Do you break up fights?

[phan a tic 6]

This morning two guys started going at it in the lobby of a building I was visiting.

Several men and women were in close proximity and all scurried away from the altercation.

I felt like I had no choice but to try and break it up. I've done this type of thing before.

I'm 6'3" about 235 pounds and usually use physical force if necessary.

After a bit, I got them separated and calmed down but what puzzled me was nobody did anything to alleviate the situation. There had to be 8-10 other men as close as me to the action.

 

Afterwards I asked some in the group why nobody helped me.

One guy stated that he lost 2 of his teeth breaking up a fight once. Another guy said he had been in a lawsuit over the same type thing. One guy said it was none of his damn business.

 

And during the melee my phone fell to the marble floor and broke.

 

I think my breaking up fights days are over.

[redtodd 7]

I stand there and watch.

 

No need to step in.

[nobody 2,883]

Maybe they were fighting for a good reason.

[Mungwater 601]

I start taking bets on the winner

[kutulu 1,703]

I'll usually kick whoever falls down first.

[Mungwater 601]

I'll usually kick whoever falls down first.

 

Teabag and take a picture

[BunnysBastatrds 2,598]

Lost a tooth breaking up a fight between some doosh and his girlfriend. He was smashing her head against the car door. When I pulled him out, got jumped by his two friends who were behind me that I never saw coming.

 

People don't want to help anymore. They want to video it and put it on their FB page. Look at the fights at the fast food places and Dennys.

[cyclone24 1,935]

The SO had this discussion and we disagreed....i say absolutely not.

 

9 times out of 10 if some guys getting his arse beat....its for a reason. Im not stepping in if i dont know the people and risk getting shot, stabbed, etc. My job is to work, put food on the table, and get home safe. Thats it.

 

Im not risking my life for 2 idiots who want to fight. Getting your arse kicked? Not my problem.

[southcarolina 166]

I broke up a fight once at the State Fair......i basically dragged one guy off the other. Then the guy who was getting his ass kicked turned on me, and got in my face.Luckily the cops got there before he got his ass kicked twice that night.

 

 

Also, once a guy was fired from where i worked for breaking up a fight. When security got there there were three disheveled heavy breathing slightly bloody dudes. They walked out all three.

 

 

I would never break up a fight now, unless it was my wife or kids, or someone was in danger of some significant damage.

[phillybear 366]

I had just come back from a family summer vacation in California, and I musta had like some tourist stink on me. Was like 3AM and I had a craving for some paté from a little place named Florént in the Meat Packing District (Men in Black was shot there). They have awesome paté, and it comes with bread, and mustard and cornichons, and olives ... used to be like $8, and they are open to 4 AM.

 

Anyway, one night I was walking over there from my APT to pick up my order (they do not deliver), walk around a corner, I see 2 black transvestites for about one second before I get pepper sprayed. I was wearing glasses, and I whipped off my glasses, but they got me point blank, I was pretty blind (NEVER want to have glasses on during a fight anyway) and they came at me, but I fought them off blind. Never did find my glasses ... but I did get my focking paté!

 

And I called the cops. Filed a report. I had like $40 in my wallet ... which should be a pass for a mugging, but no ... they just focking attacked me! Didn't even ask for my wallet. However ... my $400 designer transition glasses were never found. So, they mighta gotten my glasses ... I dunno.

 

You can't make this shiat up. Only in New York. They were eventually busted. Got a more sophisticated plan, robbing guys looking to pick up male prostitutes, and pretending to be cops. I'm pretty sure it was the same guys. They could not fight ... worth a damn. If it was the same guys. Crakhead trannies. Might as well be the Mafia ... you do not want crackhead trannies mad at you. Trust me. I never pressed any charges.

 

Never got my glasses back either. Brand new. Ken Cole.

[cyclone24 1,935]

I broke up a fight once at the State Fair......i basically dragged one guy off the other. Then the guy who was getting his ass kicked turned on me, and got in my face.Luckily the cops got there before he got his ass kicked twice that night.

 

 

Also, once a guy was fired from where i worked for breaking up a fight. When security got there there were three disheveled heavy breathing slightly bloody dudes. They walked out all three.

 

 

I would never break up a fight now, unless it was my wife or kids, or someone was in danger of some significant damage.

 

 

Hah yep....im not risking it when i got a little baby at home.

 

 

My favorite though was playing pickup basketball a black guy and white guy got into it and wanted to fight....so they are yelling at each other and im holding the white guy back. Others are holding the black guy back.......well all of a sudden white guy im holding says that magic word....and i just go "Oh hell"...and walked off because i knew brother man wouldnt be far behind.........

 

Sure enough.....i didnt even get turned back around before i heard a fist slapping this white kids face.

 

Just stupid....that was the last one i broke up...prolly 12 years ago.

[redtodd 7]

I'm usually the guy who yells out "Kick his ass, Seabass!!"

[MedStudent 56]

I'll help stop a pummeling of someone if I know I can handle the pummeler. I'm not going to attempt to stop a guy who has 3 inches and 40 pounds on me if I don't know the circumstances. I would step in undr any circumstances if a woman was getting beat by a guy no matter how big he was. But if its two evenly matched guys going at it, then they are both probably dooshbags and why get involved.

[Mookz 1,374]

I had just come back from a family summer vacation in California, and I musta had like some tourist stink on me. Was like 3AM and I had a craving for some paté from a little place named Florént in the Meat Packing District (Men in Black was shot there). They have awesome paté, and it comes with bread, and mustard and cornichons, and olives ... used to be like $8, and they are open to 4 AM.

 

Anyway, one night I was walking over there from my APT to pick up my order (they do not deliver), walk around a corner, I see 2 black transvestites for about one second before I get pepper sprayed. I was wearing glasses, and I whipped off my glasses, but they got me point blank, I was pretty blind (NEVER want to have glasses on during a fight anyway) and they came at me, but I fought them off blind. Never did find my glasses ... but I did get my focking paté!

 

And I called the cops. Filed a report. I had like $40 in my wallet ... which should be a pass for a mugging, but no ... they just focking attacked me! Didn't even ask for my wallet. However ... my $400 designer transition glasses were never found. So, they mighta gotten my glasses ... I dunno.

 

You can't make this shiat up. Only in New York. They were eventually busted. Got a more sophisticated plan, robbing guys looking to pick up male prostitutes, and pretending to be cops. I'm pretty sure it was the same guys. They could not fight ... worth a damn. If it was the same guys. Crakhead trannies. Might as well be the Mafia ... you do not want crackhead trannies mad at you. Trust me. I never pressed any charges.

 

Never got my glasses back either. Brand new. Ken Cole.

Heh, it's funny how one learns to recognize a GFIAFP post.

[kutulu 1,703]

Heh, it's funny how one learns to recognize a GFIAFP post.

 

I know, I thought philly forgot to log in as him.

[shovelheadt 71]

Breaking up a fight will get you shot or stabbed. Not worth it if it's someone you don't know.

[nzoner 939]

A couple of Summers ago I got in the middle of a shiotstorm between some college athletes and ONLY because it was on my property.Thankfully,"the kids" took heed to my yelling to get the fock off my deck or someone was going to jail.Long story short our live-in baseball player(we were a host family) and his friends went back into my gameroom with me as the football players took off but not before they made a point to destroy our patio table and chairs.

 

NEVER want to be in that situation again.

[JT 137]

I know, I thought philly forgot to log in as him.

 

 

The OTHER guys got beat up because they were soliciting tranny prostitutes. He was just walking around the corner.

[frank 2,345]

Only if I know the people involved or if one guy is getting his ass kicked and it looks like I can handle it.

 

Once I saw a guy and girl arguing in a parking lot and it looked like he might hit her any second. I stopped my car in the middle of the road and was going to jump out if he hit her but they both got in the car and he burned rubber. I'm sure the rest of that day went fine.

[JT 137]

Never. Too many times I've seen the combatants become allies once a third party gets involved.

[Recliner Pilot 61]

This morning two guys started going at it in the lobby of a building I was visiting.

 

 

Stay outta the Wal Marts. :banana:

[RicemanX 20]

Nah dude. I play the UFC ref.

I will break this fight up if someone taps or is KOed. But i'm damn sure not going to get in the middle of 2 angry dudes who just want to punch someone.

[IAMWood 6]

Being a bouncer/bartender for years I broke up a ton of fights. It seemed easy to me, it seemed most of the time, the dudes were happy someone was breaking it up so they had an out before they got embarassed. I never got hurt, breaking up fights or throwing fools out, part of it was luck for sure. I also threw down on some fools. But really, a public fight, I would just watch until someone is "tapped" out, until I step it, I like to watch fights.

 

One time in high school I saw a fight 40 yards away, told my friend," sweet a fight!". Right as my head basketball coach came jogging by and said, "Wood." and tilted his head to come help him. I helped break it up and was pulling on one dudes leg, I got him away and next thing I know someone was handing him crutches, the dude had a hurt leg and was on crutches and got in a fight and I was yanking on the hurt leg.

 

[hoytdwow 202]

I don't break up fights...I start 'em

[nobody 2,883]

I don't break up fights...I start 'em

 

That's while you'll never win a thread. Drobeski would have said he finishes them.

[WhiteWonder 2,925]

if i dont know the people i usually mind my own business, no sense risking any type of lawsuit over strangers having a bad day (you break someones nose trying to stop the fight and the guy can turn around and take you to court like that). unless a woman is involved I have often stepped in and got the guy to back off.

 

if its a friend of mine, yeah, ill break it up

[BLS 314]

When I was younger, I was always that guy who stuck his nose into sh1t where it didn't belong.

 

 

 

Now that I'm older, I teach my students to avoid those conflicts...unless the 'victim' has the 4 pillars (required by MN law) applying to them.

 

And even then, there are no guarantees.

 

 

Personally, unless something is lopsided and obvious, I will avoid it.

 

I pretty much carry about 50% of the time. If I ran into a fight between two evenly matched (physically) dudes; I avoid it. Tis none of my business.

[GobbleDog 1,010]

No way in hell I'd break up a fight between two strangers, unless maybe one of them was a chick. Even then she'd have to be smoken hot and he'd have to be a scrawny wimp.

[Giants Fan 85]

You gotta be careful. A guy I knew got grabbed by behind in some bar, by a guy who was not a bouncer, luckily. He instinctively swung around and threw a haymaker at the guy that landed, put him in a coma and he died. So ... my friend did a week on Rikers Island but the grand jury threw it out as self defense. Also, I'm guessing, nobody messed with the guy when people asked, "Why are you here?" and he says, "I killed a guy with one punch."

 

Anyway, I remember one time I was at my neighborhood bar in NYC. And I was at the bar, and this little guy (I am 6' 1", 215, he is like 5' 9", 165 ... so maybe not little, just average) is just about to get in a fight with this other guy, that was clearly bigger and badder, and the bar tender called security, and I saw security grab the bigger guy, and the little guy was right next to me, with his back to me ... kinda felt responsible for holding him back, so I put him in a full nelson, picked him up off the floor, walked him to the door of the bar, and literally threw him out on the sidewalk. Walked back in the bar, bartender gave me a free beer.

 

I've been sucker punched too, more than once ... trying to break up fights. But, I can take a punch, I'm a real nice guy .... but once you flip that switch .... it's on. I've been hit with brass knuckles ... never concussed.

 

But yeah, I'm almost 42 now ... my fighting .... and breaking up fight days, I hope, are all behind me. I've focked dudes up before ... and I felt really bad about it. I didn't want to fock them up, but they put me in a situation where I had no choice. So, fighting .... is a lose/lose thing. Talking your way out of it, is the way to go, if possible.

[penultimatestraw 473]

9 times out of 10 if some guys getting his arse beat....its for a reason. Im not stepping in if i dont know the people and risk getting shot, stabbed, etc. My job is to work, put food on the table, and get home safe. Thats it.

 

Im not risking my life for 2 idiots who want to fight. Getting your arse kicked? Not my problem.

This. Call the cops if you want someone to intervene. Also I can't remember the last time I've witnessed a fight.

[MDC 7,882]

You gotta be careful. A guy I knew got grabbed by behind in some bar, by a guy who was not a bouncer, luckily. He instinctively swung around and threw a haymaker at the guy that landed, put him in a coma and he died. So ... my friend did a week on Rikers Island but the grand jury threw it out as self defense. Also, I'm guessing, nobody messed with the guy when people asked, "Why are you here?" and he says, "I killed a guy with one punch."

 

Anyway, I remember one time I was at my neighborhood bar in NYC. And I was at the bar, and this little guy (I am 6' 1", 215, he is like 5' 9", 165 ... so maybe not little, just average) is just about to get in a fight with this other guy, that was clearly bigger and badder, and the bar tender called security, and I saw security grab the bigger guy, and the little guy was right next to me, with his back to me ... kinda felt responsible for holding him back, so I put him in a full nelson, picked him up off the floor, walked him to the door of the bar, and literally threw him out on the sidewalk. Walked back in the bar, bartender gave me a free beer.

 

I've been sucker punched too, more than once ... trying to break up fights. But, I can take a punch, I'm a real nice guy .... but once you flip that switch .... it's on. I've been hit with brass knuckles ... never concussed.

 

But yeah, I'm almost 42 now ... my fighting .... and breaking up fight days, I hope, are all behind me. I've focked dudes up before ... and I felt really bad about it. I didn't want to fock them up, but they put me in a situation where I had no choice. So, fighting .... is a lose/lose thing. Talking your way out of it, is the way to go, if possible.

 

[CantTouchThis 23]

I'm the peacemaker with my friends, have broken up plenty of near-fights in those cases. Just 2 random guys? Nah, I wouldn't do anything unless one is getting walloped on the ground.

[Giants Fan 85]

Back in my frat days .... man ... fights were easy to find. I got lots of stories. Ok, here's my favorite one.

 

There was this real popular guy in my frat. He wasn't a great athlete, or real smart ... he was just a good guy. In my pledge class. Everyone liked him, We'll call him Smitty. So, I am sitting there watching TV with like 15 other dudes, barefoot ... I am still mostly barefoot ... and I am quick. Ran a 12.x second 100 yard dash when I was 13.

 

So anyway, a couple of the guys I am sitting there watching TV with, are bigger and more bad ass than me, but none faster. And this pledge runs in from the backyard and says, "Someone is messing with Smitty!". I jumped up, booked through the backyard with Smitty pointing the direction they went, ran through the parking lot, down the alley ... and I came up on these 3 dudes. I know there is 15 other dudes about 10 seconds behind me. These are 3 big dudes. But I ran up to the closest one, and I said, "Hey ... were you focking with my friend back there?" and he said, "Dude ... you got a serious problem." and then I could see the look in his eye's as he saw the crowd come around the corner, and I used the distraction to body slam him against a fence. And I had him pinned, and one arm was semi free ... I could hit him in the face but not hard, so I hit him over and over, saying "Oh yeah? I got a problem?!". Apparently, one of the guys in my house, who was like 6' 4", 240 and all muscle, with one punch took out one of the other 2 and the last dude, smartly just backed down. So, I had this guy pinned against a fence, and security for a nearby bar came over and did the "pull his shirt up over his face, so he can't see" move on me ... and I got off the guy.

 

Focking idiots ... there's 3 of them, and they start shiat at OUR HOUSE? They went back to their frat, all beat up and the smarter actives were all, "You idiots!" I'm sure.

[Chronic Husker 86]

Every few posts, somebody new wins this thread.

 

[Giants Fan 85]

FYI ... my nickname was "Huevos", because I fear nothing.

[Giants Fan 85]

Second favorite:

 

Party at another frat's house. Early in the night, I was focking with a friend of mine, and sorta on purpose, lit his shirt on fire and he threw his beer on me. I totally deserved it. So I took off my shirt. Then, there was this huge fight. I don't know how it started, but I ended up out in the street, kinda surveying the sitaution ... and these 2 guys are walking towards me in the dark. As they get closer, I can see their faces ... and I don't recognize them. I realize I am the shirtless outsider here, these 2 guys are between me and my backup ... and I pulled the old "Look behind you!" ... I yelled "There's a car coming!" because we were in the street, and as they both turned to look, I just went FB on their asses, broke right between them and was gone.

 

Ass kicking avoided. 2 guys is hard. I once got in a fight with 3 guys. Started as 1 and turned into 3. One of 'em broke a wine cooler over my head while the other 2 held me against my car, and the worst cuts I had the next day, was on my right knuckles, from punching the first guys teeth out.

[BunnysBastatrds 2,598]

Best fight I ever witnessed was between these two b!tches in eighth grade that hated each other. And they were fawking hot white trash southern girls you dont fawk with. I was practicing throwing the discuss and coach Dillon called us over for a team meeeting. Coach Dillon was a middle aged black man that beat anyone with his paddle for looking at him funny or missing a layup in practice. As he was beginning his speech about how little we concentrate at practice and the lack of focus we have, Shelly Stoups(34B) and Nina Iforgetherlastname(36C) start going at it. One was a cheerleader and the other was a wh0re waiting for her boyfriend to finish practice. We had a lot of drugs in our middle school and coach Dillon rarely got involved with anyone who wasn't in a sport so he didn't care about them at all. These crazies beat the living sh!t out of each other. And there was no pulling hair or biting. Blow for blow they went toe to toe screaming obsenities with each hit. One of the assistant coaches made a move to break it up and coach Dillon pulled him back and said "Let em go" whilst laughing his a$$ off. At one point, Monica had taken Shells head and slammed into her knee three or four times. Coach Dillon sat back and was so impressed he stated that we needed to take note. One of the football players got in the middle of it and was kicked in the bawls so hard that by the time it was over, he was still on the ground crying.

 

When the fight was over, Coach Dillon told them too stay away from each other and he wouldn't report if they did so. I found out years later that Nina was a brides maid at Shellys wedding.

[Giants Fan 85]

And trust me ... when you get pepper sprayed by transvestites and the words "ass rape" go through your head ... the adrenaline hits and you become Mike Tyson.

[Giants Fan 85]

Third favorite:

 

First semester, Sophomore year of HS. Like 10 days in at a new school. Went from being in advanced classes to failing, my freshman year and switched to a public school in Arizona because I knew it would be easy, It was like 75% Mexican. Gangs, and all that. So, I am like 15, mohawk, leather jacket and combat boots. Smoking a cigarette in the parking lot, because I have extra time to change clothes before PE class. and this Mexican kid rides up on a BMX bike. I ignore him. He does a power slide, and sprays me with gravel. I ignore him, he does it again, and we have words. I think the first thing I said was like, "What the fock dude?" next thing I know, this kid is up in my face. Now, I was 6 feet tall when I was 15, about 165. Skinny, but still fast, and strong for my size. This little Mexican kid is stradling his little bike and I see a lowrider and other gangster looking guys coming up on the scene, ok ... now I'm scared. I just threw my backpack over my shoulder (and because I was supposed to be smart, I had a lot of books, it was heavy) and walked away. And I remember thinking, just walk away, and if this dude hits you from behind. I can take him. Little Mexican dude. Sure enough, he tried to throw a rabbit punch that glanced off the top of my head, and I spun around, 20 pounds of books in my backpack slung over my right shoulder .... haymaker, landed ... hit him in the eye, and he went down.

 

Then he got up, was kinda woozy ... and I could see, there was no more white left in his eye ... it was all red, full of blood. And this other, bigger guy, but not as tall as me came at me, and I kinda boxed with him a little. hit him in the jaw ... was all, "You saw me fock up your friend! You want somma this?" and he was intimidated, backed off. And by that time, my entire PE class had ran over to watch the fight, and you could see what we called "monitors", pretty much security, running towards the fight. So, I just cut into the crowd and walked towards the gym and as the monitors ran past me saying "What happened?" I said, "Those 2 Mexican guys over there got in a fight."

 

Thought I was focked .... but it turned out just the opposite. Rival gang from a different school ... nobody ever focked with me again.

 

ETA: I did not have time to dress for PE and when the teacher asked why I wasn't dressed I said, "I got in a fight." and he said, "Did you win?" and I said, "Yeah." and he said, "Excused."

[Giants Fan 85]

The one armed black guy with brass knuckles and the tranys with pepper spray, I have told before. Those are 2 different fights like 10 years apart. I did not get my ass kicked by a one armed transvestite. Despite the rumors in this place.