I ever gotten in a fight with the spouse but I/he was so smashed that we couldn't remember? No, can't say that I have.