I don't like my daughter.

[Voltaire 5,321]

There but for the grace of God go I.

 

Thankfully I divorced my first wife without getting her pregnant, as I wanted to. This could be my road. Instead, I have the awesome gorgeous happy daughters and son with the more responsible mentally stable wife I have now. Over ten years married now. The only problem to report is my wife going apesh*t psycho on my son when he's slow to finish his homework. As far as problems go, not really in vudu's ballpark.

 

Good luck with that vudu.

[Voltaire 5,321]

I don't recall anyone here dating a black woman other than me. But in my case there was no drug problem and the woman was really outstanding, essentially perfect for me without any of these psycho issues.

[nospk 230]

She was crazy, controlling, and verbally abusive pretty early on. She was also insanely hot, so I looked the other way.

We were both way too young for marriage. I eventually grew up. She is is still incredibly immature.

Lord knows, she's a vuduchile

[Djgb13 2,339]

She was crazy, controlling, and verbally abusive pretty early on. She was also insanely hot, so I looked the other way.

 

We were both way too young for marriage. I eventually grew up. She is is still incredibly immature.

Ah. See it's hard to look beyond the hotness. We can deal with crazy as long the girl is hot. But that can only last so long. I learned that early on before I married the girl and had kids thank God.

[peenie 1,915]

Never dated a black woman. Hardest drug I've ever done is hash.

 

You're definitely thinking of someone else.

 

My apologies.

[mobb_deep 920]

I have a bi-racial daughter. It's pretty cool.

[jerryskids 6,838]

I thought I replied to this earlier but I must have peenied it. Anyway, this thread makes my heart ache for you, vudu. I've got 3 kids; my oldest is my only son (20) and I've had periods where I don't like him very much -- I think a large part of it is that he is a lot like me and I see my flaws in him, and wish I had figured out a way to avoid that from happening. But he has matured in the 2+ years in college and I'm cautiously optimistic that he'll be fine.

[vuduchile 1,945]

I thought I replied to this earlier but I must have peenied it. Anyway, this thread makes my heart ache for you, vudu. I've got 3 kids; my oldest is my only son (20) and I've had periods where I don't like him very much -- I think a large part of it is that he is a lot like me and I see my flaws in him, and wish I had figured out a way to avoid that from happening. But he has matured in the 2+ years in college and I'm cautiously optimistic that he'll be fine.

Thanks. Like I said, I'm determined to do better with my 2 young sons. My wife is a wonderful mom and role model, and just an all round nice person. Polar opposite of the ex.

 

I see my oldest son exhibiting behaviors similar to my own when I was his age. Sometimes it's cool, others, cringeworthy. Gotta take the good with the bad I guess. He's a great kid overall, and is just trying to find his way in the world.

 

This whole thing has me wondering just how much influence a parent can really have. Every situation is different but in my daughter's case, she's almost exactly like her mom physically and mentally.

 

On the flip side, I've seen awesome parents churn out some real sh!theads.

 

Nature, nurture, Randolph, Mortimer, Winthorpe, Valentine, etc. I dunno.

[shorepatrol 1,871]

-- I think a large part of it is that he is a lot like me and I see my flaws in him, and wish I had figured out a way to avoid that from happening.

Yep

[titans&bucs&bearsohmy! 2,745]

My little sister was a stupid tvvat in her early twenties. She grew out of it into a great person. There may still be hope.

[GobbleDog 997]

I'm impressed Vudu can admit that his daughter ain't all that great. Nobody does that, even when they know it's true. Generally speaking, most kids turn out like the parents who raised them. As they say "the apple don't fall far from the tree."

 

I'm rooting fer ya Vudu. Obviously it's important to you and it shows ya got some class. If you'd have raised her, I bet the kid would too.

[Hardcore troubadour 15,510]

I don't know, my wife is one of three sisters. Her and her older sister are normal people. The younger sister is one of the worst people on earth. Same parents, same house ect. Parents can only do their best.

[GobbleDog 997]

I don't know, my wife is one of three sisters. Her and her older sister are normal people. The younger sister is one of the worst people on earth. Same parents, same house ect. Parents can only do their best.

My sister is a piece of crap (still lives at home - former drug addict). Raised by my same parents... very successful attorney and school teacher. And when she was hanging out with scumbags in high-school, what did my folks do? Nothing.

 

I feel lucky I didn't turn out like her. Luckily I fell into the right crowd. If my daughter starts hanging out with the wrong kids, there will be changes. One way or another (move), I ain't having that. Then again, I actually play/engage with my kid. My folks never had anything to do with me or my sister. Laissez faire parenting. They only had kids because it's what everyone does, not because they actually wanted to raise them.

[Chronic Husker 85]

Is your wife black and your daughter biracial?

You know there is only one race. Wtf is this "biracial" garbage?

[wiffleball 4,790]

I have a bi-racial daughter. It's pretty cool.

Black from the waist down?

[peenie 1,915]

You know there is only one race. Wtf is this "biracial" garbage?

 

I agree 100%, I'm just using the descriptive language common in the United States.

I recall reading that his girlfriend or wife was black, but I could be wrong.

[vuduchile 1,945]

 

I agree 100%, I'm just using the descriptive language common in the United States.

I recall reading that his girlfriend or wife was black, but I could be wrong.

No "could be" about it.

 

Neither my ex nor my current wife are black.