vuduchile 1,941 Posted December 4, 2018 Tragic. His dad and I played HS football together. The son was also playing D2 college ball. He found a couple lumps in his neck, got checked out, and they found spots in his lungs. 1 year later, hes dead. How do you even move on with life after something like that happens to your son? Damn. Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
RLLD 3,455 Posted December 4, 2018 No idea how you manage to get out of bed and function each day if this happens to you, cannot fathom the pain Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
tanatastic 2,061 Posted December 4, 2018 Scary as hell. Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
jerryskids 5,206 Posted December 4, 2018 So sad to hear. My cousin's son died of lymphoma at 21, so tragic... Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
patweisers44 697 Posted December 4, 2018 I lost a wife to cancer in our early 30s. We had a five year old at the time. I dealt better with him, my other son and my own feelings than I did with her parents and grandparents. Its just so against the natural course of life, its unfathomable. Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
tanatastic 2,061 Posted December 4, 2018 I lost a wife to cancer in our early 30s. We had a five year old at the time. I dealt better with him, my other son and my own feelings than I did with her parents and grandparents. Its just so against the natural course of life, its unfathomable. This is wild stuff man. Cant even imagine. Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Big Blue 06 195 Posted December 4, 2018 I call BS. Like wed really believe you have a friend. Also, Im sorry to hear it. I dont know how I would be able to deal with something like that. Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
GobbleDog 816 Posted December 4, 2018 Christmas savings! Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
dain11279 928 Posted December 5, 2018 Christmas savings! Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
dain11279 928 Posted December 5, 2018 Also, fock cancer a million times over. Ive already seen it take way too many people that Im close to. 1 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Frozenbeernuts 1,652 Posted December 5, 2018 Damn man. That focking sucks. If something happened to my kids I would be focked mentally. Condolences to the family. Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Big Guy 1,400 Posted December 5, 2018 Very sad........so sorry Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
shotsup 832 Posted December 5, 2018 Dont mean to hijack but I was going to post something similar last week. Employee of mine had a 14 year old daughter - seemingly healthy - brain aneurism- had to pull the plug. How do you move on ?? Cant even phalthom. Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Gladiators 1,904 Posted December 5, 2018 Sorry to hear. Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Djgb13 2,338 Posted December 5, 2018 That really sucks man. When I worked on the cancer ward j didnt see many that were that young but I did see a few. One was an extremely cute girl who was 18. She didnt die but she lost all her hair from the chemo. Had another guy who was 21-23 cant remember exactly. But he was deployed and was throwing a football when he noticed his shoulder hurting. Went and got it checked out to find a tumor in it. Ended up having to have the whole arm amputated. Really sad having to see stuff like that. Wouldnt change a minute of my time up there. Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Bill E. 666 Posted December 5, 2018 Sorry to hear that. It would be awful. Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Filthy Fernadez 2,696 Posted December 5, 2018 While it is sad to hear tragedies like this, it should give all pause and puts into perspective the things we regard as hardships. Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
patweisers44 697 Posted December 5, 2018 While it is sad to hear tragedies like this, it should give all pause and puts into perspective the things we regard as hardships. it certainly puts all the bullshitt on a lightly-trafficked message board into perspective. 1 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
vuduchile 1,941 Posted December 5, 2018 Classic case of genetic bad luck. The kid was a 6'5", 230 lb tight end, and in excellent physical shape. His dad played LB for a Div 1 school. His mom is in great shape. His Aunt was the hottest chick in her class, and still looks good in her 50's. His brother and sister are both healthy. There's just no way to win that battle if your genes are focked from the word go. Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
TimmySmith 2,782 Posted December 5, 2018 If it were my son, I would check out. It does amaze me when talking to friends, how many had siblings die. People don't talk about that stuff. Happens more than you think. Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
jerryskids 5,206 Posted December 5, 2018 I've been thinking a lot about this thread since my youngest daughter has type 1 diabetes. If I had a kid who developed cancer like my cousin's kid, I would hope that my wife and I could power through it, maybe do something like a charity golf tourney like my cousin did. I have another friend whose kid committed suicide (before I knew friend so I didn't know the kid), that would fock me up big time. My daughter is in the middle - we just had a checkup where we learned that our 17 yr old has been doing a crap job managing her blood sugar; doctor took a scared straight approach and talked about things like kidney dialysis/failure. We are trying to figure out how to best incentivize her to do a better job. I don't want to outlive her, that is just wrong. Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
tanatastic 2,061 Posted December 6, 2018 Wife just found out her dad has stage 4 pancreatic cancer, he’s done for. She’s pretty upset. This stuff is scary as hell man. Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
shotsup 832 Posted December 6, 2018 I lost a wife to cancer in our early 30s. We had a five year old at the time. I dealt better with him, my other son and my own feelings than I did with her parents and grandparents. Its just so against the natural course of life, its unfathomable. Patman I read this like five times. Sober even. I know you lost a wife from past posts through the years. Are you saying you lost a kid too ?? Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
shotsup 832 Posted December 6, 2018 And Fvck Cancer Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Frozenbeernuts 1,652 Posted December 6, 2018 Patman I read this like five times. Sober even. I know you lost a wife from past posts through the years. Are you saying you lost a kid too ?? No he's saying it was easier to deal with his sons than her parents Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
shotsup 832 Posted December 6, 2018 No he's saying it was easier to deal with his sons than her parents Thanks bro. This did cross my mind but I wasnt 100% sure. I was confused Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
patweisers44 697 Posted December 6, 2018 Patman I read this like five times. Sober even. I know you lost a wife from past posts through the years. Are you saying you lost a kid too ?? No. Sorry for the confusion. My current wife and her previous husband lost a child about 30 years ago. Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
vuduchile 1,941 Posted December 6, 2018 This thread might be the worst thread of all time. Merry focking Christmas. Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
tanatastic 2,061 Posted December 6, 2018 Ill never forget the Rholio situation here. Around last October I think, he says hes going in for a colonoscopy, says they gave him a cancer diagnosis, few months later his wife tells us hes gone. It was like watching something too real unfold right before us. 1 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
SenatorRock 708 Posted December 7, 2018 Wife just found out her dad has stage 4 pancreatic cancer, he’s done for. She’s pretty upset. This stuff is scary as hell man. Sorry to hear. I know it is anecdotal and everyone says the same thing, but I know 3 maybe 4 people who were able to beat pancreatic cancer. Even though the situation may be bleak somebody has to make up the 5% that survives. It really is amazing some of the advances in treatment for certain types. Multiple myeloma used to be a death sentence, I know 2 people who died from it about 7 years ago, now there is a treatment plan at a research hospital in Arkansas of all places that has flipped the odds. There are similar stories for lung, pancreatic, and certain rare cancers. Hope your pa-in-law is able to get the best care possible and the family finds patience and peace with the process. Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
tanatastic 2,061 Posted December 7, 2018 Sorry to hear. I know it is anecdotal and everyone says the same thing, but I know 3 maybe 4 people who were able to beat pancreatic cancer. Even though the situation may be bleak somebody has to make up the 5% that survives. It really is amazing some of the advances in treatment for certain types. Multiple myeloma used to be a death sentence, I know 2 people who died from it about 7 years ago, now there is a treatment plan at a research hospital in Arkansas of all places that has flipped the odds. Whoa, that’s incredible actually. Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
MTSkiBum 1,594 Posted December 8, 2018 My fishing buddy is in bad shape. I just visited him in the hospital, but he was asleep and hooked up to a ventilator. Probably a 2-3 month battle ahead of him still with sepsis. Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Bier Meister 1,514 Posted December 9, 2018 my thoughts are with all of you almost exactly 5 years ago we lost my wife's father to pancreatic (posted about it at the closet) Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
tanatastic 2,061 Posted December 9, 2018 my thoughts are with all of you almost exactly 5 years ago we lost my wife's father to pancreatic (posted about it at the closet) How long did he live after diagnosis? Hes in good spirits and confident which is good. Hes also pretty young, in his 50s. Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Bier Meister 1,514 Posted December 9, 2018 How long did he live after diagnosis? Hes in good spirits and confident which is good. Hes also pretty young, in his 50s. It was very fast. we found out right around thanksgiving... i pushed mrs out the door thanksgiving morning to get on a plane with our daughter. he passed on 12/5 i believe. very tough time of year for the family as my wife's birthday is 12/3 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
tanatastic 2,061 Posted December 9, 2018 It was very fast. we found out right around thanksgiving... i pushed mrs out the door thanksgiving morning to get on a plane with our daughter. he passed on 12/5 i believe. very tough time of year for the family as my wife's birthday is 12/3 Jesus man, thats scary. He had pain and saw the doc, few weeks later (week ago) his diagnosis is stage 4 pancreatic. He starts chemo next week. So crazy to think it could be that quick. Wife flying out to see family the 19th. I said go ASAP, its not for sure you will get another chance. Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Bier Meister 1,514 Posted December 9, 2018 he had many ailments throughout his life and was on many meds. there was something a little different about this one. symptoms were masked and they diagnosed him late. we still thought we were going to have more time. Share this post Link to post Share on other sites