Dear Abby: I saw my wife in a porn.

[edjr 5,564]

DEAR ABBY: My wife and I have been married for 10 years, and it is a wonderful marriage. We love each other very much, never argue and get along great. We have a 2-year-old child.

 

Recently I found a "sex tape" online of my wife with the guy she dated before me. This video was taken without her knowledge and is from 13 years ago, Because of this, I am not upset about it.

 

My question is, should I bring this to her attention, and if so, how? I feel she needs to know it's out there. I'm reacting to this as a man would. I don't know how a woman would react. Please help. -- IT'S PRIVATE

 

DEAR IT'S PRIVATE: Although there are no sex tapes of me floating around, I can tell you from a woman's perspective that if there was one (and the lighting was unflattering), I'd be furious. Your wife has a right to know, so don't keep her in the dark.

 

P.S. How did you come across that video? I'm sure she will be interested to know.

 

Sure buddy, you keep telling yourself that she didn't know about it. How do you know if you didn't tell her you saw it?

[RLLD 3,455]

All he has to do is tell her he was doing "research" when he found it, right?

[MDC 5,891]

Abby is such a fvcking prig. How do you think he found the video? Maybe it's cause, like every male in the world, he looks at porn onthe Internet, you fvcking dope.

[jerryskids 5,206]

I thought this thread would involve Sarah Palin's husband and a copy of Big Black Basketball Boners #17.

[GettnHuge 1]

Dear Idiot:

http://www.mauryshow.com/

[dain11279 928]

P.S. How did you come across that video? I'm sure she will be interested to know.

 

It wasn't really worded that way, was it?

[GettnHuge 1]

DEAR ABBY: My wife and I have been married for 10 years, and it is a wonderful marriage. We love each other very much, never argue and get along great. We have a 2-year-old child.

 

Recently I found a "sex tape" online of my wife with the guy she dated before me. This video was taken without her knowledge and is from 13 years ago, Because of this, I am not upset about it.

 

My question is, should I bring this to her attention, and if so, how? I feel she needs to know it's out there. I'm reacting to this as a man would. I don't know how a woman would react. Please help. -- IT'S PRIVATE

 

DEAR IT'S PRIVATE: Her feelings are trivial, the important thing here is finding out if he is bigger than you.

 

 

fixed

[WhiteWonder 2,172]

first of all, like someone else mentioned, how is he sure she does not know?

 

she may or may not know but if she does, then i'd be pissed.

[gocolts 300]

first of all, like someone else mentioned, how is he sure she does not know?

 

she may or may not know but if she does, then i'd be pissed.

No way he knows. He is probably just trying to convince himself that his wife is not the dirty little slvt she really is.

[Drizzay 645]

Was this Kris Humphries. Someone tell him the whole world knows.

[gocolts 300]

Was this Kris Humphries. Someone tell him the whole world knows.

[NorthernVike 2,080]

Abby is such a fvcking prig. How do you think he found the video? Maybe it's cause, like every male in the world, he looks at porn onthe Internet, you fvcking dope.

[IGotWorms 3,315]

Was this Kris Humphries. Someone tell him the whole world knows.

 

[The Moz 69]

DEAR ABBY: My wife and I have been married for 10 years, and it is a wonderful marriage. We love each other very much, never argue and get along great. We have a 2-year-old child.

 

Recently I found a "sex tape" online of my wife with the guy she dated before me. This video was taken without her knowledge and is from 13 years ago, Because of this, I am not upset about it.

 

My question is, should I bring this to her attention, and if so, how? I feel she needs to know it's out there. I'm reacting to this as a man would. I don't know how a woman would react. Please help. -- IT'S PRIVATE

 

DEAR IT'S PRIVATE: Her feelings are trivial, the important thing here is finding out if he is bigger than you letting us all know her can size .

 

 

fixed

 

 

now it is fixored

[shotsup 832]

Big Black Basketball Boners #17.

 

Never saw it

[JackARoot 2]

No way he knows. He is probably just trying to convince himself that his wife is not the dirty little slvt she really is.

 

Is that a bad thing

 

Heney, I'm gettin' out the tripod

[Patriotsfatboy1 1,432]

Is that a bad thing

 

Heney, I'm gettin' out the tripod

Well, I think that problem was that she was with another dude. Unless you are kuntulu, I don't think you want to be watching some dude railing your wife.

[JackARoot 2]

Well, I think that problem was that she was with another dude. Unless you are kuntulu, I don't think you want to be watching some dude railing your wife.

 

Yeah, but supposedly this tape was made before they met, not that she made while cheating on him. So I'd be like "You been holding out on me? "

 

Nurture the inner slvt

[MDC 5,891]

Still angry at Abby's stupid fvcking comment. How does she think this conversation is supposed to go?

 

"Uh, honey, I found this video online that sorta looks like you sucking and fvcking your old boyfriend before we met ..."

 

"Why were you looking at Internet porn!?!?!?"

 

 

This b1tch is supposed to be some kind of advice therapist and she gives a snarky comment trying to shame a guy for doing what every male on earth does.

 

Dear Abby: There are two kinds of married men. 1) Those who look at porn and admit it and 2) those who look at porn, cover their tracks, and lie to their uptight wives about it. How bout focusing on the video instead of this guy's harmless porn habit?

 

PS. I hope you die of cancerAIDS.

[JackARoot 2]

Still angry at Abby's stupid fvcking comment. How does she think this conversation is supposed to go?

 

"Uh, honey, I found this video online that sorta looks like you sucking and fvcking your old boyfriend before we met ..."

 

"Why were you looking at Internet porn!?!?!?"

 

 

This b1tch is supposed to be some kind of advice therapist and she gives a snarky comment trying to shame a guy for doing what every male on earth does.

 

Dear Abby: There are two kinds of married men. 1) Those who look at porn and admit it and 2) those who look at porn, cover their tracks, and lie to their uptight wives about it. How bout focusing on the video instead of this guy's harmless porn habit?

 

PS. I hope you die of cancerAIDS.

 

I dunno if you can call it harmles

 

Every day millions of innocent peters are abused due to porn

[gocolts 300]

Still angry at Abby's stupid fvcking comment. How does she think this conversation is supposed to go?

 

"Uh, honey, I found this video online that sorta looks like you sucking and fvcking your old boyfriend before we met ..."

 

"Why were you looking at Internet porn!?!?!?"

 

 

This b1tch is supposed to be some kind of advice therapist and she gives a snarky comment trying to shame a guy for doing what every male on earth does.

 

Dear Abby: There are two kinds of married men. 1) Those who look at porn and admit it and 2) those who look at porn, cover their tracks, and lie to their uptight wives about it. How bout focusing on the video instead of this guy's harmless porn habit?

 

PS. I hope you die of cancerAIDS.

:thumbsup: Just yesterday one of my FB friends was going nuts saying that men that watch pron are sick perverts. I was about to ask her if she was a lesbo because there is not a man on the planet who doesn't watch pron.

[Recliner Pilot 61]

 

 

Every day millions of innocent peters are abused due to porn

 

And that's just by you.

[frank 2,145]

And that's just by you.

 

POW!

[frank 2,145]

Dear Abby, Dear Abby

My feet are too long

My hair's falling out and my rights are all wrong

My friends they all tell me that I've no friends at all

Won't you write me a letter, Won't you give me a call

Signed Bewildered

 

Bewildered, Bewildered

You have no complaint

You are what your are and you ain't what you ain't

So listen up Buster, and listen up good

Stop wishing for bad luck and knocking on wood

 

Dear Abby, Dear Abby

My fountain pen leaks

My wife hollers at me and my kids are all freaks

Every side I get up on is the wrong side of bed

If it weren't so expensive I'd wish I were dead

Signed Unhappy

 

Unhappy, Unhappy

You have no complaint

You are what your are and you ain't what you ain't

So listen up Buster, and listen up good

Stop wishing for bad luck and knocking on wood

 

Dear Abby, Dear Abby

You won't believe this

But my stomach makes noises whenever I kiss

My girlfriend tells me It's all in my head

But my stomach tells me to write you instead

Signed Noise-maker

 

Noise-maker, Noise-maker

You have no complaint

You are what your are and you ain't what you ain't

So listen up Buster, and listen up good

Stop wishing for bad luck and knocking on wood

 

Dear Abby, Dear Abby

Well I never thought

That me and my girlfriend would ever get caught

We were sitting in the back seat just shooting the breeze

With her hair up in curlers and her pants to her knees

Signed Just Married

 

Just Married, Just Married

You have no complaint

You are what your are and you ain't what you ain't

So listen up Buster, and listen up good

Stop wishing for bad luck and knocking on wood

Signed Dear Abby

[naomi 343]

there is not a man on the planet who doesn't watch pron.

 

A male friend of mine and I had a conversation about porn where he offered that this is BS. Most men, yes. All men, no. I know I have a socially conservative reputation, but he's stauncher about stuff like this than I am. He wasn't trying to appease me.

 

Then there's my dad who's not a prude but he has an aversion to porn. Locker room talk in high school use to disgust him. It may have been the fact the degenerate mentality espoused was like the thing to do within the micro-culture it was. He wasn't "straight-laced," he wasn't a Christian, he experimented with drugs, he was popular with a reputation for being rebellious. His inner reaction of disgust was knee-jerk.

 

Then there's my brothers, who I don't doubt have checked it out but they don't buy into the idea that it's a fact of 'the male experience' for lack of a better term, that should be embraced. If you push aside, or just don't have to begin with, the idea that it's wrong....would it be enjoyable? Sure. They recognize that.

 

My take on this is guys who aren't unabashed porn consumers are really rare, but exist. None of the males in my life who I've heard express negative thoughts about porn were trying to make me feel more comfortable or whatever.

[IGotWorms 3,315]

A male friend of mine and I had a conversation about porn where he offered that this is BS. Most men, yes. All men, no. I know I have a socially conservative reputation, but he's stauncher about stuff like this than I am. He wasn't trying to appease me.

 

Then there's my dad who's not a prude but he has an aversion to porn. Locker room talk in high school use to disgust him. It may have been the fact the degenerate mentality espoused was like the thing to do within the micro-culture it was. He wasn't "straight-laced," he wasn't a Christian, he experimented with drugs, he was popular with a reputation for being rebellious. His inner reaction of disgust was knee-jerk.

 

Then there's my brothers, who I don't doubt have checked it out but they don't buy into the idea that it's a fact of 'the male experience' for lack of a better term, that should be embraced. If you push aside, or just don't have to begin with, the idea that it's wrong....would it be enjoyable? Sure. They recognize that.

 

My take on this is guys who aren't unabashed porn consumers are really rare, but exist. None of the males in my life who I've heard express negative thoughts about porn were trying to make me feel more comfortable or whatever.

 

Those dudes are probably the sickest of them all. I bet they watch some real nasty pron. Probably stuff that the rest of us don't even know exists.

[Patriotsfatboy1 1,432]

A male friend of mine and I had a conversation about porn where he offered that this is BS. Most men, yes. All men, no. I know I have a socially conservative reputation, but he's stauncher about stuff like this than I am. He wasn't trying to appease me.

 

Then there's my dad who's not a prude but he has an aversion to porn. Locker room talk in high school use to disgust him. It may have been the fact the degenerate mentality espoused was like the thing to do within the micro-culture it was. He wasn't "straight-laced," he wasn't a Christian, he experimented with drugs, he was popular with a reputation for being rebellious. His inner reaction of disgust was knee-jerk.

 

Then there's my brothers, who I don't doubt have checked it out but they don't buy into the idea that it's a fact of 'the male experience' for lack of a better term, that should be embraced. If you push aside, or just don't have to begin with, the idea that it's wrong....would it be enjoyable? Sure. They recognize that.

 

My take on this is guys who aren't unabashed porn consumers are really rare, but exist. None of the males in my life who I've heard express negative thoughts about porn were trying to make me feel more comfortable or whatever.

Oh, I have no doubt whatsoever that those guys exist.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

In monasteries

[Brad GLuckman 518]

Those dudes are probably the sickest of them all. I bet they watch some real nasty pron. Probably stuff that the rest of us don't even know exists.

 

This is the right answer, they're always the messed up ones.

 

When I was younger, there was this mormon kid who lived in our barracks. Swore he didn't look at porn, and would get all awkward and leave the room if we talked about girls at all.

 

Down the road his roomate found some weird sh!t on his computer, like horse porn, or something.

 

So there you have it, Naomi. Your father and brothers watch horse porn.

 

Just remember that the next time you're sitting across the dinner table from them.

[Frank M 181]

I wonder how much porn he was looking at if he ran across his wife in an amateur film from years ago. There's like nine million new amateur videos coming out every day, he must have been screening for 8-10 hours a day to run across one with his wife. Which is a bit excessive, but whatever. I'd be more concerned that he's asking Dear Abby for advice, which suggests that he's a faig.

 

As for what naomi thinks, let's put it this way. Some of us like it and watch it a lot, some of us like it and watch it a little, some of us like it and are ashamed, but we still watch it, and some of us like it but are so ashamed of ourselves for liking it that we deny ourselves the fun of watching it.

 

The point is, we all like it.

[MDC 5,891]

My take on this is guys who aren't unabashed porn consumers are really rare, but exist. None of the males in my life who I've heard express negative thoughts about porn were trying to make me feel more comfortable or whatever.

 

I don't own a single magazine, I've never owned a porn film and I have zero porn only computer, mostly because I have a kid in the house. I'm by no means an "unabashed porn consumer." But - like every man on the planet, including your friend and family members (who are liars, by the way) - I look at porn sometimes.

 

Women who complain about male porn consumption are asking their husbands and boyfriends to lie to them, and smart guys will tell you what you want to hear. I don't watch porn, your ass isn't fat, cuddling is just as good as sex, etc.

[NorthernVike 2,080]

 

Down the road his roomate found some weird sh!t on his computer, like horse porn, or something.

 

 

 

You mean that that's not normal pron?

[Headslap75 0]

A male friend of mine and I had a conversation about porn where he offered that this is BS. Most men, yes. All men, no. I know I have a socially conservative reputation, but he's stauncher about stuff like this than I am. He wasn't trying to appease me.

 

Then there's my dad who's not a prude but he has an aversion to porn. Locker room talk in high school use to disgust him. It may have been the fact the degenerate mentality espoused was like the thing to do within the micro-culture it was. He wasn't "straight-laced," he wasn't a Christian, he experimented with drugs, he was popular with a reputation for being rebellious. His inner reaction of disgust was knee-jerk.

 

Then there's my brothers, who I don't doubt have checked it out but they don't buy into the idea that it's a fact of 'the male experience' for lack of a better term, that should be embraced. If you push aside, or just don't have to begin with, the idea that it's wrong....would it be enjoyable? Sure. They recognize that.

 

My take on this is guys who aren't unabashed porn consumers are really rare, but exist. None of the males in my life who I've heard express negative thoughts about porn were trying to make me feel more comfortable or whatever.

I get the posters mixed-up around here...is your dad the phag

[edjr 5,564]

Those dudes are probably the sickest of them all. I bet they watch some real nasty pron. Probably stuff that the rest of us don't even know exists.

 

Reminds me of the movie 8 MM

[Mookz 1,287]

A male friend of mine and I had a conversation about porn where he offered that this is BS. Most men, yes. All men, no. I know I have a socially conservative reputation, but he's stauncher about stuff like this than I am. He wasn't trying to appease me.

 

Then there's my dad who's not a prude but he has an aversion to porn. Locker room talk in high school use to disgust him. It may have been the fact the degenerate mentality espoused was like the thing to do within the micro-culture it was. He wasn't "straight-laced," he wasn't a Christian, he experimented with drugs, he was popular with a reputation for being rebellious. His inner reaction of disgust was knee-jerk.

 

Then there's my brothers, who I don't doubt have checked it out but they don't buy into the idea that it's a fact of 'the male experience' for lack of a better term, that should be embraced. If you push aside, or just don't have to begin with, the idea that it's wrong....would it be enjoyable? Sure. They recognize that.

 

My take on this is guys who aren't unabashed porn consumers are really rare, but exist. None of the males in my life who I've heard express negative thoughts about porn were trying to make me feel more comfortable or whatever.

Ah, no wonder...he was doing it wrong.

[FeelingMN 273]

Link?

[jerryskids 5,206]

 

Then there's my brothers, who I don't doubt have checked it out but they don't buy into the idea that it's a fact of 'the male experience' for lack of a better term, that should be embraced. If you push aside, or just don't have to begin with, the idea that it's wrong....would it be enjoyable? Sure. They recognize that.

 

If you were your brother, would you tell you that you watched pron?

[Riddlen 1]

ehh, i mean if your wife doesnt want you to watch porn you shouldnt. its part of the deal. if you knew it going in, then it shouldnt matter.

 

lets not pretend porn is harmless either. it can NOT be good for us to have such easy access to it. I mean mentally and if you are into it, spiritually. Think about pre-1995. You had to walk into a creepy porn shop or try and catch a late movie on skinamax. Now you misstpye a word in google and you get porn. it just doesnt seem right.

 

also, a key difference is not pretending its "gross". Naked chicks are awesome. Two naked chicks making out is doubly awesome, but you can still choose not to view it. just like you choose not to smoke, drink, or over eat.

[cbfalcon 824]

it can NOT be good for us to have suck easy access

 

I wish

[jerryskids 5,206]

 

lets not pretend porn is harmless either. it can NOT be good for us to have such easy access to it. I mean mentally and if you are into it, spiritually. Think about pre-1995. You had to walk into a creepy porn shop or try and catch a late movie on skinamax. Now you misstpye a word in google and you get porn. it just doesnt seem right.

 

 

I worry about our youngins, who are forming their sexual attitudes in an era of such easy pron access. For us old farts though, it's like Christmas every day.

[Frank M 181]

ehh, i mean if your wife doesnt want you to watch porn you shouldnt. its part of the deal. if you knew it going in, then it shouldnt matter.

 

lets not pretend porn is harmless either. it can NOT be good for us to have such easy access to it. I mean mentally and if you are into it, spiritually. Think about pre-1995. You had to walk into a creepy porn shop or try and catch a late movie on skinamax. Now you misstpye a word in google and you get porn. it just doesnt seem right.

 

also, a key difference is not pretending its "gross". Naked chicks are awesome. Two naked chicks making out is doubly awesome, but you can still choose not to view it. just like you choose not to smoke, drink, or over eat.

 

Children having easy access to porn, I agree, not a good thing. But adults? I don't get the big deal. I think the whole idea that if you look at porn, somehow your perception will change from respecting women to looking at all of them as objects is a militant feminist construct that has no basis in reality. Women who don't want their men looking at it ever have serious self esteem issues. Now if you know that and can accept that about your significant other, then don't look at it. I don't think I could be with someone that uptight.

 

People take sex way too seriously. It's supposed to be fun, yet we've sapped all the fun out of it and made it into something we're ashamed of and afraid of.

 

At least the Dear Abby guy got it right when he said he didn't care what his wife was doing ten years ago, even if it was filming herself having sex.