TheNewGirl 1,638 Posted October 18, 2012 Any of you married geeks ever participate in swinging or swapping (soft swapping included)? Do you think couples who do this have chances of being together longer/shorter than couples who don't do this? Is it kind of just an open invite to cheat? Other thoughts? The two couples I know that did this ended up divorced. They weren't all swinging together, they were two separate couples, but I thought it odd their marriages suffered the same fate. So, I am curious if its inevitable that couples who do this just don't last. Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Strike 6,030 Posted October 18, 2012 Any of you married geeks ever participate in swinging or swapping (soft swapping included)? Do you think couples who do this have chances of being together longer/shorter than couples who don't do this? Is it kind of just an open invite to cheat? Other thoughts? The two couples I know that did this ended up divorced. They weren't all swinging together, they were two separate couples, but I thought it odd their marriages suffered the same fate. So, I am curious if its inevitable that couples who do this just don't last. What the hell is soft swapping? I mean, what would be the point of swapping if you stay soft? seriously, it depends on the people involved. I think some individuals in couples will do it because they want to cheat or aren't attracted to their spouse any more. And there can be a lot of jealousy issues in such an arrangement. But for the right couple it can work. You considering it? Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
mobb_deep 921 Posted October 18, 2012 I don't have any issue with consenting adults doing this, but I can't see many situations where it wouldn't be bad for a relationship (especially a marriage) in the long run. Even as someone who isn't very religious, I'm thinking they were onto something, when they put that whole "forsaking all others" part into the vow. Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
IGotWorms 4,063 Posted October 18, 2012 It seems to me like the kind of thing that can veer out of control pretty easily. Even if both partners are totally into it initially, who knows how they'll feel down the road. And by that point you can't undue the focking that's been done. So I don't think it's a good idea for a relationship, even when both people think they're up for it. Also I'm gonna echo strike and ask: what the fock is "soft" swapping? Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
SUXBNME 1,622 Posted October 18, 2012 Any of you married geeks ever participate in swinging or swapping (soft swapping included)? Do you think couples who do this have chances of being together longer/shorter than couples who don't do this? Is it kind of just an open invite to cheat? Other thoughts? The two couples I know that did this ended up divorced. They weren't all swinging together, they were two separate couples, but I thought it odd their marriages suffered the same fate. So, I am curious if its inevitable that couples who do this just don't last. Listening to RAD this morning, huh? Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
OldMaid 2,137 Posted October 18, 2012 I'll need to see a picture of your husband, before I can properly answer this question for you. Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
SUXBNME 1,622 Posted October 18, 2012 I'll need to see a picture of your husband, before I can properly answer this question for you. :softball: Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
TheNewGirl 1,638 Posted October 18, 2012 Listening to RAD this morning, huh? Ha! Yup! Soft swapping - everything but actually focking. Making out, oral, handies, etc. Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
SUXBNME 1,622 Posted October 18, 2012 Ha! Yup! Soft swapping - everything but actually focking. Making out, oral, handies, etc. I that show Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
kutulu 1,724 Posted October 18, 2012 Any of you married geeks ever participate in swinging or swapping (soft swapping included)? YES Do you think couples who do this have chances of being together longer/shorter than couples who don't do this? YES Is it kind of just an open invite to cheat? NO Other thoughts? Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
TheNewGirl 1,638 Posted October 18, 2012 I that show Me too. I listen everyday from about 6 to 10. I am not a member though and I've never heard when they do their 6th hour. Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
MedStudent 56 Posted October 18, 2012 Ha! Yup! Soft swapping - everything but actually focking. Making out, oral, handies, etc. I would think soft swapping would be worse than Focking. Making out with someone means you are really into them. But you can fock someone just for the sake of Focking. Getting all tender and kissy might be worse. Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Mungwater 601 Posted October 18, 2012 I'll need to see a picture of your husband, before I can properly answer this question for you. Your boyfriend wants the dude, so I don't think it applies Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
titans&bucs&bearsohmy! 2,745 Posted October 19, 2012 I would think soft swapping would be worse than Focking. Making out with someone means you are really into them. But you can fock someone just for the sake of Focking. Getting all tender and kissy might be worse. It does cut down on the "Honey, I'm pregnant... who is the daddy?" kind of issues thought I'd imagine. Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
scott4507 4 Posted October 19, 2012 I have a girl friend (friend so I'm guessing 34Cs) who I've known (with her husband) for many years. Always seemed a little daring, but really nice people. They decide to try swapping with other couples. And since she can't tell anyone else without it getting out, she unburdens her soul to me. They started swapping by answering ads in certain magazines, then moved on to websites. Through after-hours clubs, they then evidently moved on to full-blown orgies (pun intended) and finally on to group gangbangs. Her and 6 guys, five women and 40 men type thing, etc. Once it was 100 guys and 12 women! They even reserved half wings in motels with connecting rooms for the orgies.... And then she started seeing another guy on the side (from one of the encounters) who evidently gave her more than hubby was giving and it wasn't long before the hubby found out and was pissed. They had always agreed never to do that type thing. So she stopped that, but it wasn't too long later when both of them caught herpies...and two different types each! So then she had to figure out who showed up to the last bang and give them a "warning" to go see a Dr. So now they've sworn off swapping and are turning religious and asking the Big Guy Upstairs for forgiveness...... However, even now whenever I see them (and they are friends), I'm still a little "whoa....." on the inside. So to each their own, but be careful of opening Pandora's box (pun intended). Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
SUXBNME 1,622 Posted October 19, 2012 I have a girl friend (friend so I'm guessing 34Cs) who I've known (with her husband) for many years. Always seemed a little daring, but really nice people. They decide to try swapping with other couples. And since she can't tell anyone else without it getting out, she unburdens her soul to me. They started swapping by answering ads in certain magazines, then moved on to websites. Through after-hours clubs, they then evidently moved on to full-blown orgies (pun intended) and finally on to group gangbangs. Her and 6 guys, five women and 40 men type thing, etc. Once it was 100 guys and 12 women! They even reserved half wings in motels with connecting rooms for the orgies.... And then she started seeing another guy on the side (from one of the encounters) who evidently gave her more than hubby was giving and it wasn't long before the hubby found out and was pissed. They had always agreed never to do that type thing. So she stopped that, but it wasn't too long later when both of them caught herpies...and two different types each! So then she had to figure out who showed up to the last bang and give them a "warning" to go see a Dr. So now they've sworn off swapping and are turning religious and asking the Big Guy Upstairs for forgiveness...... However, even now whenever I see them (and they are friends), I'm still a little "whoa....." on the inside. So to each their own, but be careful of opening Pandora's box (pun intended). We know it's you, Newbie. We are all sorry about your divorce, but you don't need to be making any new aliases. Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
scott4507 4 Posted October 19, 2012 I've been called alot things, but Newbie was never one of them..... Real bored name, not an alias, doosh. Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
SUXBNME 1,622 Posted October 19, 2012 I've been called alot things, but Newbie was never one of them..... Real bored name, not an alias, doosh. I've been called alot of things. doosh is one of them Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Little Rusty 19 Posted October 19, 2012 Your boyfriend wants the dude, so I don't think it applies Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Let Da Big Dog Eat 42 Posted October 19, 2012 If you can't or don't want to be loyal to your partner, your relationship is OVAH. Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Chronic Husker 86 Posted October 19, 2012 I have a girl friend (friend so I'm guessing 34Cs) who I've known (with her husband) for many years. Always seemed a little daring, but really nice people. They decide to try swapping with other couples. And since she can't tell anyone else without it getting out, she unburdens her soul to me. They started swapping by answering ads in certain magazines, then moved on to websites. Through after-hours clubs, they then evidently moved on to full-blown orgies (pun intended) and finally on to group gangbangs. Her and 6 guys, five women and 40 men type thing, etc. Once it was 100 guys and 12 women! They even reserved half wings in motels with connecting rooms for the orgies.... And then she started seeing another guy on the side (from one of the encounters) who evidently gave her more than hubby was giving and it wasn't long before the hubby found out and was pissed. They had always agreed never to do that type thing. So she stopped that, but it wasn't too long later when both of them caught herpies...and two different types each! So then she had to figure out who showed up to the last bang and give them a "warning" to go see a Dr. So now they've sworn off swapping and are turning religious and asking the Big Guy Upstairs for forgiveness...... However, even now whenever I see them (and they are friends), I'm still a little "whoa....." on the inside. So to each their own, but be careful of opening Pandora's box (pun intended). Thanks for the warning, Fumbleweed. Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
shotsup 836 Posted October 19, 2012 sure I fvck my friends wife and he doesn't know about it ! I agree soft swapping as it was explained is either worse or whats the point. If I'm 3 inches in with my tongue might as well be 6 inches in with my cack - see how modest I am whats the difference. Like said making out is much more intimate then actually fvcking. Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
TheNewGirl 1,638 Posted October 19, 2012 If you can't or don't want to be loyal to your partner, your relationship is OVAH. But if you're all consenting adults, is it cheating or being disloyal? I mean, I get how if the husband/wife goes off with one of the swingers without their spouse knowing and how that is not being loyal, but if you're all there and you all agree.... Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
kutulu 1,724 Posted October 19, 2012 But if you're all consenting adults, is it cheating or being disloyal? I mean, I get how if the husband/wife goes off with one of the swingers without their spouse knowing and how that is not being loyal, but if you're all there and you all agree.... What if one of them passes out? Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
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kutulu 1,724 Posted October 19, 2012 Really...that sucks. Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
BunnysBastatrds 2,694 Posted October 19, 2012 I did some soft swapping one night at our good friends house. They throw lots of swimming and drinking parties and me and my wife usually end up leaving early and miss all the late night fun. I always here "Man, why did you leave early last time? You missed all the fun!" One night I decided we should stay and see what it's all about. I ended up fingering my wife and our friend K (36C) while we were kissing in the middle of the pool. It was pretty fawking hot. The misses ended up kissing and giving a hand job and I got a blow job. We woke up the next morning and had bloody mary's and a really nice day at the pool. In fact, I don't think anyone has ever brought it up and not one thing has changed with aal of ours relationships. It was just one of those things that happend and everybody was fine with it. Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
kutulu 1,724 Posted October 19, 2012 What's it called when the girls go at it with a double sided dilldo and the guys jerk off on them? Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
IGotWorms 4,063 Posted October 19, 2012 What's it called when the girls go at it with a double sided dilldo and the guys jerk off on them? Jenna Bush's Thursday night? Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
kutulu 1,724 Posted October 19, 2012 Jenna Bush's Thursday night? How about when the other husband passes out and you drill his wife from behind while she eats your wife's pussie and you can look right into her eyes. Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
BunnysBastatrds 2,694 Posted October 19, 2012 How about when the other husband passes out and you drill his wife from behind while she eats your wife's pussie and you can look right into her eyes. Is that why my wifeys breath smelled like fish the next morning? Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
The Elevator Killer 724 Posted October 19, 2012 My ex and I went through a period where we kept getting approached by swingers. All were to ugly to fock. That's my impression of most swingers. Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
kutulu 1,724 Posted October 19, 2012 My ex and I went through a period where we kept getting approached by swingers. All were to ugly to fock. That's my impression of most swingers. There's all types...from what I remember...its going back a few years now :sad: Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
The Elevator Killer 724 Posted October 19, 2012 There's all types...from what I remember...its going back a few years now :sad: I didn't mean you smoochy. Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
kutulu 1,724 Posted October 19, 2012 I didn't mean you smoochy. we went to this one club a couple times...it was really a house but set up for swinger parties. Anyway wer got propositioned by this one couple...the dude looked Jackie mason...his wife or girlfriend looked like she may have once been a guy herself. No we didn't hook up with them. Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
The Elevator Killer 724 Posted October 19, 2012 we went to this one club a couple times...it was really a house but set up for swinger parties. Anyway wer got propositioned by this one couple...the dude looked Jackie mason...his wife or girlfriend looked like she may have once been a guy herself. No we didn't hook up with them. That's what kept approaching us. Scary. Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
gocolts 300 Posted October 20, 2012 we went to this one club a couple times...it was really a house but set up for swinger parties. Anyway wer got propositioned by this one couple...the dude looked Jackie mason...his wife or girlfriend looked like she may have once been a guy herself. No we didn't hook up with them. Are you sure you two weren't just real drunk looking in the mirror??? Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
WhiteWonder 2,989 Posted October 20, 2012 Are you sure you two weren't just real drunk looking in the mirror??? Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
OldMaid 2,137 Posted October 21, 2012 :softball: If it were a photo of you, it definitely wouldn't be a hardball. Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
redtodd 7 Posted October 21, 2012 I'm sorry, but my wife and I are not not that stuff. You'll have to check with another couple for your experiment. Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
