The REAL truths about mid life crisis

[Rusty Syringes 478]

My boys are 7 and 9.

 

On Sunday, we went on a guided fishing tour and caught 70 focking fish. The kids have been begging to go back ever since.

 

Last month, we went skiing in Santa Fe, and the kids have been begging to go back ever since.

 

Last fall, we attended the A&M-Nebraska football game, which was focking awesome. We tailgated and watched a nail-biter game in front of very loud, record attendance.

 

Last September, we sat behind home plate for a Texas Rangers game, and then we watched every playoff game.

 

Last summer, we drove across America and stayed at a Virginia Beach condo for a week.

 

I bought a popup camper last year, and we're wearing that thing out, seeing all kinds of new things.

 

I'm 48 years old, adore my wife, love my kids and having the time of my life. I did all the skirt chasing, motorcycle riding and debauchery I needed to do when I was in my 20s.

 

I've got everything I want and need, and I don't need much. I can go play golf or poker anytime I want, but I prefer just being with the family. I can't wait to get home every night, play with the kids, drink a few beers and hang out.

 

Life is good!

 

[Vic_Rattlehead 0]

I got married young, but still agree with Rusty, TD, etc. Marriage is what you each put into it.

[IMMensaMind 462]

I feel bad for people who feel that way about their marriages.

 

About a month ago, wife and I had nothing to do on a Sunday and she encouraged me to buy PS3. I'd still been playing PS2 sometimes and she said it was time for an upgrade. I told her it was expensive and she said "You never buy yourself anything, just go ahead and get it." So we go to GameStop and I ended up buying PS3 and about 5 games. I told her, "If I buy this you know I'm going to the beer distributor and spending all afternoon playing video games?" She said "Go right ahead." I ended up drinking Coronas and playing Madden all afternoon, great Sunday.

 

You should be able to spend money, have alone time, and have a life outside your marriage. Unless you're complaining about having to ask or tell her what you're doing? I think that's just common courtesy.

 

She's cheating on you. Hire an investigator pronto.

 

 

jkjkjkjk lol

[TD Ryan2 316]

this was an interesting article I read a while back:

 

http://www.slate.com/id/2274721/

 

Slate Magazine:

 

Parents Are JunkiesIf parenthood sucks, why do we love it? Because we're addicted.

By Shankar Vedantam

At the end of a long day, after a rotten commute filled with road rage and little accomplished at work, with chores piled up at home and the weekend nowhere in sight, my 4-year-old daughter clambered onto the sofa next to me, cuddled into my arms, and planted a moist, unasked-for kiss on my cheek.

 

Poof. The exhaustion disappeared, the frustrations of the day melted away. I soaked in a bath of oxytocin. Everything was right with the world.

 

But wait. We're getting ahead of ourselves.

 

In the last few months, parents and researchers have been at war. Evidence has piled up to show that becoming a parent does not make people happier; it makes them unhappier. The data show that marriage increases happiness, but children reduce it. Marriages are vulnerable to divorce shortly after the arrival of children.

 

People who don't have kids think studies that prove kids are stressful are about as interesting as studies that show falling off tall buildings produces injuries. "Duh," they say. If you've been on a red-eye flight where a bawling baby kept the whole cabin awake through the night, you've seen deplaning passengers muttering about how they can't wait for the day when infanticide is legal.

 

Parents spend endless hours commiserating with one another about the travails of parenthood. Yet when researchers present data about children and unhappiness, parents rise up in protest. Research may depict parenthood as a bile-inducing, rage-fueling, stress-producing ordeal, but parents tell us that becoming parents is the best thing they ever did. Nonparents write off this reaction as defensiveness—if you've screwed up by having a kid and don't want to admit it, you pretend to be happy—but parents regularly choose to have more than one child. If parenthood were as subjectively awful as the objective research implies, wouldn't all parents stop at one child? It's one thing to claim that a stubbed toe doesn't hurt, and quite another to aim a second kick at the chair.

 

The research into happiness and parenting arrives at its results by measuring how people feel at regular intervals during the day. If you asked parents every 15 minutes how they feel, the data would read:

 

7:15 a.m.: Max spilled water on the breakfast table and ruined my Mac. God!

 

7:30 a.m.: Rachel slapped Max. Max pulled Rachel's hair. I need tranquilizers.

 

7:45 a.m.: On way out to drop Rachel at school bus, Max has diaper accident. Rush back to change him, miss school bus. I need liquor.

 

8:00 a.m.: Gas needle points to "empty," but I keep driving to get Rachel to school on time. Car stalls in major intersection. Drivers curse me. I discover I left my cell phone at home. I bang my head repeatedly on steering wheel.

 

And so on.

 

One of my favorite psychologists, Dan Gilbert at Harvard, often quotes a study conducted by Daniel Kahneman that found that spending time with children makes mothers about as happy as vacuuming.*

 

And yet. Let's go back to the sofa and that cuddle and kiss. It was a fleeting moment, but it genuinely changed how I felt about the day.

 

It was at that moment of bliss that I realized how the objective parenting research and the subjective parenting experience could both be right. Parenting is a grind, and most parents are stressed out much more than they are happy. But when parents think about parenting, they don't remember the background stress. They remember the cuddle and the kiss. Parenting is a series of intensely high highs, followed by long periods of frustration and stress, during which you go to great lengths to find your way back to that sofa and that kiss.

 

We have a name for people who pursue rare moments of bliss at the expense of their wallets and their social and professional relationships: addicts.

 

Children regularly give parents the kind of highs that only narcotics can rival. The unpredictability of those moments of bliss is an important factor in their addictiveness. If you give animals a predictable reward—say, a shot of sugar every time they press a lever—you can get them to press that lever quite regularly. But if you want irrational and addictive behavior, you make the reward unpredictable. Pressing the lever produces sugar, but only once every 10 tries. Sometimes, the animal might have to go 20 or 30 tries without a reward. Sometimes it gets a big jolt of sugar three tries in a row. If you train an animal to work for an unexpected reward, you can get it to work harder and longer than if you train it to work for a predictable reward.

 

We've all seen those sad people sitting at slot machines in a casino, methodically feeding coin after coin into the slots. If you made their reward predictable—after precisely every 20 attempts, they would always get a prize—you would lower the addictive power of slots. It's the unpredictability that drives them. Or, to put it another way, it's the hope for reward, not the reward itself, that drives them.

 

I suspect oxytocin works the same way. The unexpected, kind, and loving things that children do produce chemical surges in their parents' brains like the rush of the pipe or the needle. Like addicts, parents will sacrifice anything for the glimpses of heaven that their offspring periodically provide.

 

I don't know if there is empirical evidence to back me up, but it's conceivable that the neurological mechanisms of addiction—in all their irrational and self-defeating pathologies—are based on underlying mechanisms in the hidden brain that are designed by natural selection to make us seek out—and enjoy—parenthood.

 

So spare a moment of compassion for the next junkie you see. And spare a smile for the next parent you run into. Junkies we are—and proud of it.

 

Correction, Nov. 15, 2010: This article originally said that psychologist Dan Gilbert found that spending time with children makes mothers about as happy as vacuuming. Gilbert has cited that study, but it is not his own. (Return to the corrected sentence.)

[Dragan187 7]

This thread has nothing to do about when you should get married in life or marriage is a 50/50 thing or about parenthood sucking...

 

It's an explanation about midlife crisis. I could give a sh!t less about you enjoying fishing with your two boys or your old lady letting you buy a big screen tv.

 

The story is about men that give everything to their families and are questioned when they choose to do something for themselves at a certain age. No one said they werent happy. Half you guys drift off to never never land with your responses cuz your wives run your azzes.

[redtodd 7]

I am so glad I don't hate my wife.

[Voice_Of_Reason 0]

to this thread. Married for 17 years and have not a single thing in common with this thread. I'm happy, more in love now than I was 17 years ago and wouldn't want it any other way. I really feel sad for the people who think marriage is a waste of time. It's work no doubt. But well worth it.

[Voice_Of_Reason 0]

I got married young, but still agree with Rusty, TD, etc. Marriage is what you each put into it.

I read an article that said recent studies are showing that couples that marry younger are more likely to stay together than those that wait to their late 20's to 30's. I'll have to find that article.

[Vic_Rattlehead 0]

This thread has nothing to do about when you should get married in life or marriage is a 50/50 thing or about parenthood sucking...

 

It's an explanation about midlife crisis. I could give a sh!t less about you enjoying fishing with your two boys or your old lady letting you buy a big screen tv.

 

The story is about men that give everything to their families and are questioned when they choose to do something for themselves at a certain age. No one said they werent happy. Half you guys drift off to never never land with your responses cuz your wives run your azzes.

Sorry it took you 40+ years to figure out what you want and having the guts to persue it.

[Dragan187 7]

Sorry it took you 40+ years to figure out what you want and having the guts to persue it.

 

 

I'm Sorry that your wife is your best friend and you dont have the sack to admit it.

[Vic_Rattlehead 0]

I'm Sorry that your wife is your best friend and you dont have the sack to admit it.

 

 

What?

[Dragan187 7]

What?

 

 

This is the intro I'm giving you to tell me that your wife is your best friend. You love her more now than when you met her 100 years ago. You want her to drive a better car cuz its for the safety of your kids. Go ahead....I'm listening.

[Voice_Of_Reason 0]

This is the intro I'm giving you to tell me that your wife is your best friend. You love her more now than when you met her 100 years ago. You want her to drive a better car cuz its for the safety of your kids. Go ahead....I'm listening.

Bitter much?

[Frank M 181]

Bitter much?

 

Focking A!

 

Seems like some woman pissed in Dragan's Wheaties.......for the last fifteen years or so!

[Rusty Syringes 478]

The story is about men that are too puzzywhipped, immature and spineless to establish boundaries in a relationship and realize that it's OK sometimes to do things for themselves, and a midlife crisis is all about waking up one day in your 40s and realizing you've sold yourself short, been a sissy, got married too focking early and wasted your whole life with some testicle-robbing kvnt who drained your soul one day at a time when you could have been working together as a team to make the most of life and avert a midlife crisis in the first place.

 

 

[Rusty Syringes 478]

LOOK AT ME! I'M A MAN! I'M 40!!

 

[BunnysBastatrds 2,447]

The other day I was driving with the Mrs. and saw a woman around my age (42) driving a beautiful 442 convertible. The Mrs. says "You should get one. You're forty and that mid-life crisis is just sround the corner?" It made me laugh cause I was thinking about fawking the hot milf in the 442.

[Rusty Syringes 478]

Focking A!

 

Seems like some woman pissed in Dragan's Wheaties.......for the last fifteen years or so!

 

 

Well, what do you expect? She's been emotionally unavailable and unnattracted to him ever since I started laying the sequoia to her back in the late 1990s.

 

[IGotWorms 4,058]

Be a focking HONEY BADGER!!!!

 

[naomi 356]

Why the fock would you care if your spouse wanted to do something for themselves? If you love them I would think that would make you happy that they were happy.

 

What cuckhold said too.

 

I think the situation in the OP happens when people get married because they're feeling it's simply time. Not necessarily settling, just being self-conscious about it. They want to look successful at life, in a stereotypical sense. At a certain age, getting married is in order. The marriage winds up being a chore because the underlying motivation was

[SUXBNME 1,509]

They just don't give a sh1t

[Hardcore troubadour 15,472]

On 4/21/2011 at 3:33 PM, Rusty Syringes said:

My boys are 7 and 9.

 

On Sunday, we went on a guided fishing tour and caught 70 focking fish. The kids have been begging to go back ever since.

 

Last month, we went skiing in Santa Fe, and the kids have been begging to go back ever since.

 

Last fall, we attended the A&M-Nebraska football game, which was focking awesome. We tailgated and watched a nail-biter game in front of very loud, record attendance.

 

Last September, we sat behind home plate for a Texas Rangers game, and then we watched every playoff game.

 

Last summer, we drove across America and stayed at a Virginia Beach condo for a week.

 

I bought a popup camper last year, and we're wearing that thing out, seeing all kinds of new things.

 

I'm 48 years old, adore my wife, love my kids and having the time of my life. I did all the skirt chasing, motorcycle riding and debauchery I needed to do when I was in my 20s.

 

I've got everything I want and need, and I don't need much. I can go play golf or poker anytime I want, but I prefer just being with the family. I can't wait to get home every night, play with the kids, drink a few beers and hang out.

 

Life is good!

 

Lol.  So how long after this did she kick him to the curb? A couple of weeks? 

[GutterBoy 2,899]

5 minutes ago, Hardcore troubadour said:

Lol.  So how long after this did she kick him to the curb? A couple of weeks? 

Man you really are a gigantic piece of sh1t.

[JustinCharge 2,397]

rusty is 60 and is clearly showing signs of dementia.  now it makes sense.  i mean mike krueger is only 53 so its a little questionable for him to keep allowing the lib to run amok.

[BeachGuy23 642]

23 minutes ago, Hardcore troubadour said:

Lol.  So how long after this did she kick him to the curb? A couple of weeks? 

What is so wrong with you people IRL that makes you conservatives so hateful?

This post, call liberals pedos, blatantly lying about dumb stuff Biden does, worshipping Trump's every move, lying about the vaccines, etc.

I hope you all find peace one day.  Because a lot of you are clearly very miserable. 

[seafoam1 3,053]

30 minutes ago, Hardcore troubadour said:

Lol.  So how long after this did she kick him to the curb? A couple of weeks? 

 I would be surprised if he lasted that long. Rusty's bitter because.he couldn't afford a mid life crisis. Still can't. So he resorted to becoming a cat lady. 

[Hardcore troubadour 15,472]

30 minutes ago, GutterBoy said:

Man you really are a gigantic piece of sh1t.

Would you like me to bring up your racist and homophobic posts? And wishing violence on people? And your horrible economic record? Pipe down shorty. This doesn’t concern you. 

[GutterBoy 2,899]

9 minutes ago, Hardcore troubadour said:

Would you like me to bring up your racist and homophobic posts? And wishing violence on people? And your horrible economic record? Pipe down shorty. This doesn’t concern you. 

You can do whatever the fock you want, I'll just continue to call you out.  You're a low rent message board bully, a pathetic piece of sh1t.  You went back 12 years to find a post by Rusty so you could rub his nose in it.  Why?  Why would anyone do this?  What's the matter with you?

[OldMaid 2,130]

5 minutes ago, GutterBoy said:

You can do whatever the fock you want, I'll just continue to call you out.  You're a low rent message board bully, a pathetic piece of sh1t.  You went back 12 years to find a post by Rusty so you could rub his nose in it.  Why?  Why would anyone do this?  What's the matter with you?

He hasn’t hit his sissy slap quota for the month.

[Hardcore troubadour 15,472]

9 minutes ago, GutterBoy said:

You can do whatever the fock you want, I'll just continue to call you out.  You're a low rent message board bully, a pathetic piece of sh1t.  You went back 12 years to find a post by Rusty so you could rub his nose in it.  Why?  Why would anyone do this?  What's the matter with you?

I’m a counter puncher. World class.  Come at me bro! 

[MDC 7,461]

2011. That was 3-4 years before Mrs. Tardcore destroyed her figure with her rough pregnancy at the irresponsible old age of 50. 

I bet Tardcore didn’t need Viagra to get it up for her back then.  

[Hardcore troubadour 15,472]

A-ha! I win. Again.

[Fnord 2,280]

35 minutes ago, OldMaid said:

He hasn’t hit his sissy slap quota for the month.

He HASN'T??? It's all he fukking does!

Is his quota higher than the national debt?

[Hardcore troubadour 15,472]

I figure the rest of my fans will be in here shortly. It feels so empty without me. Lol. 

[OldMaid 2,130]

2 hours ago, Hardcore troubadour said:

I figure the rest of my fans will be in here shortly. It feels so empty without me. Lol. 

You need to find a different word. Fans implies that we like-or at the very least-respect you. HTH!

[Hardcore troubadour 15,472]

11 minutes ago, OldMaid said:

You need to find a different word. Fans implies that we like-or at the very least-respect you. HTH!

You’re right. Fan would indicate I give a Fock about you or get something from you.  I don’t if you hadn’t noticed. Now run along until the next time I go after one of the sanctuary homos. When they need their fagg hag you’re always there for them. Get a pet, it’s better for you. This isn’t real.  

[GutterBoy 2,899]

18 minutes ago, Hardcore troubadour said:

You’re right. Fan would indicate I give a Fock about you or get something from you.  I don’t if you hadn’t noticed. Now run along until the next time I go after one of the sanctuary homos. When they need their fagg hag you’re always there for them. Get a pet, it’s better for you. This isn’t real.  

Hey old maid, I think we broke tardcore. :

[OldMaid 2,130]

Just now, GutterBoy said:

Hey old maid, I think we broke tardcore. :

He’s been broken for a long time.

[Hardcore troubadour 15,472]

15 minutes ago, GutterBoy said:

Hey old maid, I think we broke tardcore. :

Derp. Please OM, come help me! The meanie is picking on me again! Lol.