How much did your parents contribute to the cost of your wedding?

[peenie 2,023]

You do not have to give a dollar amount, just % is fine.

 

[Old School 360]

Zero

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

They were both dead

[Old School 360]

Is your daughter getting married?

[peenie 2,023]

Is your daughter getting married?

 

She got engaged Saturday and I'm literally nauseous thinking about the cost of a wedding.

(...and many parents give money for house down payment)

[Bert 1,129]

You do not have to give a dollar amount, just % is fine.

 

My parents 1/3

Her parents 1/3

Us 1/3

[giraldi02 476]

We got a grand from my wife's parents. All the rest was on us. We paid every single cent of the rest on time.

 

The way to do it for us was to find people we knew to do all the stuff. People want to break into the wedding industry. There'll always be people that will work for cheaper in order to have that on their resume. Word of mouth is very big among engaged couples.

Flowers: A girl that went to high school w/ my wife. Did the flowers for like $400

DJ: A beer delivery guy that my brother in-law knew did DJ'ing on the side. Wanted to build his resume. $300

Photography: A former co-worker building his wedding resume. Did the wedding w/ videography for $300

Engagement photos: $50 to a guy that was doing it for the first time.

Food at the wedding: Simplicity. No one cares about food all that much. Tri-tip and chicken in a Santa Maria style-BBQ. Our venue included in the cost all the linens, silverware, glassware etc free (lol...free...). Some catering places will charge for those things believe it or not. 15 cents per fork doesn't seem like a lot, but when you have 150 people, and you're buying forks, spoons, knives, cups, etc...it adds up.

 

Booze: We bought a keg of Coors Light and Sierra Nevada. We got three cases of wine from a friend that owns a hotel. Hooked us up with their buying rate which was about 65% cheaper than if we hadn't. We had the open bar of beer and wine, and if people wanted liquor it was available to purchase from the full bar.

[IGotWorms 4,063]

My parents probably paid half. Her parents paid about a quarter (they're cheap as fock) and we paid the rest.

 

Honestly I think eloping is the way to go. Unless there is a chance the families will be tight and do lots of things together. In that case the ceremonial "coming together" of the families may have meaning but otherwise it's just a tremendous waste of money IMO.

[posty 2,855]

Zero percent...

[Bert 1,129]

My parents probably paid half. Her parents paid about a quarter (they're cheap as fock) and we paid the rest.

 

Honestly I think eloping is the way to go. Unless there is a chance the families will be tight and do lots of things together. In that case the ceremonial "coming together" of the families may have meaning but otherwise it's just a tremendous waste of money IMO.

Amen!

 

My in laws said they would give us the money and we should elope. My father offered to take entire bridal party to vegas for the weekend.

 

But alas the wife fell for that whole church wedding bullsh!t.

[fandandy 3,314]

My dad gave us 2 grand. That's all he could afford and said you can spend it on the wedding or honeymoon. We spent it on a trip to Playa del Carmen and had a tiny wedding with just immediate family. We were together 7 years and already living together and had bought a house etc so the wedding was a formality more for her mother than anything.

 

I'm divorced though so anything done by me is not the way to do things.

[rholio 340]

Half the booze tab at the reception. Her parents, zero.

[MTSkiBum 1,626]

I got married 3 years ago. My wife's parents gave us 5,000 dollars for the wedding and we kept the entire cost under 5k including her wedding dress and the cost of the rings.

[mobb_deep 921]

wife's parents 100%.

my parents paid for the honeymoon.

think that's traditional?

[penultimatestraw 473]

~10K the first marriage (her parents), 0 the second.

[penultimatestraw 473]

 

She got engaged Saturday and I'm literally nauseous thinking about the cost of a wedding.

(...and many parents give money for house down payment)

Justices of the peace are cheap.

[titans&bucs&bearsohmy! 2,745]

Zero. And her parents were dead. So we got hitched at the courthouse. Got divorced there eight years later.

[penultimatestraw 473]

Honestly I think eloping is the way to go. Unless there is a chance the families will be tight and do lots of things together. In that case the ceremonial "coming together" of the families may have meaning but otherwise it's just a tremendous waste of money IMO.

Agreed. The wedding "industry" has created a financial monster out of getting married. Spend the money on a honeymoon instead, or save it for a home.

[parrot 790]

Pretty much nada. I think maybe both sets of parents went together to pay for the rehearsal dinner, which was a barbecue in some friends' backyard. So probably a few hundred bucks. It was our wedding, we never expected anyone else to pay for it.

[Hardcore troubadour 16,063]

Negative 3k from her parents. I paid for everything. About 40k all in.

[penultimatestraw 473]

It was our wedding, we never expected anyone else to pay for it.

I agree with this sentiment. If the parents want to contribute, fine, but there should be no expectation.

 

One of my coworkers was complaining about wedding costs, and debating whether to elope. Then she asked me how much of the "investment" I recouped from wedding gifts. I never really thought of it that way, and frankly think that reasoning is pretty disgusting. Kinda like people who view their children as an investment in their future, expecting the kids to take care of them as they age.

[Artista 460]

100%. Was lucky to have a lavish wedding as I always wanted. They and other fam members also set me up with home necessities and furnishings. No honeymoon though. Booooo. I keed, I keed.

[Drizzay 760]

5k from my parents. About 6k from her mom and whatever was left to her when her dad passed (about $1500). We paid for the rest. It was about a $20k wedding.

[Big Guy 1,436]

Our Parents spent nothing...

 

The entire Wedding cost less than $1,000 ......that's including our rings.

 

We had about 150 people in our Church's Chapel

A Perfect Cake

Food for All

Music ( my Brother as well as an ex Girlfriend )

It was filmed & photographed ( I was in the AV team and friend was a professional photographer. )

 

It all went a lot smoother than our ongoing Marriage

[mmmmm...beer 822]

Dad paid for our plane tickets to Puerto Rico.

 

Her Aunts paid for the reception venue and food. About 5 grand if I recall.

 

We paid about 8 grand of our/MY saved up money.

[peenie 2,023]

just WOW for those who had dream weddings.

hardcore, you should send us a link to your wedding photos.

 

i feel a little better knowing that not all of the parents spent an arm and a leg.

[Hardcore troubadour 16,063]

wow for those who had dream weddings.

hardcore, you should send us a link to your wedding photos.

 

i feel a little better knowing that not all of the parents spent an arm and a leg.

NY weddings are stupid. And that's about the going rate in the tri-state area. I did have a live band and imported beer. Guinness was a must.

[peenie 2,023]

ohh, you married in nyc, wow, that certainly would bring up the cost.

[Hardcore troubadour 16,063]

ohh, you married in nyc, wow, that certainly would bring up the cost.

No, Connecticut actually. But it's the tri-state as a whole that's stupid. A fancy NYC wedding is probably 200k. At least.

[KSB2424 3,174]

My wife's parents paid for the wedding.

 

My parents paid for the rehearsal dinner and the plane tickets to the Caribbean.

 

As it should be done. Then you pay it forward if given the chance.

[TimmySmith 2,783]

Small wedding and we paid. Both in our mid 30's, it seemed rather ridiculous to have an expensive wedding.

[Brad GLuckman 519]

First wife - her Dad paid the whole thing. No idea how much money, but i would guess $20-30k. After, i looked at my house and thought of all the things i could do to it with $30k.

 

Current wife - Got married in Jamaica. Sent an email to friends and family saying if you are planning on a vacation, then you're welcome to come to our weddding, but 100% understand most wont be able to make it. Parents paid 0%, as them making the trip was enough.

 

I would stress to your daughter that it is a giant waste of money that will be completely forgotten by almost everyone who attends.

[shotsup 836]

NY weddings are stupid. And that's about the going rate in the tri-state area. I did have a live band and imported beer. Guinness was a must.

Long Island 20 years ago. $102 a head. Soup to nuts best we can get.

 

Plus live band although I got a super super discount on that.

 

We paid for it all but did get a very nice gift from my mom which we didn't know going in to it.

 

BTW mom has zero cans. Double mastectomy few weeks prior to wedding.

[cyclone24 1,949]

First wife - her Dad paid the whole thing. No idea how much money, but i would guess $20-30k. After, i looked at my house and thought of all the things i could do to it with $30k.

 

Current wife - Got married in Jamaica. Sent an email to friends and family saying if you are planning on a vacation, then you're welcome to come to our weddding, but 100% understand most wont be able to make it. Parents paid 0%, as them making the trip was enough.

 

I would stress to your daughter that it is a giant waste of money that will be completely forgotten by almost everyone who attends.

Jesus that's fun. Pretty much the biggest day of your daughter's life I'm not telling her that even if I know it's true.

 

I'd imagine with my daughters we will pay for a lot mainly because I like to overdo things for the kids. I won't tell her but pretty much the bank would be open.

 

I think for most people they try to split it by a third like I said up above.

 

As the guy I didn't get much from my folks for the wedding. Which was fine

[nospk 230]

Negative 3k from her parents. I paid for everything. About 40k all in.

You paid your wifes parents 3k to marry her I gotta know why would ya do that.

[Hardcore troubadour 16,063]

You paid your wifes parents 3k to marry her I gotta know why would ya do that.

I had to lend them money around the time of my wedding. They paid it back months later

[peenie 2,023]

thanks everyone for your input.

[shotsup 836]

thanks everyone for your input.

Lost in the shuffle. Congratulations on your daughters engagement.

Peace and love to them.

[Patriotsfatboy1 1,433]

My wife's parents gave us like $5k in a check that we never cashed. My mother paid for the rehearsal dinner.

 

However, we did the destination wedding in Hawaii. Had 17 people come and they all paid enough in getting there for the event.

[vuduchile 1,947]

Ex wife's dad paid for everything except the rehearsal dinner. I paid for that.

 

I really have no idea how much he spent, but I know her dress was some sorta Vera Wang That cost over $5K.

 

The reception was an elaborate affair held at a place in New Rochelle that does pretty much nothing but weddings.

 

More food than anyone could ever eat, open bar, champagne being poured everywhere, 3 photographers, a videographer, a live band, over 500 people. Rolls Royce Limos for the wedding party.

 

What a stupid colossal waste of money on that filthy, cheating kunt.

[peenie 2,023]

Lost in the shuffle. Congratulations on your daughters engagement.

Peace and love to them.

 

thank you so much!!

btw, glad your wife is okay and sad that she had to have such an invasive surgery before her wedding.

she must be a strong woman and you a loving husband.