WWYD: Someone you just started dating tells you she has herpes

[NewbieJr 541]

Asking for a friend

 

You started dating a chick that was probably an 8. Nice girl, makes decent money. One night she tells you she needs to talk to you. She then proceeds to tell you that when she was 21, she was diagnosed with herpes. She says she had outbreaks for a couple of years, not none since she was 24. She is now 38 and swears that there has never been a boyfriend that ended up getting it from her.

 

What's your move? Automatically fly the coup? Or wear a condom and trust that you won't get it since it's been dormant for 14 years?

 

Did I mention I was asking for a friend?

[KSB2424 3,148]

It would just speed up the process of how serious I was about this woman.

 

Do I lover her and is she a keeper (as in really long term / marraige type)? If so then I don't fly the coup but simply be careful and learn more about it.

 

If the answer to that question above is either No, or even a "not really sure". Then I start finding an exit strategy.

 

In other words this is a test for you, ummm I mean your friend, to either go 'all in' with this girl, or move on.

[DankNuggs 305]

i wouldn't trust anything... if it seemed like a potential long term relationship i'd consider not doing anything risky and seeing whats up... or just move on.

 

 

Doesn't seem like its worth the risk for some short term fling.

[phillybear 366]

News flash: you are not a catch. You are lucky women talk to you at all. You are lucky females don't chase you down the street with pitchforks and torches. You think there is any chance at all that she's bragging to her friends about you? Jam it in there and get crotch rot, you ape.

[Mungwater 597]

Just started dating her? Dump her and find a different one

[RLLD 4,230]

News flash: you are not a catch. You are lucky women talk to you at all. You are lucky females don't chase you down the street with pitchforks and torches. You think there is any chance at all that she's bragging to her friends about you? Jam it in there and get crotch rot, you ape.

 

[Frank M 181]

If I liked her and thought it had the potential for the long term, it wouldn't make a difference. I'd consider it a big plus that she said something before anything took place. That shows something about her character.

 

There's ways to protect yourself from herpes.

[edjr 6,592]

This happened to a very close friend of mine

 

must be a DJ thing?

 

She told him after they had been focking for a couple months, she had a sudden flare up and she never knew she had them. but he should have been immediately suspicious when she didn't blame him for her getting them

 

My very close friend never wears a rubber, so got tested (negative), did his research and focked her a few more times after the flare up went away. Realized it wasn't worth it and started dating someone else.

[dain11279 976]

News flash: you are not a catch. You are lucky women talk to you at all. You are lucky females don't chase you down the street with pitchforks and torches. You think there is any chance at all that she's bragging to her friends about you? Jam it in there and get crotch rot, you ape.

[SUXBNME 1,503]

News flash: you are not a catch. You are lucky women talk to you at all. You are lucky females don't chase you down the street with pitchforks and torches. You think there is any chance at all that she's bragging to her friends about you? Jam it in there and get crotch rot, you ape.

[drobeski 3,061]

Saran wrap

[NewbieJr 541]

Phillybear, My friend is not a real catch, but compared to a rotting-footed diabetic with no car, no phone, a gambling problem, and alcoholism, he's like George Clooney. hth

[edjr 6,592]

News flash: you are not a catch. You are lucky women talk to you at all. You are lucky females don't chase you down the street with pitchforks and torches. You think there is any chance at all that she's bragging to her friends about you? Jam it in there and get crotch rot, you ape.

 

This had so much potential.

 

6/10

[BunnysBastatrds 2,442]

I have a.. uhhhmmmm....friend who gave his wife herpes. He got fever blisters on his mouth. He's had them since he was a kid and thought nothing of it. Would get an outbreak once a year. They were married for ten years when one day she wakes up and has the herp downstairs. She accuses him of cheating. So he gets tested and does not have genital herpes but he did transfer whatever herpes he had on his mouth to her genitalia. The doctor told them that you could transfer it as easily as sharing a towel.

 

He says he fawked her without a rubber until they got divorced five years later and didn't get it.

 

I'm surprised she told him this early. If she hasn't had an out break in years, what makes her think it could come back now? I do admire her honesty. You should bang away.

[edjr 6,592]

I have a.. uhhhmmmm....friend who gave his wife herpes. He got fever blisters on his mouth. He's had them since he was a kid and thought nothing of it. Would get an outbreak once a year. They were married for ten years when one day she wakes up and has the herp downstairs. She accuses him of cheating. So he gets tested and does not have genital herpes but he did transfer whatever herpes he had on his mouth to her genitalia. The doctor told them that you could transfer it as easily as sharing a towel.

 

He says he fawked her without a rubber until they got divorced five years later and didn't get it.

 

I'm surprised she told him this early. If she hasn't had an out break in years, what makes her think it could come back now? I do admire her honesty. You should bang away.

 

The dr told my friend when he got tested that he tested positive for oral herpes HSV-1 (as many as 90% of people have it)

 

 

 

 

Oral herpes (cold sores)

Everyone is at risk for oral herpes from HSV-1. In fact, studies suggest that by adolescence, 62% of Americans are infected with HSV-1. By the time people are in their 60s, up to 85% have been infected.

Genital herpes

All sexually active people are at risk for genital herpes. Having multiple sexual partners puts you at even greater risk. Women have a greater risk of being infected after sex with an unprotected partner than men do -- about 1 in 4 women have HSV-2, compared to 1 in 8 men. Estimates of how many Americans are infected range from 20% - 30%.

 

 

[MDC 7,431]

What would I do? Not the herpes chick, that's for sure.

[jerryskids 6,799]

If I liked her and thought it had the potential for the long term, it wouldn't make a difference. I'd consider it a big plus that she said something before anything took place. That shows something about her character.

 

There's ways to protect yourself from herpes.

This is what I was thinking. That can't be an easy conversation to have. I'd stick with her. Also I'd stick it in her ass.

[Brad GLuckman 519]

I don't think I would be able to enjoy the sex. Id end it

[edjr 6,592]

I don't think I would be able to enjoy the sex. Id end it

 

Do what my friend did.

 

drink and lots of nose candy

[Frank M 181]

This is what I was thinking. That can't be an easy conversation to have. I'd stick with her. Also I'd stick it in her ass.

 

Like I said, there are ways to avoid it!

 

[edjr 6,592]

 

Like I said, there are ways to avoid it!

 

 

Would you fock a girl with aids?

[Mile High Drunk 13]

If I liked her and thought it had the potential for the long term, it wouldn't make a difference. I'd consider it a big plus that she said something before anything took place. That shows something about her character.

 

There's ways to protect yourself from herpes.

My friend was very skeptical at first, always wrapped up and would always examine the product before wrapping up. My friend never got it and the std was dormant the whole time.

[Frank M 181]

 

Would you fock a girl with aids?

 

Probably not.

 

I'd rather have herpes than HIV.

[posty 2,700]

Asking for a "friend"...

 

[posty 2,700]

News flash: you are not a catch. You are lucky women talk to you at all. You are lucky females don't chase you down the street with pitchforks and torches. You think there is any chance at all that she's bragging to her friends about you? Jam it in there and get crotch rot, you ape.

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[edjr 6,592]

 

Probably not.

 

I'd rather have herpes than HIV.

 

[IGotWorms 4,058]

I don't think I would be able to enjoy the sex. Id end it

Too much stress involved if you're playing with crotch fire...or itching, as the case may be.

[porkbutt 893]

[Mookz 1,348]

Apologize

[Gepetto 1,368]

Gross. You two should be perfect together though.

[Baker Boy 1,699]

Is there possibility of a Herpes Jr. in the future?

[OldMaid 2,130]

I didn't know Nikki was back on the market. Condolences to your "friend".

[MDC 7,431]

I didn't know Nikki was back on the market. Condolences to your "friend".

Newbie is dating Gonzo???

[BunnysBastatrds 2,442]

Newbie is dating Gonzo???

Getting the band back together would be sweet.

[kilroy69 1,251]

Make sure she is on valtrex. It will keep her from having outbreaks and in the near future herpes will be cured. If she is an 8 you should probably keep her. Or your friend should keep her should I say.

[FeelingMN 273]

Totally kills all dirty talk during sex. "You're a dirty wh0re....seriously, you're a dirty wh0re."

 

[BunnysBastatrds 2,442]

Totally kills all dirty talk during sex. "You're a dirty wh0re....seriously, you're a dirty wh0re."

 

When I was in college I had a job delivering very expensive furniture to the wealthy folks. Easiest money I ever made. Anyway, we (me and some very good looking white boys) spent a day delivering furniture to this newlywed couples house that were beyond rich. And it was a tough job. Very heavy furniture in brutal heat with no breaks.

 

The wife spent her day getting drunk and pointing in the right direction which pieces go where. She was your typical trophy wife. Big tatas and hot as hell. Soririty slut Flirting with all of us and flaunting her assets. But she had a cold sore that looked like the space station on her upper lip. Nasty. Nobody ate the bait. She tried though.

 

So at the end of the job the husband comes home to pay and tip us. He blurts out "So did any of you get the blow job you were expecting?" One of the guys in the back of the truck cleaning up says "Nope! Finishing this job ends here."

[IGotWorms 4,058]

Make sure she is on valtrex. It will keep her from having outbreaks and in the near future herpes will be cured. If she is an 8 you should probably keep her. Or your friend should keep her should I say.

Newbie says she is "probably an 8."

 

Translation: she's a 6.5 at best

[kilroy69 1,251]

Newbie says she is "probably an 8."

 

Translation: she's a 6.5 at best

Even 6s need to be banged.

[NewbieJr 541]

Update: Friend ended the relationship. Told her that he just doesn't want to take the risk. They had already had an argument or two in a few short weeks. Definitely wasn't looking like a long term thing anyway. No sense playing with fire.