I need to get out of an Engagement Party...

[TBayXXXVII 2,551]

2 hours ago, Shooter McGavin said:

Do you feel like an accessory in all this?

This whole thing started in the summer of 2019.  She was going to retire in the summer of 2020, so we already started putting in the groundwork.  Everything was pretty much in place, but then COVID hit.  She had a lot of events cancelled and when things started rolling again, the marriage stuff got put on the back burner and her retirement got pushed back as well.  The ring and stuff like this was already picked out... it just happened a few years later than it was supposed to.

[OldMaid 2,130]

Congrats on your enslavement party! Oops, I meant engagement.    

[IGotWorms 4,058]

49 minutes ago, TBayXXXVII said:

Not even close on any of that.

Fair enough, obviously I don’t know anything other than what you’ve posted here

[nobody 2,687]

So wait.   Are you going to the engagement party or the poker night?

[jerryskids 6,817]

2 hours ago, nobody said:

What I don't get is how the fock did an assistant fund invites, food, venue, an engagement ring(!) out of what I presume is one of your bank accounts without anyone noticing

What I don't get is how the party can be this weekend, presumably with people that have relationships with the bride and groom, and not one person has reached out and said congrats or looking forward to seeing you or anything?  Also the manager never once touched base with the bride about status, checking that things were set, nothing?

If this happened in a movie I'd call bullshiot.   

[Shooter McGavin 618]

7 minutes ago, jerryskids said:

What I don't get is how the party can be this weekend, presumably with people that have relationships with the bride and groom, and not one person has reached out and said congrats or looking forward to seeing you or anything?  Also the manager never once touched base with the bride about status, checking that things were set, nothing?

If this happened in a movie I'd call bullshiot.   

I'm guessing that none of the guests are anyone that TBay knows.  This is all the bodybuilder's gig, TBay is just the accessory.  I mean, all his poker buddies, none of them were invited.

[jerryskids 6,817]

4 minutes ago, Shooter McGavin said:

I'm guessing that none of the guests are anyone that TBay knows.  This is all the bodybuilder's gig, TBay is just the accessory.  I mean, all his poker buddies, none of them were invited.

Possible, but the bride didn't apparently get any such messages either.  Not a single "girl, why didn't you tell me you were engaged?!" text?  

[nobody 2,687]

20 minutes ago, Shooter McGavin said:

I'm guessing that none of the guests are anyone that TBay knows.  This is all the bodybuilder's gig, TBay is just the accessory.  I mean, all his poker buddies, none of them were invited.

None of this shìt makes any sense.  His best friend (Brian) isn't even invited to his engagement party it would appear, so the assistant didn't bother asking for the groom-to-be's (congrats to TBay) contacts since apparently this has all been planned.  An amateur body builder apparently has a manager and an assistant that runs his fiance's (congrats to TBay) life.  And, apparently, now the manager is paying for the engagement party for some reason.

Maybe TBay is just one of those guys that floats through life.  Weird all-around.  I guess I'll call bullshìt.

[TimHauck 2,901]

28 minutes ago, jerryskids said:

Possible, but the bride didn't apparently get any such messages either.  Not a single "girl, why didn't you tell me you were engaged?!" text?  

Great question Jerry.  I was believing the story because it seems too crazy to be made up (and something he’d be willing to share here), but this is a pretty big hole you’ve poked.

[Shooter McGavin 618]

5 minutes ago, nobody said:

None of this shìt makes any sense.  His best friend (Brian) isn't even invited to his engagement party it would appear, so the assistant didn't bother asking for the groom-to-be's (congrats to TBay) contacts since apparently this has all been planned.  An amateur body builder apparently has a manager and an assistant that runs his fiance's (congrats to TBay) life.  And, apparently, now the manager is paying for the engagement party for some reason.

Maybe TBay is just one of those guys that floats through life.  Weird all-around.  I guess I'll call bullshìt.

The only thing I can think of is that the party guests are all industry.  Look, I don't know sh1t about female amateur bodybuilding, but from what has been sharing, it's apparently more intense than the NFL.  With contracts, appearances, managers, assistants, etc.  So it's possible that the fiance (congrats TBay, happy for you) told the manager that they would be getting engaged at some point, so the manager planned a bunch of parties for all the other bodybuilders, and their managers, and their assistants, and since TBay is not a part of any of this, he just never knew.  So he'll just show up and get his hand squeezed into a bloody pulp from a bunch of high T women.

[Brad GLuckman 519]

3 hours ago, Reality said:

Truer words have never been spoken.

I'm good with the women folk having their baby showers though. Everybody needs diapers. The other 2 need to stop, that should be for the couple only.

My wife has a "sprinkle" to go to this weekend. It's a baby shower for someone's second baby. Basically just a money grab. Ridiculous.

[jerryskids 6,817]

48 minutes ago, Brad GLuckman said:

My wife has a "sprinkle" to go to this weekend. It's a baby shower for someone's second baby. Basically just a money grab. Ridiculous.

That's a clever name for the money grab, I hadn't heard it before.   

[TBayXXXVII 2,551]

1 hour ago, jerryskids said:

What I don't get is how the party can be this weekend, presumably with people that have relationships with the bride and groom, and not one person has reached out and said congrats or looking forward to seeing you or anything?  Also the manager never once touched base with the bride about status, checking that things were set, nothing?

If this happened in a movie I'd call bullshiot.   

 

1 hour ago, Shooter McGavin said:

I'm guessing that none of the guests are anyone that TBay knows.  This is all the bodybuilder's gig, TBay is just the accessory.  I mean, all his poker buddies, none of them were invited.

 

1 hour ago, jerryskids said:

Possible, but the bride didn't apparently get any such messages either.  Not a single "girl, why didn't you tell me you were engaged?!" text?  

 

When I started this thread, I was just looking for a logical argument to get out of a party I didn't really want to go to, because I didn't know who the people who it was for.  At the time, I didn't think it was necessary to give a 7 (almost 8 [in March]), year re-cap of our relationship.  The thing that is missing is that this has been in the plans for 3 years, as far as everyone who is close to us is concerned.  The plan was to push everything off until after her retirement.  She was telling all of her friends and family, as did I, that we're probably going to make everything official in June of 2020 (her contracts and what not were supposed to end June 30th, 2020, meaning she was set to have all of her commitments done in December of 2020), and that all the dates will be set for 2021, in due time.  We got all of the congratulations things done back then.

Well, as we all know, COVID hit and focked everything up.  When it hit, we told people that everything will be pushed back and we'll let everyone know when the time comes.  With all the things that went down, she re-upped with everyone on everything for 2 years, so June 30, 2022 ended up being her official date of retirement.  Everyone was then told that the we're pushing everything off until 2023.  My girlfriend hasn't been around much since September.  She left on September 8th and hasn't been home for much more than a few weekend days here and there since.  The invitations, I found out, went out on September 16th.  Apparently when people got their invites, it wasn't a shock just more like "Oh, ok, they're starting to get everything rolling now".

Something else that is going on is her retirement party.  Her manager and sponsors are having a big shindig for her in December.  Coincidentally, those invitations went out on September 12th.  When my girlfriend is away, her assistant handles all her messages.  So, when people sent a text of "Congrats!  See you at the engagement party", her assistant passed on the message to my girlfriend who then sent out texts saying "Thanks!  See you then!".  She's under the impression that she's saying thank you to the retirement party and will see them at her sister's engagement party.   Oh, and no, I don't call or text her assistant.  Every night, my girlfriend would call me when she got to the house rental (or hotel), she was staying at, every night.

No, none of my friends are invited to the engagement party, because we're men, and we don't go to those.  I believe many people have touched on this in the thread.  Of the 9 other guys involved in poker night, only 2 of them are going to be in my wedding as part of the bridal party.  One of them is gay, so neither him or his boyfriend got invites to the engagement party and the other friend got divorced in May, so he didn't get one either.  Neither one knew of the existence of the engagement party.  Yes, my brother and father did get an invite, but like everyone else, they knew it was coming, so it wasn't a big deal.  Also, my father is kind of losing it.  He has dementia.  He forgets everything 10 minutes after he's told.  For events, we tell him a couple hours in advance to start getting ready, and then he goes.  As for my brother, it never came up.  Like when he got engaged and married, it was the same thing... just tell me where and when.  In fact, I don't think the topics ever came up.  If I recall, for my brother's engagement party, I found out about it 2 weeks prior.  I knew I was the best man, like he knows for mine, so it's no big deal.

 

[TBayXXXVII 2,551]

1 hour ago, Shooter McGavin said:

The only thing I can think of is that the party guests are all industry.  Look, I don't know sh1t about female amateur bodybuilding, but from what has been sharing, it's apparently more intense than the NFL.  With contracts, appearances, managers, assistants, etc.  So it's possible that the fiance (congrats TBay, happy for you) told the manager that they would be getting engaged at some point, so the manager planned a bunch of parties for all the other bodybuilders, and their managers, and their assistants, and since TBay is not a part of any of this, he just never knew.  So he'll just show up and get his hand squeezed into a bloody pulp from a bunch of high T women.

It's only like this right now because she crammed everything in to finish everything up at the same time.  In prior years, she leaves for 2 weeks to train for a specific competition, she's there for 3 days and comes home.  She's back and doing normal workouts for a month or so before doing it all again the month later.  Also, because she's retiring, she's also going to interviews.  She schedules one every day in the area she's going to be for workouts and competitions.  That has extended each of her trips an extra week.

[frank 2,307]

Chess:

1. Agree to go to the party. Tell her you had plans but you would do anything to make her happy. 
2.  Arrange somehow for the party not to happen. This could involve making a deal with the groom or framing him for cheating on his fiancee. No one can know you were involved. 
3. Go play poker while also collecting from your woman for being willing to go to the party. 
 

Checkers:

1. Go to the party. 
2. Drink. The. Whole. Time. 
 

Rock ‘em Sock ‘em Robots:

1. Tell bodybuilder chick to fock off. 
2. Go play poker.

 

[MTSkiBum 1,620]

2 minutes ago, frank said:

Chess:

1. Agree to go to the party. Tell her you had plans but you would do anything to make her happy. 
2.  Arrange somehow for the party not to happen. This could involve making a deal with the groom or framing him for cheating on his fiancee. No one can know you were involved. 
3. Go play poker while also collecting from your woman for being willing to go to the party. 
 

Checkers:

1. Go to the party. 
2. Drink. The. Whole. Time. 
 

Rock ‘em Sock ‘em Robots:

1. Tell bodybuilder chick to fock off. 
2. Go play poker.

 

You can tell who didn't read this thread.

[TimHauck 2,901]

1 hour ago, TBayXXXVII said:

Of the 9 other guys involved in poker night, only 2 of them are going to be in my wedding as part of the bridal party.  One of them is gay, so neither him or his boyfriend got invites to the engagement party

He didn’t get invited because he’s gay?

[Gladiators 1,992]

Well this got awkward. Looks like TimHauck just found out that he’s not invited.

[jerryskids 6,817]

1 hour ago, TimHauck said:

He didn’t get invited because he’s gay?

I had that same thought reading it.   

[nobody 2,687]

I picture something like this.

Amateur Body Builder doing squats.  TBay walks in. 

Amateur Body Builder: hey bro, we're engaged now.  Party Saturday.  You have to go.

TBay: Yes! Yes! A thousand times yes!  I love you.  Are you feeling romantic as I am?

Amateur Body Builder: Not really bro.  It's leg day.

TBay: Okay.  Can I invite Brian to the party?

Amateur Body Builder: I don't think so, bro.  I have to impress sponsors. And no gays.

TBay: Brian isn't gay.

Amateur Body Builder: I said no gays.

TBay: I'll go pick out my outfit now!

 

Again, congrats.  Happy for you both.

 

[TBayXXXVII 2,551]

13 hours ago, TimHauck said:

He didn’t get invited because he’s gay?

Yup.  No homos.

[TBayXXXVII 2,551]

12 hours ago, jerryskids said:

I had that same thought reading it.   

He didn't get invited because he's a guy.  I know my friends.  They (my friends), don't care about these things.

[Shooter McGavin 618]

10 minutes ago, TBayXXXVII said:

He didn't get invited because he's a guy.  I know my friends.  They (my friends), don't care about these things.

What about the wedding?  Do any of your friends care about that?  Are they allowed?

[TimHauck 2,901]

12 minutes ago, Shooter McGavin said:

What about the wedding?  Do any of your friends care about that?  Are they allowed?

TBay:  I need the help of a fantasy football message board because I want to see my friends that I haven’t seen for 3 years.

Also TBay:  my friends don’t want to see me

[Reality 3,121]

Just saw a new trailer on Netflix for a limited docuseries called 'Killer Sally'. All I'm saying is, to watch your back...

 

[TBayXXXVII 2,551]

5 minutes ago, Reality said:

Just saw a new trailer on Netflix for a limited docuseries called 'Killer Sally'. All I'm saying is, to watch your back...

 

That's actually something we're going to watch.

[Engorgeous George 2,331]

I am unfamiliar with female bodybuilding as a sport or an industry.  I am confused about how an amatuer has so many contractual commitments.   

 

I did take out Cory Everson a few times in Madison back in the day before she started training as a body builder.  It did not take between us, more her decision than mine, probably my dissapating lifestyle did not appeal to her.  I would occassionally take note of her through the years, but as to the sport, well I know next to nothing.

[porkbutt 893]

i just keep picturing this chick having TBay in a headlock saying "were engaged now b;itch" in a manly voice.

[TBayXXXVII 2,551]

4 hours ago, Engorgeous George said:

I am unfamiliar with female bodybuilding as a sport or an industry.  I am confused about how an amatuer has so many contractual commitments.   

 

I did take out Cory Everson a few times in Madison back in the day before she started training as a body builder.  It did not take between us, more her decision than mine, probably my dissapating lifestyle did not appeal to her.  I would occassionally take note of her through the years, but as to the sport, well I know next to nothing.

There are multiple circuits and organizations, but for an example, here's one of them that has multiple events every week, almost every week of the year.  My girlfriend doesn't compete in all of them, just some here and there... but because of sponsorship agreements, she has to go to other ones (not all, but there's a certain amount that she has to sign up for), to market the products.

[jerryskids 6,817]

This is the latest Jordan Harbinger podcast; I haven't listened but I thought of TBay when I saw the subject:

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Would marrying your type-A “girlboss” special lady friend cramp that type-A “boyboss” lifestyle you’ve been rocking since college? We’ll try to find a reasonable answer to this very serious question (and more!) here on Feedback Friday.

https://www.jordanharbinger.com/would-a-girlboss-wife-ruin-your-boyboss-life-feedback-friday/

Podcast audio at bottom of page if you are interested.

[nobody 2,687]

I guess the type-A girl boss marrying the type B guy isn't as big of an issue.

[jerryskids 6,817]

34 minutes ago, nobody said:

I guess the type-A girl boss marrying the type B guy isn't as big of an issue.

I think TBay fancies himself as a type-A boyboss.   

[nobody 2,687]

20 minutes ago, jerryskids said:

I think TBay fancies himself as a type-A boyboss.   

I think the evidence indicates otherwise.

[OldMaid 2,130]

1 hour ago, jerryskids said:

I think TBay fancies himself as a type-A boyboss.   

HBIC I believe is the correct title. 

[TBayXXXVII 2,551]

On 11/4/2022 at 9:59 PM, jerryskids said:

I think TBay fancies himself as a type-A boyboss.   

I don't know what a type-A boyboss is, but I'm guessing I'm not that if the description would described (in part), as "...lifestyle you’ve been rocking since college".  I'm 42 and graduated from college the same year my son graduated from high school (8 years ago).

[TBayXXXVII 2,551]

Just to let everyone in on the clusterfock that ended up happening over the weekend (even though I don't think anyone actually cares), it wasn't all bad.  The main reason no one in my family or friends said anything to me when the invitations went out, was because none of them got one. LOL  My fiancé (now), feels weird typing that and saying it, gave her assistant a list of people to invite on HER side back in May with a note that said, "plan for double the amount of people".  Well, he did... the thing was, I never gave my list, because I never needed to... so everyone who was there, was her friends and family.  The only people from my side were my brother and sister-in-law, because there was form that was filled out that had a space for "Best Man", and my fiancé wrote in my brother's name.  When we found out, I personally didn't care too much because I just figured we'd have something small for my friends and family and be done with it.  Not her though... she freaked the fock out on this guy.  I thought he was going to cry!  It was pretty bad.  Not joking, I actually thought for a minute that she was going to hit him!

Because the dude screwed up in the first place, he booked rooms at an Inn right down the street from where our party was, for all of my friends.  He also booked the room our party was in for the rest of the night.  All of this at the cost of my fiancé's manager.  Poker night started at 8 pm!  We were there until 1 am (sort of - standard savings time got us an extra hour), so we technically left at midnight.  Because there was food for 100 people, but only 65 people showed up, we ate the rest while playing.  We called a few extra people too, just because we could.  There ended up being 14 of us.

There will be another party, but it won't be anything fancy, in March.  It'll be just my family & friends and her parents & siblings.  My list isn't going to be as big as hers was, so it'll be much smaller.

[IGotWorms 4,058]

Congrats!

[jerryskids 6,817]

15 hours ago, TBayXXXVII said:

Just to let everyone in on the clusterfock that ended up happening over the weekend (even though I don't think anyone actually cares), it wasn't all bad.  The main reason no one in my family or friends said anything to me when the invitations went out, was because none of them got one. LOL  My fiancé (now), feels weird typing that and saying it, gave her assistant a list of people to invite on HER side back in May with a note that said, "plan for double the amount of people".  Well, he did... the thing was, I never gave my list, because I never needed to... so everyone who was there, was her friends and family.  The only people from my side were my brother and sister-in-law, because there was form that was filled out that had a space for "Best Man", and my fiancé wrote in my brother's name.  When we found out, I personally didn't care too much because I just figured we'd have something small for my friends and family and be done with it.  Not her though... she freaked the fock out on this guy.  I thought he was going to cry!  It was pretty bad.  Not joking, I actually thought for a minute that she was going to hit him!

Because the dude screwed up in the first place, he booked rooms at an Inn right down the street from where our party was, for all of my friends.  He also booked the room our party was in for the rest of the night.  All of this at the cost of my fiancé's manager.  Poker night started at 8 pm!  We were there until 1 am (sort of - standard savings time got us an extra hour), so we technically left at midnight.  Because there was food for 100 people, but only 65 people showed up, we ate the rest while playing.  We called a few extra people too, just because we could.  There ended up being 14 of us.

There will be another party, but it won't be anything fancy, in March.  It'll be just my family & friends and her parents & siblings.  My list isn't going to be as big as hers was, so it'll be much smaller.

That's quite a story to tell your grandkids some day.    

Seems like a bodybuilder manager makes a lot of money, to pay for all that though.   

[Bier Meister 1,713]

9 minutes ago, jerryskids said:

That's quite a story to tell your grandkids some day.    

Seems like a bodybuilder manager makes a lot of money, to pay for all that though.   

We don't discuss side hustles at the gc 

[Hardcore troubadour 15,479]

So there’s going to be another engagement party?