ever get in a fight with the spouse but you were so smashed you

[parrot 789]

i told her to take me to a bar and drop me off but she refused

 

Bitch.

[TK0001 99]

i told her to take me to a bar and drop me off but she refused

 

Why?

 

I thought your wife didn't think your drinking was a problem.

[Rusty Syringes 478]

Take a man to a 4H show and buy him Cheetohs, and he's happy for a day. Teach a man to grow livestock for a 4H show and buy his own focking Cheetohs, and he's happy for life.

[TheNewGirl 1,494]

i told her to take me to a bar and drop me off but she refused

 

 

Are you focking serious?

 

Good. Focking. Lord.

[TK0001 99]

Are you focking serious?

 

Good. Focking. Lord.

 

It's almost as if he craves the attention.

[cmh6476 1,025]

Are you focking serious?

 

Good. Focking. Lord.

 

yeah I was drunk, its a good thing she didnt listen i was just mad

[TheNewGirl 1,494]

yeah I was drunk, its a good thing she didnt listen i was just mad

 

 

Yet drinking doesn't interfere in your marriage, family, etc.

 

[cmh6476 1,025]

Yet drinking doesn't interfere in your marriage, family, etc.

 

isolated occurrance

[mighty_thor 115]

but the deal is, it's really not that persistent. it's friday night playing cards at the FIL's, after the kids are put to bed. My wife doesn't talk about my drinking, because it's not an issue in the house. Seriously. I don't just grab a beer or two every night, it's like once a week and the kids aren't around.

 

But I guess I am going to hell if you all have anything to say about it at least.

 

It wouldn't be a problem if you had a beer or two every night. But getting DRUNK every week and being a dad is a problem. You know how sometimes you come home and are surprised by something your daughter says? You know why you are surprised? Because kids are more perceptive than we realize. They see and hear everything and it all has an effect.

 

"Mommy what's that strange noise coming from the bathroom?"

 

"Oh, thats just daddy puking his drunkin guts out again."

[SigEp316 0]

 

what a woman you are....

 

 

I'm not reading this whole train wreck, but from what I've gathered, you miss your Dad and brother....yet your on the same track as your brother. You're a selfish, ingnorant, pr!ck that hasn't learned from the death of a loved one. You have family that depends on you and you still wreck yourself and hurt them.

 

Do us and them a favor and chase your next binge with a bottle of oxi-contin. Loser.

[jerryskids 6,800]

It wouldn't be a problem if you had a beer or two every night.

I often have a glass or two of wine at night. I don't think it hurts kids to see responsible drinking. May actually help in some ways.

[stop talking cheerleader 0]

Yea, I'm not going to read this thread because everyone always tries to come off as relationship experts and act superior and flawless. None the less, we all screw up, get drunk at times, get too emotional and let our feelings get the best of us. I've met you and your wife, just remember what is important to you and remember you still have people in your life that love you.

 

I've gotten drunk and blacked out quite a few times in my life, and sometimes that leads to an emotional crying STC getting mad at the SO for no reason...and vice versa except for the crying thing. Venting is good, just work on venting in a healthy way and limit your drinking so you know when to stop before getting smashed. We all do stupid things, it doesn't reflect poorly on your character if you change yourself for the better and learn from your mistakes.

 

Take care of my boy this weekend

[TheNewGirl 1,494]

I don't have issues with kids seeing responsible drinking, either.

My FIL owns a winery...I don't have much choice there. LOL.

[TheNewGirl 1,494]

Yea, I'm not going to read this thread because everyone always tries to come off as relationship experts and act superior and flawless.

 

Since you didn't read the thread, many of the comments are nothing like this.

[stop talking cheerleader 0]

Since you didn't read the thread, many of the comments are nothing like this.

 

I read up to the second page when people were bashing him for missing his brother and getting drunk....because I'm sure no one has ever acted like this. Yes this situation was bad...cr@p happens and one incident does not make him a bad father.

[Brown Eyed Girl 1]

It's not like I don't want to talk about it or want to bottle all of it up, but when I try it just hurts too much and I literally can't talk about it.

 

Plus it's the same ol stuff that I have no control over. Someday I'll be dead, and then hopefully I'll be back with my brother and dad as well as my wife and kids and mom. There's nothing I can do in the meantime that is going to give me what I want. Nothing is going to bring us all back together. And no "specialist" I can go talk to is going to be able to help me in dealing with all of these issues, no matter what they say or tell me. They don't have a fix or an answer.

 

Seeking the help of a therapist isn't always an easy thing to do. A lot of times our pride gets in the way or we feel like we are failures if we can't just get through or past something on our own.

 

All I'd like to say is don't underestimate what a 'good' therapist can do for you. You're right, he or she will not bring back your deceased loved ones, cmh... but if you are open enough to allow them to, they will at least help you deal with this immense loss you are feeling in your life since they've been gone.

 

Also, you have admitted that you are depressed. Depression isn't anything to play around with. It should be taken seriously and treated before it escalates into something much deeper. I think you'd be surprised at how good you could feel having someone to discuss all of this with - someone who can provide honest, helpful coping solutions that can make a significant difference in how you feel inside.

 

Just a thought. Good luck with whatever you decide.

[TK0001 99]

I read up to the second page when people were bashing him for missing his brother and getting drunk....because I'm sure no one has ever acted like this. Yes this situation was bad...cr@p happens and one incident does not back him a bad father.

 

You have 3552 posts and think this is an isolated incident?

[stop talking cheerleader 0]

You have 3552 posts and think this is an isolated incident?

 

A once a year incident?

[Toro 1]

I don't have issues with kids seeing responsible drinking, either.

My FIL owns a winery...I don't have much choice there. LOL.

 

:sendwineplease:

[ADD1CT36 1]

getting professional help isnt always the answer, but chances are it can do some good. a therapist or counselor is really two things for you - a fresh set of ears, who doesnt take anything you say personally and isnt directly affected by whatever you do - and a fresh perspective, someone who isnt involved and can come to your issues with no expectations or prejudices.

 

the problem with unloading on people you care about and who care about you is it's unpossible to spearate our emotions and be rational about it and let things slide. and your loved ones will always try to "fix" you and will get frustrated when they cant help. not that you have to pretend everything is ok all the time, but realize that if they really are that important to you, you have to put some effort into protecting their feelings.

 

maybe you should keep a journal - like the stuff you wrote here, put in an email to yourself or something. that always helps me to write sh`t out. and it also helps to re-read it like a year later and see how you feel about it. probably my favorite phrase ever is "this too shall pass" - keeping a journal has been my reminder of that so many times.

 

anyway, i do wish you good luck honestly.

[TheNewGirl 1,494]

:sendwineplease:

 

 

If you buy it, it will come.

 

http://deavervineyard.com/

[Tusekan Raiders 0]

I've gotten drunk and blacked out quite a few times in my life, and sometimes that leads to an emotional crying STC getting mad at the SO for no reason...and vice versa except for the crying thing. Venting is good, just work on venting in a healthy way and limit your drinking so you know when to stop before getting smashed. We all do stupid things, it doesn't reflect poorly on your character if you change yourself for the better and learn from your mistakes.

 

No wonder you're defensive about people justifiably critizing this drunken nutjob, you sound like quite a crazy mess too. "doesn't reflect poorly...if you change" vs. "gotten drunk and blacked out quite a few times". GB irony.

[Mephisto 15]

I read up to the second page when people were bashing him for missing his brother and getting drunk....because I'm sure no one has ever acted like this. Yes this situation was bad...cr@p happens and one incident does not make him a bad father.

 

Ah, yes... and "after his kids are in bed" and there is an emergency of some sort, and Johnny McSchnockered is all focked up on booze - there is no risk there.

 

He's been drinking like a focking slob for a long, long time now, watched helplessly as his family member(s) drank themselves into an early grave, and comes here to cry "pity party" after unloading on his wife in a drunken-stupor which he can't even remember.

 

Wake the fock up, STC. Some of us are being dickholes because we'd be interested in seeing him stop and "touchy-feely" doesn't work with him. Of course, neither does being a dickbag, but at least we get some enjoyment out of trying to wake him up. Hopefully, he has a nice fat life-insurance policy so at least the family is taken care of while he is distilling six-feet-under in an oak box.

[S.D. Jones 0]

No wonder you're defensive about people justifiably critizing this drunken nutjob, you sound like quite a crazy mess too. "doesn't reflect poorly...if you change" vs. "gotten drunk and blacked out quite a few times". GB irony.

 

Nice use of the 'heart'

[stop talking cheerleader 0]

No wonder you're defensive about people justifiably critizing this drunken nutjob, you sound like quite a crazy mess too. "doesn't reflect poorly...if you change" vs. "gotten drunk and blacked out quite a few times". GB irony.

 

yeah, considering I'm 25, no kids, no husband...I allow myself that occasional "let's get focked up" moment. What a crazy mess I know....you must be perfect though so you wouldn't understand. Blacking out means you don't remember the whole evening, not that you went on a focking binge, shot up some drugs and ran around naked. Now THAT would be a focking mess. It could be worse.

[stop talking cheerleader 0]

Ah, yes... and "after his kids are in bed" and there is an emergency of some sort, and Johnny McSchnockered is all focked up on booze - there is no risk there.

 

He's been drinking like a focking slob for a long, long time now, watched helplessly as his family member(s) drank themselves into an early grave, and comes here to cry "pity party" after unloading on his wife in a drunken-stupor which he can't even remember.

 

Wake the fock up, STC. Some of us are being dickholes because we'd be interested in seeing him stop and "touchy-feely" doesn't work with him. Of course, neither does being a dickbag, but at least we get some enjoyment out of trying to wake him up. Hopefully, he has a nice fat life-insurance policy so at least the family is taken care of while he is distilling six-feet-under in an oak box.

 

I give the supportive touchy feely angle, you guys can do the tough love sh!t. I put up with my share of druken slob A-holes...just kicked one out of my life...CMH is a good guy, just needs to get his priorities straight. I hardly EVER drink anymore because I partied a little to hard from 19-22...and because I learned from my mistakes and that getting trashed wasn't cool. I also don't have kids.

[Evil number 0]

yeah, considering I'm 25, no kids, no husband...I allow myself that occasional "let's get focked up" moment. What a crazy mess I know....you must be perfect though so you wouldn't understand. Blacking out means you don't remember the whole evening, not that you went on a focking binge, shot up some drugs and ran around naked. Now THAT would be a focking mess. It could be worse.

 

I blacked out once freshman year and once sophmore year in college. Each time it was like a wake up call to me and I realized I was drinking way toooo much. I still got focked up drunk the rest of my time in college but I avoided shots after I was already hammered.

[Tusekan Raiders 0]

It could be worse.

 

As long as you know you have it under control and kind find someone worse to point to (thanks cmh!), obviously you have no problem! Everyone drinks until they black out quite a few times. Nothing to be concerned with here. Congrats!

[stop talking cheerleader 0]

As long as you know you have it under control and kind find someone worse to point to (thanks cmh!), obviously you have no problem! Everyone drinks until they black out quite a few times. Nothing to be concerned with here. Congrats!

 

See above moron....I'm speaking about the past...as in 2-3 years back when I was 21. How did you act when you were 21. Stop being a focking whiney poosy b!tch...it's getting old.

[cmh6476 1,025]

I blacked out once freshman year and once sophmore year in college. Each time it was like a wake up call to me and I realized I was drinking way toooo much. I still got focked up drunk the rest of my time in college but I avoided shots after I was already hammered.

 

 

yeah thats what did it, was pounding the keystone lights and then they broke out the jello shots

[jerryskids 6,800]

yeah thats what did it, was pounding the keystone lights and then they broke out the jello shots

My bullshiot radar is starting to go off. No way you are so stupid as to post this after everything in this thread. Or are you. Hmm...

[stop talking cheerleader 0]

I blacked out once freshman year and once sophmore year in college. Each time it was like a wake up call to me and I realized I was drinking way toooo much. I still got focked up drunk the rest of my time in college but I avoided shots after I was already hammered.

 

Yeah, I've done it probably 3 times (between the ages of 19-21). Shots and hard liquar did it for me...I tried "hanging" with the guys drinking wise and soon learned that was a bad idea. Now 30fbt has to drag me to the bar to drink, I'd rather go to the gym or get a massage. I'm getting too old for that cr@p.

[fricker66 93]

Yeah, I've done it probably 3 times (between the ages of 19-21).

 

This is another load of crap. If you're drinking like that in your late teens, you don't stop at 21. My guess is that you've blacked out more than cmh and his brother combined.

[stop talking cheerleader 0]

This is another load of crap. If you're drinking like that in your late teens, you don't stop at 21. My guess is that you've blacked out more than cmh and his brother combined.

 

I had a fake ID at 19...went to the club a lot with my girlfriends but we never really drank. I actually never "really" drank a lot until I met 30FBT....and it takes a lot for me to blackout, drunk, well yea a lot of times...but to the point of blacking out not so much.

[Mephisto 15]

I give the supportive touchy feely angle, you guys can do the tough love sh!t. I put up with my share of druken slob A-holes...just kicked one out of my life...CMH is a good guy, just needs to get his priorities straight. I hardly EVER drink anymore because I partied a little to hard from 19-22...and because I learned from my mistakes and that getting trashed wasn't cool. I also don't have kids.

 

Okay, well I'll consider that maybe your "perspective" is a little "off." In case you missed it:

 

- CMH is not "19-21 and blowing off some steam."

 

- CMH does have kids.

 

- CMH does have a spouse.

 

- CMH drinks way too much, always drinks way too much, and is pushing 50.

 

Now that you know all that... do you think your "take" is a bit on the soft side?

[Shooter McGavin 618]

I had a fake ID at 19...went to the club a lot with my girlfriends but we never really drank. I actually never "really" drank a lot until I met 30FBT....and it takes a lot for me to blackout, drunk, well yea a lot of times...but to the point of blacking out not so much.

 

The next time you black out, I'm gonna cut a small hole in you and fock it. Right before I come, I'm gonna pull out and ram my head into your ass, then I'll run into traffic.

 

WEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEE

[stop talking cheerleader 0]

The next time you black out, I'm gonna cut a small hole in you and fock it. Right before I come, I'm gonna pull out and ram my head into your ass, then I'll run into traffic.

 

WEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEE

 

Speaking of getting help.... I think I saw your movie "focking pyscho" it was focking awesome. Keep up the good work freak

[stop talking cheerleader 0]

Now that you know all that... do you think your "take" is a bit on the soft side?

 

Oh wait, I'll get this in before CNG chimes in..... Haven't we already declared I'm alrighty on the soft side

 

Ok...now that I have that off my chest...Yes, never said he didn't need to straighten up. It's just something he will have to do on his own with or without me posting that.

[Mephisto 15]

It's just something he will have to do on his own with or without me posting that.

 

Or not and die.

[stop talking cheerleader 0]

Or not and die.