RicemanX 20 Posted June 14, 2007 As I get out of college, I see a few of my friends, who have been dating their gf for a long time, considering taking the plunge and proposing. What would be some things I can say to them to make them think REAL hard about their choice to pop the question this early in their life? Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
phillybear 366 Posted June 14, 2007 As I get out of college, I see a few of my friends, who have been dating their gf for a long time, considering taking the plunge and proposing. What would be some things I can say to them to make them think REAL hard about their choice to pop the question this early in their life? A divorce ruins a man's life financially forever, no matter what the divorce circumstances are. The court system is designed to assfock every male. Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Snuff 10 Posted June 14, 2007 If they do not share the same thought of having children/no children....don't do it. So many other things to say, I'll just let the wonderful minds here at FFT give some input. Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
TheNewGirl 1,639 Posted June 14, 2007 What would be some things I can say to them to make them think REAL hard about their choice to pop the question this early in their life? Nothing. Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
MDC 8,241 Posted June 14, 2007 As I get out of college, I see a few of my friends, who have been dating their gf for a long time, considering taking the plunge and proposing. What would be some things I can say to them to make them think REAL hard about their choice to pop the question this early in their life? Assuming they're around 22, they could be looking at another 5-10 years of total non-responsibility and NSA sex with many different women ... THEN find the woman of their dreams and settle down. What's the rush? The best reason to wait is to enjoy your 20s being single. Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
davebg 0 Posted June 14, 2007 Ask them if they can remember back to high school and think about how different their lives are now. The difference between high school and college is HUGE. Well, the same difference exists between college and post-college. Four years from now they will look back on their college years and see just as big of a change in their lives between transitioning from college to post-college as they did when they transitioned from high school to college. Just as their wants, desires and tastes have likely changed dramatically since high school, so too will their wants, desires and tastes likely change dramatically from college to post-college. If the their current relationships are truly meant to be, then those relationships will still be meant to be a few years from now. Furthermore, the younger your age when you get married for the first time the greater chance that marriage will end in divorce. Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
beercat 5 Posted June 14, 2007 Life's a ######, don't marry one... Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
redtodd 7 Posted June 14, 2007 - Do not get married under the age of 25. A person grows a ton between 21 and 25. - Try to be single for a period of time in your 20's. Purge it out of your system. - Live with them first. - Do not marry them just because you have been dating for x amount of years. - Be sure that you can deal with all their faults, because the faults get worse with time. - Share the same belief in children and religion (politics helps too). - Have the same concept of money. If you are tight and she buys everything she sees, won't work. - Don't let others tell you to marry them. Do it because YOU want to. - Talk to divorced men. Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
sawilson 1 Posted June 14, 2007 A divorce ruins a man's life financially forever, no matter what the divorce circumstances are. The court system is designed to assfock every male. Not necessarily true in all circumstances. When my ex and I split, we split the bills evenly and I ask for no alimony or child support. He owes me nothing. Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
CurlyNight's Ghost 0 Posted June 15, 2007 Not necessarily true in all circumstances. When my ex and I split, we split the bills evenly and I ask for no alimony or child support. He owes me nothing. You be dumb!@#@! No wonder Big Pete!@#@! has taken a liking to you especially since he has little!@#@! Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
DuckStupid 40 Posted June 15, 2007 Fock that, if they're in lurve, go for it. I got married young and don't regret it at all. We've been married for 17 years coming up at the end of the month and have 2 great kids. I've always hated the games though, cuz I've got no game and have no desire to aquire one. I'm generally of the mindset ... Here I am and fock you if you don't like it. My wife was the the first lady I met that was pretty much of the same mindset, she was easy to talk to and I never had to guess where she was coming from. She speaks her mind and I'm glad she does. Generally speaking, she doesn't play games either. I know where she stands and she knows where I stand. Most of the time we're looking in the same direction. Good lord, if I had to get back into dating, I'd be doing an awful lot of jacking off. Maybe I'd get lucky and find another woman that doesn't want to play games, but I doubt it. Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Hurricane Ditka 0 Posted June 15, 2007 Nothing. I totally agree. To each his own, say nothing. Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
frank 2,359 Posted June 15, 2007 Eddie Murphy: [gangsta voice] Yeah, Your Honor, give us half his ######! Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
TommyGavin 790 Posted June 15, 2007 Not necessarily true in all circumstances. When my ex and I split, we split the bills evenly and I ask for no alimony or child support. He owes me nothing. yeah but you dont even have full custody - what kind of support would you be askin for ?? or I could be wrong and feel like a tool - I'll take my chances. Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Riddlen 1 Posted June 15, 2007 I got married at 21 (right after college), I am very happy (almost 8yrs later) Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Patriotsfatboy1 1,433 Posted June 15, 2007 I don't know if this will show up for you, but here goes: Data from divorcepeers.com: Age at marriage for those who divorce in the United States -------------------------------------------------- Age Women Men -------------------------------------------------- Under 20 years old 27.6% 11.7% 20 to 24 years old 36.6% 38.8% 25 to 29 years old 16.4% 22.3% 30 to 34 years old 8.5% 11.6% 35 to 39 years old 5.1% 6.5% -------------------------------------------------- http://answers.google.com/answers/threadview?id=363986 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
redtodd 7 Posted June 15, 2007 Good lord, if I had to get back into dating, I'd be doing an awful lot of jacking off. Maybe I'd get lucky and find another woman that doesn't want to play games, but I doubt it. If I ever become single again, there will be a lot of duct tape and rope involved with my "dating." Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
heavy-set 39 Posted June 15, 2007 As I get out of college, I see a few of my friends, who have been dating their gf for a long time, considering taking the plunge and proposing. What would be some things I can say to them to make them think REAL hard about their choice to pop the question this early in their life? dont do it. there is another world out there, not just who you went to school with. they will find this out when they get jobs, and live on their own. plus, things will change from what they are now. late 20s is a good age to get married. youve grown and matured Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
kutulu 1,727 Posted June 15, 2007 Got married at 23...still going strong at 36. Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
itsjjw 1 Posted June 15, 2007 Marriage is a life long commitment and divorce is a sin. Be very carefule on the partner you choice because that choice is for the rest of your life. Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
kutulu 1,727 Posted June 15, 2007 Marriage is a life long commitment and divorce is a sin. Be very carefule on the partner you choice because that choice is for the rest of your life. I'm thinking sinful thoughts right now. Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
redtodd 7 Posted June 15, 2007 Be very carefule on the partner you choice because that choice is for the rest of your life. English? Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
itsjjw 1 Posted June 15, 2007 English? Marry whatever nationality makes you happy. This is america. I'm thinking sinful thoughts right now. So am I, thank God for confession. Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Mephisto 15 Posted June 18, 2007 Not necessarily true in all circumstances. When my ex and I split, we split the bills evenly and I ask for no alimony or child support. He owes me nothing. Because you didn't go through the court system. Additionally, knowing how the court system treats men and fathers, unless you're prepared to kill your spouse when she breathes the word "divorce" and "taking the kids" - there isn't a male in the world that I would recommend marrying and certainly not procreating with in this world... at least, not until the family court system changes dramatically. With no fault divorce and the bias towards women, men are DEAD... even if the reason a woman wants to get divorced is "I just don't feel like being married anymore." You lose your children, your cash, your assets... and it goes on for a long, long time. That's just the way the system is right now. It's real. If you have a child today (as a male), your life is what the woman wants it to be, no ifs, ands, or buts. Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
supermike80 2,180 Posted June 18, 2007 Marriage is a life long commitment and divorce is a sin. Be very carefule on the partner you choice because that choice is for the rest of your life. Divorce is not and has never been a sin. Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
