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Honestly, if this insanely extroverted alcoholic has been sending subtle clues for a year I suspect he's either not interested or flirts with everyone to get an ego boost out of mind tripping chicks like you, or he strings a bunch of women along to see what he can get from any / all of them. Nothing you said sounds like this is the early stages of a healthy satisfying relationship. And you sound awfully desperate letting this years long flirtation develop into something more, in your head only.

 

That was my thought to. He would have asked HER out already if he was into it. Or at least tried to get in her pants already. Some people are just really flirty. And this whole giving off mixed signals or being cold thing sounds like over thinking and mentally justifying men's actions or lack of them that we women are famous for.

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Honestly, if this insanely extroverted alcoholic has been sending subtle clues for a year I suspect he's either not interested or flirts with everyone to get an ego boost out of mind tripping chicks like you, or he strings a bunch of women along to see what he can get from any / all of them. Nothing you said sounds like this is the early stages of a healthy satisfying relationship. And you sound awfully desperate letting this years long flirtation develop into something more, in your head only.

 

 

Yea, this guy's a doosh weirdo extroverted alcoholic touchy feely freako. Find a cool, introverted guy who has strong morals like you. Someone you can respect and love. And not this tool.

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That was my thought to. He would have asked HER out already if he was into it. Or at least tried to get in her pants already. Some people are just really flirty. And this whole giving off mixed signals or being cold thing sounds like over thinking and mentally justifying men's actions or lack of them that we women are famous for.

Please. :rolleyes:

 

You would have blown him with your man hands up his ass by now. :lol:

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Please. :rolleyes:

 

You would have blown him with your man hands up his ass by now. :lol:

 

That doesn't mean I would have asked him on a date. :rolleyes:

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That doesn't mean I would have asked him on a date. :rolleyes:

 

:wub:

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Good Lord. What a bunch of crap.

 

naomi is leaving a major part out. Know all the Bible dogma naomi posts that you collective assclowns can't ever understand? naomi will never be with anyone that doesn't believe the exact same as her. That is first and foremost.

 

That idealism really narrows down the field. Obviously, there's no way this dude fits that mold. So, I don't know if this is a look at me thread or what. I mean, what the fock is the point of spending five seconds on someone that doesn't fit an ideal that she won't hedge on? Get somebody interested and then drop it on them, "Hey, you believe all the same exact stuff I believe, right? Oh, you don't? Sorry bout that."

 

:wall:

 

She needs to have enough respect for guys not to even waste their time.

 

Beyond that, she needs to get her shiot together before she puts any focus on guys to begin with. I'll leave it at that.

 

After she gets her shiot together, she needs to either find a guy at church or open an account at christianmingle and start from there.

 

Because as it is, she has the same chance of developing a rewarding relationship with this dude as she does of waking SUX up with a blow job Christmas morning.

Sounds like someone is a little worried that he won't get to be the first one to push Naomi down a flight of stairs.

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Sounds like someone is a little worried that he won't get to be the first one to push Naomi down a flight of stairs.

Not at all. Only stating the facts, Miss Abyss.

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Not at all. Only stating the facts, Miss Abyss.

 

Really? 'Cause you sounded a little jealous, Mr. She'sFallenAndSheCan'tGetUp.

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Really? 'Cause you sounded a little jealous, Mr. She'sFallenAndSheCan'tGetUp.

Not jealous. Maybe 5 years ago. Someone has to be the voice of reason.

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Good Lord. What a bunch of crap.

 

naomi is leaving a major part out. Know all the Bible dogma naomi posts that you collective assclowns can't ever understand? naomi will never be with anyone that doesn't believe the exact same as her. That is first and foremost.

 

That idealism really narrows down the field. Obviously, there's no way this dude fits that mold. So, I don't know if this is a look at me thread or what. I mean, what the fock is the point of spending five seconds on someone that doesn't fit an ideal that she won't hedge on? Get somebody interested and then drop it on them, "Hey, you believe all the same exact stuff I believe, right? Oh, you don't? Sorry bout that."

 

:wall:

 

She needs to have enough respect for guys not to even waste their time.

 

Beyond that, she needs to get her shiot together before she puts any focus on guys to begin with. I'll leave it at that.

 

After she gets her shiot together, she needs to either find a guy at church or open an account at christianmingle and start from there.

 

Because as it is, she has the same chance of developing a rewarding relationship with this dude as she does of waking SUX up with a blow job Christmas morning.

 

Not "exact same."

 

Christians may not agree to a T over every aspect of doctrine, but someone who the gospel message personally resonates with may be a fellow Christian. Being 'equally yoked' concerns that.

 

I'm open to dating someone who's not a professing Christian but who has an interest in the gospel. I used to be averted to that since people can fake things for the sake of a relationship. The only way I would comfortably do that is by seeking to be earnestly walking with the Lord regarding everything, on my end. If the person is still around (not counting on that, first of all), then continue. See where it goes at least. Everything is out on the table. You know my friend that dynamic applied with...I know his wife decently now and we have Christian fellowship together. There seems to be genuineness in her profession of faith.

 

Work guy and I actually have some intellectual unity in what we believe (know this from before being attracted to him). He has a respect for Christianity, and some traditional Christian background in his family. Christian thoughts aren't anathema to him.

 

Liking this guy isn't getting in the way of anything that I'm doing out of having an ssn now.

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Honestly, if this insanely extroverted alcoholic has been sending subtle clues for a year I suspect he's either not interested or flirts with everyone to get an ego boost out of mind tripping chicks like you, or he strings a bunch of women along to see what he can get from any / all of them. Nothing you said sounds like this is the early stages of a healthy satisfying relationship. And you sound awfully desperate letting this years long flirtation develop into something more, in your head only.

 

The way he's been with the exception of the last couple weeks hasn't meant anything to me. Knew that was just his extrovertedness. The way he's been the last couple of weeks has meant something though. His motives for it? I don't know. It is good to keep that in mind.

 

So I haven't been actively attracted to him for a year. It didn't seriously kick in until a little while after he stopped drinking, confiding in each other about work stuff, and then him being sweet recently in meaningful ways.

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Sounds to me like ur one of the 10% of American Christians who actually believe it. The other 90% just play pretend Christian for social reasons.

 

You need to find another bible thumper like urself. Otherwise, it's gonna be weird.

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I can't think of another person that needs a good dicking more than Naomi.

 

Seriously

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It's an entertainment centered business, family friendly by day, younger crowd by night.

 

 

 

Chuck-E-Cheez?

 

Oh wait .... GAMESTOP!

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Now this is hilarity! I really like how he only rates 1 piece

of 4 day old fockin blackcrapass pie. Nice. :thumbsup:

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Now this is hilarity! I really like how he only rates 1 piece

of 4 day old fockin blackcrapass pie. Nice. :thumbsup:

:D

 

It will be two and a half days old, and it's good!

 

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Anyway,

 

I felt like texting him the night I posted this thread because of how our phone conversations had gone earlier that day. A couple weeks of him coming onto me in a good way, and then feeling bad for just giving him the cold shoulder, which isn't actually typical of me (except for the physical part of things, literal cold shoulders :banana:) I was taking stock of who he is overall because I was going to do something about it.

 

Now I just want to talk with him though when a good chance comes up. We had someone let go so he's been on a shift opposite mine lately. Not Chuck-E-Cheez. IF he's been coming onto me one on one just to see where it goes, get me to like him, etc., then that's something I could tell after talking with him. Make him ###### or get off the pot, to borrow from IGW (and call myself a pot).

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I vote to give him the pie

 

but if he doesn't call you the next day, don't beat yourself up over it. it sounds like you already have some comfort food lineup up with that blackberry stuff you were talking about.

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:D

 

It will be two and a half days old, and it's good!

 

---------

 

Anyway,

 

I felt like texting him the night I posted this thread because of how our phone conversations had gone earlier that day. A couple weeks of him coming onto me in a good way, and then feeling bad for just giving him the cold shoulder, which isn't actually typical of me (except for the physical part of things, literal cold shoulders :banana:) I was taking stock of who he is overall because I was going to do something about it.

 

Now I just want to talk with him though when a good chance comes up. We had someone let go so he's been on a shift opposite mine lately. Not Chuck-E-Cheez. IF he's been coming onto me one on one just to see where it goes, get me to like him, etc., then that's something I could tell after talking with him. Make him ###### or get off the pot, to borrow from IGW (and call myself a pot).

 

Don't let him crap in your mouth on the first date, yoked or not.

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I can't think of another person that needs a good dicking more than Naomi.

 

I can :wub:

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Naomi, if he was interested he would ask you out. It sounds like you have a pretty significant history of knowing each other that you being cranky one time that he called you isn't going to prevent him from asking you out if that's what he wants to do.

 

It's so cheesy but you have to read "He's Just Not That Into You" and live by it. It is the bible for single women.

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Not "exact same."

 

Christians may not agree to a T over every aspect of doctrine, but someone who the gospel message personally resonates with may be a fellow Christian. Being 'equally yoked' concerns that.

 

I'm open to dating someone who's not a professing Christian but who has an interest in the gospel. I used to be averted to that since people can fake things for the sake of a relationship. The only way I would comfortably do that is by seeking to be earnestly walking with the Lord regarding everything, on my end. If the person is still around (not counting on that, first of all), then continue. See where it goes at least. Everything is out on the table. You know my friend that dynamic applied with...I know his wife decently now and we have Christian fellowship together. There seems to be genuineness in her profession of faith.

 

Work guy and I actually have some intellectual unity in what we believe (know this from before being attracted to him). He has a respect for Christianity, and some traditional Christian background in his family. Christian thoughts aren't anathema to him.

 

Liking this guy isn't getting in the way of anything that I'm doing out of having an ssn now.

Find a nice muslim guy, they have a much higher probability of being devout to god.

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Not "exact same."

 

Christians may not agree to a T over every aspect of doctrine, but someone who the gospel message personally resonates with may be a fellow Christian. Being 'equally yoked' concerns that.

 

I'm open to dating someone who's not a professing Christian but who has an interest in the gospel. I used to be averted to that since people can fake things for the sake of a relationship. The only way I would comfortably do that is by seeking to be earnestly walking with the Lord regarding everything, on my end. If the person is still around (not counting on that, first of all), then continue. See where it goes at least. Everything is out on the table. You know my friend that dynamic applied with...I know his wife decently now and we have Christian fellowship together. There seems to be genuineness in her profession of faith.

 

Work guy and I actually have some intellectual unity in what we believe (know this from before being attracted to him). He has a respect for Christianity, and some traditional Christian background in his family. Christian thoughts aren't anathema to him.

 

Liking this guy isn't getting in the way of anything that I'm doing out of having an ssn now.

 

Look, I don't want to be disrespectful to your faith, but it's really quite sad how much you limit your life with this fundamentalist stuff. Can't you just believe in God and leave it at that? Why does it have to be so all-consuming?

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For Chist sakes, just open up that gap for him. :rolleyes:

See where it goes from there. Might get some sexual harassment money out of it.

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Naomi, if he was interested he would ask you out. It sounds like you have a pretty significant history of knowing each other that you being cranky one time that he called you isn't going to prevent him from asking you out if that's what he wants to do.

 

It's so cheesy but you have to read "He's Just Not That Into You" and live by it. It is the bible for single women.

:rolleyes: Yeah, either that or maybe he is shy, ever think of that???

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waking SUX up with a blow job Christmas morning.

Should I be excited or scared? :unsure:

 

Hair Pie?

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Should I be excited or scared? :unsure:

 

Hair Pie?

Well, if sex with Naomi is anything like her posts, then it would be a whole lot of foreplay that never goes anywhere.

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Well, if sex with Naomi is anything like her posts, then it would be a whole lot of foreplay that never goes anywhere.

As long as I get mine, it's all good. :bandana:

 

I doubt she is this serious IRL. I'd love to meet her some day. Nice girl.

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For the record, this isn't a huge deal to me. I do like him which makes me think a ton before doing something like texting and letting him know that. I enjoy threads here that give insight into posters personally, how they think, what's up with them, etc. In 04/05, maybe 06, I used to post a lot like that (and they pretty much went like this one) so I felt like at least there was that to it...indulge obsessing over possibly texting him (I need girlfriends) and get personal here again.

 

He wasn't in the best mood tonight. Left him pie, small talked over shift change.

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For the record, this isn't a huge deal to me. I do like him which makes me think a ton before doing something like texting and letting him know that. I enjoy threads here that give insight into posters personally, how they think, what's up with them, etc. In 04/05, maybe 06, I used to post a lot like that (and they pretty much went like this one) so I felt like at least there was that to it...indulge obsessing over possibly texting him (I need girlfriends) and get personal here again.

 

He wasn't in the best mood tonight. Left him pie, small talked over shift change.

Tell him about te third muscle

 

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The way he's been with the exception of the last couple weeks hasn't meant anything to me. Knew that was just his extrovertedness. The way he's been the last couple of weeks has meant something though. His motives for it? I don't know. It is good to keep that in mind.

 

So I haven't been actively attracted to him for a year. It didn't seriously kick in until a little while after he stopped drinking, confiding in each other about work stuff, and then him being sweet recently in meaningful ways.

 

He's known you for years right? If this guy hasn't worked up the nerve yet to ask you out I'm guessing he's not interested. Or at least it's either going to happen or not so go pursue other ventures including dating in the meantime. The amount of thought you've given what's til now just been some flirting is going to come off desperate and that's either a turn off or a signal that he's got a roll in the hay waiting whenever he feels like pulling the trigger. Either way this isn't heading in a direction you want. If you're really into this guy make a non subtle move, otherwise move on.

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If you known him for years and he hasn't asked you out, he isn't into you. Dudes are pretty much cavemen, you see a girl you like you club her over the head and take her back to the cave (proverbially, not in a CH way).

 

So either he's not into you or a ######.

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:rolleyes: Yeah, either that or maybe he is shy, ever think of that???

 

Perhaps I would have thought of that if Naomi didn't say over and over that he was an extrovert/outgoing and tried to grab her boob in the workplace. But good theory. :rolleyes:

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If he was into you he would try to get into you.

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Sounds like someone is a little worried that he won't get to be the first one to push Naomi down a flight of stairs.

 

:lol: Good thread.

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