Hypothetical situation ... How whould you react?

[Giants Fan 85]

Mkay, so I had five siblings, but two were step sisters. That, in my book, totally meant it was cool if I spied on them while they were naked in the shower ... But I digress.

 

I had one full blood sibling,,and he shot himself with a Smith and Wesson about 8 years ago. And I have a half sister. Now, my 3 sisters are younger, my brother was older. None of them really knew him very well ... BUT ... my half sister is bi-polar and has also had seizures ... she was born premature, but grew up to be OK, be a fairly normal person. She is a teacher.

 

Anyway, so she is like 13 years younger than me, and she met this guy, who is her age and balder than I am. He had a good job in California, but she wanted to come back to Tucson. They got married here, and I was at the wedding.

 

Mkay? Let me back up a sec ... My brother is dead, I have one living, half sibling ...I was AT her wedding. I didn't make the family photos before the wedding ... mostly because nobody friggin told me about them. I just kinda figured they would be AFTER the wedding, and nobody returned my phone calls that morning. I left messages, "Where am I supposed to be? What is going on? Dad said he had some shirt I was supposed to wear?" It was like it was all bullshiat. There was no shirt .... and when she looks back at her family photos from her wedding ... I am not in them. Her only brother.

 

Now, I realize that I look and sound a lot like my dead brother, and that can kinda freak some ppl out(went through that recently with my neice in the coma, ppl that haven't seen me since he died kinda freaked out since I am that age now ... no, not my brother back from the dead, still me).

 

Anyway ... couple years ago she gave me this guilt trip, and now she has had a kid ... The old Jewey "Ya gotta see the baby!" thing ... and who gives a fock ... at this point. Stop pretending you give a fock about me. If you gave a fock about me, during the fawking photos of family before your wedding you woulda said, "Wait ... where is my brother? has anyone seen my brother?"

 

Or ... am I a little too friggin sensitive about that? half sister, after all.

[Giants Fan 85]

Hypothetically.

[Giants Fan 85]

Also because of my step sisters, and step Mom ... my dad has said right to my face, "Don't expect to inherit anything from me."

 

He has made millions of dollars as a lawyer and law professor. I think his pension is like $300k a year. My sisters spent it all, apparently. He is still paying for it.

 

Ya know ... i figure, if that side of the family wants to treat me like that, they can all go fock themselves. When my Dad dies ... if he goes before my step Mom ... i am not gonna say shiat. But if she doesn't treat me right in her will ... Ohhh yeah ... i got a step sister that is a family attorney and thinks she is smarter than me. You better spend it girls, while he is still alive ... cause the last thing you want, is me coming after you for what is left.

[Giants Fan 85]

Hypothetically.

[Giants Fan 85]

See, here's the thing. The only one who is smart enough, to know how smart I actually am, is my Dad. Step Mom and sisters come from a different kinda background, where it is OK to treat people unfairly, as long as you advance.

 

Yeah, it's not OK. Not in my book. They are walking a legal tightrope.

 

Hypothetically.

[Giants Fan 85]

True story:

 

So, I was working as an instructor for the Art Institute of Phoenix, like 2007, both before and after they were aquired by Goldman Sachs. I was very aware of how ownership had shifted policy. Came to a situation where a student had plagarized a paper. A disruptive "culinary arts" student had just copied and printed out a wikipedia page and claimed it as a paper she wrote for extra credit. I took it very seriously and told her not to return to my class. She could not pass the course, and I was obligated to turn the matter over to student services. "Where I went to school, you would get expelled for this.", I told her.

 

HOWEVER ... in a school owned by Goldman Sachs, she pays the bills. She was ready and willing to go into student debt, suplimented by the government, and thus, the taxpayers ... to get her degree in "cullinary arts". Couple ppl met with me ... had me sign a grade change form, to give her a passing grade, cause I did fail her at first. They made me give her a C. And I said, "You realize this is it though ... right? If I sign this ... I can't work for you anymore. I morally disagree with this."

 

When I first told my stepmom about it ... she kinda came down on me, "Sometimes you just gotta suck it up, and who cares if some people are doing the wrong thing, you can do more to fix it if you have a jerb there, right?"

 

My Dad ... who taught law for 40 years .... was like, "I have never been more proud of you in my life."

[Giants Fan 85]

Ok, ready for the hypothetical vesion?

 

I told a student with big t1ts she could "make more money as a stripper" than she could as a graphic designer in front of the class.

 

TOTALLY ... Ok, well, mostly NOT TRUE! I said dancer ... like another kind of artist, like a dancer who works on Broadway? And it was in a personal email regarding making a deadline.

 

Totally taken out of context, the email was all about how graphic designers don't miss deadlines. You just don't and it was how I was taught ... some jerks give you a dealine that is like a week early because they assume you might be late ... no, fock no ... i never missed a deadline. Good designers, never, ever, miss deadlines. Particularly in a print situation, you can be talking about a lot of money. It's not cheap to hold up these big printing presses. So I said something like, "if you really want to be a graphic artist, you will do it because you love it. Dancers make more money."

 

And she thought ... fawking self involved cont that she was, that she got me fired. After some back and forth on FB she said, "I am glad I got you fired!" and "I saw you checking me out day one!". Yeah, that is actually part of my job. If I determine you are not appropriately dressed, I am supposed to send you home.

 

Fawking psycho beotch ... yeah ... teaching is not for me. Life is too short to hafta deal with young girls all over again.

[Giants Fan 85]

Also, a student in her class was a dancer. And no ... not a stripper, like a real, trained, never danced topless, artist.

 

Bichez be cray cray an shiat.

[Giants Fan 85]

A real artist though ... would dance fully nude, if the role required it. I saw Hair on Broadway and they all got fully nude.

 

What you do in like an old, creepy, Hugh Hefner voice is you say .. "it will be tastefull." and lick your lips, and they just throw their clothes off and beg you to take pictures. At least, that is how a real talented artist, like Hugh Hefner does it.

[Giants Fan 85]

True story, I designed some crapass ad for a phone sex line in the back of Playboy. Hef didn't like it, wanted me to redo it.

 

"Well what didn't you like about it?" i asked and he gave me this, "You should know." bullshiat attitude.

 

No, no .. go fockyourself. You gave me a job to do, I didn't ask any questions, completed the job ... you are unhappy with the result. MAYBE ... If you answer some questions about what you want ... Take 2 minutes ...I can do the job that you want me to do. If you act like an a-hole, treat me like shiat ... i am not really inspired to do a better job.

[Giants Fan 85]

It was very specific too, like it had to have photos of certain girls and I had to cover up their nips with the type ... not a lot of room to get creative.

 

That's right, I am sorry if it shatters some of your dreams ... Hugh Hefner is an ass hole. He is also bad at making art, or even knowing what good art is.

 

 

[Giants Fan 85]

I got really mad at my Mom yesterday at work. i had to go for a walk and calm down.

 

We have a mailing list, we use icontact to maintain it. Since nobody else really gives a crap, they just give me names, half of the time I already have put them in, and the new ones I ad to the list. So my Mom has this printed list from 2008 and she asks me to print the latest list. Mkay, I try from icontact, she is not happy it lists it in alphabetical order by email address, not comoany name. i export it to a CSV file which I open in Excel, but when I tey and print it, it's mostly jiberish. All of that takes me maybe 5 minutes, so I ask her, "Why do you need this?" and she starts lecturing me. "Our customer list is really important. When we try and sell the company, that is a really valuable assett that we have." Mkay ... "Yep, and it is right there on the computer. Let me ask you again, why do I need to print it out?" and she gets even angrier, "Because we need it! how many times do I need to explain it?" to which I said, "Please stop talking to me like I am a focking idiot." And she said, "Well you are, I have had to explain this 3 times!"

 

I friggin lost it inside, but kept really calm ... I said to her, "I don't think you understand that I am trying to help you. I need to know what you are trying to accomplish in order to do that. All you have done is sat here and treated me like ... I dunno Mom .. i think ... Yeah, I gotta go for a walk ... Cool down ... You have no idea how angry I am with you about this, right now. It's no wonder all your employees are idiots ... you train them not to ask questions ...it's just ... bad management."

 

I dunno if I can stand it anymore. It's a big focking joke, really. The company loses money, every year and a big part of it is ppl waste time, on the clock doing unimportant shiat. There is no value to the customer list if the company can't make a profit ... and it can't. It's hopeless. I almost want to tell her I wont work for her at all anymore, because I just can't take the mental anguish ... and that is kinda true.

[Cloaca du jour 2,157]

Also because of my step sisters, and step Mom ... my dad has said right to my face, "Don't expect to inherit anything from me."

 

He has made millions of dollars as a lawyer and law professor. I think his pension is like $300k a year. My sisters spent it all, apparently. He is still paying for it.

 

Ya know ... i figure, if that side of the family wants to treat me like that, they can all go fock themselves. When my Dad dies ... if he goes before my step Mom ... i am not gonna say shiat. But if she doesn't treat me right in her will ... Ohhh yeah ... i got a step sister that is a family attorney and thinks she is smarter than me. You better spend it girls, while he is still alive ... cause the last thing you want, is me coming after you for what is left.

 

Maybe not living up to your potential is the reason..I doubt this is the evil step sisters.

Maybe your Cinderella and your prince will come!!

Chin UP!

[Giants Fan 85]

They leave to NYC for another show that will lose money for like 3-4weeks ... if I can sell my car betwwen now and then .. I am just gonna go to Vegas. Might end up broke and in a gutter ... but I can't take this shiat anymore.

[Giants Fan 85]

Lol at not living up to my potential. it's amazing I came out of all this alive.

 

True story. My step sis, we will call her Elle, is like 8 years younger than me. So, it was 1982 and I was messing around with programing my Vic 20 in BASIC, and I showed my little step sisterwho was only 4 years old, "Look ... 10 PRINT HEART ... 20 GOTO 10." the old loop program. Prints a heart shape, over and over again. Once it is in the system, you can just type "RUN HEART" and it works, right?

 

So, I leave the room, while she plays with my Vic 20 (Dad covered half the cost, I had to pony up lkke $300 and it saved data to a cassette drive, cause a floppy drive cost like a grand back then).

 

Couple months ago Dad tells this story ... about how Elle, at just 4 years old was able to program the computer to "just fill the screen with hearts. To this day, I dunno how she did it."

 

And I looked at him and said, "Really? You can't figure out who taught her that?".

 

I never get credit for anything.

[Giants Fan 85]

If I didn't live up to my potential, it because my parents sucked at raising me.

[Sho Nuff 720]

If they read this board...there is a reason they try to ignore you too. Take the hint...even your family doesn't like you.

 

And was there a reason you had to mention that your brother was dead mutliple times in the first post...when we all already knew that?

[MDC 7,949]

Mkay, so I had five siblings, but two were step sisters. That, in my book, totally meant it was cool if I spied on them while they were naked in the shower ... But I digress.

 

I had one full blood sibling,,and he shot himself with a Smith and Wesson about 8 years ago. And I have a half sister. Now, my 3 sisters are younger, my brother was older. None of them really knew him very well ... BUT ... my half sister is bi-polar and has also had seizures ... she was born premature, but grew up to be OK, be a fairly normal person. She is a teacher.

 

Anyway, so she is like 13 years younger than me, and she met this guy, who is her age and balder than I am. He had a good job in California, but she wanted to come back to Tucson. They got married here, and I was at the wedding.

 

Mkay? Let me back up a sec ... My brother is dead, I have one living, half sibling ...I was AT her wedding. I didn't make the family photos before the wedding ... mostly because nobody friggin told me about them. I just kinda figured they would be AFTER the wedding, and nobody returned my phone calls that morning. I left messages, "Where am I supposed to be? What is going on? Dad said he had some shirt I was supposed to wear?" It was like it was all bullshiat. There was no shirt .... and when she looks back at her family photos from her wedding ... I am not in them. Her only brother.

 

Now, I realize that I look and sound a lot like my dead brother, and that can kinda freak some ppl out(went through that recently with my neice in the coma, ppl that haven't seen me since he died kinda freaked out since I am that age now ... no, not my brother back from the dead, still me).

 

Anyway ... couple years ago she gave me this guilt trip, and now she has had a kid ... The old Jewey "Ya gotta see the baby!" thing ... and who gives a fock ... at this point. Stop pretending you give a fock about me. If you gave a fock about me, during the fawking photos of family before your wedding you woulda said, "Wait ... where is my brother? has anyone seen my brother?"

 

Or ... am I a little too friggin sensitive about that? half sister, after all.

Is there a question in here at all? My guess is that somebody actually did tell you about these photos but you're such an irresponsible fock that you forgot and now blame them instead of yourself. Either that or your sister is rightly ashamed if what a fat focking loser you are and didn't want you in her pictures.

 

Either scenario makes sense.

[Sho Nuff 720]

Is there a question in here at all? My guess is that somebody actually did tell you about these photos but you're such an irresponsible fock that you forgot and now blame them instead of yourself. Either that or your sister is rightly ashamed if what a fat focking loser you are and didn't want you in her pictures.

 

Either scenario makes sense.

 

Probbly smoked up that morning and showed up focked up...instead he partially blames looking like his brother (who apparently is dead).

[MDC 7,949]

If I didn't live up to my potential, it because my parents sucked at raising me.

If you didn't live up to your potential it's because you're a lazy sack of sh1t. More likely though you're just not that focking talented or smart in the first place and being a 49-y/o bum is your ceiling.

[IGotWorms 4,063]

Is anyone here surprised GFIAFP is the black sheep of the family?

 

Anyone?

[tanatastic 2,062]

Is anyone here surprised GFIAFP is the black sheep of the family?

 

Anyone?

Im more surprised that the family is not murdered, stuffed and placed delicately around a makeshift reenactment of the movie Rounders and acted out twice a day.

[Djgb13 2,339]

I take it you're asking what we would do in this situation. It's easy. I would take a look at my life and figure out what the f*** I was doing wrong

[kilroy69 1,270]

Still have your brothers smith an Wesson? Why not take his way out?

[BudBro 183]

My psychoanalysis says that you are desperate for the respect of your dad. All males are...it's not just you. The problem is the fear of asking him if he does respect you. If he says "Yes," your life moves forward in a different direction. If he says "no," it validates the path you are already moving down. I will tell you that most all fathers have "good-will" towards their sons. He would have to a Hitler type of person to have ill-will towards his own son. He is likely terrible at showing it, but one would have to be d-bag of epic proportions to not have respect for a son. If he is such a d-bag, why would you be desperate for his respect? My guess is, he isn't.

 

On a side note, your brother's suicide was his nobility and honor showing through. It's f-ed up thinking, but in his own mind, he was trying to accomplish something noble. Only he knows. The best help for you is to acknowledge his nobility, even though it hurts you that he did it, and honor him with the same honor you are seeking from others. When you give honor, you begin to receive it.

 

There is clearly some s**t baggage you are carrying from your parents' divorce and subsequent remarriage or remarriages. Divorce is considered treachery and malice for a reason. Bad parents seek their own desires, and then desire turns into "i deserve" and "i deserve" turns into "i'm gonna do whatever makes me happy, regardless of the consequences it brings to my sons." You aren't responsible for their stupidy. Stop following in it. If you keep falling into the same pothole in the street, choose to go down a different street.

 

Blessings.

 

B

[Artista 460]

Hypothetically this thread is way too long to read, even without my nap today. Hypothetically.

[Cloaca du jour 2,157]

Im more surprised that the family is not murdered, stuffed and placed delicately around a makeshift reenactment of the movie Rounders and acted out twice a day.

Sounds like an episode of criminal minds

[BunnysBastatrds 2,645]

Im more surprised that the family is not murdered, stuffed and placed delicately around a makeshift reenactment of the movie Rounders and acted out twice a day.

Why do I keep thinking about oreo's and Being John Mackilvich reading this thread?

[GobbleDog 1,010]

A real artist though ... would dance fully nude, if the role required it.

 

Robin Williams did in the Fisher King movie.

[titans&bucs&bearsohmy! 2,745]

Sounds like you need to quit worrying about what happens to other people's money when they die.

 

My parents are worth millions. I hope they spend every last nickel and die at 110 with a smile on their face. I don't give a crap what they do with it in their will.

 

They asked me years ago to be the executor of their estate. I told them that I would if they wanted, but that I would prefer they get an actual estate attorney, as I will be grieving, and don't want my siblings to think I had any opportunity to "cheat" them.

 

If they leave every damn dime to a charity, that's cool by me.

[Sho Nuff 720]

Sounds like you need to quit worrying about what happens to other people's money when they die.

 

My parents are worth millions. I hope they spend every last nickel and die at 110 with a smile on their face. I don't give a crap what they do with it in their will.

 

They asked me years ago to be the executor of their estate. I told them that I would if they wanted, but that I would prefer they get an actual estate attorney, as I will be grieving, and don't want my siblings to think I had any opportunity to "cheat" them.

 

If they leave every damn dime to a charity, that's cool by me.

 

Yeah...don't know what my parents have (either set) and don't care.

The only thing that has been discussed with both is to ensure the Packers tickets (both my mom and step dad, and my dad and step mom have tickets)...those are arranged to make sure they stay in the family.

[Djgb13 2,339]

Sounds like you need to quit worrying about what happens to other people's money when they die.

 

My parents are worth millions. I hope they spend every last nickel and die at 110 with a smile on their face. I don't give a crap what they do with it in their will.

 

They asked me years ago to be the executor of their estate. I told them that I would if they wanted, but that I would prefer they get an actual estate attorney, as I will be grieving, and don't want my siblings to think I had any opportunity to "cheat" them.

 

If they leave every damn dime to a charity, that's cool by me.

I'm the same way. Dam the will to hell. I would rather have my parents alive than have all the money in the world

[Voltaire 5,500]

If you didn't live up to your potential it's because you're a lazy sack of sh1t. More likely though you're just not that focking talented or smart in the first place and being a 49-y/o bum is your ceiling.

He's only 44 - 45 and his ceiling was designing ads for Playboy and could skyrocket if he holds off his sisters and nieces to get his hands on his father's money.

 

It's curious that his mother wants to sell her business, which is what he wants her to do, and yet she can't get a functional list of her customers since he refuses to put in a few minutes to help her do so.

[DankNuggs 305]

He's only 44 - 45 and his ceiling was designing ads for Playboy and could skyrocket if he holds off his sisters and nieces to get his hands on his father's money.

 

It's curious that his mother wants to sell her business, which is what he wants her to do, and yet she can't get a functional list of her customers since he refuses to put in a few minutes to help her do so.

sorting by company name takes several button pushes, no need to risk the back giving out mid key. patience is the better part of valor

[IGotWorms 4,063]

Im more surprised that the family is not murdered, stuffed and placed delicately around a makeshift reenactment of the movie Rounders and acted out twice a day.

 

[BunnysBastatrds 2,645]

Sounds like you need to quit worrying about what happens to other people's money when they die.

 

My parents are worth millions. I hope they spend every last nickel and die at 110 with a smile on their face. I don't give a crap what they do with it in their will.

 

They asked me years ago to be the executor of their estate. I told them that I would if they wanted, but that I would prefer they get an actual estate attorney, as I will be grieving, and don't want my siblings to think I had any opportunity to "cheat" them.

 

If they leave every damn dime to a charity, that's cool by me.

Wow!!! I've done the same!

[naomi 360]

Were the family photos right before the wedding? She might have had too much tunnel vision (brides are known to forget big in reality... but peripheral to actual event flow and management stuff) going on...especially if you two rarely see each other. You can't go by how that one thing went down so go by how she is in general. Or maybe it was never in the plan and other family members you would assume would be in the photos aren't either.

[Chronic Husker 86]

Im more surprised that the family is not murdered, stuffed and placed delicately around a makeshift reenactment of the movie Rounders and acted out twice a day.

Pay him. Pay the man his money.

[kilroy69 1,270]

Were the family photos right before the wedding? She might have had too much tunnel vision (brides are known to forget big in reality... but peripheral to actual event flow and management stuff) going on...especially if you two rarely see each other. You can't go by how that one thing went down so go by how she is in general. Or maybe it was never in the plan and other family members you would assume would be in the photos aren't either.

orrrrr they hate him.

[naomi 360]

orrrrr they hate him.

 

Pestering him about seeing the baby...not hating him material.

 

Off chance it's ego-centric and not sentimental though.